Ndiloleni ndiyambitse izi ponena kuti sindinapange zida zapamwamba m'masiku omaliza a 100. Sindimatha kuwona kudzera mmakoma, ndilibe atsikana ena ambiri omwe amanditsatira kuzungulira momwe ndimakhalira kuyambira (wina wapadera). Ndikudziwa bwino kuti zomwe ndalemba zikhala ngati zapamwamba, zotsika kwambiri. Koma. Ndimamva ngati ndine munthu wosiyana ndi ena.
Ndinayamba kuyesa kusiya zolaula za 2 zaka zapitazo, koma sindinathe. Ndayesa zinthu zingapo, kuphatikizapo:
- Net Nanny, K9 blocker, ndikusintha fayilo yanga yozungulira, ozizira kwambiri
- Kutseka foni yanga kumasamba azolaula
Koma palibe chomwe chidagwira. Palibe pena. Mokulira, ndinakana kusiya ndipo ndinali okhutira ndi mawonekedwe anga a 1-2 / tsiku. Koma kenako zinachitika.
Ndimalankhula ndi msuweni wanga m'mene ndimamuthamangitsira kunyumba atandiuza kuti ndisiye zolaula. Kuti apereke zina pamndandandawu, m'bale wanga wamangiriridwa pa H ndi Ice ndipo watuluka kangapo konse. Abambo anga adagona kuyambira ndili mwana, ndipo m'bale wanga wina wamwalira kale kuchokera ku OD.
Mopanda kunena, zinandikhudza kwambiri. Zovuta kwenikweni. Ndimakumbukira bwino lomwe kumira komwe ndimakhala nako nditazindikira zomwe zikuchitika.
Pano pali wina amene ndimamudziwa moyo wanga wonse, ndikulakalaka kuyambiranso, kusiya kundiuza, kuti ndisiye zolaula chifukwa zidzandiphulitsa. Pano pali bambo yemwe akusowa thandizo akuyesera kundithandiza kuti ndisiyane ndi zomwe akuganiza kuti zingandipweteke. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti mankhwala osokoneza bongo siabwino - ndikuti munthu uyu, ngakhale kumanda ake, akundichenjeza kena kena pomwe akufunikira thandizo.
Ngati wina amene mwaona akufunika thandizo amayamba kupereka inu Malangizo, kodi simungakhale pansi ndikuganiza izi kwachiwiri?
Komabe, zinafika kwa ine, kotero ndinasiyira pomwepo, ndisanagwetse iye.
Zakhala masiku a 100 kuyambira pamenepo, ndipo sindilinso munthu yemweyo. Ndinafika mpaka pamtunda wautali kwambiri, ndikupeza kusintha moyo wanga kwambiri kotero kuti sindingakhulupirire.
Kusiyanako ndikuti nthawi ino ndinali kwathunthu, wodzipereka kwathunthu pantchitoyi. Sindinapereke 99% - ndidapereka zonse. Sindinatseke tsamba limodzi, kapena kudalira thandizo lililonse lakunja. Ine basi… ndinapanga chisankho kuti ndisachitenso, ndikutsatira. Nditha kuyankhula za izi mwatsatanetsatane ngati mumakonda (Ndine munthu wodziwika bwino), koma pamapeto pake kwa ine kuchira kwanga kumakhudza chinthu chimodzi chachikulu: kudziphatikiza ndekha ndi lingaliro la zolaula.
Koma zinthu zidayamba kuchitika zomwe zidandisinthiratu. Zithunzi zolaula zinali chiyambi chabe - zidandisonyeza kuti, ndi zida zoyenera, nditha kusintha pang'ono ndi pang'ono pogwiritsa ntchito china chake r / theXeffect (ndi kukoma kwanga komwe, komwe ndanena kale).
Chifukwa chake ndinasiya zolaula, ndiye kuti masiku a 28 pambuyo pake ndinasiya kusewera (ndipo ndidalephera kangapo).
Kenako ndinasiyanso kugona, ndikuyamba kudzuka m'mawa. Kuti ndikwaniritse nthawi yomwe ndinayamba kusinkhasinkha ndikuchita ma tabakma m'mawa.
