Chodzikanira: Mzere wanga sutanthauza kuseweretsa maliseche zolaula. Koma ndimayang'ana zolaula panthawi yanga. Musagwiritse ntchito ngati mafuta pazopeka zanga kapena kudzinyodola kapena zina zotere. Ndikufotokozera mwatsatanetsatane chifukwa chomwe ndidachitira. Ndikumvetsetsa ngati mungakane malingaliro anga chifukwa chokhala wopanda zolaula. Komabe, ngati mukufuna kudziwa momwe ndinakwanitsira kukhala wopanda mantha pazomwe zimayambitsa ndikuyambiranso kuwerenga.
Chiyambi choyamba: Ndinayamba kuonera zolaula pakhomo pathu pali intaneti, kubwerera ku 2004 ndili ndi zaka 12. Ndinkasangalatsidwa nazo, koma nditangofika zaka makumi awiri, ndidayamba kumva umbombo mkati mwanga zomwe ndimakhala nazo nthawi iliyonse yomwe ndimayang'ana. Ndinaganiza motsimikiza kuti sindimafuna zolaula pamoyo wanga wonse, pazifukwa zambiri, ufulu kukhala m'modzi wa iwo komanso kuti ndisavutitse mkazi wanga wamtsogolo wokhala ndi chizolowezi.
Zaka ziwiri zapitazo ndinkafuna kusiya. Ndipo sindinathe. Ndipamene ndidadziwa kuti ndimasuta. Hafu ya chaka pambuyo pake ndidalowa nawo NoFap. Zomwe zidatsatidwa ndikuyesa kosiyanasiyana kwa njira zosiyanasiyana, zinthu zonse zapamwamba zomwe anyamata mukudziwa kale. Zonsezi zinali masiku a 17 PMO aulere ngati kuyesetsa kwanga (mpaka mzerewu) womwe, mukudziwa, ndiwofooka kwambiri.
Komabe, ndidaphunzira maphunziro ambiri kuchokera ku kubwerera m'mbuyo ndi zolephera zanga. Cholimba kwambiri ndichakuti ndidamvetsetsa, kuti kubwereranso kulikonse kumabwera kudzapanga chisankho.
Ndinazindikira kuti ndasewera ndi ine ndekha ndikabwereranso, masewera omwe adakhazikitsidwa Mabodza:
Bodza loyamba ndiloti ndidadziuza ndekha kuti ndatsimikiza mtima zosiya kusuta.
Bodza lachiwiri ndiloti zolimbikitsa munthawiyo zinali zamphamvu kwambiri ndipo "sindinathe kudzithandiza ndekha".
Kuti mufotokoze bodza loyamba muyenera kumvetsetsa zamaganizidwe oyambira. Maganizo a munthu amakhala wosanjikiza. Maganizo anu osiyanasiyana, monga mkwiyo, chisangalalo, chilakolako, kulingalira, chikumbumtima, zonse zimakhala ngati mitundu yanu. Chowonadi chimenecho chidadziwika ndi akatswiri odziwika bwino amisala monga Freud ndi Jung ndipo pambuyo pake adatsimikiziridwa ndi akatswiri a maubongo omwe adawona kuti ubongo uli ndi machitidwe osiyanasiyana omwe amadzichitira okha komanso ali ndi njira yolumikizirana. Kuzindikira kwanu, kapena "amene mumamukonda" titero, ndiko komwe kumakometsa mbali iliyonse ya inu ndikunena ndikupanga chisankho (chomwe chimawonetsedwa m'mafilimu ngati mngelo wamng'ono ndi mdierekezi wamng'ono atakhala paphewa).
Magawo anu nonse muli nawo, ndipo izi ndizofunikira kuti tidziwe, zikhulupiriro ndi zolinga zosiyanasiyana. Chifukwa cha izi sizachilendo kuti mutha kukhala ndi malingaliro awiri otsutsana mkati mwanu, monga ndikudziwa mukudziwa kuchokera m'moyo wanu. Komabe, chifukwa ma psyche athu ambiri amabisala mosazindikira, nthawi zambiri sitidziwa zolinga zathu zamkati.
Kusadziŵa kwathu zolakalaka zathu zobisika ndiko komwe kumapangitsa kuti anthu abwererenso. Onani mungaganize kuti zolakalaka zanu zowonera zolaula zimachokera ku matenda anu osokoneza bongo. Izi ndizowona, koma ichi ndi chizindikiro chabe. Choyambitsa chachikulu ndikulakalaka kwanu, kukhala gawo lanu, lomwe limakhulupirirabe kuti zolaula ndizofunika kwambiri!
