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Ndidakwanitsa kukhala chaka chimodzi popanda PMO (kuphatikiza zaka za mwana wanga. Sizidandigwire pamenepa kuti kukodza si ntchito yokhayo yomwe mbolo imatha kuchita). Hooray! Ndikondwerera tsiku langa lobadwa pa 2nd Julayi, koma ndimaona kuti ndi mphatso yoyambirira yakubadwa kwa ine. Ndikukuthokozani ndi mtima wonse, Universal!
Njira yopumira
Phew. Kuyesa kwanga kachitatu ku NoFap. Kuyesera kwanga koyamba kunatha pafupifupi theka la chaka popeza ndinapeza kuti sikungatheke kukana zofuna zanga. Panthawiyi ndinapeza mphamvu zambiri mwa ine ndipo ndimatha kukweza chingwe changa chachitali kwambiri. Ndidayamba ulendo wanga pafupi zaka 3 zapitazo. Ndikukumbukira kuti ndinathedwa nzeru m'njira iliyonse yomwe ndimaganiza: mwamaganizidwe, m'malingaliro, mwathupi komanso zauzimu. Ndidapeza malingaliro anga atabalalika kwambiri kotero ndimamverera ngati a Rayman akuyesera kutola ziuno zonse. Kuyambira pachiyambi pomwe ndinali kuyesetsa kuthetsa vuto langali. M'malo mwake ndimagwira ntchito mwamphamvu kwambiri kotero kuti ndimatha kuthana ndi zowonongeka zina zambiri panjira. Ndimakumbukira kuti nthawi zina ndimakhala misala. Nthawi zambiri ndimakhala ndikuvutika chifukwa cha kuchira. Lero ndikuziwona ngati gawo lofunikira la machiritso. Tsopano ndikumva kukhala wopindulitsa ndi chisangalalo, ndipo ndikukhulupirira kuti zomwe zandichitikira kale zimandithandiza kuvomereza ndi kuzichita.
Za posachedwapa ine ndimakhala ndikudutsa zina zakunja zomwe ndimazungulira ngati vuto la uzimu. Ndikuganiza kuti sindinadzigwirizane ndi inemwini, ndipo ndimaona ngati ichi ndiye gwero lalikulu la mavuto anga. Ndikugwira ntchito zolimbitsa thanzi langa ndipo ndikuwona zotsatira zabwino. Ndikuganiza kuti sindikufunanso kudzipha. Tsopano ndikuwona kuvutika mtima kwanga ngati njira yoteteza. Monga momwe kuzindikira kwanga kumakhalira, ndimazindikira kuti akusegula ndikakhala ndi nkhawa zambiri. Tsopano ndikukhala moyo wanga wophatikizidwa ndi chisangalalo chodabwitsa. Ndimamva kuti tsopano ndatha kubera zida zanga zankhondo! Nthawi zina ndimadzimva bwino kwambiri kotero kuti sindingathandize koma kulira chifukwa cha chisangalalo. Ngakhale kuti panali zovuta zina zomwe ndimayenera kuti ndikwaniritse, tsopano ndimangokonda kukhala ndi moyo. Sindinkafuna ngakhale patali chotere chodabwitsa chotere ndipo chandiuza.
Ma mileage anu amatha kusiyanasiyana, ngakhale kuti ndazindikira posachedwapa kuti ziphuphu zanga zimayamba kuyenda bwino. Ndikuwona kusintha kwakukulu pazaka zingapo zapitazi. Sindinkafuna kuchichotsa, motero ndimaona ngati kudabwitsa. Ndingayankhe kuti isinthe moyo wanga wonse. Ndimaona ngati chizizindikiro kuti ndili pa njira yoyenera. Ndikuganiza kuti zimapitilira kuyenda bwino ndikamapitiliza kudzisamalira ndekha ndikanalimbikitsa. Ndimapezekapezekapo nthawi zina, koma ndikuwona momwe zinthu zimakhalira zabwino.
Kukhala wotanganidwa
Ndikuganiza kuti kuphunzira momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito kuphatikizira kunandithandiza kwambiri kuti ndikhale bwino. Ndinaona kuti ndizofunika kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zanga pazinthu zomwe ndimaziona kuti ndizopindulitsa, monga kugwirira ntchito limodzi ntchito zanga. Kwanthawi yayitali ndinali wophunzira wabwino kwambiri muukadaulo wanga, motero ndikuganiza kuti ndidachita bwino kwambiri!
Kuyambira ubwana wanga ndimalakalaka nditakhala wopanga masewera. Ndayika kale maola ena kuti ndikwaniritse izi ndipo ndikukhulupirira kuti ndikwaniritsa izi posachedwa! Pang'onopang'ono ndinasangalatsidwa ndi PC yanga, koma mwamwayi yadutsa. Kwa kanthawi kochepa ndinakakamizidwa kuti ndizisokeretse ndikugwira ntchito yowonjezera zina zanga. Ndiyambitsa IT ya maphunziro mwezi wamawa ndipo ndinachita mantha kuti sindingathe kupita nawo. Mosakayikira zindiphwanya, pazifukwa zingapo:
- Ndazindikira kuti ndimakonda ndalama.
