Ndinali ndikudabwa kuti bwanji lero limawoneka ngati tsiku lopambana… ndazichita! Kwa zaka zosachepera 4 ndakhala membala wa sub reddit iyi ndipo ndaphunzira zinthu zambiri munthawi yanga pano. Mwina chinthu chofunikira kwambiri pakupambana pa NoFap ndikumvetsetsa kuti mumayang'anira zochita zanu. Kuchokera apa mumayenda kasupe wa chisangalalo komanso kudzidalira, komwe kumatulutsa chidaliro chenicheni, kunyada, ndi chisangalalo.
Inde, ubwino wake ndi weniweni.
Zachidziwikire kuti sizinatanthauze kuti atsikana adayamba kukhamukira kwa ine mwaunyinji wawo, kapena kuti zomwe zidayamba ngati manyazi komanso kusatetezeka zidandisandutsa modabwitsa kukhala alpha wodalirika usiku umodzi. Izi sizimasokoneza zovuta, komabe, kuti NoFap idasewera, ndipo ikupitilizabe kusewera, gawo lofunika kwambiri pakunditsogolera pakudzikonza ndikunditsogolera kuti ndikhale munthu yemwe pre-fapstronaut wanga angakhale wonyadira naye.
Kulimbitsa chidaliro, kuchepa kwa utsi wamaubongo, chidwi chochuluka kuchokera kwa amayi (sizosadabwitsa mukawona zabwino zina monga kudalira komanso kukhala tcheru…), kufunitsitsa kukumana ndi akazi enieni m'moyo wanga, kupezeka pagulu, kuphunzira ndikhale ndekha (ndipamene chimwemwe chimapezeka mulimonse…), ndi zina zotero… Izi sizomwe zili zazikulu pano, kungotsimikizira zomwe ena akumana nazo.
Zomwe ndikukhulupirira kuti mutha kuzichotsa pamenepa ndi zomwe ndakumana nazo:
- Tsatirani zokonda zanu. Kwambiri. Simungayembekezere kuyimitsa PMOing. Mupanga chosalongosoka m'moyo wanu chomwe chimakupangitsani kubwerera kuzomwe mukudziwa. Nthawi yonse yomwe mumathera polimbana ndi mawu amenewo mumutu mwanu mumangokhalira kuwononga mphamvu zanu pang'onopang'ono. Nthawi zina palibe zambiri zomwe mungachite, koma ngati iyi ndiyo njira yanu yoyamba yodzitetezera, mosalephera mudzatopa ndikubwerera. Pezani njira yosiya kusiya popanda nkhanza - chilichonse chomwe chingakuthandizeni. Mwina mukuyang'ana nthawi yanu pantchito yomwe mumakonda, kapena kufunafuna nthawi yochulukirapo ndi anzanu komanso / kapena kukumana ndi anthu atsopano. Sungani kufuna kwanu ngati njira yomaliza.
- Pangani zotchinga. Kwenikweni, zomwe mukufuna kuchita ndikudzipatula kwa PMO m'malo molimbana nawo mpaka mutha kusintha malingaliro anu pomwe kudziletsa kumakhala kosasintha - mwa chizolowezi. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwazifukwa zomwe kucheza ndikofunikira kuti mupeze bwino. Zachidziwikire kuti, simungayembekezere kukhala pakati pa anthu nthawi zonse, chifukwa chake lingaliro langa ndikupanga zopinga kunyumba kuti zibwererenso zovuta. Ndidauza makolo anga zavuto langa ndi PMO (ngati ikupangitsani kukhala olakwa, yomwe mwina siyiyenera, koma ngati itero, muyenera kuuza wina! Idzakudya mkati ngati simutero). Abambo adandithandizira pakuyika k9 chitetezo cha intaneti pa PC yanga ndipo sanandiwuze mawu achinsinsi. Ngati EVER yalephera ku NoFap, ndikukulimbikitsani kuti muganizire kuchita izi (ngakhale kudzikhazikitsa nokha ndikubisa mawu achinsinsi). Zimasokoneza machitidwe anu ndikukakamizani kuti muganizirenso, ngakhale mutakhala ndi mwayi kwina. Kwa ine chokumbutsa chowonjezera chakuti makolo anga anali komweko ndikumanifunira zabwino kwa ine chinali chilimbikitso chowonjezerabe kuti nditsatire icho.
