Ndakwanitsa masiku a 90 a NoFap pa Hard Mode. Njira Yovuta inali chisankho chokhacho chomwe ndidakhala nacho kuyambira pomwe sindinali muubwenzi. Mu positi iyi, ndikuwonetsa zakumbuyo yanga, zolemba za ine, maupangiri, ndi maubwino omwe ndidakumana nawo.
Mbiri Yanga
Ndine wamwamuna wazaka 28, ndangotembenuka 28 miyezi iwiri yapitayo. Panopa ndine wosakwatiwa, sindinakhalepo ndiubwenzi wabwino kale. Zochepa zogonana. Mukhalebe ndi amayi. Ngongole yayikulu yochokera pakuphatikiza ngongole zaophunzira, ngongole yamagalimoto, ndi ngongole yoyesera bizinesi yazaka ziwiri. Idalephera, ndikundisiya nditataya mtima komanso wopanda chiyembekezo. Ndabwerera kuntchito. Ndili 2'6 ″ ndipo pano ndikulemera 1 lbs. Ndimagwira ntchito yovomerezeka 190-9, ndikupanga 5 pachaka. Ndine wozama pakukula kwanga, ndidawerenga mabuku 60,000+ pamitu yosiyanasiyana yazachitukuko.
Ndazindikira za NoFap mu Januware chaka chino kuchokera pa kanema wa YouTube pomwe wina adati akuchita Chisankho cha Zaka Zatsopano pa NoFap. Ndinachita chidwi. Ndinafufuza zambiri, ndinathamangira mu Ubongo Wanu pa Porn, NoFap ndi ena. Sindinaganize kuti ndinali ndi vuto mpaka nditayesetsa kusiya. Ndinabwereranso mobwerezabwereza mpaka nditakula mu Ogasiti ndipo sindinayang'ane kumbuyo.
Momwe ndidayambira masiku a 90 ndi Chifukwa Chomwe Ndidayimira
Ndikuwona zolemba zina kuchokera kwa anyamata ena pano omwe ali ndi mavuto osokoneza bongo. Poyerekeza, mgodi sunali wovuta koma unali wolumala. Ndili ndi zaka pafupifupi 20 komanso koleji zoyambira, ndinali ndikulowerera kawiri mpaka katatu patsiku, ndipo nthawi zambiri ndimakonda kugwiritsa ntchito zithunzi. Mpaka pomwe ndinayamba kuyang'ana zolaula pa 19, ndiye zinali kupita ku liwiro. Ndidachepetsa kwambiri ma 20 anga oyambirira, chifukwa ndinali ndi ntchito. Zimakhala kamodzi tsiku lililonse. Ndikadafunsa kuti bwanji ndidamva zowawa, zopanda nkhawa, komanso kusadzidalira. Ndinangopita sabata limodzi lokha nthawi kuchokera ku 19 mpaka pano ku 28 popanda kusefa ndipo zinali chifukwa ndinali pa tchuthi. Mkati mwa sabata imeneyo ndimamvanso kuti ndili moyo. Sindikudziwa kuti anali NoFap.
Ndiye mwina mungadabwe kuti bwanji ndasiya. Eya, ku 28, zovuta za moyo zikuwonetsa kufooka kumene m'moyo wanga. Zofooka monga kusakhala pachibwenzi pomwe abwenzi ako onse akukwatirana, osakhala ndi chuma chokwanira, akukhalabe kunyumba, kutsalira pazinthu zosiyanasiyana, kuona moyo ukudutsa pomwe ukadali wolimba. Chilimbikitso chokwanira chinali chokwanira kundikankhira kupyola kupweteka kwachibadwa. Zowawa zokhala momwemo zinali zokulirapo kuposa ululu wosintha.
Pamene ndimachita izi, ndidakumana ndi zabwino zina zabwino.
Maubwino omwe Ndidapeza
Zina mwa izi zomwe ndidawerengapo, zina zidadabwitsa. Izi ndi zina koma izi zinali zowonekera kwambiri patsikulo langa la tsiku ndi tsiku.
- Kumveka bwino kwamaganizidwe - Ndine wopusa kwambiri. Ndimatha kuganizira bwino, ndimayankhula bwino, ndimakhala ndi misozi yochepa yomwe yandizungulira. Ine tsopano poyerekeza ndi ine mu Januware ndili ngati usiku ndi usana. Ndidawona anthu akukamba za uyu, koma amuna, sindimadziwa kuti zinali kusiyana kotani.
- Kulimbika kwambiri - Ndimatha kupanga zisankho mwachangu komanso kupereka mwachangu. Ndikaganiza kuti ndikufuna ndichite kena kena ndimangochita ndikukakamiza kuti amalize. Palibe chowiringula.
