Kusiya kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa digito ndi lingaliro labwino, koma kusungidwa kwa umuna sikungakhale kwa inu ngati simuli pabanja - makamaka ngati muli ndi zizolowezi za OCD. Ngati mulibe mnzanu, pezani kuchuluka kwa zolaula zosayenera kwa inu. Dziwani kuti, nthawi zambiri, pochepetsa kutulutsa umuna, ndizomwe mudzalimbikitsidwe kutengapo zibwenzi pamoyo weniweni. Nayi nkhani ya munthu m'modzi.
Nali malangizo ena omwe katswiri wanga wazakugonana adandipatsa kuti ndiseweretse maliseche popanda kumva zolakwika zilizonse kapena kutulutsa thupi. Ndisanalandire chithandizo chodziseweretsa maliseche, zitha kundiyika masiku anayi. Ndinali wokhumudwa, wotopa, wopanda kanthu, ubongo wanga unali wamkati. Sindinakhale wopanda nkhawa komanso nkhawa. Pambuyo masiku 4 osadziletsa, zizindikirizo zimatha.
Chithandizo chilichonse ndimach payekha, koma ndidapeza anthu ambiri ali ndi zofanana pano. Sindikunena kuti zikuthandizani, mwina mavuto anu ali kwina. komabe, ndikuganiza kuti ndiyenera kuyesa. Sikuti ndikunena kuti zomwe ndalemba ndi chowonadi, koma zidandichiza. Adanditsatira kwa zaka zitatu, ndiye ndizovuta kuyambiranso zonse pankhaniyi koma ndiyesera.
Ndikudziwa kuwopsa kwa zolaula ndipo sindimalimbikitsa kuti zigwiritsidwe ntchito. PMO imawononga. ngakhale zitakhala zopanda pake kuzimvera chisoni, ndibwino ndipo ndikofunikira kuti muchepetse. Komabe, ndikulandila chilolezo popanda zolaula (MO) ndipo izi ndizokhudza momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito MO moyenera, osati PMO. pali njira zopezera PMO moyenera (ndani akanadziwa!) koma sindinafufuze za nkhaniyi. tiyeni tigwirizane kaye kuti zolaula ndizoyipa. Ndikufuna kuti mudziwe kuti izi sizikutanthauza kuvomereza kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula, ngakhale ndikawona kuti zokambirana zokhudzana ndi zolaula siziyenera kukhala zochepa. tikhoza kukhala amphamvu kuposa zolaula. titha kuchotsa zomwe zolaula zidatiphunzitsa.
Mawu ofulumira ponena za ine: ndili ndi zaka 22, ndinayamba zolaula ndili ndi zaka 12, ndinayamba nofap ndili ndi zaka 15 ndikuyimilira ndili ndi zaka 19, ndinayamba mankhwala zaka 3 zapitazo. Ndikuwona kuti nkhani zanga zogonana (kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula, ma pied, vuto lodziseweretsa maliseche) zathetsedwa kwathunthu kuyambira chithandizochi. Ndine munthu wosiyananso, sindimadziyanjanso monga munthu wogonana. Chabwino tiyeni tiwolokere! (PS; sindine wokamba zachi Ngerezi kuti akhale zolakwa)
- Mvetsetsani kuti palibe cholakwika ndi kuseweretsa maliseche. Ngati kuseweretsa maliseche kumakupangitsani kukhala osasangalala, ngakhale popanda zolaula, ndi chifukwa cha ubale womwe muli nawo. Ubalewu ukhoza kusinthika, ndipo malingaliro amenewo amatha. Ngati mukuwona kuti kudziletsa kumakupatsani mphamvu, zitha kukhala choncho; Komabe, ndizotheka kukwaniritsa kuchuluka komweko kwamphamvu ndikuyamba chizolowezi chodziseweretsa maliseche.