Ndinagwiritsa ntchito nthawi yanga yatsopano yaulere komanso mphamvu zanga (kuchokera posapunga mafayilo kapena kuwonera zolaula) madzulo ndikuphunzira ndi kukonzekera ntchito yomwe ndimafuna kuyambira Januware 2017 (koma poyambirira idakanidwa). Ndinagwiritsa ntchito chidaliro chatsopanochi (osati, kuchokera ku zolaula, koma kuchokera pakukumana ndi vuto langa) kusiya kucheza ndi anthu ndikuyamba kucheza nawo.
Ndinaleka kudya zakudya zopanda pake, ndi shuga, ndikuyamba kupanga masiku anga kuyesa ndikusintha chikumbumtima changa kwakanthawi (zikomo Jordan Peterson).
Ndili ndi katundu wokanidwa. Mobwerezabwereza. Koma zinalibe kanthu - chifukwa ndidalephera pachizolowezi chilichonse (kupatula zolaula) kawiri konse, ndikuzindikira kuti imeneyo inali gawo la njirayi. Nditayamba kuchita zachiwerewere, ndinayamba kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi.
Komabe, nkhani yayifupi - ndalandira mwayi dzulo. Mgwirizano womwe ndikusaina ukundiyika $ 27k kuchokera komwe ndinali nthawi yatha chaka chatha, ndipo ndinali nditalipidwa kale (Big 4).
TLDR:
Kusiya zolaula kunasintha moyo wanga - koma osati kwathunthu chifukwa kunkandilowetsa mphamvu nthawi zonse.
Zinandiwonetsa zomwe ndimatha kuchita, ndipo zidandipatsa chidwi pang'ono, komwe ndidazichita bwino kwambiri pantchito zazikulu. Tsopano ndili pa njanji yomwe ndimanyadira, ndipo sindikadatha kuchita nonsenu.
Ndine wokondwa kukuthandizani anyamata pazinthu zilizonse zomwe ndakonzekera - zolimbitsa thupi, zakudya zopatsa thanzi, kudzuka m'mawa, kusinkhasinkha, kugwiritsa ntchito intaneti, kufunsa mafunso, palibe fap, komanso zolaula. Wokondwa kulankhula za zomwe ndikukonzekera mtsogolomo, kapena zizolowezi zomwe ndimawona kuti ndizabwino kwambiri!
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Chifukwa chake momwe ndimawonera, pamapeto pake pali mayeso oti mupitirize kubwereza, komwe, mukabwerenso, kumawoneka motere:
Kulimbika <(kulimbikitsa kuonera - zolepheretsa zolaula)
Komwe kugwirako ntchito kuli: ((Zosangalatsa)
Ndinadutsa zigawo ziwiri zazikulu pakuchira kwanga. Mwachidule iwo anali:
- Wonjezerani zopinga zolaula
- Onjezani 'zotsalira zamphamvu' ndi 'zoyeserera zolaula'
Ndilongosola zomwe ndikutanthauza:
Zomwe ndimachita poyamba zinali kukweza zolepheretsa zolaula momwe ndingathere, ndikuyembekeza kuti zithetsa chidwi changa chowonera zolaula kotero kuti malingaliro anga azitha kulimbana nawo. Ndikuganiza kuti iyi ndi njira yoyamba kwa anthu ambiri - ndiye kuti, dulani zolaula pokhazikitsa ma blockers ambiri momwe mungathere, ndikuposa chiyembekezo chanu chamtsogolo mpaka 'mutadzuka' chilichonse chisanachitike .
Izi zinagwira bwino ntchito (ndafika pafupifupi masiku a 20ish), koma kumapeto zinalephera chifukwa blockers sanali kugwira ntchito moyenera ndipo ndimatha kupeza njira yowazungulira.
Vuto lina lomwe ndili nalo ndikuti pakuyika zopinga simukuyambitsa kusintha kulikonse. Ngakhale mutha kuthana ndi zodabwitsazo zoyambilira, pamapeto pake mawonekedwe anu akadali ofanana, motero pamapeto pake adzayambitsidwa panjira. Mwakutero, mudzadalira ma blockers ngati chowongolera ndipo simudzakhala bwino kwenikweni.
