Pambuyo pake ndidazichita pambuyo poyesera kangapo, maaaaaany. Ndikuganiza kuti tsopano ndimvetsetsa njira yokhayo yochitira (kwa ine), ndipo ndikufuna kugawana nanu nonse.
Ndili ndi zaka 26 ndipo ndikuchita PMO kuyambira 12 kapena 13. Ndipo ndikutanthauza HARD PMO, ndikutanthauza maola ndi maola patsiku. Nthawi ina ndimayesa kuwerengera nthawi yochuluka bwanji yomwe ndimataya nthawi yowonera zolaula m'zaka zonsezo (kuwonjezera kuti kuyerekezera kwakanthawi kunali kodabwitsa) ndipo zotsatira zake zinali pafupifupi chaka chimodzi cha moyo wanga. CHAKA CHOONA.
Komabe, kusowa kwa moyo wamagulu komanso nkhawa zomwe zimachitika chifukwa cha PMO zimadziwika ndi aliyense, sizosadabwitsa kuti sindinadziwe kuti ndili ndi vuto mpaka 20 kapena 21, pomwe ndidayamba chibwenzi chaching'ono. Nkhani yayitali… sindinathe kulimba. Ndipo ngakhale ndikamwa mapiritsi osangalatsa sindimatha. Kugonana sikunali kosangalatsa, kunalibe kufanana ndi zolaula. Kenako ndidaphunzira za NoFap komanso chizolowezi chomwe chimakhala PMO, ndizoseketsa kuti sindimaganiziranso kuti ndinali ndikuledzera mpaka nthawi imeneyo. Kuyambira pamenepo ndinayesa kangapo kuti ndisiye njira zingapo: kupewa PMO kwa sabata imodzi kuti ndikwaniritse zogonana; kupewa zolaula koma kuseweretsa maliseche kamodzi pamlungu (Ndakhala miyezi 4 ndi ameneyo koma ndinayambiranso tchuthi); Kuyesera kusinthana ndi zolaula "zachilendo komanso zopepuka", ndi zina zambiri. Zinanditengera zaka ndikuyesera kuzisiya ndipo pang'onopang'ono ndinayamba kudzimva kuti ndine wolakwa komanso wokhumudwa nthawi iliyonse yomwe ine PMO, sindinathe kusiya kuyanjana ndi PMO ndi pafupifupi onse zinthu zoyipa mmoyo wanga ... ndipo ndimanena zowona:
- Thupi lopanda thanzi
- Kutaya mphamvu
- Kupanda zokhumba ndi zolinga
- Kusakhala ndi nthawi (kuwononga nthawi yochuluka)
- Pafupifupi moyo wogonana
- Sindinakhalepo ndi chibwenzi kapena ndakhala ndimtsikana yemweyo koposa 2 o 3 nthawi
- Osangokhala, osafuna kuchoka m'malo anga abwino
- Nice Guy matenda
Kwenikweni zinthu zonse zomwe sindimafuna mu fayilo yanga. Chifukwa chake zidanditengera zaka koma pamapeto pake ndidayambiranso masiku 90 ndikuyambiranso momwemo:
- Sanasankhe Gawo. Ndinazindikira kuti chimodzi mwazinthu zazikulu zomwe zidandipangitsa kuti ndibwererenso ndikuti ngakhale ndimayesetsa kupewa zolaula komanso kuseweretsa maliseche ndidadzilola kulota. Kwa ine, zovuta zilizonse zomwe ndinkalola "kukhala" posachedwa zidzanditsogolera. Ndipo ndidawalola kuti "azikhala" m'njira ziwiri: zolimbikitsa zomwe zimachitika nthawi ndi nthawi komanso pomwe ndimachita masewera olimbitsa thupi a Jelqing (tsopano ndimazichita popanda wokonda zilakolako ngakhale ndiribe vuto loti ndikhale ndi vuto kukhudza kosavuta). Chifukwa chake ndidaganiza kuti sindilola GANIZO LILILONSE la mtundu uliwonse kuti lipambane: "Ndimalipha" pakadali pano poganiza zinthu zoyipa kwambiri komanso zoyipa zomwe ndingaganizire popanda chimodzi. Palibe njira ina kwa ine.
