Ndine 18, ndinayamba NoFap chifukwa ndimapunthwa mwangozi. Ndakhala ndikupita ndikubwera kwakanthawi (masamba angapo, kenako ndikubwereranso, masiku angapo, ndi zina. Streaks nthawi zonse imakhala yayitali nthawi iliyonse.). Panthawi inayake ndinangozipanga mpaka masiku a 21 kapena apo osayesera kwenikweni ndipo kuchokera pamenepo zolimbikitsazo sizinabwerenso.
Chifukwa chake kumbukirani: ngakhale mutayambiranso, onani chithunzi chokulirapo. Simukuponyera chilichonse pansi, muli akadali kupitilira momwe mudalili poyamba. Sindinakhalepo ndi PIED.
Phindu lalikulu:
- osatinso malingaliro olakwika okhudza momwe amai ndi abambo ayenera kukhalira, koma chithunzi chabwino cha zomwe muyenera kuyang'ana mwa atsikana (-> werengani Ma Models a Mark Manson, zikugwirizana ndi malingaliro a NoFap oseketsa)
- kuyendetsa kupita kunja uko ndi kukakumana ndi akazi
- kumveka bwino m'malingaliro (NoFap yophatikizidwa ndi kusinkhasinkha = kupambana kwakukulu)
- nthawi yochulukirapo m'manja mwanga (sindinawononge nthawi yambiri ndikuwonongeratu zolaula)
- zilango zochulukirapo (mwachitsanzo: Ndimadzuka ku 5 m'mawa uliwonse tsopano, kotero nditha kugwira ntchito pa buku langa)
Zolaula ndi zoyipa pazifukwa zingapo:
- Choyambirira, ndipo choipitsitsa, ndikuti amakuphunzitsani kwambiri Zinthu zolakwika zokhudza kugonana. Porn zimapangitsa kuti ziwoneke ngati kuti kugonana ndiko kungochoka ndikukhala ndi zotheka, koma sichoncho. Kugonana kumatchedwa 'kupanga chikondi', ndipo ndi chifukwa. Matsenga enieni ogonana ndi pomwe mumakhala nawo ndi munthu amene mumamukondadi komanso amene mumamukondera. Zimakupangitsani kukhala osangalala mwakuthupi, komanso mumtima, chifukwa mumakondweretsanso munthu amene mumakonda. Kuphatikizika kwakulimbikitsa kwakuthupi + kwamphamvu ndikwabwino kwambiri kuposa chiwonetsero chilichonse chokhudzana ndi chilakolako chabwino chomwe mungapeze. Ndipo tangoganizani; zolaula pa zolaula sizikukhudzana ndi chikondi. Zimatengera kukhumbira komanso / kapena ndalama. Ndipo si momwe mungasangalalire ndi kugonana pamoyo wanu. Ndikumvetsetsa komwe mukuchokera, ndakhalako komweko. Ziri zovuta kulingalira kusiyana kwake, koma ndikhulupirireni - mukangosiya zolaula, mudzazindikira ndikumva izi. 🙂
- Zimasinthiranso kwambiri malingaliro anu pa thupi lachikazi. Pa zolaula, inu (pafupifupi) mumangowona azimayi omwe ali ndi matupi omwe ife monga gulu timawawona ngati 'abwino' ndipo chifukwa chake mudzazindikira moyenera kuti kuwanyengerera akaziwo ndiye njira yokhayo, kapena njira yabwino kwambiri, yogonana. Koma poganiza mwanjira imeneyi, mukuphonya atsikana ambiri ochititsa chidwi omwe ndiabwino, osangalatsa, okongola, komanso othandizana nanu - chifukwa choti alibe thupi langwiro lomwe lili paliponse pogonana. Sindikunena kuti kukhala pachibwenzi ndi msungwana 'wangwiro' ndi koyipa. Ngati mungapeze wina yemwe ali ndi thupi 'langwiro' lokhala ndi umunthu wabwino kwambiri, zithandizireni. Ndizodabwitsa. Koma musalole lingaliro la momwe kugonana kuyenera kukhalira (monga zolaula) kukulepheretseni kupatsa mwayi atsikana ena ozizira.
