Moni akuluakulu. Ndinayamba NoFap 201 zapitazo ndipo tsopano ndikumva bwino kuposa momwe ndakhalira zaka 15 zapitazi.
Ndidakwatirana, ndidayamba kumanganso bizinesi yanga ndipo ndidakumana ndi anthu ena osangalatsa.
Ndinawerenga malangizo ambiri momwe angathanirane ndi PMO. Ndidayesa ambiri a iwo, ena a iwo omwe ndidalimbikitsa kwa anthu ena, ena a iwo omwe ndidapanga ndekha.
Ndipo nayi maupangiri osintha masewera a 6 omwe andithandiza kukhala ndi moyo watsopano, wabwino.
1) Ndikukhulupirira kuti mutha kusiya PMO, khulupirirani kuti mutha kusintha
Ili ndilo vuto lalikulu lomwe ndakhala ndikulimbana nalo kwazaka zambiri. Ndidamva za NoFap, ndimadziwa kuti zolaula zitha kukhala zovuta, koma ndimaganiza, kuti sindingasinthe, kuti ndili choncho. Ndipo ndikadzalowa nawo NoFap ndikupeza anthu omwe ali ndi vuto lomwelo ndikupambana zidatsegula maso anga. Chiyembekezo choti ndingakhalenso ndi moyo wabwinobwino, kuti sindiyeneranso kubisala chinali chimamasula kwambiri, ndipo chinandipatsa mphamvu kuti ndisiye.
Ndiye inde. Mutha kusinthanso. Mutha kukhala aulere lero. Muyenera kungochita.
2) Dziperekeni nokha
Ndinkachita mantha kwambiri ndi malonjezo. Ndinali wamantha kwambiri kuchita cholakwika. Nthawi zonse ndimakhala ndikuthawa, zomwe zimandipangitsa kuti ndibwererenso mobwerezabwereza. Sindingathe kusiya zabwino ndinkadziuza ndekha. Ndinafa ziwalo sindingathe kusuntha kulikonse m'moyo wanga. Koma tsiku lina ndinaganiza kuti ndisabwererenso. Ndipo sinditero. Ndinaganiza zokwatira mtsikana amene ndimamukonda ndipo ndinatero. Ndinaganiza zogwira ntchito yomwe ndimakonda ndipo ndidachita. Ndipo moyo wanga unayambanso kuyenda. Ndinali wamoyo.
3) Konzekereratu, sungani dongosolo lanu
Sindikudziwa za inu, koma nthawi iliyonse ndinalibe chochita, kapena ndimakhala ndi zinthu zochuluka zoti ndizichita. Kapenanso musachedwe. Kapena onse.
Chifukwa chake pangani ndandanda ndikutsatira. Simuyenera kugwira ntchito / kuphunzira nthawi zonse. Sanjani zinthu zomwe mumakonda, pangani mpumulo. Koma sungani. Mukasowa chochita, malingaliro anu atakomoka adzapeza pulogalamu kwa inu ndipo mwina sangakhale pulogalamu yabwino kutsatira. Yesetsani kukhala osasunthika.
4) Ubale - WOFUNIKA!
Ichi ndi chofunikira. Nthawi iliyonse ndikamva kuti sindimakondedwa, kusungulumwa, osalandiridwa kapena kuda nkhawa ndimakonda. Zithunzi nthawi zonse zimakhala pano kwa ife. Ndi kuvomereza, osati kuweruza, kufunitsitsa nthawi zonse… ndipo kunatibera miyoyo ndi malingaliro.
Samalani za maubale omwe muli nawo ndi anthu ena. Mnzanu, abwenzi, abale, ogwira nawo ntchito…
Pezani nthawi yolankhula ndi anthu. Itanani amayi anu okalamba. Muzicheza ndi okondedwa anu madzulo. Khalani nawo. Zithunzi zolaula zimalowetsa ubale wa anthu ndikutisiya osungulumwa, kuda nkhawa komanso kukhala osatetezeka pagulu. Zindikiraninso mphamvu za ubale weniweni. Pezani zina mwa izi ndipo koposa zonse - musamalire zomwe muli nazo kale.
5) Dzilimbikireni
Mukamalimbana ndi chilichonse chokhudzana ndi zolaula, khalani okhwimitsa momwe mungathere.
- Kodi zili bwino kuwonera kanemayu?
- Kodi ndizabwino kuyang'ana ku maliseche?
- Kodi zili bwino ngati ndingokhala M wopanda manja…
Chabwino ngati mukufuna kudzimasula ku vutoli, yesetsani kukhala oyera momwe mungathere. Sikoyambiranso kuwona zithunzi zamaliseche, koma kodi zimakuthandizani kuti muchotse PMO? Pafupifupi ayi. Nthawi zonse zimakhala bwino kukhala otetezeka kuposa chisoni. Chifukwa chake ngati simukutsimikiza… musangochita izi.
6) Zikhala bwino kwambiri
Kusiya PMO ndi gawo loyamba. Zili ngati kutuluka m'ndende. Ndipo simukufuna kungokhala pagalimoto kutsogolo kwa ndendeyo. Muyenera kupita kukachita zinthu. Ndinu mfulu tsopano. Chitani zomwe mumafuna kuyambira kale. Kumanani ndi anthu atsopano. Yesetsani kukhala nokha wabwino kwambiri. Chifukwa mukakhala kutsogolo kwa ndendeyo ndikumangokhalira kulira ndi kuchuluka kwa momwe mumaphonya chipinda chanu - posachedwa kapena mtsogolo mudzabweranso komweko.
Ndiye ndizo. Ndidakali patali kuti ndibwerere m'mbuyo ndikubwereranso. Ndimakumanabe ndi zovuta. Ndili ndi zokweza zanga, koma ndimangomva bwino ndipo moyo wanga ndiwosangalatsa wopanda zolaula.
Ndipo ndi chiyani chomwe chimakuthandizani? Gawani malangizo anu anyamata. Ndipo zikomo powerenga.
by Foxhole [ulalo wa akaunti sukupezekanso]
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