- Osazipangitsa kukhala zovuta kuposa momwe ziyenera kukhalira. Ndaphunzira mabuku ambiri okhudzana ndi zizolowezi (ndimalimbikitsa kwambiri "The Compound Effect" ndi "Atomic Habits") Chizolowezi chilichonse chabwino kapena choyipa chimatha kugawidwa pazinthu zinayi, ndipo ndizosavuta kubera gawo lililonse kuti zithandizire mumapeza kapena kutaya chizolowezi (ngakhale zosokoneza). Ngati simungathe kukhala ndi chizolowezi kapena kutaya chizolowezi, simuli vuto, vuto ndiomwe mukugwiritsa ntchito. Muyenera kupanga zovuta kuti mukhale ndi chizolowezi choipa mwa: A) Kuchepetsa kuwonekera ndi zizindikilo kuchokera kumalo anu (musamawonere makanema, makanema, makanema, ndi zina zambiri, zomwe zili ndi zolaula. Ngakhale makanema apa vidiyo. Ikani malo ochezera a pa Intaneti, ndichizolowezi china ndikuwononga nthawi). B) Kuzipanga kukhala zosasangalatsa (mwachitsanzo "kupha" zilizonse ngakhale zitakhala ndi zithunzi zosasangalatsa NDIPO dziwitsani za zotsatirapo zoyipa za PMO). C) Kupangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kuchitika (kukhala otanganidwa, kukhala ndi zizolowezi pang'ono ndi pang'ono, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, kukhala ndi zizolowezi, kutuluka m'nyumba, ndi zina zotero. Kutuluka msanga pabedi ndikungotopa komanso opanda foni yam'manja). D) Kudzipindulira nokha (ndimagwiritsa ntchito pulogalamu yotsatira ya NoFap yomwe idandilimbikitsa kuti ndipitirize kunyanyala ndikukonzekera mphotho masiku onse a 4 ngati zovala, magalasi atsopano odulira buluu, zida zochitira masewera olimbitsa thupi, zolemba tattoo tsiku la 15 ndizofunika kwambiri kwa ine).
Chifukwa chake kaphatikizidwe:
- Sinthani malo omwe muli komanso "Pulani" aliyense wokonda zachiwerewere, ngakhale atayesedwa bwanji
- Gwiritsani ntchito pulogalamu yotsatira ya NoFap (Ndimagwiritsa ntchito Men Don´t Fap)
- DZIPERANI MADALITSO INU. Komanso ndinali ndi tattoo yokhala ndi tanthauzo lakuya masiku anga 90.
- Khalani ndi zizolowezi zatsopano ZABWINO NDI Zochepa, apo ayi mwina sangatheretu chifukwa sakhala mbali yanu YET.
- Onani m'maganizo moyo womwe mukufuna ndikulimbikira kuti mupeze. Yerekezerani mtundu wa munthu yemwe angakhale ndi moyo wotere ndikugwira ntchito kuti mukhale munthu ameneyo, kuti mutha kuchita zambiri zomwe mumakonda komanso zochepa zomwe simumakonda.
- Zindikirani zosokoneza zina m'moyo wanu ndikuzisiyanso. Sinthani mawu anu amkati: sikuti "ndikuyesera kusiya kusuta", sikuti "sindisuta". Ndichisankho chomwe mwasankha kuti chikhale gawo lanu.
- Ndipo chifukwa cha chikondi cha mulungu tulo ma ola asanu ndi atatu, musapangitse kuti zikhale zovuta thupi lanu ndi malingaliro anu
- Mabuku: Zotsatira Zapakati, Zizolowezi za Atomiki, Chifukwa Chiyani Timagona ?, Digital Minimalism, Ntchito Yakuya, Sukulu Ya Juliet Zotheka, Palibenso Mr.
Pepani chifukwa cha positi yayitali. Moyo wanga udasinthiratu muzochitika zanga komanso zantchito. Tsopano ndili ndi mphamvu zambiri, nthawi yochulukirapo, ndimakhala wolimbikira kwambiri, wolimba mtima, wathanzi, wokongola komanso ndikudziwa zomwe ndikufuna ndikugwira ntchito. Chifukwa chake ndikhulupilira kuti nonse mudzasiya izi ndikuyamba kukhala moyo wathu wonse!
PD: Ndidakhala ndi maloto 4 kapena 5 onyowa m'masiku 90, choncho osadandaula za zovuta zakusungidwa kwa umuna. Komanso sindinachite zogonana popeza sindimamva bwino kukumana ndi mtsikana watsopano ndikugonana pompano (COVID-19). Ndikhala motere kwa miyezi ingapo, koma ndikudziwa kuti ndikadzachita zogonana zitha kukhala zatsopano.
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