- Ndikhala ndikugwira ganyu, zomwe zikhoza kundisiya kuti ndisaonongeke.
- Sinditaya mtima msanga.
- Ndimakonda kutsata malamulo, ngakhale kuti zimandivuta.
- Koma ndalama zambiri.
Ndadzilimbitsa ndi chikhulupiriro chokwanira, chifukwa chake ndikukhulupirira kuti ndichita bwino!
Zinthu zomwe zidandithandiza
Ngakhale ntchito ikhoza kukhala yofunika kwambiri kuti ndipulumuke, sikuti ndiyokhayo yomwe imanditsogolera:
- Masewera akanema - Kwa zaka zingapo sindinapeze chidwi chilichonse pamasewera apakanema, zomwe zimandigwira mtima kwambiri. Njira zanga zowononga sizinandilole kuti ndizisangalala nazo, koma panthawi yoyambiranso iyi ndinalimba mtima kuti ndiyambitsenso zomwe ndinkakonda. Ndikuganiza kuti linali lingaliro labwino kwambiri. Ndinaganiza zowunikiranso mutu uliwonse womwe ndikufuna kumaliza. Ndingalimbikitse njirayi, chifukwa imandiphunzitsa momwe ndingapangire malingaliro anga momasuka. Zinalimbikitsanso kwambiri luso langa lachingerezi. Ndikuyesetsa kwambiri kuti ndifotokoze pakamwa zomwe zikuchitika pazenera ndipo posakhalitsa ndazindikira kuti ndidayamba kuyankhula mosazengereza. Zimandipangitsa kumva kuti ndimagwiritsa ntchito nthawi yanga yopuma moyenera, chifukwa chake ndimawona ngati wopambana. Ndikuganiza kuti ndalandira kumene kuyitanidwa kuti ndiganizire kwambiri zokomazi, chifukwa chake ndikuyembekeza kuti ndichiwunikiranso.
- Makhalidwe abwino - Asanakhale fapstronaut (sindingathe kukhala ndi nthawi yokwanira) ndinali ndi chisoni komanso chidani chosapita m'mbali. Ndinaganiza zothandiza izi podzidyetsa ndekha ndi chikondi ndipo zandikweza kwambiri. Ndazindikira kuti ndingapindule kwambiri ndimangoganizira za ine ndekha. Ndinayamba kuchotsa malingaliro olakwika aliwonse omwe amawononga kudzidalira kwanga. Kenako ndinayamba kudzilimbitsa pang'onopang'ono. Ndinali ndikunong'oneza mawu achikondi kwa ine, monga "Ndimakukondani ndi mtima wonse!", "Osataya mtima!" kapena "mudzachita bwino nthawi ina!". Sindimayembekezera kuti zingandichititse chidwi chotere. Zalimbikitsa mawu anga amkati mwamphamvu pomwe ndidayamba kufa ndi njala pang'onopang'ono. Ndidayendetsedwanso modekha ndi kulongosola kwa Corinne Zupko pa ACIM - kuthekera kwatsopano komwe sindinapezebe mozama. Ndikuganiza kuti zidandithandiza kuti ndisakhale ndi chikhulupiriro. Posakhalitsa ndidayamba kuzindikira kuti mafunde asintha. Dzuwa latuluka, ndipo kuyambira tsopano ukuwala mowala monga momwe ndimakumbukira. Nyimbo zomwe ndimakonda zasiya kukhala zachitsulo koma tsopano zayamba kumveka bwino. Heck, tsopano ndikudandaula ngati Slime Rancher ndimasewera oyenera kwa ine popeza ndili ndi nkhawa ndi momwe slime imagwirira ntchito. Ndimakondabe maudindo achiwawa, ngakhale ndimaona kuti ndiyenera kutayidwa. Ngati simunachite kale, bwanji osadzipangira nokha ndikupita kukawunika OwlBoy? Ndinadabwitsidwa ndi kukongola kokhathamiritsa ndipo zidandipatsa mtendere ndikamayenda munthawi zovuta. Mwinanso mutha kuchipeza chikulimbikitsa?
