Choyamba, ndikuganiza ndizodabwitsa kuti nonsenu muli pano. Zomwe mumathandizira pagulu longa ili ndikuthandizira ena sizabwino kwambiri! Ndakhala paulendowu posachedwa zaka zitatu, ndipo ndikufuna kugawana nawo zomwe ndakumana nazo!
Ndiyamba kukuuzani zazifupi za ine, ndikupatseni njira yobwerera mwachangu, kenako ndikuuzeni zina mwazomwe ndaphunzira panjira.
Ndili ndi zaka 22, ndidayamba kuwonera zolaula ndili ndi zaka 13. Kulimbana ndi vutoli kwanditsogolera paulendo wodabwitsa kwambiri m'moyo wanga (osati gawo lenileni lomenyera nkhondo, koma zabwino zakuchira). Inenso, monga anthu ena ambiri, sindinadziwe zovuta zomwe zimachitika chifukwa chogwiritsa ntchito zolaula tsiku lililonse. Ndinkadzikayikira, sindinkadzidalira ndipo ndinkakhala ndi anthu ochepa. Lero ndine wokonda kucheza kwambiri, ndikudzidalira kwambiri, ndipo ndikuwona moyo ngati mphatso yabwino kwambiri.
Ndapeza gulu ili mu 13. dec 2017, nditapunthwa ndi kanema pakubwezeretsanso pa YouTube. Cholinga changa chidakhala kuchotsa zolaula m'moyo wanga, ndipo malingaliro anga anali NoFap. Kubwereranso kwanga koyamba kawiri kudali pa 20. Disembala, ndi 27. Disembala. Nthawi yotsatira yomwe ndinabwereranso inali 24. Disembala, 2018, a 363 tsiku lakuthwa.
Sindinasunge buku loyambiranso kotero ndimatha kukumbukira momwe ndimamvera mu 2018, koma ndikukumbukira ndikumakhala ndi zilakolako zazing'ono m'masabata awiri oyamba, komanso zolakalaka zina m'masiku 60 mkati mwake. Pambuyo pake zonse zinali kuyenda bwino . Ndidachita maliseche katatu mchilimwe cha 2018, koma wopanda zolaula. Ndinali kunyumba ndi banja langa patchuthi cha Khrisimasi. Mwadzidzidzi ndinakhala ndi zikhumbo zazikuluzi zomwe zidasokoneza malingaliro anga ndikundibwezera.
Ndayamba 2019 ndimizere iwiri ya miyezi itatu. Kuyambira chilimwe 3 mpaka chirimwe 2019 ndidasintha pakati pa 2020- ndi 1-mwezi streaks.
Palibe kamodzi nditabwereranso komwe ndidasiya. Zachidziwikire kuti ndagonja pankhondo zingapo pazaka zambiri, koma chachiwiri chomwe ndasiya ndikumenya ndikachiwiri kutaya pankhondo.
Miyezi iwiri yapitayo ndidasamukira mumzinda, ndipo kusunthaku kudabwera kusatsimikizika kwakukulu. Kusatsimikizika uku kunandibwezera kangapo. Ndinayang'ana kwambiri pachithunzichi ndikubwereranso, ndikunyalanyaza zotsatira zake zakanthawi. Sizinachitike ndisanatulukire ndikuzindikira kuti ndakhala ndikubwerezabwereza mochulukira kuti ndimatha kusiya zoyipa. (Ndikulankhula zambiri za izi pansipa poyang'ana chithunzi chokulirapo.)
Mutha kuwona kuti ine okha khalani ndi mndandandanda wa masiku khumi ndi awiri (monga kutumizira) ndikuganiza: "Munthu uyu sanadziwe. Akadakhala kuti, chingwecho chikanakhala mazana. ”, Ndipo mukunena zowona. Zachidziwikire, sindinadziwe zonse, koma ndazindikira ndikuphunzira zambiri.
Kumayambiriro kwa ulendo wanu, mudzakhala mukukhala ndi zilakolako zambiri. Izi zimagwiranso ntchito ngati mwakhala mukubwereranso kawirikawiri munthawi yochepa. Izi ndichifukwa choti muli ndi njira zambiri zamphamvu zamagetsi zomwe zimalumikiza zolaula ndi dopamine. Koma pali uthenga wabwino.
Zilakolako, zikawonekera kamodzi, sizikhala kwamuyaya.
