Ndine 17 M, ndakhala ndikuonera zolaula miyezi 6 ndikusiya kwathunthu pamasewera a vidiyo 2 ndi miyezi yapitayo. Ndisanapeze NoFap pamwezi wa Okutobala wa 2016, ndimakhala chinyalala: nthawi zonse ndimakhala wokhumudwa, kulephera kusukulu, kulephera ndi maubale… kulephera pamoyo. Cholinga changa chokha panthawiyo chinali kupeza PC yamasewera. Tsopano talingalirani zachabechabe zomwe ndidamva nditapeza ...
Nazi zinthu zazikuluzikulu zomwe ndaphunzira m'miyezi 16 yolimbana ndi zizolowezi zanga ziwiri:
Mukachotsa zizolowezi zopulumuka mudzawululidwa ku 24/7, ndipo pachifukwa ichi muyenera kusintha moyo wanu kuti musangalale popanda zizolowezi zopulumuka. Zikhala zovuta, koma muyenera kulimbikira kapena apo ayi mutha kuyembekezera kubwerera m'manja mwanu.
Chimwemwe sichingafike mwamatsenga ukadutsa masiku angapo. Zitha kukhala zowona kuti moyo umakhala wolimba komanso wosangalatsa mukayamba kuwona zomwe zikuyenda bwino, koma ndi chiyani kukhala ndi mitambo yoyipa pamutu panu, ngati mungoyimirira osachita chilichonse chomwe chimathandizira chimwemwe?
Dzichitireni izi ndikudzimvera chisoni. Ngati mukuchotsa chizolowezi choyipa kuti mupeze winawake kapena kuti mufune kutsimikizika kwa wina, nthawi yomwe achoke, mumamva kuti kuyesetsa konse kunangopita pachabe, ndipo mwayambiranso kuzikhalidwe zanu zakale. Kupanga kudzimvera chisoni ndikofunikanso. Anthu omwe amadzipatsa ulemu komanso amadzikonda samapita kuzinthu zomwe akudziwa kuti zingawavulaze. Dziwani kuti ndinu munthu chabe, ndipo mumalakwitsa monga ena onse. Mukangodzipeza mumadzikonda nokha ndikumverera kuti kutsimikizika kwa enawo kubwera chachiwiri, mudzakhala mutenga gawo lalikulu osati kungolimbana ndi zosokoneza zanu, komanso kukula monga munthu. Ili ndiye lingaliro lamphamvu kwambiri, ngati sichoncho, lamphamvu kwambiri lomwe ndidaphunzira m'mabwalo awa. Ndikukhulupiriranso kuti iyi ndi yomwe idandithandiza kusintha zinthu ndikufika patali. Zachisoni ndi zomwe anthu ambiri pano sanazindikire zomwe zikulepheretsa kuchira kwawo. Za izi mutha kuwona posachedwa kuchokera U / MightyAslan in Pano.
Fufuzani njira zamakhalidwe omwe amakupangitsani kuti musinthe zomwe mumakonda (zoopsa, matenda amisala, zoyambitsa). Ndizotheka kuti zosokoneza zanu zitha kukhala chizindikiro cha matenda amisala, ndipo ndani akudziwa ngati vutoli ndiye chifukwa chake moyo wanu ndi wamanyazi. Kuphatikiza apo mumapeza zambiri kuti mukambirane ndi othandizira, ngati muli nawo, kukuthandizani kuti muzitha kumvetsetsa za chizolowezi chanu.
Chifukwa chake zimangodumphadumpha kuti ndikalandire upangiri, ndikupepesa chifukwa cha zolakwika zonse za galamala ndi kuthamanga, ndikuthamangira. Ndikufunirani zabwino zonse kuti muchiritse. Khalani olimba, khalani odzipereka
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Kotero, pakhala chaka kuchokera pomwe ndinabwereranso komaliza zikuwoneka. Kunena zowona sindimadziwa choti ndinene ndi momwe ndinganene koma ndichita zotheka.
apa inu anyamata mutha kuyang'ana pa lipoti langa la mwezi wa 6.
Ndili ndi zaka 18M ndipo ndakhala ndikumenya nkhondoyi pafupifupi zaka 2. Miyezi isanu ndi umodzi yapitayi tili ndi zambiri kwa ine: Ndidakhala nthawi yambiri ndikulimbitsa ubale wanga, ndikudzipeza ndekha ndikuthana ndi zovuta zanga.