- Kutsimikiza - Ndikugwira ntchito mwamphamvu pa luso langa lofewa ndikuwona momwe ndimamvera ndikamapanga izi. Mnyamata wina wochokera ku / r / nkhawa Discord channel adalimbikitsa gwero lazodzithandiza ndipo ndikuthokoza kuti adatero! Ndazindikira kuti nthawi zonse ndimakhala wolimbikira. Ndimalakwitsa chifukwa chankhanza ndipo ndinali wokondwa koposa kukhazikitsanso malingaliro anga. Ndikumva momwe zimalimbikitsira umunthu wanga modabwitsa. Zinandipatsa malingaliro ofunikira a CBT - tsopano ndikudziwa kuti ndi kufuna kwanga kusintha malingaliro aliwonse omwe ndimawona kuti ndi achikale komanso osathandiza. Ndapeza zabwino zambiri zokhudzana ndikutsata njira yolankhulirana iyi:
- Ndimadzilamulira ndekha ndikuchita zinthu momwe ndimalemekezera, zomwe zimakulitsa kudzidalira kwanga. Ndimazipezanso zowonjezera pomanganso chidaliro changa.
- Poganizira zondifotokozera panthawiyo, sizinandipeze mkwiyo kwambiri.
- Pokhala wotanganidwa kwambiri ndi anthu ena, ndimaona kuti sindikhala ndi nkhawa.
- (Pomaliza!) Pang'onopang'ono ndimabweza mkwiyo.
Tsambali limayendetsedwa ndi boma la Australia. Sindikuganiza kuti zitha kukhala zodziwika kuposa izo.
- Ozizira ozizira - Ndinali wokayikira poyamba, koma ndinaganiza zowona zomwe zikukangana. Mosakhalitsa ndidayamba kuzolowera. Ndimazichita m'mawa, choncho ndimamva kuti amandipatsa nthawi yovuta kudzuka. Ndidachita kafukufuku ndipo kuchokera pazomwe ndidamvetsetsa kuti atha kuchita zozizwitsa kotero ndimawona chifukwa chake amatamandidwa kwambiri kumeneko. Ndikuganiza kuti chilichonse chomwe chimalimbikitsa moyo wa munthu ndichabwino, ndiye kuti ndine wokondwa kuti chitha kukhala ndi tanthauzo lalikulu kwa inu!
- kusinkhasinkha - Nditayamba ulendo wanga wa NoFap, ndinawerenga ndemanga pa subreddit yomwe idalimbikitsa kuyesa kusinkhasinkha. Pomwe ndidakhala waluso komanso wodziwa zambiri, ndidasiya kuyiona ngati lingaliro labwino. Kubwerera m'masiku omwe ndimakhala ngati "Abudawa onse ali ozizira kwambiri. Atha kukhala kuti akunena zina za zochitika za 'usiku wakuda' ngati zovuta, koma malangizowo amawoneka osavuta kuyandikira, mwina chingalakwika ndi chiyani? ”. Tiyerekeze kuti lingaliro lokhazikika mumdima wathunthu silimakulitsa kuyambiranso kwanga. Kuyambira nthawi ndimakumbukira izi mwadzidzidzi ngati zosangalatsa, koma sizikutanthauza kuti ndikuseka. Ndikuganiza kuti ndidatulutsa zovuta zazitali ndipo zidandipweteka kwambiri. Ndinayenera kusiya kusinkhasinkha kwa milungu ingapo kuti ndipeze malingaliro anga. Munthawi imeneyi ndimayang'ana kwambiri za padziko lapansi, kenako ndidayambanso kuyambiranso ntchito yanga yauzimu. Tsopano ndimangochita izi nthawi ndi nthawi ngati gawo la njira yanga yaukhondo, komanso chifukwa choti ndimadziwa kuyigwiritsa ntchito kupulumutsa chisangalalo. Sindimakhalanso pampando. Ndikadakonda kuyeseza kusinkhasinkha. Ngakhale zonsezi ndikuziwona ngati chida chothandizira chokha. Zinanditsegula ku gawo lauzimu ndipo sindingakhale woyamika kwambiri chifukwa cha izi.
(Mu) mawu omaliza
Ndidali ndi nkhawa zokwanirana nawo umboniwu. Ndinafunika kuti ndimasulire zina zomwe ndimaziwona ngati zowopsa, ndipo ndisanalembe izi ndidalakalaka zikadabisidwa. Popeza kuti gawoli linandithandiza nthawi yomwe ndinkafunikira kwambiri, ndilinganiza zobwerera kumudzi. Poyamba ndimaganizira zopanga ndalama, koma ndidazindikira kuti kutumiza umboniwu kuchokera ku akaunti yanga ikanandibwezera. Kupanga lipotilo kunali kovuta kwambiri kwa ine ndipo ndine wokondwa kuti ndinakwanitsa kuzifalitsa.
Sindikudziwa bwino tsogolo langa, ngakhale ndikupitiliza kudzikonzanso ndendende nthawi yaziphuphu. Poganizira kuti ndimangokonda zokwanira, ndikuganiza kuti ndikupita kukhazikika. Ndikumva kusatsimikizika. Ndikukhulupirira kuti ndidzakupatsaninso umboni wina chaka chamawa, cholembedwa ndi ine mtsogolo yemwe ndikanamva bwino koposa momwe aliri tsopano.
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