Pakalipano, maliseche ikhoza kukukhazikitsani pansi. Sindipikisana nawo pankhani yosunga umuna. Koma bambo amayenera kugwira bwino ntchito akamamasula umuna nthawi zonse, akakumana ndi maliseche pafupipafupi kapena kugonana. Kuseweretsa maliseche si vuto. Komabe, mukazolowera kudziletsa (ndikulankhula za kudziletsa kuseweretsa maliseche, monga nofap) thupi lanu limasinthasintha ndikusiya kugwira ntchito pakulipira mphamvu yomwe ingachitike pakuwonongeka kwa maliseche. Komanso, mukakhala mukuchita fayilo ya nofap, mukupeza kukhumudwa kwambiri kuti mukayambiranso, zonse zimatha ndipo zimamveka ngati dziko likuyandikira. Apanso, maliseche si vuto, koma ubale wanu ndi iwo. ndipo ngati mwakhala mukuzolowera nthawi zonse, ndibwinobwino kumva kupsinjika mutayambiranso. thupi lako siliyenera kukhala zogonana ngati mtundu wina wa rollercoaster. Kuti mumve bwino ndikuamasulidwa pogonana, muyenera kukhala wogwirizana ndi zomwe mukufuna. Muyenera 'kupeza malire'. Mutha kuganiza kuti ndizosatheka kuti musesetse maliseche pafupipafupi, koma mutha. Simuyenera kumva chisoni tsiku lililonse. Mukuyenera kuzolowera, ndiye kuti mumamva bwino tsiku lililonse, kenako mudzamva bwino. Ndipo, inde, simudzamvanso zoterezi. Kugonana sikudzakhalanso mtolo panonso. Komabe, ngati mukusungidwa mosabereka / umuna, muyenera kudziwatsetse maliseche popanda zotsatira zoyipa kenako mutha kuyesa kudziletsa. kudziletsa ndi njira yopewera ndipo ndikofunikira kuti ukhale ndi moyo wathanzi kuti ugonere.
2) Kudziseweretsa maliseche kuli ngati kugonana. Nthawi zina zimakhala bwino ndipo nthawi zina zimakhala zoyipa. Kuchita maliseche pamipando kwinaku mukupuma, kutsokomola minofu yanu, kuvulaza tambala anu mopanda mantha ndikuthamangira kudzanja lamanja kutsogolo kwazenera lophimba, ndizovuta. thupi lako limasangalatsidwa kwambiri ndi izi. Pambuyo pa izi, zonse zomwe muli nazo ndizocheperako zogonana, komanso kukhutira kochepa. Maliseche ayenera kukhala chinthu chabwino. ziyenera kukubweretserani chidwi, zomwe zimapangitsa libido yanu kukhala yamphamvu. Nayi maliseche mwachangu 101:
- Sambani dzanja lanu m'mbuyomu
- Chitani mwachifatse. Osathamangira kalikonse. Ngati mulibe nthawi kapena mukufunika kuchita izi, mutha kuchita pambuyo pake
- khalani m'malo abwino, kotero kuti minofu yanu yonse imakhazikika.
- osagwira mwamphamvu. Khalani odekha ndi izi
- pitani pang'onopang'ono poyamba. Onani momwe zimamverekera pang'onopang'ono. Ngati thupi lanu latsitsimuka, kumverera kumapita kulikonse (moyenera) kuyang'ana pakumverera kwakuthupi komwe mumakhala nako mbolo yanu komanso m'thupi lanu.
- osangokhala phee. Khalani ndi mpweya wozama komanso wopuma. Mutha kugwirizananso pang'onopang'ono maliseche ndi kupuma kwanu.
- ingoyang'anani zamakono, musathamangire kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi. Yesani kukulitsa pang'onopang'ono kuti mukhale bwino.
- yesani kusuntha m'chiuno chanu osati dzanja lanu. Zomverera ndizosiyana ndipo kuchita izi kungafanane ndi malo ogonana. Muthanso kugwiritsa ntchito kukhala kuyerekezera malowedwe amkazi.
ndipo musagwiritse ntchito zolaula kumene.
kuseweretsa maliseche motere kumakhala kovuta poyamba, chifukwa ndizovuta kufikira zovuta. ingogwiritsani ntchito malusowa momwe mungathere koma zili bwino ngati simumachita maliseche mwanjira imeneyo nthawi zana. muyenera kungosintha ndipo zitenga nthawi. Zonse ndizoyesa chisangalalo chenicheni! izi zithandizanso ndi ma pied, chifukwa mukugwira ntchito yolandira zokopa zochepa. mukugwiranso ntchito kuti mumvetsetse momwe mumapangidwira komanso chifukwa chiyani.