Chifukwa chake pomwe ndimadziuza ndekha kuti "ndatsimikiza mtima kusiya", ndimangodziwa zomwe chikumbumtima changa chikufuna. Gawo langa lomwe limasamala za moyo wabwino kwambiri kwakanthawi yayitali kwa ine ndikuchita ngati bambo. Ndikutsimikiza kuti mukudziwa zomwe ndikunena. Komabe mosazindikira chilakolako changa sichinali chokonzeka kusiya zolaula.
Ndiwo makonzedwe omwe amatsogolera ku bodza lachiwiri. Zomwe ndidawona ngati "zolimbikitsanso kukhala zolimba kwambiri" sizimangokhala kuti sindingathe kutsutsana ndi anga kufuna kwanu. Choonadi chinali, nthawi iliyonse, ndinabwereranso m'mbuyo chifukwa pansi pamtima ine anafuna kuti.
Chifukwa chake ndidazindikira kuti kulimbana konse komanso nkhondo zonse zamaganizidwe zidachitika chifukwa cha ine osadziwa zomwe ndikufuna. Ndidagawika pawiri kenako popanda chitsogozo.
Tsiku lina ndinawerenga gawo lalikulu kwambiri ndi mnzake waku China pamsonkhano uno, zinali ngati "zaka 6 osayambiranso". Adalankhula chinthu chimodzi chomwe chidandigunda chingwe ndikuthandizira kwambiri. Ndimalongosola motere:
Ngati simukufunitsitsa kusiya zolaula, ndizovuta ngati kuyesa kuponya mwala ndi nkhonya zanu. Koma ngati mukutsimikiza ndizosavuta mongobaya pamapepala.
Mnyamata uyu anali atazindikira, zaka 6 zolaula zopanda ufulu, ndipo zikuwoneka kuti ngati mukuchita bwino zikuyenera kukhala zosavuta.
Ndipo ndabwera kuti ndikuuzeni, ngakhale izi mwatsoka zimakhumudwitsa anthu ena, ndizo is zosavuta.
Chisangalalo chimadza chifukwa choti simudzikayikiranso. Simukudzikayikira nokha chifukwa mukudziwa zomwe mukufuna kudzera komanso.
Kuopa zoyambitsa ndi upangiri wonse wopewa izi uli ndi chifukwa chimodzi. Anthu samadzidalira. Amadziwa pansi pamtima, kuti zonse zomwe zimafunika ndikumakumbukira momwe zimamvekera bwino, ndipo gawo mkati mwawo lomwe likufunabe zolaula lidzawonjezeka ndikuwagwira.
Kwa ine sizichitikanso. Ndicho chifukwa chake sindikudandaula za zomwe zimayambitsa kapena kubwereranso. Kusiya zolaula kwandidikira.
Mukamvetsetsa zomwe ndalemba mpaka pano muyenera kudziwa zomwe ndidachita. Ndidayamba kupanga zokhumba, kulingalira komanso zolinga zanga ndikukhala ozindikira momwe zingathere. Kenako ndinayamba kuwolaulitsa pogwiritsa ntchito malingaliro. Zolaula ndizabwino ndinadziuza. Sikuti sizosangalatsa PMO, ndikuti mitengo ndi yokwera kwambiri ndipo alipo njira zina zabwino m'moyo. Ndipo kudabwitsa kwanga kukhumbira kwathu kumamvetsera kulingalira. Kukumbukira mavuto onse omwe ndinali nawo pambuyo pobwerera m'mbuyo kunandithandiza. Komanso, kuseweretsa maliseche kuti ndikulota kulibwino kungowonera zolaula komanso ngakhale theka kukhala koopsa. Kugonana ndichachidziwikire kuposa njira ya PMO posankha, koma pakupewa zolaula kumakhala bwino. Dziko losangalala lopanda denga. Zolaula ndi kugonana zili ngati chingamu cha 20 sentimita chomwe chimakupatsani khansa pafupi ndi beef Wellington yokhala ndi msuzi wa truffle womwe umawonjezera masiku 5 anu amoyo.
Zinanditengera masiku ndi milungu yambiri kuti ndilingalire, koma pamapeto pake ndidakwanitsa sinthani mtengo womwe zolaula zili ndi ine. Uko kunali Januware womaliza.
