Nayi nkhani ya mnyamata wa zaka 42 za kusadziwa, manyazi, mantha, ndi chitsitsimutso chake chachikulu. Nkhani ya momwe PMO ingabweretsere moyo wanu kutha.
Ukwati wanga wafa. Ubale wanga wa zaka 10 ndi mkazi wokongola, wanzeru ndi wachigololo unasanduka zidutswa m'masiku angapo. Panalibe phokoso lolimba pakati pathu, moyo wathu wogonana unali wamtendere, ngati wosasangalatsa. Tidakhala mabwenzi abwino kwambiri, kugawana zakukhosi kwathu, kukhala ndi malingaliro ofanana a moyo koma osagonana. Panali chilakolako pachiyambi, kukukumbatira, kugwira, kumpsompsona. Panali chikondi chachikulu ndi chimwemwe m'zaka zoyambirira. Koma kugonana pang'ono komanso osagonana pafupi ndi mapeto. Tili ndi ana awiri okondeka, anthu ambiri amaona kuti ndife osangalala ndipo tinadabwa kumva kuti timagawanika. Kotero nchiyani chinachitika?
Nthawi ina ndimaganiza kuti sindigonananso kwambiri. Ndakhala ndikukhulupirira kale kuti ndichifukwa chakuti ndikalamba kotero sindikusowa monga momwe ndinkakhalira kale ndipo panali zinthu zambiri zosangalatsa kuchita, ndipo kuti kugonana kunali kungotaya nthawi ndi mphamvu. Chaka chatha ndidayamba kukhala ndi mavuto okomoka ndikuseweretsa maliseche. Apanso ndinazilemba pamutu wazaka. Ndisanakwatirane ndimakhala ndi zibwenzi zambiri ndi atsikana, zogonana zambiri, komanso zokumana ndi anyamata wamba momwe ndimakondera amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Ndinali nyama yaphwando, kucheza kwambiri, kusakasaka zochitika, kupeza malo atsopano, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, kuchita masewera osiyanasiyana, ndi zina zambiri. Izi pang'onopang'ono zidayamba kufa ndipo pamapeto pake ndidakhala mbatata. Ndidaziyika pazaka zakubadwa, kupsinjika kokhudzana ndi ntchito, etc.
Miyezi isanu ndi umodzi yapitayo ndinapanga mndandanda wa mavuto onse ndisanapite kukaonana ndi munthu: kukulitsa nkhawa, nkhawa, ntchito, kusowa mphamvu, kutopa, mantha, kupsya mtima, kuchepetsa chikhulupiliro, kutaya mtima, kukhumudwa, kusagonana moyo.
Chiyambi Choyamba cha Chivumbulutso
Tsiku lililonse mndandandawo unali wautali komanso wautali mpaka nditawona tsamba la YBOP ndikudandaula. Sindinazindikire kuti kuonera zolaula komanso / kapena kuseweretsa maliseche kungakhale vuto, izi zimawoneka ngati zachilendo kwa ine kuti anyamata amawonera zolaula komanso kuseweretsa maliseche. Ndinayenerera pafupifupi zolaula zonse! Munthu wopusa komanso WABWINO KWAMBIRI ayenera kukhala kuti asazindikire kuti amakonda kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula komanso kuseweretsa maliseche kwazaka zopitilira khumi! Ndinkakonda kuseweretsa maliseche kuyambira ndili wachinyamata. Zosangalatsa, zosangalatsa, kutopa, kutulutsa nkhawa, kapena kungodzisangalatsa. Ndinayamba kukonda kwambiri ndipo ndinasiya kulamulira pamene ndinayamba kuonera zolaula pa intaneti. Ndinayamba kuyesa kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kuti ndiwone momwe zilili, kukhala ndichisangalalo ndikukhala ndi adrenaline. Moyo unkawoneka wotopetsa, atsikana okhumudwitsa, mantha owonedwa akukanidwa kwambiri, kusungulumwa kukukulira. Zaka zingapo pambuyo pake ndinakumana ndi mkazi wanga koma sindinasiye kuonera zolaula. Kuledzera kwanga kudakulirakulira pazaka zingapo zapitazi - Pambuyo pake ndimayang'ana zolaula, zachiwawa, kinky, fetish. Mkazi wanga ndi ana anga atachoka ndimakhala masiku ndi usiku ndikukambirana zogonana. Ndinkamva kutopa nthawi zonse komanso manyazi pambuyo pake. HOCD yanga inakula mpaka kukhala vuto lalikulu ndipo sindinathenso kuzindikira za kugonana kwanga. Ndinayamba kudandaula ndipo ndimadzifunsa kuti: Kodi ndine gay? Kodi ndine wopotoka? Ndinkakonda kukhala ndi PMO tsiku ndi tsiku, kuseweretsa maliseche nthawi zina 2-3 tsiku lomwe banja langa linali kutali. Sindingagone popanda PMO kapena MO.
Nditabwerera ku YBOP ndinazindikira kuti ndine woledzera. Ndachotsa akaunti zonse zokhudzana ndi zolaula, ndinasiya kucheza ndi zithunzi zolaula ndikuchotsa akaunti yanga ya Skype. Ndinamuuza mkazi wanga choonadi chonse. Anakwiya. Patatha masiku angapo anandichotsa m'nyumba yanga, ananditenga makiyi anga ndipo anati ndibwino kuti ndikhale kunja kapena adzaitana apolisi ndikumuuza kuti ndikuopseza ana athu.