3) Kuti muyambe kumva bwino za maliseche, muyenera kusintha machitidwe anu. Tsopano ganizirani kuti mutha kuseweretsa maliseche nthawi iliyonse yomwe mukufuna (osati mukamayendetsa kumene). simuyenera kugawa izi. Mudzawona kuti Ngati mugwiritsa ntchito njira zomwe ndinafotokozera kale, simudzayenera kuseweretsa maliseche kwambiri. Simungatulukemo mutakhumudwitsidwa. Koma ngati mumamva ngati mukufuna kuseweretsa maliseche tsiku lililonse, kapena kupitilira apo, ingochitani. Chitani izi ndikupitiliza ndi moyo wanu. iwalani za nofap / kudziletsa ndipo ganizirani kuti kuyambira pano muyenera kusintha. osadziyesa ndi nthawi yodziletsa. kudikirira masiku angapo musanakhale bwino tsopano kwatha, chifukwa mukadzachira simufunika kudikirira miniti imodzi mutangodziseweretsa maliseche kuti mukhale moyo wanu. Mudamangiriza kutengeka ndi maliseche chifukwa mudazigwiritsa ntchito molakwika. Maganizo amenewo sadzatha mwachindunji, koma amachepetsa mwachangu ngati mungayesetse kuseweretsa maliseche moyenera momwe mungathere. Palibe maliseche abwinobwino. zimatengera inu, zaka zanu komanso libido yanu. Wina yemwe amasewera maliseche ambiri sakutaya mphamvu zake zochulukirapo. Kuwononga mphamvu zanu ndikudzikakamiza kuti muzichita maliseche kwambiri, kapena zochepa kuposa zomwe thupi lanu limafunikira.
4) Osadzilimbitsa nokha. ngati mubwereranso ku zolaula, chitani izi. onerani kopanira, jambulani ndi kuchita zina. musadziyese nokha kwa maola ambiri. sikoyenera kuti muzilingalira za izi, ngakhale mutakhala osokoneza bongo kapena ayi. mupambana, khulupirirani nokha.
Ndili ndi umunthu wokonda kuonera zolaula, motero katswiri wanga wogonana adandilangiza mwamphamvu kuti ndisiye kuwerengera masiku ndikuchotsa kalendala yanga. Nditasiya kuwerengera masiku kuyambira pomwe ndinabwezeretsanso, ndinayamba kumva bwino kwambiri. masiku sanali kundikhudzanso. Malingana ngati mukusamalira kugonana kwanu, kuyambiranso sikungakupheni. sizabwino, koma Siziwongolera kupita kwanu patsogolo. Simuyenera kumva kuwawa. mukuyesetsa kuti mukhale ndi zogonana zoyenera, mukuchitira izi kwa inu ndi mnzanu / bwenzi lanu lamtsogolo. Dzinyadire. Munayang'ana zolaula, zili bwino. osawononge tsiku lanu chifukwa cha icho. Zolaula ndi zoyipa, bwanji ndiyenera kuzilingalira tsiku lonse? wamphamvu ndani? Ine kapena zolaula? ndikaganiza zongoyambiranso zolaula, ndani akupambana? zolaula. osati ine.
5) Nthawi zina ndibwino kumangomvera nokha ndikukhala kutali ndi intaneti. Kugonana kwanu ndikwapadera. pa zolaula, pali umunthu wosiyanasiyana, njira zosiyanasiyana komanso momwe amaonera zolaula. Pali anthu omwe adapeza malire pochita maliseche kamodzi patsiku, ndipo ena kamodzi pamwezi. anthu ena amasiya zolaula zozizira, ena amasiya pang'onopang'ono, ena amangowonerera zolaula nthawi ndi nthawi koma ndizabwino. zosokoneza za anthu ndizosiyana. Ndinu wapadera, ndipo funso lina lingayankhidwe ndi inu nokha.
