Chifukwa chake ndafika masiku 100 opanda PM posachedwa, ndipo ndimafuna kutumizira kena kake zaulendo wanga, ngati sichingakhale china chilichonse kupatula kuti ndichite mwambowu. Ndilankhula zakupambana koyamba, ndi njira zachiwiri. Kenako, ndiwonjezera upangiri wotsalira.
Yambani ndi kuchita bwino. Kuyambira kupanga 90, sindinachite manyazi komanso kudana ndi mkazi wanga. Kuposa china chilichonse, ndikuganiza kuti izi zinali njira zosiyanasiyana zodzimenyera ndekha chifukwa chogwiritsa ntchito zolaula. Ndinkadziwa kuti PMO anali chinthu choyipa, chamanyazi. Ndinafunika kuyima koma sindinathe. Ndipo kupanda mphamvu kunabwera ndikudzipangira ndekha manyazi ndi nkhanza kwa iwo omwe anali pafupi kwambiri ndi ine. Izi zatha. Kwa ine, izo zimapangitsa kusiya kukhala kopindulitsa paokha. Komanso ndizopambana kukhala mkazi wowona mtima, wokhulupirika, wodalirika. Sindikunama kapena kubisalinso.
Kuphatikiza apo, ndikuganiza kuti ndikutha kupirira kukhumudwitsidwa tsopano. Ndinkakonda kudya zolaula ndikamakhumudwa kapena kufa. Inali njira yodzidodometsa. Poyamba, kusapeza mpumulowu ndikuzunzidwa, koma pomwe ndimayambiranso ntchito, ndidakhala bwino ndikulekerera kuti ndisapeze zomwe ndikufuna nthawi yomweyo ndikungoyang'ana kuthetsa mavuto.
Sindinazindikire zilizonse zotchedwa "zopambana" zomwe anthu amalankhula. (Winawake amaganiza kuti mwina ndikuti sindinataye vuto la masiku 90, zomwe zonse zomwe ndikudziwa zitha kukhala zoona). Komabe, ndazindikira kuthekera kwakukhalabe wokangalika pantchito. Ndipo ndili ndi chidaliro chowonjezeka kuti ndikwaniritsa zolinga zanga.
Nditayamba kupeza nthawi yoyera, nkhondoyi imayamba kukhala yamaganizidwe kuposa yakuthupi. Sindimangokhalapo zokha kapena 'mantha mode' amalimbikitsa konse. Koma ndikuzindikira kuti pali nthawi zina pomwe malingaliro anga amapitilira njira imodzimodziyo yozindikira zachiwerewere kapena kulingalira zakuwonera zolaula kapena kukhazikitsa njira zothetsera kukhutitsidwa ndi kugonana. Sindingathe kuchotsa zizolowezizi kwathunthu, koma kuzizindikira ndiye gawo loyamba. Ndipo ndichachidziwikire kuti ndikusintha chuma changa kukhala ndikulimbana ndi zizolowezi zamaganizidwe m'malo mwamakhalidwe.
Kuphatikiza apo, kupeza nthawi yoyera kumawonjezera kukakamizidwa kuti mupitilize. Nthawi zambiri ndimaganiza ndikayesedwa, "Geez, ndikanataya pano, ndikadakhala masiku 100." Kubwerera nthawi imeneyo sikungakhale kophweka. Ndipo sindingathe kubwereranso kamodzi kokha. Padzakhala miyezi yobwereranso. Chifukwa chake, ndikumva kuchita bwino chifukwa m'njira zambiri ndikosavuta kuyika phazi limodzi patsogolo pa linzalo kuposa momwe zidalili pa 1, 2, 3 masabata. Kupambana kumabweretsa bwino.
Malingana ndi njira zomwe ndingakonzekere, pomaliza kuyambiranso, ndawonjezerapo malamulo ena othandizira kuthana ndi zinthu zomwe zandichititsa kuti ndiyambe pomwe ndikayambiranso: palibe operekeza, osisita zolaula, osayenda, komanso palibe masamba otsatsa pamwambapa. Izi zayenda bwino kwambiri, chifukwa ndikudziwa kuti ndikayang'ana malonda, yabwerera ku 0.