Zilakolako zimachepa pafupipafupi pakapita nthawi, popeza simubwereranso.
Njira za neural zimafooka pakapita nthawi. Ambiri a iwo, pakapita nthawi adzasowa kwathunthu. Pakhoza kukhala njira zina zomwe sizingathe, zomwe zingayambitse kulakalaka mwadzidzidzi, patatha zaka zingapo kubwerera m'mbuyo. Kukongola kwa ubongo ndi lupanga lakuthwa konsekonse
Ma Streak ndiabwino chifukwa amatha kukuthandizani kuti mukhale olimbikitsidwa mukakwaniritsa zovuta zazikulu. Mukataya chingwe, komabe, chitha kukhala chowiringula kuti ubongo ubwererenso. "Ndili kale ndi masiku 0 ndiye zili ndi vuto lanji?" - ndizofunika kwambiri! Ngakhale mzerewu ubwereranso ku 0, simubwezeretsanso kuchira kwanu ku 0! Nenani kuti mumawonera zolaula tsiku lililonse, koma mumakwanitsa kukwaniritsa masiku 7. Ngati mutayambiranso, mwakhala mukupita patsogolo kwambiri kuyambira tsiku lililonse mpaka mwadzidzidzi kukhala ndi masiku 7 opanda zolaula. Ganizirani pazabwino, masiku omwe mulibe, m'malo modzigwetsera nokha ndikuganiza kuti mwina mwayambiranso.
Tsopano musalole kuti ubongo wanu uyambe kuugwiritsa ntchito ngati chowiringula kuti kutaya vuto lanu sikolakwika popeza kupita patsogolo konse sikudzatayika. Kutaya chingwe chanu ndichabwino, chifukwa zikutanthauza kuti mwachita zomwe mukuyesetsa kuti musachite. Koma ngati mungabwerere m'mbuyo, musadzimenyetse nokha, nyamulani ndikupitilizabe kulimbana!
Ma mileage anu amatha kukhala osiyana ndi zolaula. Kwa ine, amapindula kwambiri ndikusiya zinthu zomwe zingayambitse kulakalaka mwadzidzidzi. Ndikaganiza zowonera zolaula, nthawi zonse ndimapeza njira yolowera mozungulira ndikuyambiranso. Ngakhale, nthawi yomwe idanditengera kuti ndiyende mozungulira yandipangitsanso kuzindikira zomwe ndimafuna kuchita ndikuyimitsa nthawi isanathe. Pomaliza, ngakhale ndi ma blockers, ngati mulibe malingaliro oyenera sangakhale omwe amakupangitsani kukhala opanda zolaula.
Popeza ubongo wanu wadziwika kuti zolaula zimapereka dopamine, amakhulupirira kuti ndi ntchito yopindulitsa. Mwina simukufuna kuonera zolaula, koma ubongo umafuna kutero ndikupangitsani kuti mubwererenso. Ndaona nthawi zomwe ndinali pakati ndikuwonera zolaula ndikukhumudwa, koma ubongo wanga unali wokonzeka kupeza zovuta za dopamine ndikupeza zatsopano mpaka nditabwera.
Ngakhale zingakhale zovuta kuwongolera kukakamiza, mutha kuwongolera zomwe zimachitika zisanachitike. Kuyesera kuthana ndi zoyambitsa zonse, sinthani zizolowezi zomwe zidakutsogolerani kuyambiranso. Izi zitha kufuna ntchito ina, koma kuchotsa zomwe zimayambitsa ndikothandiza kwambiri pachiyambi. Zindikirani zomwe zimakupangitsani kuvutika, zindikirani zomwe zimakupangitsani kuti mulakalake, ndipo yesetsani kupewa misewuyi.
Kunyong'onyeka ndi chinthu chofala kwa anthu ambiri. Fufuzani zosangalatsa zatsopano, zolimbitsa thupi, kukwera mwachilengedwe. Khalani otanganidwa kuti musatope. Kuthawa kusungulumwa kwamuyaya sichinthu chomwe ndikupangira, koma pachiyambi zitha kuthandizira kuti nthawi yomwe mumakhala wotopetsa isakhale yochepa.