6) Kudziseweretsa maliseche ndi gawo limodzi mwazogonana ndipo wabwera kudzakuthandizani. mutha kumva bwino kwambiri ngati mumatha kuchita zinthu zabwino. Khalidwe lonyansa lodzola maliseche limakupatsani inu kumva kwamtendere, ngati mutagonana kwambiri. muzichita zoseweretsa maliseche ngati kugonana ndipo muziulemekeza. mverani nokha, chifukwa nthawi ya maliseche ndinu mnzanu.
7) Zovuta izi zili mwa inu. Zolaula / maliseche ndizomwe zimayambitsa. Pali zofunika kuzinthu zina m'moyo wanu. Mudzaleka kumveranso zonsezo nthawi imodzi, koma zimakhalabe ndipo zimabwera nthawi ndi nthawi, payekhapayekha. Mwina muli ndi nkhawa pang'ono, kusungulumwa, kapena kutopa. Koma osati chifukwa chodziseweretsa maliseche kapena zolaula. PMO anali woyamba. Tsopano muyenera kumvetsetsa chifukwa chomwe mumamverera chonchi nthawi ndi nthawi. yankho mwina kukhala kunja kwa moyo wanu wogonana. Komabe, mudzawona kuti mukatha kuchiritsa mumakhala ndi nthawi yambiri yaulere kuti muthane ndi mavuto amenewo.
Tsopano, pali mbali ina ya maliseche yomwe ndinasokonezeka. adandipatsa malangizowo / info zokhuza kukonzekera, kusintha, ndi kufalikira.
Maliseche ndi njira yofotokozera. Kufotokozera kumatanthawuza "Kusintha kukhala malingaliro osokoneza bongo". Zikutanthauza kuti mukakhala kuti mukugonana ndikuyang'ana zolaula, mukupanga zolaula. Mukusandutsa zolaula kukhala chinthu chosangalatsa. Ichi ndichifukwa chake makonda athu azakugonana amatulutsa zolaula. Ndikayamba kuonera zolaula za tsiku ndi tsiku ndikutsegula ndege tsiku lililonse, ndiyamba kudzutsidwa ndi ma helikopita. Ngati ndiyamba kuonera zolaula zamaliseche ndikuziyang'ana tsiku ndi tsiku, ndimadzutsidwa ndi kugonana kozizira. Ichi ndichifukwa chake timaganiza kuti zolaula zikubera ubongo wathu. Timayang'ana china chomwe sichiri chenicheni, chomwe ndichabodza kwathunthu. taphunzitsa thupi lathu kudzutsidwa ndi zinthu zomwe sizichitika pamoyo weniweni. Ndizabwinobwino kuti mukakhala muzochitika zenizeni simungakhale ndi lingaliro. chifukwa simunafotokoze zinthu zomwe zingachitike. Mu zolaula, tambala ndi akulu. mukamaonera zolaula, mukupanga tchuthi chachikulu. Ngati mulibe imodzi, sizachilendo kukhala ndi nkhawa nazo. Mukayamba kufafaniza thupi lanu, nkhawa imeneyi imatha. Ndi zolaula, timafafaniza zogonana osagwiritsa ntchito makondomu, timafafaniza amayi osowa, zochita zosayenera, matupi osayenera. Ndizabwinobwino kukhala ndi zovuta zogonana pomwe 90 peresenti ya moyo wanu wogonana uli pafupi kuthetsa zithunzi zolaula komanso zinthu zosatheka.
