Moni nonse, ndine wogwiritsa ntchito watsopano pamabwalo ndipo iyi ndi positi yanga yoyamba.
Sindinayang'ane zolaula masiku 123 tsopano. Sindinayang'ane panthawiyi, ndipo zotsatira zake ndizogwirizana ndi zomwe anthu am'derali anena.
Chiyambi chaching'ono chokhudza ine: gawo lalikulu la moyo wanga ndakhala ndikusungulumwa kwambiri, wopanda anzanga ambiri, wamanyazi komanso osakhala ndekha. Ndayamba zolaula ku 8. Ndine 28 tsopano, ndikusintha 29 mu Seputembala chaka chino, ndiye zaka 20 za moyo wanga zachotsedwa. Ndili wachinyamata ndinkakhala nthawi zambiri usiku ndikuonera zolaula, nthawi zina kwa maola, nthawi zina usiku wonse, ndikuwononga unyamata wanga m'malo mokhala ndi ubale weniweni ndi akazi. Ndimadandaula kuti gawo la moyo wanga kwambiri ndipo ndikulakalaka ndikadabwerera ndikufafaniza zonsezi, koma sindingathe. Zomwe ndingathe ndikupitilira osayang'ananso zolaula.
tl; dr: Ndinali munthu wamanyazi komanso wokonda kuchita nawo zinthu zambiri, ndipo kuonera zolaula inali njira yanga yothanirana ndi kusungulumwa kwanga.
Lero ndi tsiku langa la 123rd wopanda zolaula. Ngakhale ndimavutikabe ndi vuto lodziseweretsa maliseche komanso kusintha, moyo wanga wogonana wasintha kwambiri. Ndakhala ndi mkazi kwa zaka zingapo ndipo pachiyambi, ndinkakonda kuonera zolaula nthawi zambiri, nthawi zambiri ndimakhala ndikuonera zolaula kwa maola ambiri. Unali ubale wautali kumayambiriro, zomwe sizinandithandizire kukhala ndi chizolowezi chowonera zolaula popeza ndimakhala ndekha nthawi zambiri.
Kwa zaka zambiri ndakhala ndikufunsira wothandizira yemwe adandithandiza kusiya zolaula, ndipo tsopano ndayambanso kudzidalira ndikutha kuchita ndi mkazi pabedi. Nditayamba chibwenzi ndi chibwenzi changa, PIED inali yachilendo ndipo kugonana kunali kosavuta. Sindingathe kuchita nawo zogonana nthawi zonse ndikutha kumaliza, chifukwa nthawi zambiri ndimatha kutaya kaye ndisanafike. Lero, PIED ndi chinthu chakale. Ndimakhala ndimayendedwe am'mawa olimba m'mawa komanso ndimachita zolimba panthawi yogonana ndipo ndimatha kumaliza, kumaliza, kenako kukhala kovuta mphindi 5 pambuyo pake. Kuthetsa zolaula m'moyo wanga kwakhala kopambana ndipo kwakhala ndi zotsatira zenizeni.
Vuto langa latsopanoli ndikudzipeza ndili ndi mphamvu zambiri zogonana ndikukhumba kugonana ndi akazi ambiri. Ndimayang'ana azimayi pagulu mochita zachiwerewere ndipo nthawi zina ndimadzimva kuti ndadzutsidwa nawo, zomwe sizinachitike pomwe ndimakonda kuonera zolaula, chifukwa amayi enieni samatha kupikisana ndi nyenyezi zolaula. Tsopano ndapeza kuti amayi enieni amoyo ndiye nyenyezi zolaula, kupanda ungwiro kwa matupi awo ndizomwe zimandipangitsa kuti ndizikopeka nawo. Vuto lina lomwe ndili nalo ndikukakamiza kuseweretsa maliseche ndikukonzekera, ndichinthu chomwe ndikulimbanabe nacho ndipo ndiyenera kuyimitsa mwachangu momwe ndingathere. Kutalika kwambiri komwe ndidapita wopanda maliseche ndi masiku 37. Komabe, ndikukhulupirira kuti magawo osowa, ochepetsa maliseche si vuto bola ngati sangakonzekere ola limodzi. Ndikufuna kusiya kukonza ndikuchita maliseche mwina mwina masiku 30, ndikuwona ngati izi zimapangitsa chidwi changa chogonana kwa azimayi enieni kukhala olimba kapena ayi.
