Mbiri yachidule yokhudza ine: 26 y / o wamwamuna. Ndinkalimbana ndikukula (komwe kumakonda kuwongola) ndikugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pakati pa 13-23. Ndiye zidachitika nditakhala ndi zaka 23?
Nditamaliza maphunziro awo kukoleji ndidayamba ntchito yamaloto iyi muofesi yaboma. Ndikumva inu mukunena kuti kukhala wamkulu kukhala ntchito yamaloto? Chabwino mu nthawi imeneyo inali ntchito yosangalatsa kwa ine ndipo ndinkakonda kugwira ntchito kumeneko, zokonda… Ndipo ndinali m'modzi mwa antchito abwino kwambiri. Zinali kukwaniritsa. Onse akutumikira dziko langa ndikugwira ntchito yomwe ndimaikonda. Komabe, pakatha chaka I anataya ntchito yanga potengera momwe zinthu sizingatheke. Zinali zowononga kwa ine nthawi imeneyo ndipo zidandipangitsa kuti ndizilimbana ndi zovuta zamaganizidwe. Ngati mukufuna kudziwa zomwe zingakhale "zinthu zomwe sindingathe kuzilamulira"? Ndipanga kulumikizana kowopsa pakati pa chifukwa ndi NoFap.
Chifukwa chake, ndidasiya ntchito chifukwa cha abambo anga. Chifukwa, ndimakhala m'dziko lomwe moyo wa anthu zilibe kanthu. Akuluakulu adziko langa ndi okonda chuma monga okonda “Ndalama” ndi “Mphamvu” ndipo akugwiritsa ntchito chipembedzo wamphamvu kwambiri kuwongolera anthu. Akugwiritsa ntchito Media Wamphamvu kwambiri kulimbikitsa unyinji. Ngakhale chipembedzocho ine ndi olamulira ndimakhulupirira kuti sichitanthauza kukhala kukonda chuma ndi kuti nkhani ya ufulu wa anthu. Chipembedzo chomwe ndimakhulupirira sichikusonyeza kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu anthu oponderezedwa. Chifukwa chake akuchita zinthu zotsutsana kwa nthawi yayitali zomwe zimawapangitsa kukhala anthu ochimwa. Komabe, ndili ndi chitsimikizo kuti adzapsa mumoto, koma Mulungu ndi amene amawadziwa. Ine sindine amene WHO oweruza.
Sindikukakamiza inu anyamata kuti mukhulupirire chipembedzo chomwe ndimakhulupirira kapena chipembedzo chilichonse. Koma chifukwa chipembedzo chomwe ndimakhulupirira, sichoncho mphamvu kupanga anthu kuti azikhulupirira chipembedzochi. Koma zinali chimodzi za zanga kuchiza ndondomeko. Chiganizo choyamba cha bukuli chomwe ndikukhulupirira ndi "werengani“. Werengani? Werengani chiyani? Zikusonyeza kuti kufufuzira ndikupeza zowona zakukhala moyo wachimwemwe mdziko lino lapansi komanso dziko lino lapansi tikamwalira. Mawu werengani ndi lingaliro lomveka bwino kuti musakhale osaphunzira munthu. Zimalimbikitsa kupanga kafukufuku pa za sayansi, moyo, nzeru, kapena china chilichonse chomwe chikufunika mdziko lapansi kuti mukhale ndi moyo wachimwemwe komanso wachangu. Pafupifupi% 80 ya anthu m'dziko lathu mwatsoka ndi anthu osaphunzira. Chifukwa cha izi, ndizosavuta kwa olamulira (ndikuganiza m'maiko ambiri) kuwongolera anthu awa ngakhale atakhala ndi umphawi ndikukhala moyo wosasangalala. Ichi ndichifukwa chake tiyenera werengani anyamata kuti mukhale ndi moyo wosangalala komanso wokwaniritsidwa sindipita pansi pazachipembedzo koma ngati muli ndi mafunso mutha kunditumizira kapena kusiya ndemanga pansipa.
Ndiye, ndidataya ntchito chifukwa cha abambo anga? Inde. Abambo anga anali a bureacrat ndipo amatumikira mdziko lawo kuzungulira dziko lapansi. Anapanga pamwamba ndipo anali wopambana kwambiri. Nthawi zambiri anali kukhala yekha chifukwa cha ntchito zakunja. Titha kumuwona ngati mwezi wathunthu chaka chonse. Munthawi imeneyi panali mavuto amisala, ndipo mu 2016 adayamba kupumula kwamisala ndipo akuvutikabe ndi kukhumudwa kwakukulu mpaka pano. Chifukwa chakusokonekera kwa psychotic, boma, popanda kumufunsa, linamuchotsa pantchito chifukwa amaganiza kuti akupandukira dziko lake. Chifukwa chake adapeza mwayi bambo anga atadwala ndikumunamizira kuti wapereka dziko lawo. Umenewo ndiye mkhalidwe wopanda chifundo wa olamulira m'dziko langa. Chifukwa chake ndinali wogwira ntchito m'dziko langa. Koma pamaso pawo bambo anga anali wompereka. Chifukwa chake nawonso adasiyana nane. Popanda kufunsidwa kapena kufunsidwa.