za PIED: Mutha kugwiritsa ntchito maliseche ngati chida kuti muchotse zomwe mukufuna, m'malingaliro anu. Ndinkakhala ndi vuto ndi makondomu. kotero, panthawi yakuseweretsa maliseche, ndinayamba kudziyerekeza ndekha ndikuyika kondomu. Ndinali kuphunzitsa thupi langa kuti likhale horny, ngakhale ndi kondomu. Inenso ndimachita chimodzimodzi ndi anzanga. Ndimaganizira za iwo, ndimawafafaniza. Ngati mukumva kuti simukukopeka ndi SO yanu, ganizirani za iye mukamasewera. ndondomeko ya kufufutira imakupangitsani kukopeka naye. erotization ndi chida cholimbana ndi PIED. mukadziona kuti mukuchita momwe mukufunira, mudzathetsa vutoli ndipo mudzayamba kuchita bwino. ngati mumatha kupeza erection pongoganiza za mnzanu, mutha kukhala ndi erection naye. Ndipo ngati muli ndi vuto ndi mnzanu, mutha kukhalanso nalo. PIED imabweranso chifukwa choopa magwiridwe antchito. mukasiya kudalira zolaula, manthawo adzatha. Muyenera kudziwona nokha mukugonana, ndiye pitirizani kufufuta lingaliro limenelo. Komanso, pali nsonga yomwe imagwira ntchito bwino: ngati muli ndi mnzanu ndipo mukuwona kuti mukuwopa kuti mulibe erection, yang'anani kwathunthu pa mnzanu. siyani kuganizira za inu, mudzakhala ndi erection nthawi ina osadandaula. ikani chidwi chanu chonse pa iye ndi thupi lake. thupi lanu lidzasamalira zina zonsezo! koma padziko lonse lapansi, zidziwitso zonse zomwe ndalemba patsamba lino zikuthandizani kuchotsa ma pied.
Ngati muli ndi ziboda zomwe mumachita manyazi nazo, mwina chifukwa cha zolaula. Kusiya zolaula ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yodziwira zomwe mumakondana ndi kugonana. Vuto lazithunzithunzi ndikuti nthawi zonse timadyetsa zolaula. Zolaula zikachoka, ziboliboli sizikhala zovuta. ndibwino kukhala ndi ziboda pamene samakukondani tsiku lonse. simuyenera kudzimvera chisoni mukamaganizira za feteleza zanu, bola ngati mutayesetsanso kuthana ndi zovuta zina mukamasewera. Mutha kudzipatsanso nthawi yosangalala ndi zinthu zosatheka. Zili m'malingaliro anu, simukuvulaza aliyense. Simuyenera kuchita nawo nkhondo. Mudzawaganizira nthawi ndi nthawi, komanso nthawi zina mumaganizira zolaula. Landirani. bola mukakhala kuti simukuwona zolaula, malingaliro anu adzasinthidwa ndikulakalaka mwakuya, "kwachilengedwe", ngati kuti chibadwa chanu chobereka chikuwongolera malingaliro anu. Onani zomwe mungaganizire zomwe zimakupangitsani kumva bwino mkati. Komanso, palibe cholakwika chilichonse pofafaniza mnzanu kapena gulu lanu (zitha kuwonedwa ngati zachiwerewere, komabe sizikukhudzanso njira yochira). Sindikuwona chifukwa chake sikungakhale koyenera kuganiza kuti ndimagonana ndi munthu wina. ndipo mulimonse, palibe amene akudziwa, ndipo palibe amene amasamala! Ndikofunika kumva bwino pazomwe mukumva. ngati pali zinthu zomwe zimakutembenuzirani, koma mkati simukugwirizana nawo, zimatha ngati simusamala za iwo. HOCD ndi chitsanzo chabwino. simumachiritsa HOCD potembenuka molunjika komanso mwamunthu. mumachiritsa HOCD poletsa kutengeka kuti mutha kukhala amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kapena amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. mukasiya kuganizira za lingalirolo, ndimangoganiza zomwe zimabwera nthawi ndi nthawi koma simusamala za izo.
Kulimbikitsa maliseche ndi maliseche ndi zida zabwino pakugonana. Panthawi ya maliseche, fafanizirani zakugonana molingana ndi maliseche. Izi zikuthandizani kuti mumvetsetse liti komanso chifukwa chake. mutha kugwiranso ntchito pakuwongolera kumveka kwanu mkati mwa maliseche pogwiritsa ntchito kusintha. Ngati mumatha kupitilira zoseweretsa maliseche, mwina mungathe kuyeserera pakugonana, chifukwa chake ndikugonana kwanthawi yayitali. Komabe, simusowa kuti muchite zolaula. mutha kumatha kupanga pang'onopang'ono komwe kumangopita mmwamba mpaka pamwamba. Kusintha kumatha kusintha magwiridwe antchito ndikupangitsa kuti zomwe zikuchitikazo zitheke. Muzochita zanga, kumangokhalitsa kumangopanga kiyi ya 100 peresenti kokhutiritsa. Mukadziwa luso lolimbitsa pang'onopang'ono, mutha kuyamba kukumana ndi kusintha.