Ngati simusamala, kubwerera m'mbuyo kumatha kukulimbikitsani kuti mubwererenso m'mbuyo. Mukapezeka kuti mwayambiranso, ndipo palibe choipa chomwe chimachitika m'moyo wanu pambuyo pake, ubongo wanu ungagwirizanitse kanthawi kochepa "kosakhala koopsa" kubwereranso, poganiza kuti ndibwino kubwereranso popeza palibe choyipa chomwe chidachitikadi. Ngakhale zingakhale zovuta, ndikofunikira apa "kudzuka", kusunthira kunja ndikuyang'ana chithunzi chokulirapo. Mutha kupeza kuti mwabwereranso kwambiri pafupipafupi, ndikusintha moyo wanu kuchokera panjira yodzikulitsa panjira yoopsa yobwereranso.
Izi ndi zomwe zidandichitikira miyezi iwiri yapitayi. Popeza ndinali nditangosamuka, ndinali ndi zinthu zambiri m'maganizo mwanga, ndipo sindinakhale nayo nthawi yowonera chithunzi chokulirapo cha moyo wanga mpaka posachedwapa. Mwadzidzidzi ndinazindikira kuti ndakhala ndikubwereranso posachedwa, ndikukumana ndi zovuta zowonjezereka nthawi iliyonse. (Popeza kusinthaku kunali kongobwereranso pang'ono, sindinazindikire kusiyana kwake pamenepo).
Ichi ndiye vuto langa lalikulu, ndipo sindikudziwa ngati zingagwire ntchito kwa aliyense. Nditha kunena kuti 80% yanga idabwereranso chifukwa chobanika. Ndikakhala wothawirako ndimawoneka wopanda chiyembekezo pa tsogolo langa. Ndikugwirabe ntchito kuti ndikhale wabwinoko pa izi. Ngakhale ndikudziwa kuti pali zinthu zambiri zabwino komanso zabwino zomwe zikundiyembekezera mtsogolomo, ndimakhalabe moyo wanga ndipo sindikuwoneka ngati ndikuyembekezera chilichonse. Izi zimandipangitsa kuti ndiziwonera zolaula chifukwa ndimakhala ndikulakalaka kukonza mwachangu, ndipo ndimatha kuganiza kuti "kodi zilinso ndi vuto ngati ndibwereranso?". Zachidziwikire, nthawi iliyonse ndikabwereranso, ndimanong'oneza bondo nthawi yomweyo.
Kukhala wophunzira, yemwe moyo wake umangodalira maphwando, izi zimakhala zosakanikirana. Ngakhale, ndili ndi chidaliro kuti ndidzathetsa vutoli "lomwe lilipo".
Popeza muli pano mukuwerenga zolemba zazitali izi zikutanthauza kuti mukuchita kale izi. Kuphatikiza pofikira pa subreddit iyi, ndikukulangizani kuti muwerenge zambiri pazomwe zikuchitika muubongo ndi zosokoneza. Buku lomwe sindingalimbikitse ndi "Ubongo Wanu pa Zithunzi, wolemba Gary Wilson". Kuzindikira komanso thandizo lomwe bukuli lidandipatsa ndilofunika kwambiri.
Pali zifukwa zambiri zomwe muyenera kupewera zolaula. Kugwedezeka kumene kumapereka moyo ndi chimodzi mwazinthuzi. Mukapeza masiku angapo opanda zolaula, mudzayamba kuona zinthu monga zosangalatsa komanso zokongola. Zinthu zochepa chabe zomwe zingapikisane ndi zolaula za dopamine zomwe zimakupatsani, chifukwa chake palibe chomwe chingakugwiritseni chidwi kwambiri. Mukayamba kukhala ndi masiku ochepa popanda kuchuluka kwambiri kwa dopamine, ubongo wanu umazolowera kuzolowera zomwe zinthu zambiri m'moyo zimakupatsani. Kukhala kunja kwa chilengedwe kudzakhala kokopa kwambiri, kucheza ndi anzako kudzakhala kosangalatsa kwambiri. Moyo, wonse, umakhala wosangalatsa kwambiri.
Ndikukhulupirira kuti positi inali yothandiza, ndipo ndikudziwa kuti ndimakulemekezani kwambiri ndipo mukufuna kuti musinthe! Ndikukufunirani zabwino zonse kuti muchiritse! Ngakhale kuti muli pano mukuwerenga izi zikutanthauza kuti mwapanga, kapena mukuganiza zopanga chisankho chosiya zolaula, chomwe ndi gawo lalikulu panjira yoyenera!
Khalani omasuka kundilembera kapena kuyankha pansipa ngati muli ndi mafunso, ndidzakhala wokonzeka kukuthandizani!
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