Ndakhala pa NoFap kwakanthawi. Simunatumizepo. Kuwerenga zomwe zili pano, komanso bukuli Ubongo Wanu pa Zithunzi, anandithandiza kumvetsetsa ndi kuthetsa ubale wanga ndi zolaula. Ndafika pakuzindikira kofunikira. Sikuti ndikungothetsa zolaula. Mudzawona zomwe ndikutanthauza. Ngakhale zimathandiza - ndipo zimathandizadi, zochuluka - sizimathetsa zonse.
Tiyenera kuthana ndi kusasangalala kapena kusokonezeka kwamaganizidwe komwe kumayendetsa zolaula. Ngakhale ndimaganiza kuti zolaula ndizosokoneza bongo chifukwa chofuna kupeputsa dopamine yomwe imakhudzana ndi zolaula, ndikuganiza kuti zomwe zimayambitsa kuzunza kumatha kukhala kusasangalala komanso kukhumudwa. Ndikofunika kuti mudzipangire zenizeni zenizeni, khalani olimbikira kwambiri kuchita zomwe mumakonda ndikukhala ndi anzanu komanso abale, munthawi yomwe zododometsa izi zimapezeka nthawi yomweyo. Poyesera, mbewa zikapatsidwa khola losangalatsa komanso losangalatsa, adapeza kosavuta kukana mankhwala omwe ofufuzawo adapereka kwa mbewa.
Vutoli ndilofunika kuthana nalo. Anthu ambiri amakhala ndi zokumana nazo zoyipa koyambirira: ngozi, maubwenzi olakwika ndi anzawo, makolo omwe amayembekeza kwambiri, abale awo ozunza, zilizonse, zomwe zimatipangitsa kukhala osadzidalira - osayenera. M'malo modandaula zakale, umunthu wathu wachichepere (ndiye mkhalidwe wathu weniweni) tiyenera kumulimbikitsa wachichepereyo ndikumuuza wachichepereyo yemwe timamvetsetsa, kuyamika, komanso kudzipezera tokha. Tiyenera kukhala kholo la umunthu wathu wamkati, ndikudziuza tokha kuti tidzakhala kholo lamtsogolo ndikutithandizira pakadali pano. Izi zandipatsa kusiyana kwakukulu pamaganizidwe anga. Ndikuvutitsidwa chifukwa chokhala wowonda kwambiri ndili wachichepere, komanso chifukwa chokhala ndi chidaliro pangozi yomwe ndidakumana nayo ndili mwana, ndidazunza mwana wanga wakale, ndipo izi zidali kugwedeza moyo wanga - chifukwa ndife okondedwa athu achichepere. M'malo mwake tiyenera kumusamalira ndi kumusamalira munthu wachichepere yemwe mwina sanakhale ndi thandizo lofunikira kuchokera kwa makolo kapena abwenzi. Tiyenera kumukonda wachichepereyo ndi kumusamalira ndipo tidziwa kuti tidzakhalapo pazolakwa zomwe munthu wapanoyo amapanga. Pali zina zambiri zomwe ziyenera kuchitidwa kuti zithetse zoopsa koma ichi ndichinthu chofunikira kwambiri chomwe ndachita posachedwa.
Ndinapita ku yunivesite kuti ndithetse zolaula - kuti ndimvetsetse zomwe zinali kuchitika - ndikukonzanso moyo wanga kuti ndichepetse chiopsezo changa. Kuti mumve zambiri, ndimagwira ntchito ndi anzanga pa Facebook pakuwongolera zinthu ndipo ndinali wophunzira ku UPenn. Ndinathetsa zolaula, zomwe ndizofunikira chifukwa ndikuganiza kuti ndizodzidzimutsa (osokoneza bongo), koma ndimayenera kukumba ndikuthana ndi zowawa zomwe ndimatsuka mwa zolaula. Koma popanda zolaula, chidwi changa pa chisangalalo chinawonjezeka, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti ndikhale wosangalala ndikamakumana ndi zowawa kuchokera mkati.