Ndikulangiza kuyesa kuyesa kusakatula kwanu. Ngati mwakwanitsa nthawi yoyera, ndichifukwa chakuti mudakana zolimbikitsa (zomwe ndizovuta kwambiri) kapena kupewa zopempha (zomwe sizili zovuta) kapena zonse ziwiri. Simungasinthe malingaliro opangidwa ndi zolaula usiku umodzi, ndipo zolimbikitsazi zidzakulirakulira mwamphamvu zisanachoke. Kuwapewa ndikofunikira kuposa kumenya nawo zala zakuphazi. Koma ngati mukufunika kumenya nkhondo, khalani okonzeka. Chifukwa chake, yang'anani njira zingapo (nazi wanga) zamomwe mungathetsere zolimbikitsazi zikadzuka. Pomaliza, kukhala ndi mtundu wina wamaudindo ndikofunikira. Ndili ndi gulu la anyamata omwe ndimayendera nawo pa pulogalamu yolemba. Gulu lakuyankha mlandu limathetsa chinsinsi komanso kubisala komwe kumakonda. Gulu lokhalanso ndi mwayi wodziyankha pa intaneti ndilocheperako, koma ambiri aife sitingathe kukhala ndi magulu azithunzithunzi za 12 kapena omwe timayankha nawo pagulu. Gulu lakuyankha mlandu ndilobwino, chifukwa nthawi zonse ndikayesedwa kuti ndisiye, ndimaganiza kuti ndiyenera kufotokozera abwenzi anga zomwe zandilimbikitsa kuti ndipitilize. Zikomo anyamata.
Kupitilira maluso awa, njira yanga yakhala yogwiritsira ntchito moyenera nthawi yanga yantchito ndikukhala osokonezeka munthawi yanga yochepa. Zolimbikitsa zoyipa kwambiri zakhala zikugona, kugona mochedwa kwambiri, kapena kutaya nthawi yambiri patsiku la ntchito. Apa chinthu chosamvetseka ndikuti kusiya kutumiza pa NoFap kunandilimbikitsa kwambiri. Ndinkakhala theka loyamba chilimwe ndikulemba tsiku lililonse, ndikuyankhulana ndi anthu patsamba lino. Koma chowonadi ndichakuti sindinachite zambiri m'masiku amenewo, ndipo zimandipweteka. Mwina ndimafunikira kuthandizidwa nthawi zonse (ndi zikumbutso) poyamba, koma tsopano ndiyenera kukhala ndi masiku opindulitsa. Zochita pazanema zimapangitsa izi kukhala zovuta. Ngakhale ndakhala ndikuzigwiritsa ntchito zochepa, zikwi zikwi kuthokoza kwa inu omwe mumasunga gulu ili labwino. Ntchito yanu ndiyamikiridwa kwambiri!
Pomaliza, ndikufuna kupereka malangizo. Ngati mukuwerenga izi, mwina muli ndi vuto. Dopaminergic system mu ubongo wanu yasinthika kwambiri chifukwa chokhala ndi zolaula, ndipo momwe mumagwiritsira ntchito zokhudzana ndi kugonana kapena zogwirizana ndi zogonana zimakhudzidwa kwambiri. Dzikumbutseni za izi tsiku lililonse. Pambuyo pakupambana pang'ono, ndikosavuta kubwereranso ndikuganiza zolaula ngati gawo wamba la moyo wanu wogonana.
Upangiri wanga ndikuti uthandize momwe uliri pakalipano ngati osokoneza bongo, ndipo usazilore. NoFap ndi gwero labwino kwambiri, mwa zina chifukwa limapangitsa anthu kutengapo gawo pachinthu ngati gulu lochira osadziwa. Koma mukakhumudwitsidwa chifukwa cholephera, vutoli si NoFap, kapena kuwerengetsa masiku, kapena njira zanu, ndi zina. Vutolo ndilo vuto lanu. Mpaka muvomereze nokha izi ndikuzichita mwanjira yoyenerera, sipangakhale kusintha.
Pitilizani kumenya aliyense. Zikomo powerenga.
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