Njira yanga yachiwiri idayenda bwino. Ndidazindikira kuti blockers nthawi yayitali anali njira yosavuta yothetsera vutoli, ndipo ndidaganiza zosintha mbali yakumanzere kwa equation pamwambapa. Kuti ndichite izi ndidachita zinthu ziwiri, zomwe ndizinena mosiyana: kupewa ziwonetserozo ', ndikuwonjezera chilimbikitso changa cha' zolaula '.
Ndinkadziŵa bwino mavuto anga a zolaula kwa nthawi yaitali, ndipo ndinayamba kuzindikira nthawi yomwe ndingagonjetsedwe mosavuta. Chitsanzo cha izi ndikusakatula usiku, kapena kuyenda pa intaneti patsiku lopitilira ola limodzi kapena awiri. Ngakhale sindinakhumudwitsidwe ndi chilichonse, pamapeto pake ndimangogonjera chifukwa chongofuna kuchita chilichonse.
Ndikukhulupirira kuti mutha kuwonjezera mphamvu zanu pakapita nthawi mwa kusinkhasinkha ndikugwiritsa ntchito chikumbumtima chanu, zomwe zingalimbikitse phindu lanu, koma ndidayamba ndikungochepetsa kuchepa kwanga pazomwe ndimadziwa kuti ndikakhala ndi mphamvu zochepa (masiku 28 oyamba, mulimonsemo ). Kodi izi ndi zomveka? Kusiyanitsa kwakubisika ndikuti ngakhale mutha kukulitsa mphamvu pakapita nthawi, choyamba ndi bwino kupewa zinthu zomwe mukudziwa kuti mudzakhala ofooka poyamba.
Ndikuganiza kuti ndipamene pushups ndi mvula yozizira imatha kugwa pang'ono. Muli ndi mphamvu zochepa, komabe mukusangalatsidwa ndi kulowetsa kusamba kozizira kapena kudodometsa thupi lanu ndi masewera olimbitsa thupi - ndichinthu chomwe mungachite ndi mphamvu zochepa? Sindikuganiza choncho.
Komabe, ndimakonda kupanga ndandanda, kucheza ndi anzanga, komanso kugona msanga kuti ndipewe madera amenewo. Popita nthawi ndachulukirachulukira pazomwe ndimakhala ndi 'mphamvu zochepa' koma ndimatha kuzisamalira popeza ndakhala ndikuziwona zolaula.
Msomali womaliza m'bokosi anali kukulitsa 'zolaula zanga'. Uku kunali kuthetsa kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa nthawi ino ndi yomaliza. Ichi ndiye chilimbikitso chomwe muli nacho makamaka pantchitoyo; ndikutenga nawo gawo komwe ndimakambirana nawo positi yanga yoyamba.
Ingoganizirani izi ngati mafuta omaliza omwe muli mu thanki, koma makamaka zolaula zaulere. Ndi kusintha kwa malingaliro komwe kumachulukitsa mphamvu zilizonse zomwe mwasiya, ndikukupangitsani kukhala olimba kuposa momwe mumafunira.
Ndikuganiza kuti ndichifukwa chake anthu ena amatha kuchita mvula yozizira yomwe yatchulidwayi pomwe ena satero. Ngakhale inu ndi munthu x mutha kukhala ndi mphamvu zomwezi zotsalira, kudzipereka kwanu pazifukwa kumatanthauza kuti mutha kutulutsa zochulukirapo kuchokera pachimake chilichonse champhamvu chomwe mwatsala nacho. Satha kuzizira chifukwa sanadzipereke, mutha chifukwa mumvetsetsa komwe kumagwera.
Komabe, pa izi ndidachita zinthu zingapo: Ndidawerenga r / zolaula tsiku ndi tsiku. Ndinawerenga, ndikukambirana, YBOP ndi 'Theowsows'. Ndidakhala nthawi yayitali r / theXeffect, ndipo kwenikweni, ndimaganiziratu zoyipa zolaula. Ichi chinali chinthu chachikulu kwambiri kwa ine.
Ndidatsimikizira abwenzi angapo apamtima, ndidatsimikizira bwenzi langa (Kwa kanthawi), mayadi onse a 9 - Ndinali munthu wokhumudwitsa kuti ndikhalepo kwa sabata limodzi kapena awiri ndikamachita chilichonse.
Ndipo china chake chidasokonekera: sizomwe mwana wanga ndimayembekezera kuti ndikhale nditachita. Ngati ndikufuna kuchita bwino ... ndiyenera kusiya. Zinali choncho.