- Gwiritsani ntchito diary. Mutha kulephera panjira. Osadzipweteka nokha chifukwa cha izi. Pali zolakwa zokwanira ndikudzimvera chisoni popanda kudzipweteka nokha. Landirani zomwe zidachitika, lembani zolemba za izo (pano kapena kwina kulikonse, zilibe kanthu), ndipo pitirizani kudziwonetsera nokha chisomo pang'ono. Zolemba zake ndizabwino chifukwa zimaloleza catharsis imeneyo. Mutha kupeza zomwe akumva pachifuwa posachedwa ndikupitilizabe ndi moyo posachedwa. Ikutsimikiziranso ndi umboni wakuthupi kuti PMO nthawi zambiri amatsogolera kukhumudwa ndikumva chisoni. Izi zimakuthandizani kuti musabwererenso mtsogolo. Ikupanga mwayi wabwino kwambiri. Mwina si onse omwe amamva manyazi komanso kumva chisoni chomwecho, koma ngati muli pano ndipo mwawerenga mpaka pano kubetcherana kwanu ndi komwe mumachita, ndipo tsikulo lili ndi zambiri zoti likuthandizeni kuchira.
- Dongosolo la masewera. Yesetsani kukhala pafupi osaganizira za PMO, kapena NoFap, momwe mungathere. Ndi mawu akale akale omwewo, "chinsinsi chosintha ndikuwonetsetsa kuti mphamvu zanu zonse sizilimbana ndi zakale, koma pomanga zatsopano." Zachidziwikire, simungadziuze zomwe musaganize, ndichifukwa chake kupeza zinthu zina zofunika kuziganizira ndikofunikira. Ngati malingaliro okhumudwitsa abwera m'mutu mwanu, muyenera kukonzekera masewerawa momwe mudzayankhire. Mukangoyamba kumene, mutha kusankha kutuluka pampando wanu ndikupita kokayenda panja kwa mphindi 5. Mwina m'malo mwake mungakonde kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi. Pomwepo kukakamizidwa kwandigwira ntchito kangapo. Kwenikweni, zomwe mukusowa ndichizolowezi chomwe chingasokoneze malingaliro anu, ndikupeza china choti muchichotse m'malo owopsa monga kompyuta yanu, foni, kapena pakama mukuwonera TV mukamachira (ngakhale zitanthauza kusiya china chake. zofunika, monga kuphunzira). Bwererani pokhapokha ngati zili bwino.
- Lamulo la 100%. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwazokonda zanga. Kwa iwo omwe sakudziwa, akuti ndikosavuta kuyesetsa mwakhama kuposa 100%. Ganizirani izi motere. Nenani kuti pali mbale yamafuta (chifukwa ndimakonda owononga ...). Kusakhala nazo kaŵirikaŵiri kumafunikira kudziletsa. Komabe, mumadya chodetsa chimodzi, chilakolako chokhala ndi sekondi ndichachikulu kwambiri kuposa chidwi choyambacho. N'chimodzimodzinso ndi NoFap, kusankha kusanyengerera ndikosavuta kuposa kusankha kudziletsa. Chifukwa chake, musanyengerere, pitani 99%. Izi zikugwira ntchito zoposa NoFap, monga kudya, kapena kutsatira zomwe mumachita zolimbitsa thupi, ndichifukwa chake ndimazikonda kwambiri.
Ngati muli ndi mafunso, onetsetsani kuti mundidziwitse ndipo ndiyesa kuwayankha.
Ndikukhulupirira kuti kuwerenga uku kwakhala kopindulitsa.
Mtendere.