- Kulekerera pang'ono kopanda ulemu - Sindilekerera kupanda ulemu kwenikweni kapena kufalikira kwa anthu ena. Ndine wofunitsitsa kusiya ngati ndikuona kuti ndachepetsedwa.
- Zowonjezera zambiri - Kutsatira kuchokera pam mfundo yomaliza, sindimangoganiza za mfundo zanga ndi kugwiritsa ntchito mfundozo. Ndikanena kuti ndikantha cholinga, ndimachimenya. Sindimawerama kapena kuwombera anthu ena.
- Kusadya pang'ono pambuyo pa akazi - Ndilibe chidwi ndi akazi tsopano, makamaka kwa omwe ali pantchito. Amayi amenewo sakundiyenda, nanga bwanji ndimawasamala? Sindikufikira ayi. Chosangalatsa ndichakuti, amandifikira chifukwa ndasiya kuwayang'ana.
- Kuchulukitsitsa kwa minofu ndi mphamvu - Ndinafunika kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kuti ndisakhale kalikonse, popeza ndinali munthu wachikopa kwambiri. Zaka zingapo zapitazi yakhala ntchito yovuta kuvala minofu. Osati miyezi ingapo yapitayo. Akhala nthawi yovuta kwambiri kwa ine kuti ndikhale minofu. Komanso minofu yanga imawoneka yokwanira kwambiri, ngati kuti ndili ndi pampu yopitilira.
- Sindikupatsa zoyipa - Zinthu zomwe zimandivutitsa sizimandivuta. Ndimangolimbana ndi mavuto momwe amabwera. Ngati wina akufuna kubwera kwa ine, amayamba kupsa mtima pamene ndikupita patsogolo. Palibe kusiyanasiyana.
- Mphamvu zina - Ndili ndi mwayi wambiri wochita zinthu. Mwinanso chifukwa kortort yanga yam'mbuyo ndiyamoyo kwambiri kuposa momwe idalili kale (hypofrontality). Koma ndili ndi malire awa omwe sindinakhalepo nawo kale.
- Wofunitsitsa kufotokoza - Ngati mukuganiza za izi, simukufotokozanso kudzera pa njira imodzi (PMO) kotero muyenera kuyankhula nokha kudzera mu njira ina (kuyankhula, zochitika, kugwira ntchito, zina) Kukhulupirira kwanga komanso kuyendetsa galimoto kwachuluka panthawiyi.
Izi ndi zazikulu. Ndikungomva ngati munthu wolimba. Ndisanabatizidwe. Tsopano ndine womasuka… mfulu.
Mawu Final
Ndikuwona anthu ambiri akudumpha pa NoFap chifukwa ndi "No Nut November" kapena zilizonse. Ndikuwonanso anthu ambiri akunena kuti "ndi bullshit" kapena "ndi placebo". Ndikuuzeni - awa si malo obisika. Ichi ndiye chinthu chenicheni. Sindinadziwe ngakhale theka la zabwino zomwe zidalipo mpaka nditayamba kuzipeza.
Mukuganiza kuti kudzimbidwa mosalekeza kwa anthu omwe amagonana tsiku ndi tsiku sikungakupangitseni kuganiza? Pezani zenizeni! Ndicho chinthu chopusa kwambiri chomwe ndidamvapo. Izi ndikungopempha matenda amisala.
Anthu omwe amatsutsa izi sangathe. Ndi akapolo. Iwo ali osokoneza. Iwo atsekerezedwa chifukwa cha kusagwira bwino ntchito kwawo. Kenako mupeza anthu omwe amati "Ndimazemba tsiku lililonse ndipo ndili bwino!". Koma kodi alipo? Kodi alidi? Anthu awa sakunena nkhani yonse. Sadzakuwuzani momwe adavutikira kudzuka m'mawa. Sangakuuzeni zakusowa kwawo chidwi. Sangakuuzeni kuti ali ndi ED. Sangakuuzeni kuti ukwati wawo uli pangozi.
Mulibe Lingaliro la zomwe zimachitika mobisa. Muli ndi chidziwitso cha ZERO cha anthu awa pa intaneti. Ndikukutsimikizirani, ambiri aiwo akuvutika. Choncho musawanyalanyaze. Pitilizani kupitilira masiku 90. Ndi zomwe ndidachita. Ndidalimbikira ndikuti ndikufikira kapena kufa ndikayesera. Ndipo tsopano, Ndine pano.
Nanunso mungachite. Zabwino zonse, anyamata.
LINK - Masiku a 90, Yachitika. Ripoti Langa, Background, ndi Ubwino
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