The kugwirizana zomwe ndikupanga ndi NoFap ndikuti ndimadziwa kuti bambo anga anali ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula. Nditha kuwona zonse za zotsatira zoipa pankhaniyi.
- Amalimbanabe kukhumudwa kwakukulu ndi kugwiritsa ntchito mapiritsi ake.
- Wakhala wolemera mavuto amaso. Onse awiri hypermetropia ndi chisangalalo.
- lake mano alibe mphamvu kwambiri ndipo pafupifupi adataya onse tsopano ali ndi mano a porcelain.
- lake khungu ndi yofewa kwambiri mpaka iyo imatsanulira.
- Alimbana ubongo ndi mphamvu kuchita chilichonse masiku ano.
- Ali nawo impso Mavuto nawonso.
Komabe, mutha kupeza pamsonkhanowu ndi mapepala ofufuzira za zoyipa zakugwiritsa ntchito zolaula komanso kutulutsa umuna pafupipafupi. Ndikulemba izi kuti inu anyamata mumutenge ngati chitsanzo. Mutha kugwa pansi kuchokera pamwamba kwambiri modabwitsa. Komabe, ndimamukonda chifukwa adachita zonse zomwe angathe kuti akhale bambo anga. Kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula sikukutanthauza kuti ndiwe munthu woipa. Nthawi zonse amanditsogolera kuzinthu zabwino komanso zolondola.
Kubwerera kwa ine. Nditachotsedwa ntchito. Ubale wanga wazaka 5 udatha patatha zaka ziwiri nditachotsedwa ntchito. Sanathere m'njira yoyipa. Chifukwa amayenera kubwerera kudziko lakwawo akamaliza maphunziro. Sitinathe kuyanjana kwanthawi yayitali ndipo idatha. Chifukwa chake ndidasowa ntchito ndipo bwenzi langa lidatayika. Ndipo sindinapeze ntchito yabwino chifukwa ndinali mwana wa "wompereka". Palibe amene adapereka chiopsezo chondipatsa ntchito. Iwo anali kunena zoona. Sindikuwaweruza. Atsogoleri akhoza kuwabweretsera mavuto.
Ili ndiye gawo lamoyo wanga lomwe ndidaganiza zokhala Kusintha. Ndidataika kwathunthu ndikugwidwa munyumba yanga. Chifukwa palibe amene anali (wosakhoza) kugwira ntchito mnyumba. Tinalibe ndalama chilichonse.
Nditaonera makanema ena otukula. Ndinakumana ndi NoFap. Poyamba, sindinakhulupirire kuti izi zingakhudze miyoyo ya anthu. Koma fayilo ya ubwino gawo linali kundipatsa chiyembekezo. Kuti ndikuyembekeza anali gwero lokhalo lachimwemwe panthawiyo kwa ine. Ndimakumbukira kuti ndimawonera makanema ochulukirapo a fapstronauts omwe maola angapo apitawa. Ndinayamba kusaka ngati wamisala. Malingaliro onsewa osinkhasinkha, mvula yozizira, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, njira zosungira umuna ndi zina. Ndidawerenga zolemba pamitu iyi kwa maola ambiri. Ndipo ndidaganiza zopereka. Ndinalibe choti nditaye ...
Chifukwa chake ndidapanga chiwembu. Ngati sindingathe kupeza ntchito yabwino. Nanga bwanji ntchito iliyonse yomwe ndingapange? Chifukwa awa anali gawo lomwe ubongo wanga unkakhala ukuganiza nthawi zambiri, popeza tinalibe ndalama. Choyamba ndimayenera kuthetsa vutoli kuti ndiganizire mapulani abwino. Ndiye tsiku lotsatira, ndinatuluka. Tsopano cholinga changa chinali kupeza ntchito iliyonse. Ndidayendera ma shopu angapo, malo odyera motsutsana ndimakonda kupita kumalo 20. Mwini malo odyera adaganiza zondipatsa ntchito yoperekera zakudya. Ndidadzifotokozera momveka bwino popanda zonama ndipo anali wachifundo komanso wamakhalidwe abwino. Chifukwa chake adandipatsa ntchito. Tsopano mwina tikhala ndi ndalama zomwe ndidapumira pang'ono pamapeto pake.