Zomwe ndingakulangize kwa anthu omwe akufuna kuthetsa zolaula m'miyoyo yawo ndi izi:
1) Onani wothandizira yemwe angazindikire zomwe zimakupangitsani kuti muwonere zolaula, ndikuyesera kuthetsa vutoli, kapena njira zothanirana nazo. Kwa ine, ndikuti ndinali munthu wosungulumwa kwambiri yemwe anali choyambitsa cha zolaula zanga zonse. Chifukwa chake wothandizira wanga anandiuza kuti ndipite kunja, ndikapange anzanga, ndikagwire ntchito yodzipereka, zochitika zilizonse zomwe zingandilepheretse kukhala ndekha zitha kugwira ntchito, itha kukhalanso masewera am'magulu. Ndili ndi ADHD, yomwe siimathandiza pakuwonera zolaula ndikuwongolera, chifukwa chake adandiuza kuti ndimwe mankhwala a ADHD, koma ndidakana chifukwa zina zoyipa za mankhwalawa ndizotsika kwambiri, zomwe ndinali nazo kale akudwala. Anthu ambiri amati "umakonda" zolaula. Zomwe wothandizira wanga anandiuza ndi "kuledzera" zolaula zimayambitsidwa ndi zomwe zimakuwonetsani. Mukakonza vutoli, kaya kukhala kusungulumwa, kupsinjika kwamaganizidwe, kusadzidalira pazonse zomwe mungachite, mudzatha kusintha njira zomwe mwakhala mukugwiritsa ntchito moyo wanu wonse kuthana ndi vutoli ndi chizolowezi chabwino (Kupanga abwenzi, kutuluka, ndi zina zambiri).
2) Chotsani zoyambitsa zonse: zida zilizonse zomwe mumagwiritsa ntchito kuwonera zolaula (piritsi, PC, foni yam'manja), zitsekeni, ziyikeni kwinakwake komwe simungathe kuzipeza. Ndidachotsa foni yanga yam'manja masiku 123 (zinali zovuta kuchita, koma ululu wofunikira kuti ndichite bwino). Ngati sizofunikira kwenikweni pantchito yanu kapena pamoyo wanu, zichotseni. Muyenera kuthana ndi vuto lililonse lomwe lingatengeke pang'ono kuti mupanganenso zolaula kwa masiku osachepera 90.
3) Ngati mukufunikira kugwiritsa ntchito PC kapena chilichonse chomwe mungathe kugwiritsa ntchito intaneti pantchito yanu, gwirani ntchito ngati simulola. Yambitsani mawonekedwe a ndege mwachitsanzo. Ngati simungathe kugwira ntchito popanda intaneti, gwiritsani ntchito zotchinga masamba awebusayiti kuti muletse chilichonse chokhudza achikulire pa intaneti ndikuyatsa Safe Search mukamagwiritsa ntchito Google.
4) Pezani mnzanu wothandizira, ndipo yesetsani kugonana mpaka pang'onopang'ono, kuyambira pachiwonetsero kenako ndikulowerera kwathunthu. Mutha kulowa, yambani ndi malo osavuta ngati amishonale ndipo mukayamba kulimba mtima, yambani kugwira ntchito ndi maudindo osiyanasiyana ndi mnzanu. Musayese kuthamangira malo osiyanasiyana kapena kulowa chifukwa PIED itha kubwereranso.
Kusiya zolaula ndi chinthu chovuta kwambiri kuchita pamoyo wanga patali kwambiri. Ndimakumbukirabe kumbuyo ndi malingaliro azakugonana, koma zachepa kwambiri ndipo ndimatha kuyang'ana pazinthu zamoyo wanga.
LINK - Tsiku 123 Ulendo Wanga
Wolemba - tom62
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