Pambuyo pakudandaula kwakanthawi pazomwe ndilembe patsamba lino, ndidazindikira kuti pali njira zambiri zomwe zingakuthandizireni kuti mupezenso bwino. Ndipo tiyeni tichite zowona, mwina sindingadziwe 70% ya onse, ndipo sindimakumbukiranso kapena ndikudziwa njira zonse zomwe ndidatenga kuti ndikafike kuno.
Kwenikweni ndimangokhala ndi chidziwitso chaching'ono pamutuwu, kungakhale kupusa komanso kunyada kuti ndinene kuti ndimadziwa zonse za izi. Ndipo ndimo mudalowamo, muyenera kukhala mukugawana pang'ono za chidziwitso chanu kamodzi kanthawi. Ndipo ndikutanthauza kwenikweni pang'ono pokha, osangotenga upangiri uliwonse womwe mungakhale nawo ndikusanthula za iwo mu positi limodzi, monga ndidachitira m'mbuyomu. Zomwe zimandibweretsa ku mfundo yanga yotsatira:
Mukufuna kuti mukhale ndi nkhawa ndikamaonera zolaula ndipo mumachita mantha kuti mulephera.
Kodi ndi ziti zomwe mumayang'ana monga munthu ndipo zimakutsogolelani bwanji kuti mukhale munthu wabwino koposa?
Ndikubwerera m'mbuyo mwazinthu izi, zomwe ndinganene kuti ndizofala kwa aliyense amene anaganiza kuti akufuna kusiya, ndikosavuta kukhala ndi zolaula. Monga mtengo wina uliwonse, umatitsogolera kuti tizichita zonse zomwe tingathe, komabe vuto limakhala pamene anthu amasunga phindu ili lokhalo ngati phindu lenileni, ngati kuti njira yokhayo yomwe tingakhalire munthu yemwe timamuganizira ndikumangokhala osachita zolaula. Chifukwa chake timakhala ndi nkhawa zakubwerera m'mbuyo ndipo timadzilanga mosalekeza izi zikachitika, koma chowonadi ndichakuti tidabwereranso chifukwa tatopa kupirira nkhanza zomwe tidadzipangira tokha.
Mukudziwa, kubwerera m'mbuyo ndi njira yolephera, koma kulephera ndichinthu chachilengedwe komanso chofunikira pakukula, ndimomwe timaphunzirira. Tikamalephera kwambiri, ndipamenenso timaphunzira zambiri. Koma ankhanza samalekerera kulephera, ankhanza saphunzira.
Chifukwa chake musavutike, nthawi ina mukadzayambiranso ingoganizirani ngati kubwerera m'mbuyo komwe mungaphunzire ndikukumbukira kuti ndinu anthu ndipo muli ndi malire. Momwemonso zimakhalira mukakhala pamzere, simudziwa ngati uku kudzakhala kuyesera kwanu komaliza ndipo mutha kusiya chizolowezicho kapena ngati mukuyambiranso, koma muyenera kukumbukira kuti mudzaphunzira zambiri zambiri ndi nthawi ndipo pamapeto pake mutha kuzikankha. Zinthu zokha zomwe zili zofunika kuzidandaula nazo, ndizo zinthu zomwe mukudziwa zomwe zingayambitse kuyambiranso, Sizothandiza kudandaula za zina chifukwa simudziwa kuti zilipo (nthawi iwaululira). Ndipo ndi izi zanenedwa, muyenera kupeza zofunikira zina zomwe zili monga, kapena zofunika kwambiri kuposa phindu lokhala ndi zolaula; zomwe mungayimire kuti mukhale zabwino kwambiri zomwe dziko lapansi laziwonapo ngakhale zolaula zitayamba kugunda. Sitili mdziko lino lapansi kuti tizunzike mopusa, kuzunzika kwathu ndiye chisonyezo chakuti pali zinthu zina zomwe tingachite kuti dziko likhale malo abwinoko.
Dziko likuyembekezerabe kena kake kuchokera kwa ife.
Ngati mukufuna kulongosola bwino pazomwe ndangonena, mutha kuyang'ana makanema awa a 2 a Jordan Peterson (ndiye Meta kwa iwo omwe akuyesera kudzikonza):
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M5S6cTQRoU4
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YMD–3ZveBs
Ndizomwezo, pitilizani ndi kuchira kwanu, dzitengereni mukamagwa, yambani pochita zinthu zoyipa ndikusintha kochita pakati paulendo wapaulendo. Ndipo kukumbukira kuti pali zambiri pamoyo kuposa kungochira ku zolaula, pitani mukapeze zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala munthu. Ndipita ndi mawu osinthidwa pang'ono a John Lenon:
"Moyo ndi zomwe zimachitika mukakhala otanganidwa kudikirira kuti kauntala afike masiku a kuchuluka kwa X."
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