Ndikunena kuti kuthetsa zolaula kwandithandiza kwambiri. Ndine wokondwa kwambiri ndipo ndimakhala ndi chidwi chochulukirapo. Sindikudziwa kusintha kwina kulikonse komwe ndidapanga m'moyo wanga panthawi yomwe ndimachotsa zolaula zomwe zimatha kufotokoza za chisangalalo komanso chidwi. Ndikuganiza kuti chifukwa chake ndi ichi: zolaula zimapangitsa kuti anthu azikhala ndi chilakolako chogonana, zomwe zimatipangitsa kuti tizitha kuseweretsa maliseche komanso kutulutsa umuna. Timamasula mphamvu zakugonana pafupipafupi, zomwe sitikanachita ngati sitinakhale ndi mwayi wokhala ndi zachilendo zambiri. Ndikuseweretsa maliseche pang'ono komanso kutulutsa mawonekedwe okokomeza, ndili ndi mphamvu zambiri 1. mphamvu ndi 2. kulandila zolimbikitsa, zomwe zimandilola kutengeka kwambiri ndi ntchito yanga.
Ndinazindikiranso kuti kugwiritsa ntchito malo ochezera a pa Intaneti kumapangitsa kuti azikonda zolaula. Izi ndichifukwa cha zomwe zili pazogonana, komanso ma algorithms omwe amatha kupendekera bwino kwa ife (makamaka pa instagram). Chifukwa chake ndidasanthula njira zochepetsera kugwiritsa ntchito malo ochezera a pa TV mwachangu. Chimodzi chinali kuthetsa kugwiritsa ntchito zidziwitso. Ndidazilola kuti ziunjike ku 99 ndikubwera ku 0. Ngakhale ndikusowa zinthu zina, ndimayang'anira kugwiritsa ntchito kwanga bwino tsopano, ndipo phindu lake limakhala loyenera. Izi zidandilola kusiya kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti aziona zolaula.
Zowonadi zolimbana pano, zolaula ndi zina zonse, ndikuchepetsa kukondweretsedwa kwathu, ndikukweza chidwi chenicheni cha dziko lapansi. Ngakhale kukopa kochita kuonekere kungawonekere kukhala kosangalatsa komanso kosavuta munthawi yochepa, zotsatira zake tonse tikudziwa (zomwe zikutifikitsa pano) kuvomereza kukana izi ndikupanga kuthekera kokulimbikitsidwa kwenikweni kwadziko (mwa kudula dopamine yochita kupanga) ndi ZAMBIRI zenizeni zenizeni kukondoweza (pogwiritsa ntchito nthawi yosungidwa kuti muchepetse nthawi yambiri ndi anzanu, kutsatira zofuna ndi zosangalatsa, ndi zina). Kuthera nthawi yochulukirapo m'chilengedwe ndidapeza kuti kumachepetsa ululu wamaganizidwe kuchokera kuchotsedwa kwa digito, monganso kupeza chidwi chenicheni cha dziko lapansi kumachitanso. Wina wothandiza amathandizira, koma ndikuganiza kuti muyenera kukhala omasuka musanalowe chibwenzi chachikulu. Ngakhale maubwenzi enieni ndiofunika, simuyenera kugwiritsa ntchito munthu wina kukuthandizani kuti mupewe zolaula.
Ngati wina wa inu akuyesetsa kuthana ndi zolaula ndikusintha moyo wanu wamkati, ndikhala wokonzeka kucheza nthawi iliyonse, nditadutsa malire ndikukhala moyo wopanda zolaula ngati wamwamuna wazaka 22 y / zokumana nazo zoyipa zoyambirira. Ndili ndi blog yomwe mungayang'ane apa yomwe ingakupatseni chidziwitso chazambiri pazomwe zikuchitika ndi ukadaulo, kutengera luso langa pantchito ndi kafukufuku ku Penn. https://medium.com/@thementalist
LINK - Chowonadi: Zowoneka Mwansanga Zazaka za 22 yemwe sanaonerere zolaula mzaka zopitilira ndi theka.
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