- Zimakupangitsani kukhala osatetezeka. Amuna zolaula nthawi zambiri amakhala 'angwiro' kuposa inu. Mukuganiza kuti ndinu ochepera kuposa kukopa komanso kugonana ndipo izi zimakupangitsani kudzimvera chisoni. Palibe chifukwa cha izo; amuna ambiri ali ndi vuto lomwelo. Zomwe mumawona zolaula, ndi crème de la crème ya amuna potengera matupi. Simuyenera kukhala ngati iwo.
- Kenako kwa gawo la dopamine; dopamine ndi hormone yomwe imakhudzana ndi kuledzera. Sizomwe kwenikweni zimayambitsa Kuledzera, koma tisakuvutitseni ndi malongosoledwe amenewo. Chowonadi ndi chakuti kuchuluka kwakukulu kwa dopamine munkanthawi kochepa ndikwabwino kwa inu. Zimakupangitsani kukhala osokoneza bongo komanso osazindikira nthawi yayitali yomwe imatulutsa dopamine yocheperako. Ie mumakhala othedwa nzeru. Mukawona mng'ono wanu akuchita china chachikulu, mumangoti 'wow, cool' kenako ndikupitiliza. Kapenanso, ngati simumangokhalira kupachikidwa pazowonjezera zazikulu za dopamine, mudzatero kwenikweni yamikirani kupambana kwake. Mudzadabwitsidwa ndi momwe mlongo wanu aliri wowopsa ndikusangalala kuti mumamuwona akukula kukhala munthu wabwino.
- Palinso sayansi yabodza yotaya gwero lanu lamphamvu: zoyendetsa zogonana. Kuonera zolaula kumanyengerera ubongo wanu kuganiza kuti mwakhala mukugonana ndi akazi angapo okongola (pomwe kwenikweni zolaula zimakupangitsani kukhala zombie kuseri kwa chinsalu yemwe alibe mnzake kupatula iye), ndiye kuti mwataya 'drive' yanu yogonana. Mwa zokumana nazo zanga izi ndi zoona. Tsopano popeza sindimakonda kwambiri zolaula (ndikuchita maliseche, pankhani imeneyi), ndimamvanso chidwi chocheza ndi atsikana m'moyo weniweni. Ndikumverera kodabwitsa. Palibe sayansi kapena chilichonse (monga momwe ndikudziwira) kuti ndichite izi, koma momwe ndimamvera zimathandizira. : ”)
- Tsamba labwino kwambiri loti zolaula ndizowopsa kwambiri: yourbrainonporn.com
Tl; dr zolaula zimasokoneza malingaliro anu pa zakugonana, zimakupangitsani kukhala osatetezeka, zimakusandutsani kukhala zombie kuseri kwa chophimba chanu, ndikukupangitsani kumva kuchuluka kwa zinthu zabwino m'moyo wanu.
Ndalankhula za izi ndi anzanga ena ndipo onse adadabwa kwambiri ndi izi, akuwonetsa kuti sizidziwika kwenikweni kuti zolaula ndizovuta. China chake chiyenera kuchitidwa pamenepo. 🙂 Ndizomvetsanso chisoni, chifukwa kuyesa kukopana / kuyang'anitsitsa atsikana ndizosangalatsa, ndipo mumaziphonya ngati mungotaya mtsikana wa pixel pazenera lanu; p
Ndimakumbukira nthawi ina kukhala wokondweretsedwa ndi ukapolo wa zolaula, koma Mulungu, ndikhulupirireni, ndimanyoza izi tsopano.
LINK - Chifukwa chiyani zolaula ndizowopsa ndipo ziyenera kupewedwa konse
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