Nayi mitu ina ndi mafunso omwe ndinali nawo ndi othandizira anga.
- Kwaogonana wanga, zolaula ndi mliri. Ikuwonongera m'badwo wachinyamata. Sakhulupirira kuti kukopa koyambitsa sikulakwa, koma akuwona kuti zomwe timaphunzira mu zolaula ndizowopsa. Amawona kuti kukhala kutali ndi zolaula ndi mtundu wabwino kwambiri ndipo ndi njira yosavuta yothandizira kukhala bwenzi labwino kuposa munthu wina aliyense woyandikana naye. Koma adandiuza kangapo kuti ndisiye kuyambiranso kuyambiranso. Kuganizira za nkhaniyi kumakulitsa vuto.
- maliseche ali pano kuti akuthandizeni kusiya zolaula. Ngati mumapewa mukayambiranso, mumakhala ndi zovuta zakugonana zomwe zingakupangitseni kufuna kuonera zolaula. Ndikudziwa kuti MO itha kubweretsa kwa PMO, koma mutha kusankha kusankha kungokhala MO osafikira PMO. sikuti iwe MO kuti udzakhale PMO mtsogolo; sikowopsa. Ngati inu MO zonse zomwe mukufuna, mudzakhalabe okhutira kotero osakopeka ndi zolaula. Koma ngati MO molakwika, izi zingakulowetseni kukhumudwa komwe kungayambitse PMO kuyambiranso. komanso, kukhala okhutira mwakugonana kumapewa kubing. Ngati ndimaonera zolaula, ndimangochita ndi tsiku langa. Nthawi yotsatira ndidzangokhala MO ndikugwira ntchito zogonana. Palibe vuto kuyesedwa ndikulephera nthawi ndi nthawi! sikumapeto kwa dziko lapansi! cholinga ndikuti MO ikhale yosangalatsa kuposa PMO, yomwe imatha kuyendetsedwa. malingaliro anu ndi amphamvu kwambiri komanso amakhudzanso inu nokha kuposa zomwe mumawona zolaula. Ndi PMO, mumatumizidwa ku zomwe mukuwona. Ndi MO, ndiinu amene mumasankha. Mukulamulira kwambiri!
- ndichifukwa chiyani ndimamva bwino panthawi yopumula kwa nofap? ndichifukwa chiyani ndimamva bwino komanso bwino?
Zifukwa zake zosiyanasiyana komanso nthawi zina. Nazi zifukwa zosiyanasiyana:
- Ngati mukukumana ndi zamanyazi zokhudzana ndi maliseche / zolaula, mfundo yosavuta yoti simukuchita imodzi mwazinthu izi ikupatsani malingaliro abwino pazanu. Malingaliro anu sanatanganidwe ndi kubwereranso, kotero mutha kuyang'ana pa "mbali yabwino" yanu.
- Pali kulumikizana pakati pa libido ndi zonse bwino. Panthawi yovutikira, mukupeza ndalama zochulukirapo (zomwe mumachita) zomwe zingakubweretsereni chimwemwe chochuluka. Pepani sindinawerengepo zamasayansi pankhaniyi. Pali maphunziro pankhaniyi. koma ndimakonda kukhala wopanda pake, ndipo ndikudziwa kuti libido yanga imayendetsa gawo la chisangalalo changa. Mwachitsanzo, pamtandapo, ndinalibe libido ndipo ndimamva ngati shit. Kuchokera kuzinthu zonse zomwe ndawerenga za nofap, ndizodziwikiratu kuti nofap amatipanga kukhala wodalira kugonana kwathu, ngati kuti kugonana kwathu kungatisankhire chisangalalo chathu.