Kenako ndidapanga lingaliro lina kuti ndiyenera kukhala wabwino kwambiri pazinthu zomwe anthu angafune kugwira ntchito ndi ine ngakhale sindichita kanthu. Ichi chizikhala china chake chomwe ndimakondanso. Matsiku am'mbuyomu ndinali wokondweretsedwa ndi Science Science ndi Artificial Intelligence. Ndinafuna kutenga digiri ya Masters m'derali. Pulogalamuyi inkangokhala kukoleji imodzi mumzinda womwe ndimakhala. Muyenera kutenga mayeso awiri ndikudutsa zoyankhulana kuti mulowe nawo pulogalamuyi.
Chifukwa chake ndimayeseza kusunga umuna, ziwonetsero zozizira ndikuyamba kuthamangira m'mawa, ndikugwira ntchito m'malo odyera pakati pa 10: 00-22: 00. Zinali kumva bwino tsiku ndi tsiku. Ndimakayikirabe kuti izi zitha kugwira ntchito koma ndikupereka kuyesera. Tsiku ndi tsiku malingaliro anga anali kupitilirabe ndipo nkhawa zinayamba kuzimiririka. Panali pafupifupi 20 tsiku lomwe ndinatenga mayeso a pulogalamu ya Masters. Sindinakhalepo wodekha komanso wamaganiza m'mayeso aliwonse m'moyo wanga! Ndinadzidzimuka. Izi zinayamba kugwira ntchito. Patatha masiku atatu ndinalandira imelo kuti ndinadutsa mayeso ndikuyitanitsa kuyankhulana.
Tsiku ndi tsiku ubongo wanga unayamba kuzimiririka ndipo malingaliro anga anali kumveka bwino. Ndidatenga chilolezo kwa abwana anga mu lesitilanti ndikupita kukafunsidwa. Nthawi zambiri, ndimakhala wokondwa komanso wovuta pakubwereza mafunso koma patsikulo, bambo, ndidakhala ngati nkhandwe. Ndinafotokozera zakukhosi kwanga momveka bwino komanso molimba mtima. Chifukwa ndimachita chidwi ndi m'derali, tinali kucheza pafupifupi ola limodzi ndi maprofesa. M'modzi mwa akatswiriwa ndi anga phatikizanani tsopano pakampani yomwe tikugwira Ndiye wowononga chakumapeto kwa ulusiwu
Patatha sabata limodzi ndinalandira imelo yolandila ku Koleji ndi maphunziro! Ndinali wokondwa kwambiri. Koma, panali vuto. Ndikugwira ntchito mu lesitilanti 10: 00-22: 00. Kodi ndingatenge nawo nawo bwanji maphunzirowa? Maphunziro anali pakati pa 6p.m.9p.m. masiku atatu pa sabata. Ndilankhulana ndi abwana anga ngati nditha kugwira ntchito masiku awa mpaka 5.30 pm ndipo ndinamuuza kuti atha kulipira malipiro anga maola awa. Anavomera. Chifukwa chake ndimatha kutenga makalasi anga
Kuphatikiza Ndalama zomwe ndidapeza ngati woperekera zakudya sikunali kokwanira kwa anthu okhala mnyumba ya 4. Koma sichoncho. Tsiku lililonse ndinadzipereka kuti ndikhale ndi umuna, kusinkhasinkha / kupemphera, kuchita masewera ozizira komanso masewera olimbitsa thupi. Zonse zinkandiyendera bwino monga woperekera zakudya komanso m'masukulu anga. Koma sizinali ZINTHU. Atsikana, ngati mukufuna kupeza chinthu pamafunika kulimbikira komanso kupirira. Koma pakapita kanthawi muzizolowera. Ndinkagwira ntchito kuyambira 8a.m. m'mawa mpaka 11p.m. usiku. M'masiku anga opumira mu lesitilanti ndidali kuphunzirira maphunziro anga ku koleji. Usiku ndimatenga maphunziro pa intaneti kuti ndikhale ndekha m'dera lino .. sizinali zophweka koma palibe chomwe sichingatheke ngati mungodzipereka komanso woleza mtima.