Chabwino TLDR:
Kuwonanso zolaula ndikuti: (mphamvu) <(onetsetsani kuti muwone - zolepheretsa zolaula)
Zolepheretsa kuchitapo kanthu sizithandiza pakapita nthawi chifukwa sizimalimbikitsa kusintha kwamakhalidwe. M'malo mwake, yang'anani kukweza sikelo pochita zinthu zitatu:
- Pewani zochitika mosavutikira
- Sinthani kufuna kwanu kupitilira nthawi
- Onjezerani kutenga nawo gawo pazolimbikitsa zolaula kuti muzichita zonse zomwe mukudziwa. Izi ndi ichizolowezi mano.
Pepani ngati izi ndizoseketsa - zapita pakati pausiku pano, koma ndimafunitsitsa nditakutumizirani kena kake ndisanapite kukagona.
JP amalankhula za chikumbumtima (CS) chomwe chili ndi magawo awiri: dongosolo ndi kulimbikira. Sindikufuna izi, koma kuyendetsa bwino IIRC, mwachitsanzo, kuthekera kwanu pakupanga ndikupanga mapulani; ndipo kulimbikira ntchito ndikuthekera kwanu kuti musasunthike ku mapulani omaliza.
JP akuti IQ ndi CS ndizofunikira kwambiri pakudziwitsa kupambana kwanu mtsogolo. Ngakhale IQ sichingasinthidwe, CS ikhoza (mpaka).
Chifukwa chake amatchula kupanga ndandanda yanthawi zonse ngati njira yothandizira CS - izi ndizodziphunzitsa kukhala odekha pakapita nthawi. Ndinawona kuti kukhazikitsa dongosolo tsiku lililonse kunandithandiza kubweretsa dongosolo m'moyo wanga, komanso kupeza nthawi zantchito zofunika kwambiri (nkhani ya google Cal Newport pa Time Blocking). Pochita izi ndinazindikiranso mapulani osalimba omwe amawoneka, chifukwa ndimatha kuyerekezera momwe ndandanda yanga inali yomwe ndimamaliza.
Kuti mugwire ntchito mwakhama, muyenera kuwongolera luso lanu 'loti muchite kenaka muchite'. r / theXeffect ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yochitira izi, monga zolaula. Maso a mbalame chikwi chikwi ndikuti mumati mupanga xyz, kenako mumachita. Kuzindikira kwake ndikuti mumamvetsetsa momwe mungasinthire ntchito kuti ikhale yosakwanira kenako ndikumaliza - ndiye kuti, mukumvetsetsa kuti ntchitoyo iyenera kukhala yaying'ono bwanji (kwa inu panokha) kuti siyika chiwopsezo chilichonse kuti mutsirize izi.
Ndikupatsani chitsanzo: m'maso mwanga, munthu wosachita khama akuti, "Ndikupita kumalo olimbitsa thupi tsiku lililonse kwa maola awiri". Wogwira ntchito molimbika akuti: "Ndikupita kukachita masewera olimbitsa thupi ndikukachita mphindi zisanu pachimake. Ndichoncho".
Ngakhale munthu A pamapeto pake amalephera ndikugundika, munthu B amangoyika bareti yotsika mokwanira kuti mwayi wake wolephera ndi wotsika. Amadzivutabe, koma amatero pamlingo wocheperako (wolingana ndi mphamvu yake) kuti salephera, ndipo amapanga mphamvu pakapita nthawi.
Ngati mukufuna kukonza CS yanu muyenera kuchita zonse ziwiri. Muyenera kudziwa momwe mungapangire mapulani okhazikika (kapena osakhazikika), komanso momwe mungaphwitsire ntchitozo zofunika-mwanjira imeneyi kuti mugwire ntchito yanu yolimbikira.
Haha zikomo man - tili ndi [chibwenzi] kale, timachita zoyipa kale ndiye kuti si vuto 😉
Izi sizokhudza kugonana kokha - ngati chilipo, ndikulowa kwakukulu pakusintha machitidwe anu ndikudziyanjanitsa ndi omwe mukufuna kukhala. Sizokhudzana ndi zolaula koma ndizogwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zanu kuti mupange nokha kusintha kosatha.
Ndine 24.
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