- Mwayika "chipembedzo" chokhudza inu. Chipembedzochi chimakuuza kuti: “Ngati sindili woyenera koma sindikuyenda bwino, ndikumva bwino, ndili pa 100 peresenti. Komabe, ndikadzayambiranso, ndimayenera kumverera ngati ndimawonekedwe oyipa, chifukwa ndimamva bwino ndikapanda "lingaliro ili lachipembedzo ndi lingaliro lamalingaliro lomwe nthawi ina timaliwona mu umunthu wapadera (oyembekezera, ocd, oganiza bwino, etc. )
- Kukhala Horny kumakupanga kukhala olimba mtima polankhula ndi atsikana / anyamata. Popeza kugonana ndi chimodzi mwazolinga zabwino kwambiri zakumudzi, mukumva bwino chifukwa mukuyandikira cholinga chimenecho, popeza mukutuluka kumalo anu abwino.
-ndichifukwa chiyani ndimamva ngati ndimayipa kuyambiranso?
- kusintha kwadzidzidzi kwa kugonana. mwamasulira kutengera kwanyengo.
- zamanyazi pakugwiritsa ntchito zolaula, zokhuza kukwera ndi ma fetish
- ndikuseweretsa maliseche mosamala, chifukwa muyenera, osati chifukwa mukufuna. Kumva kuti ndinu pachiwopsezo chanu pakufuna kugona, kumva mosiyana, kupotozedwa chifukwa cha izo. Mukukhala pamkhalidwe womwe si woti ambiri amakhala okhumudwa kwambiri.
- kuda nkhawa masiku, za nthawi yayitali, kuganizira zofika masiku 90
- kupalasa, kuthana ndi kuchuluka kwa libido, komwe kumapangitsa kusiyana kwakukulu (kuchokera ku libido yayitali / yodzala kupita kwina komwe kulibe)
- kulephera kwa thupi lanu kuthana ndi kumasulidwa pakugonana (chifukwa mumakonda kudziletsa)
Ichi ndichifukwa chake kupeza bwino ndikofunikira. Ngati muli ndi maliseche / moyo wogonana, simukhudzidwa nawo. Ndizosangalatsa kupeza mphamvu ndikudziletsa. koma mutha kukhala ndi zotsatira zofananira ndi moyo wathanzi wogonana. Simudzakhala owopsa nthawi zonse. Mudzakhala olamulira. Simusowa kudziletsa kuti mukhale osangalala. yesetsani kukhala osangalala popanda icho choyamba, yesetsani kukhala ndi thanzi labwino, ndiyeno mutha kuyesetsa kuchepetsa mphamvu zanu zogonana mwa kudziletsa. koma ndi njira yovuta, yosayenera achiwerewere kapena anthu omwe akuzindikira kugonana kwawo. Katswiri wanga wazakugonana amatsutsana kotheratu ndi kayendedwe ka nofap, koma tivomereze za mwayi wina wodziletsa. pali kuthekera kochepetsera mphamvu zanu zogonana, koma mutha kukwaniritsa izi ngakhale simulephera. chifukwa mphamvu yanu yakugonana siyamalire, mutha kuyambiranso libido yanu kudzera pogonana. Kudziletsa kukupulumutsa mphamvu zanu, koma mulibe njira iliyonse yopangira mphamvu zogonana. amapeza lingaliro lothetsa zovuta zanu zakugonana ndikudziletsa komwe kulibe phindu. Zachidziwikire, kudziletsa kumakupangitsani kumva bwino mukamagonana. Ndi njira yokhayo yopulumukira, yomwe imagwira ntchito kwakanthawi mpaka kubwereranso kwina.
Ndidachita nofap mwachipembedzo zaka 5. Ndinkazikhulupirira chifukwa ndimamva kuwawa ndikamakula ndikumakhala bwino pomwe sindinatero. Panthawi imeneyi ya moyo wanga, sindikanatha kuganiza kuti tsiku lina ndidzakhala ndikuchita maliseche kangapo pa sabata ndikukhala ndi mphamvu zambiri. zili choncho pakadali pano, sindinamvepo bwino. Ndinakhala ndi nthawi yozolowera kuseweretsa maliseche (ndinganene kuti 1 chaka chokwera ndi chotsika) koma zinali zoyenera. Patha zaka ziwiri tsopano ndikutha kuseweretsa maliseche, sindikusowa tsiku limodzi la nofap kuti ndikhale wopambana kwambiri. ichi ndichinthu chodabwitsa kwambiri ndipo ndikukumbukira ndikulira m'maso mwanga pomwe ndidayamba kuzindikira kuti ndikumasulidwa mtolo uwu. nofap inali kundisandutsa misala
- Kodi kudziletsa kwakanthawi kuli kothandiza kuchira?