Chifukwa chake mchaka choyamba ndidapanga 4/4 GPA mu pulogalamu ya masters degree. Ndinazindikira kuti mukamaliza ntchito zovuta. Mumayamba kugwiritsa ntchito ntchito zovuta. Simukuchepetsa kuchita ntchito. Chifukwa chake, kusunga umuna kunali kovuta sindinachedwe. Ziwonetsero zozizira zinali zovuta komanso zopweteka, sindinachedwe. Kuyimirira tsiku lonse m'malo odyera kunali kosavuta, ndinakwanitsa. Kuphunzira maphunziro sikunali kophweka ndi thupi lotopa koma sizinachedwe. Chifukwa, tsopano ndinali wogwiritsidwa ntchito mwamaganizidwe ndi thupi kulimbana ndi kuzengereza ndi ntchito zolimba. Izi zinali chiyani NoFap adandisinthira. Pomwe ndidali mu semen posungidwa kwa a YEAKA Zinthu izi zikuchitika
Chaka chino ndalandira kuchokera kwa m'modzi mwa akatswiri anga. Tidapita kukaphika khofi ndipo adandiuza kuti ngati ndikufuna kupita naye kukampani yopanga nzeru. Ndinayamba kulira mwadzidzidzi. Zogwira ntchito molimbika zinalipiridwa. Tsopano tili ndi kampani yatsopano yomwe ndikuyang'anira antchito 10 tsopano. Loweruka ndi sabata ndimapereka maphunziro a Science Science for the Public Good pagulu la anthu 30 omwe ali ndi chidwi. Maphunzirowa atatha, tikuyesera kuthetsa mavuto amzindawu omwe timakhala momwe timagwirira ntchito deta ndi zida zamagetsi. Ndipo tikukonza mapulani. Chifukwa chake malingaliro anga achiwiri adagwira! Tsopano ndinakhala mmodzi wa Science Scientist wodziwika bwino mdziko langa ndipo inde anthu akufuna kugwira ntchito ndi ine.
Mwachidule ndinena maubwino ena:
- Nditayamba ndi kampani. Ndinayamba kupita ku masewera olimbitsa thupi. M'mbuyomu, ndikakhala ku koleji, ndimapitanso kukachita masewera olimbitsa thupi koma zinkandivuta kuwonjezera paziyeso kubara. Tsopano ndikutha kukweza 120 kg mu squats. 130 makilogalamu ochita kufa ndi 95 makina osindikizira. Inde, mchitidwewu umakuthandizani wamphamvu! Zomwe zimakonda kuwirikiza kawiri poyerekeza ndi miyeso yanga yakale.
- Ndinali wokhala ndi malingaliro komanso malingaliro za akazi nthawi zonse. Tsopano, malingaliro awa samabwera konse mu malingaliro anga. Izi zolaula ndizowopsa kotero kuti zidatipangitsa kuganiza azimayi ngati zinthu. Zachisoni..
- Kuyamba kuchita minimalism. Zomwe zidandithandiza kusintha pakupanga zisankho komanso kumveka bwino.
- Ngakhale ndimawerenga ulusi wina womwe umalemba zokopa za akazi ngati zopindulitsa ndipo ena mwa akatswiri amawona ngati "cholinga" chabwino sayenera kukhala "cholinga". Iyi ndi njira yachilengedwe yopanga zinthu. Popeza mbali iliyonse imayamba m'moyo wanu. Monga, ndili ndi thupi lolimba kwambiri, chifukwa chakusunga umuna ndili ndi khungu loyera, ndine wolimba mtima. Mwambiri ndimawoneka ndikuchita mwamuna ndipo ndimawoneka wathanzi. Mwachilengedwe cha akazi pali izi mosasintha. Iwo amakopeka ndi mphamvu. Afuna kukhala ndi ana kuchokera kwa abambo omwe angawateteze ndikuwasamalira. Ichi ndi chilengedwe. Chifukwa chake kukopa kwa amayi sikungapeweke. Ndipo inde ndidakumana ndi ambiri aiwo. Tikudikirabe munthu woyenera ukwati chifukwa sichosavuta.
- chidaliro Pamwamba padenga.
- Sindikonda kusewera mawu oyipa koma, osapatsa boma lakusowa ndimakonda. Zomwe umakumana nazozi sasamala. Kodi pali zinthu zina zoyipa zokuzungulirani? Simukusamala. Chifukwa, tsopano mukudziwa nokha% 100. Mukudziwa kuti ndinu munthu wamtundu wanji. Mukudziwa zomwe mwachita.
- Mwambiri ndinu ochulukirapo athanzi zonse mwathupi komanso m'malingaliro. Sindikupita mwatsatanetsatane.
Anyamata, izi ndi zenizeni. Mutha kutero. Ngati alipo omwe akukayikira. Musakhale. Khazikani mtima pansi. Osangogwiritsa ntchito NoFap. Khalani mukufufuza nthawi zonse kuti mudzitukule ndikukhala ndi moyo wabwino. Mwanjira ina "werengani".
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