Ndili ndi mwayi kuti ndinali kale sabata lachitatu la NoFap hard mode. Izi mwina zidapulumutsa moyo wanga ndikundipatsa nyonga yakumenya. Patangopita masiku ochepa ndidataya chilichonse - mkazi wanga, malo okhala, sindimatha kuwona ana milungu ingapo. Ndinachita mantha kwambiri. Mkazi wanga anakana kundithandiza, zonse zomwe anali kufuna ndikundigwetsera pansi pazoyipa izi ndikundichotsa pamoyo wawo kwamuyaya.
Bwanji ngati iyo inali mphatso?
Kusokonezeka kunali kwakukulu komanso kuzindikira zomwe zinapangitsa moyo wanga kukhala wovuta kwambiri kuti ndangodutsa masiku a 180 osayang'ana zolaula (Ndimakumananso ndi vuto langa la chiwerewere). NoFap inakhudza zotsatizana za kusintha zomwe zingayende pa gawo lirilonse la moyo wanga:
1. Kuphulika kwa mphamvu: zingwe zopanda malire za malingaliro ndi zovuta zatsopano. Sindinakhalepo wolimbikitsidwa kuposa momwe ndiliri tsopano. Ndikumva kuti nditha kukwaniritsa chilichonse chomwe ndikufuna. Zinthu zonse zomwe ndimanena nthawi zonse kuti "Ndikufuna kuchita" ndikuzichita.
2. Kuphunzira zinthu zatsopano: anayamba kuthamanga, kugwira ntchito, kusewera squash, kuchita yoga, kuchita m'mawa uliwonse, kupita ku Kenya ndi kukwera ndege ku Greece.
3. Kukhazikika: Osakhala ndi vuto loyandikira atsikana, kulankhula ndi anthu osadziwika bwino mumsewu.
4. Ndimasamalira thupi langa: mvula yozizira, chakudya chamoyo, kudula mowa / khofi
5. Chisankho changa chogonana chinabwereranso kuchitidwe cha amayi. Ndimakonda kukongola kwawo, ukazi, kayendetsedwe ka zinthu, monga momwe ndinkakhalira ndisanayambe kumwa mankhwala.
6. Maganizo aakulu: Ndikhoza kuseka ngati wamisala kapena kulira momasuka, khalani ndi kumwetulira mkati mwanga tsiku ndi tsiku, chimwemwe cha moyo.
7. Ndasiya kupereka zomwe anthu ena amaganiza za ine, ndasintha moyo wanga, momwe ndimavalira.
8. Zanga zanga ndizolimba kwambiri ndipo ndimakhala ndi nkhuni tsiku lililonse.
9. Ndimakonda kutuluka ndikukumana ndi anthu atsopano (mwina ndi anzanga kapena ndekha); Ndine wokonzeka kutuluka usiku uliwonse ndikuyankhula ndi anthu osadziŵa, kuti ndizisangalatsa kapena kuti ndizitha kuganiza bwino. Ndinayamba kuona kuti atsikana akuyang'ana nthawi zonse. Ndinapita masiku angapo ndikukhala ndi zaka zambiri popanda kugonana.
10. Ndimamverera ngati munthu weniweni: wolemekezeka, wokhala ndi mphamvu, wolimba, kukhala mtsogoleri, kupanga zosankha mwamsanga.
Chiwiri Chachiwiri cha Chivumbulutso
NoFap chinali chiyambi chabe cha kusintha kwa moyo wanga. Ndinafunika kuyang'ana pazifukwa zomwe ndinazolowera. Ndidawerenga buku lodabwitsali "No More Mr Nice Guy" ndipo ndidazindikira kuti m'moyo wanga wonse ndidayamba Nice Guy Syndrome, yomwe makamaka ndimatenda amantha. Zambiri zomwe Nice Guy amachita kapena samachita ndikuwongolera nkhawa zawo - kufunafuna kuvomerezedwa, kupewa mikangano, kubisala malingaliro, malingaliro, zikhumbo, ndi zochita. Sindinathe kukhazikitsa malire ndikuwateteza.
Ambiri a Nice Guys amakhulupirira kuti ndi oipa chifukwa chogonana, kapena amakhulupirira kuti anthu ena angaganize kuti ndi oyipa, chifukwa chake zofuna zawo zogonana ziyenera kubisala kuti zisawonekere. Kugonana kwa Nice Guy sikumatha, kumangochitika mobisa. Mwamuna akamadalira kwambiri kuvomerezedwa ndi anthu akunja, ndiye kuti amayenera kubisala pochita zachiwerewere.
Anthu amayamba kuledzera chifukwa amasankha chizolowezi chomwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo ngati njira YOPULUKIRA KUDandaula. Munthu wokonda chiwerewere amathawa chibwenzi ndipo amatembenukira kuzopeka, amafunitsitsa kuti apewe kuthana ndi kukanidwa komanso kulephera. Zithunzi zolaula sizokhudza kugonana. Zonse ndi zamanyazi komanso mantha. Mumayang'ana zolaula chifukwa sizikukana. Mumayang'ana zolaula kuthawa zenizeni. Mumayang'ana zolaula kuti musamale nkhawa. Mumawonera zolaula chifukwa chotopetsa, kusungulumwa, kupsinjika, kukhumudwa, kukwiya, kudzipatula.
Mwachidule, nditha kunena kuti ndine wopambana. Ndine munthu watsopano. Ndine munthu WAULELE. Mphindi ya Chivumbulutso inali chokumana nacho chosangalatsa. Zizolowezi zimatha kusintha, ngati timvetsetsa momwe zimagwirira ntchito komanso chifukwa chomwe tidalumikizirana. Nthawi zonse timakhala zotsatira za zisankho zathu. Ndikukufunirani zabwino zonse. Mutha kusintha moyo wanu, ngati mungafune kutero.
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