Wogonana wanga sanandilangize kuti ndisiye kuti ndisiye zolaula. Kwa iye, izi ndizongothawa vuto. ngati kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula zimapangitsa kuti musathe kuchita zolaula molondola, muyenera kuyesetsa kuthana ndi vuto m'malo mongoyeserera kuseweretsa maliseche. Pamwamba pake, zimakhala zovuta kumenya zolaula mukamangokhala wamantha. Cholinga ndikupanga kuseweretsa maliseche popanda kuyamikiridwa komanso kokwanira kuposa kutulutsa maliseche ndi zolaula. Pakadali pano, zolaula sizimawoneka ngati zosokoneza.
Pazonse, amakhulupirira zonse zokhudzana ndi maliseche kotero samawona chifukwa chake tiyenera kusiya. Apanso, ndikungonena zomwe andiuza. Sindikunena kuti ndi chowonadi, ndikungogawana malingaliro ake
- Nchifukwa chiyani a Taoist amakhulupirira kuti kusungidwa kwa umuna? (osati kuchokera kwa wothandizira wanga, koma kuchokera ku kafukufuku wanga pa nkhaniyi - yochokera m'buku lolembedwa ndi John blofeld lonena za Chitao)
A Taoist amakhulupirira kuti kusunga umuna, koma amaonanso kuti kuyeseza umuna popanda njira zonse zosinkhira zomwe zimadza ndi izi sizothandiza. Ngati simugwira ntchito yopatsa mphamvu izi, mphamvu zimatha. Muyenera kugwira ntchito ya microcosmic orbit, njira yoyenera kuchitidwa mothandizidwa ndi mbuye wa Taoist. Kwa Taoist, kusunga umuna ndi njira imodzi yofunika kwambiri kuti athe kufa. Sichinthu chofunikira kuchita kuti mukhumudwitse ena.
Ngati mukufuna Chitao, onetsetsani kuti mukupuma mwamphamvu. ndi mchitidwe womwe umakuthandizani kuti muzigwirizana ndi gawo lanu logonana. M'mbuyomu ndimachita izi pakanthawi kodzichira ndipo Zinandithandiza kwambiri .Ndipo kusinkhasinkha komwe kumathandizanso kumathandizanso pakuchira. (mutha kuyesa kusinkhasinkha m'maganizo musanalowe kapena mutaganiza kuti muvomereze zomwe simukufuna)
Kutsiliza:
Ngati mumawerenga zonse, zikomo. Ndikulemba zomwe ndaphunzira kudzera mu zamankhwala, kafukufuku komanso zokumana nazo. Sindinkafuna kulemba izi ngati kuti sindikutsimikiza za malingaliro anga. Ndimakhulupirira zakufunika kokhala ndi moyo wogonana wathanzi, ndili ndi vuto logonana ngati lero. Ngati mukukhulupirira kuti maliseche si anu, ndikumvetsetsa malingaliro anu. Koma ndikulangizani kusiyanitsa maliseche pakokha ndi momwe mumaganizira. Ndi funso loti musankhe: mwina mumalimbana ndi maliseche, kapena mumayesetsa. Mwanjira iliyonse, kufunikira kwa kugonana sikungathere m'moyo wanu. Tapangidwa kuti tigone, kuchotsa izi ndizovuta kwambiri kuposa momwe zimawonekera. Ichi ndichifukwa chake tiyenera kukhala oyamba ndi gawo lathu zogonana, kenako, ngati tikufuna, tipeze kudziletsa komanso kuyamikiridwa. Koma mutha kukhala pa 100 peresenti ngakhale mutagonana. maliseche akuyenera kukonzanso libido yanu, kuti isaphe. Zonse ziwiri ndizotheka, kusankha kuli m'manja mwanu!
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