Kwenikweni, ndidayanjanitsa zikhulupiriro ndi zolinga za magawo anga osiyanasiyana. Ndinakhala ndi lingaliro limodzi pankhani yolaula. Onani pamene simukufunanso kukhala PMO simuyenera kuchita mantha kuti mudzadzipereka.
Ndidayamba izi. Koma nthawi ino sindinafune kungodalira kusintha kwanga kwamaganizidwe. Ndalephera ndi njira yozizira nthawi zambiri m'mbuyomu. Ndipo ndidaphunzira kuchokera kwa katswiri wodziwika bwino wazachipatala, JB Peterson, kuti ngati mupitiliza kulephera pacholinga cholinga kutsika. Kupambana pazinthu zazing'onoting'ono kumawombera gehena chifukwa cholephera mosalekeza pakukonzanso kwakukulu.
Chifukwa cha izi, ndidasankha kuti ndisatulukire zolaula masiku 75. Koma ndikakhala ndi chidwi chongoyang'ana, sindidzisiya. Pambuyo masiku 75 ndisiyanso kuyang'ana.
Mutha kudzifunsa pano ngati zokambirana zonse zinali bs, chifukwa ndingayang'anenso bwanji ngati sindikufuna? Pakadali pano, ndangosintha malingaliro okhudzana ndi zolaula kuti zitheke. Pankhani yosangalala ndi kuwona anapiye otentha, ndili ndi ntchito ina yoti ndiyigwire.
Koma ndikutha kunena kuti kuwona mtima konse osati kamodzi pa izi, ndinayandikira kuti ndithawe. Sanalinso mwayi kwa ine. Nthawi zambiri (monga katatu pa sabata) ndikatsegula tsamba lachiwerewere kuti ndione, ndimatseka patatha mphindi 2-3, chifukwa ubongo wanga ukudziwa kuti palibe chomwe chingapezeke. Chifukwa chake, ndimangotsegula mwachizolowezi.
Apanso sindikufunikira "kulimbana ndi zokhumba zanga" kapena kudzitsimikizira ndekha. Zimamveka zosavuta kuti musachite.
Nthawi iliyonse ndikawona zolaula tsopano zimakhala ngati kununkha kwamaganizidwe mumtima mwanga, zomwe zimamveka bwino koma zosasangalatsa. Nthawi zambiri ndinkakonda kuziona chifukwa ndi zolaula, koma tsopano ubongo wanga umakhala ngati "Kodi ndiyenera kupirira kununkha uku? Ayi, ayi, tiyeni titseke zoyipa izi. ”
Ichi ndichifukwa chake izi zimamuyendera bwino, chifukwa ndisanakhale wokonda kuluma movutikira, poyamba chinali chinthu choyamba kuchita ndikadzuka komanso chinthu chomaliza ndisanayambe kugona. Ndipo chinthu chokhacho chomwe ndidachipeza bwino mpaka kumapeto chinali chinyengo cha zamatsenga komanso zolaula za bongo.
Ndili wokonzeka kumva kuti gawo ili la moyo wanga lili kumbuyo kwanga. Ndikuyembekezera kuti zolaula zisanachitike m'moyo wanga posachedwa.
Moyo wanga wogonana wasintha kwambiri mwakuti nditha kusangalala ndi msungwana yemwe ndili naye pano kuti ndi ndani komanso momwe alili pakadali pano, m'malo mongolingalira zithunzi zonyansa panthawi yogonana kuti ndikhutiritse ubongo wanga wolaula.
Ndayamba kukhulupilira ndekha. Chifukwa ndaona mphamvu yakudzisankhira.
Chifukwa chake kutseka apa nali malangizo omwe andithandiza kwambiri kuti ndifike apa:
Ngati zikumva zovuta, mumalimbana nanu, mukuzichita molakwika! Ngati malingaliro anu akumva bwino, ndiye kuti mukuyenda panjira yoyenera.
PALIBE CHABWINO CHONSE CHOPATSA DINTHA LAKO Chifuniro chanu chokha.
Kusilira kwanu ndi gawo la inu. Mupangeni kukhala bwenzi lanu osakhala mdani.
Kuona mtima mwankhanza pazilako lako ndiye njira yachangu yochotsera zilako lako.
Zikomo powerenga ndikuthokoza pa tsambali.
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