Patha chaka chimodzi kuchokera pomwe ndidakumana ndi izi, ndiye ili nthawi yoti ndinene mokweza. Zilonda ziyenera kuchitidwa monga mankhwala alionse. Zili bwino pang'ono, koma ngati sizingatheke (zosavuta kugwiritsa ntchito intaneti yothamanga kwambiri) ndikukhala chizolowezi, pali vuto, makamaka ngati tikulankhula za achinyamata omwe akukonzekera kugonana. Chibadwa cha kugonana ndi chinthu champhamvu ndipo tili nacho chifukwa chabwino. Mutha kuigwiritsa ntchito molimbika, monga cholimbikitsani kukuthandizani kuti mukhale ndi moyo wabwinoko, kapena mutha kuziyika pa kompyuta kuti muchoke. Ndinasankha kuchita zochitikazo.
Kuti ndikudziwitseni za mlandu wanga: Nthawi zonse ndinkadziwa kuti kuonera zolaula ndi njira yopusa yopezera nthawi yanu, koma ndimazichita (pafupifupi) tsiku lililonse, osadziwa zovuta zake. Chaka chatha, pokhala 23 ndikuyandikira zaka zapakati pa 20s osakumanapo ndi nthawi yocheza ndi mtsikana - osandipsompsona, osatchula chilichonse chogonana - ndinazindikira kuti china chake chinali cholakwika kwambiri. Ndinazindikira kuti ndikapitiliza kuchita zomwe ndimakhala ndikuchita (ndipo sindikuchita) nthawi yonseyi, zikadakhala choncho ndipo chaka chilichonse ndikadakhala wokwiya, wokwiya komanso wokwiya. Ngati ndiyenera kusankha chinthu chimodzi chomwe ndimadana nacho kwambiri m'moyo, angakhale anthu okwiya komanso okwiya omwe samavutikira kuchita chilichonse kukonza zinthu zomwe zimawapangitsa kukhala omvetsa chisoni, kuzinena kwa ena m'malo mwake (mukudziwa, anthu amakonda ma incels ). Ndingachite chilichonse kuti ndisakhale m'modzi wa iwo.
Kotero ine ndinatero. Ndili ndi ufulu wa PMO kuyambira ku 2017 ndipo ndinadzilonjeza ndekha kuti Nthawi yotsatira ine ndikhala ndi zovuta, izo zidzakhala ndi mkazi. Zomwe ndi zomwe zidachitika miyezi inayi pambuyo pake ndi msungwana wakunja yemwe ndidakumana naye pa Tinder. Sanakhulupirire kuti ndinali namwali ndipo nthawi yomweyo anati ndikunama ... Sindinasamale zonenazo, ngakhale: Sindinakhulupirire kuti aliyense angawoneke kuti ndiwokopa, chifukwa chotsimikiziridwa kuti ndili wolakwika motere ndimamva bwino.
Kwa anyamata ngati ine: khulupirirani nokha ndipo musataye mtima. Zimapindulitsa. Masabata atatu oyambilira anali ovuta kwa ine, zolimbikitsazo zinali zamphamvu komanso zosokoneza, koma mutha kuthana nazo pokhala otanganidwa. Pambuyo pake zimakhala bwino, mumakhala okhutira ndi zogonana zanu. Kukhudza thupi ndi msungwana sikukumvanso kukhala kopanda manyazi komanso kopepuka, zimamveka bwino, ngati kuti mukuchita zabwino. Zolimbikitsazi zidakalipo, koma tsopano zikuyang'ana kwambiri kwa akazi enieni, osati PMO. Ngati zikukuvutani kukumana ndi atsikana ndipo mukuda nkhawa kuti mudzawafikira, apa ndiye kuti mwina ndi zomwe mukufuna. Payekha sindinayambe ndakhala pansi, ndinali wovuta panthawi yonseyi.
NoFap si mankhwala ozizwitsa pamavuto anu onse, komabe. Kupanga zizolowezi zatsopano, zathanzi, kuchepetsa nkhawa zamagulu, kukonza maluso ochezera ndi "masewera" - zonsezi zimapita kutali, NoFap ndichimodzi mwazida zambiri zomwe mungagwiritse ntchito kuti mufike kumene mukufuna. Kwa ine (monga ena ambiri), cholingacho chinali kuchita bwino kwambiri ndi atsikana (ndikutaya unamwali wanga). Njira yokhayo yochitira izi ndikuti muchite tulukani ndi kukakomana nawo - NoFap ikhoza kukupatsani kukankha, koma ndichinthu chongoyerekeza; muyenera kuchitapo kanthu. TENGANI ZOCHITA, ZOTHANDIZA. Moyo wanu sukhala bwinoko pokhapokha mutayesetsa kuti musinthe.
Pali zinthu ndi zinthu zomwe zingakuthandizeni m'njira. Nditha kulangiza RSDMax, Valentino Kohen ndi Todd Valentine - mawayilesi pa YouTube, nthawi zina amakhala osangalala nthawi zina ndi malingaliro awo ndipo amayesetsa kukugulitsani mapulogalamu awo (simukuwafuna), koma pakati pa zonsezi, mutha kuphunzira chinthu chimodzi kapena ziwiri ndikukhala ndi malingaliro osiyana pakuchezera ndi atsikana m'njira yogonana. Tinder itha kukuthandizani ngati zikukuvutani kuyandikira atsikana chifukwa zimakulolani kuti mulumphe gawolo, koma osadalira. Kukumana ndi atsikana m'moyo weniweni kumakhala kosangalatsa mukangozolowera ndipo kumakupititsani patsogolo.
Onaninso zizolowezi zatsopano zathanzi. Ndikukhulupirira izi ndizoonadi Chofunika kwambiri ndi chofunika kuposa kukhala PMO-kwaulere. Izi zikuphatikizapo kudzuka nthawi yoyenera (lamulo langa ndiloti ndisadzuke mochedwa 9 koloko m'mawa, ngakhale nditakhala ndi mwayi wogona tsiku lonse - siyabwino kwambiri, koma ndimatha kutsatira lamuloli), kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi pafupipafupi (ngakhale kamodzi pamlungu kuli bwino), dziperekeni kuzinthu zomwe mumakonda ndikuzichita pafupipafupi. Anthu, kuphatikiza atsikana, mwachibadwa amakopeka ndi anthu omwe amadzidalira komanso amadzisangalatsa. Chidaliro chenicheni ndi chisangalalo zimatha kubwera kuchokera mkati, pokhala okhutira ndi zomwe muli komanso zomwe mumachita m'moyo - kotero ikani moyo wanu mmwamba mwanjira yomwe imapangitsa moyo kukhala woyenera kukhala ndi moyo! Ngakhale ngati simunakwatire pakalipano.
Chidziwitso chomaliza: Ndinaphwanya kangapo chaka chatha, ndikuganiza kuti "popeza tsopano ndakwaniritsa cholinga changa, ndikhoza kuchita chilichonse chomwe ndingakonde" - lomwe ndi lingaliro lopanda pake koma chowiringula kuti ndibwerere kumachitidwe omwe ndinayesera zovuta kuthawa. Ndadzipereka kuti ndisakhale ndi zolaula moyo wanga wonse - udzu ulidi wobiriwira mbali iyi ya mpanda.
Osataya mtima, zidzakhala zofunikira pamapeto pake!
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