Masiku atatu apitawo, ndidakwanitsa cholinga changa choyambirira cha masiku 90 kuyambira pomwe ndidayamba kugwiritsa ntchito tsambali. Ndili ndi zaka 25, ndipo aka ndiye kotalika kwambiri komwe sindinayang'ane zolaula kuyambira ndili ndi zaka khumi ndi zisanu. Ndakhala ndikuledzera zolaula kwazaka zopitilira khumi, ndipo tsopano ndikupanga kusiyana m'moyo wanga.
Anthu ambiri pamsonkhanowu achitira umboni za zozizwitsa kapena za kukhala ndi mphamvu zazikulu, kukula kwa minofu, komanso za kukopa akazi chifukwa chokwaniritsa masiku 90 oyambiranso. Sindinakumanepo ndi izi. M'malo mwake, ndakumana ndi zinthu zitatu zofunika kwambiri kuposa izi: thanzi labwino pakugonana, mtendere wamumtima, ndi ufulu. Ndilongosola chilichonse mwatsatanetsatane:
- Thanzi labwino - Ndisanayambe moyo wopanda zolaula, zochitika zanga zogonana zinali zolaula. Ndidagonana ndi azaka zapakati pa khumi ndi zisanu ndi komwe ndili pano, koma miyezi itatu yapitayi yakhala nthawi yoyamba m'moyo wanga momwe ndidagonanapo ndi mnzanga weniweni kuposa ndekha. Ponseponse, zimangomveka bwino. Kugonana ndi munthu weniweni ndikwabwino kwambiri kuposa zolaula zilizonse zomwe ndingakhale nazo, ndipo ndili ndi mwayi kuti ndadzipatsa mwayi wopeza zogonana. Kugonana ndi munthu weniweni ndi mgwirizano wapakati pa anthu awiri, kugawana zokumana nazo. Nthawi zonse ndimadziwa izi mkatikati, koma kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kwanthawi yayitali kunandipangitsa kuiwala. Zinthu zikuwoneka bwino tsopano, ndipo tsopano ndili ndi chidaliro kuposa kale kuti ndikufuna kukhala moyo wopanda zolaula.
- Mtendere wamkati - Moyo wogwiritsa ntchito zolaula ndi moyo wodziimba mlandu. Ndinkachita manyazi kwambiri ndi zolaula zanga. Nthawi zonse ndimagwiritsa ntchito mobisa, ndimazigwiritsa ntchito nthawi zina zomwe ndimachita manyazi nazo, ndipo zimandipangitsa kuphonya zinthu zina zofunika kwambiri m'moyo wanga. Ndimakonda azimayi, ndipo ndimalemekeza akazi ngati anthu omwe ali ndi zambiri zoti apereke kudziko lapansi, koma zolaula zimawawonetsa ngati matupi ogonana. Zolaula ndizolakwika, ndipo sizikuyimira molondola zomwe kugonana kumakhudzadi. Zomwe ndikutanthauza kunena ndikuti zolaula sizikugwirizana ndi miyezo yanga yamakhalidwe. Ndimamva ngati ndine munthu wabwino ndikapanda kuonera zolaula. Ndimaona ngati ndilibe chobisalira, ndimagwiritsa ntchito bwino nthawi yanga, ndipo sindiphonya zambiri zomwe moyo umapereka. Ndimalemekeza kwambiri akazi, ndipo tsopano ndikumva ngati zochita zanga zikugwirizana ndi ulemuwo.
- Freedom - Mwinamwake phindu lalikulu koposa zonse, ufulu ndi phindu lodabwitsa lomwe ndaliwona nditasankha kusachita zolaula. Zolaula zili ngati ukapolo. Sizikukhutitsani konse. Zimangokulolani kuti mubwererenso zina. Panali mausiku ambiri pamoyo wanga wonse komwe ndimangofuna kugona, koma sindinathe chifukwa ndimamva ngati ndiyenera kuwonera zolaula. Zomwe ndakwanitsa kuchita patatha masiku 90 ndizosiyana ndi "zosowa" izi kuchokera kwa ine. Adakalipobe, koma sianga. Izi ndizoledzera. Ndayesera kuti ndizisokoneza bongo. Ndimaganiza kuti ndayamba kumwa mowa mopitirira muyeso ndili ndi chikwapu. Ndiwoyendetsa akapolo, ndipo ndazindikira kuti "zosowa" zowonera zolaula zikuchokera kwa iye, osati kuchokera kwa ine. Sindikufuna kuonera zolaula, ndikungofuna kuti ndikhale mfulu. Ndikamaonera zolaula, ndimadyetsa zokhumba zake, zomwe zimamupangitsa kukhala wamphamvu, ndikumupatsa mphamvu zowonera zochita zanga, momwe ndimamvera, komanso momwe ndimadzionera ndekha. Ndimasangalala kukhala moyo wopanda zolaula, ndipo ndi amene amapsa mtima ndikapanda kumupatsa zomwe akufuna. Ndaphunzira kucheza ndi kamnyamata koyipa aka, ndipo kulira kwake sikundivutitsanso, ngakhale ndikudziwa kuti alipobe. Nthawi zonse amakhala akupezekapo, ndipo pakhoza kukhala nthawi zina pamene kulira ndi kufuula kwake kumamveka kwambiri kuposa ena. Ndaphunzira momwe ndingakhalire naye, ngati kuti ndimagona naye kapena china. Ndikungomva ngati ndili ndi mphamvu zambiri.
Chifukwa chake, ndafika masiku 90: tsopano chiyani?
Ndikuganiza kuti ili ndi funso lofunika kwambiri, chifukwa kuyambiranso masiku 90 ndi chiyambi chabe. Ndadzipatsa mwayi woti ndiyankhe mafunso ambiri okhudzana ndi kugonana kwanga, ndipo ndadzipatsa mtendere wamaganizidwe ndi chikumbumtima chabwino kuti ndifunse mafunso amenewa. Ndasiya kuonera zolaula masiku 90, komabe sindikudziwa ngati ndikufuna kuti maliseche akhale gawo la moyo wanga. Ndipitiliza kukhala moyo wopanda zolaula, ndipo ndipita masiku 90 osachita maliseche (ndili kale masiku 18 mpaka pano). Ndikukhulupirira kuti masiku a 90 opanda maliseche andipatsa chidziwitso pazomwe kuseweretsa maliseche kumatanthauza kwa ine, komanso ngati ndichinthu chomwe ndikufuna m'moyo wanga. Ndikukhumba ine mwayi, fapstronauts! Ndikukhulupirira kuti nkhani yanga yakuthandizani mwanjira ina.
LINK - Mbiri yanga ya tsiku la 90
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