Ndinayamba nofap koyambirira kwa Nov 2020 nditazindikira / kuvomereza kuti ndakhala ndikudwala PIED. Kuchokera nthawi imeneyo, ndakhala ndi mikwingwirima yochepa komanso sabata limodzi lokha palibe PMO. Pakati pa mitsinjeyo, pakhala pali pafupifupi 6-8 MO resets ndi 3 PMO kubwerera (mwachidule "magawo"). PMO wanga womaliza wobwereranso anali pa Xmas tsiku la 2020. Palibe ngakhale pang'ono kuyambira pamenepo.
Posachedwa ndidafika pamndandanda wanga woyamba wamasiku 30 opanda PMO (mwina pafupi ndi 32 kapena apo, popeza sindimakonda kupachikidwa powerengera masiku enieni). Ndimangofuna kuti ndipereke lipoti lopita patsogolo kwa aliyense amene angawone kuti ndi othandiza / yosangalatsa. Nkhani yanga yonse yatumizidwa mgawo la PISD kotero ndiyesetsa kusunga izi posachedwa pazomwe ndikuwona / zomwe ndikuwona. (Chenjezo: Ndimakonda kulemba kuti izi zitha kukhala zazitali komanso zazitali. Khalani omasuka kudumpha zomwe simukuwona kuti ndizofunikira / zosangalatsa.)
chandalama: Nditangodutsa kumene tsiku la 30ish laposachedwa, ndidakhazikitsanso MO. Sindinagwiritse ntchito P, komabe. Sindikuganiza kuti chinali chobwezera chachikulu (makamaka chifukwa choti sichinali chosangalatsa). Komabe, sindingavomereze izi, komanso sindikukonzekera kupanga chizolowezi chawo.
Shit ndimachita (zogwirizana ndi nofap):
- Yoga (tsiku lililonse)
- Kusinkhasinkha (tsiku lililonse)
- Breathwork (3-4x sabata iliyonse)
- Maphunziro apakatikati (5x sabata iliyonse, thupi lathunthu / masiku opuma)
- Cold Showers (4-5x sabata iliyonse, palibe mvula yotentha)
- Kulemba
- Zakudya zoyenera
- Nthawi yogwira panja (mokhudzana ndi momwe zinthu ziliri padziko pano)
Mzere wapansi:
Pafupifupi pomwe pomwe PMO wanga womaliza adabwereranso (12-25-20), ndidapita pansi. Zinali zovuta kwambiri. Zinkawoneka ngati zofananira ndi zomwe ambiri amafotokoza. Kusintha kwanyengo, kukhumudwa, kusowa tulo, chifunga chaubongo, mbolo yododometsa, kulowetsa m'malo osambira ... zonse zoyipa. Ndinaona kuti ndizovuta kupeza chilimbikitso chochitira zinthu zambiri. Ndikanakhala ndi mphindi zochepa zakulimbikitsidwa / chisangalalo koma zinali zakanthawi. Ponena zakanthawi kochepa, tiyeni tikambirane za maboners anga. Ma boners anga, komanso libido yanga, anali osapezekanso. Mwamwayi, flatline idapereka nyengo yazolakalaka pafupifupi zero. Zinali zoyipa nthawi zina koma ndinakwanitsa. Zikuwoneka kuti zakhala pafupifupi masiku 21-24 koma sindinakhale zowona. Nditha kukhalabe m'modzi. Zimakhala zovuta kunena nthawi zina.
Komanso kudziwa, kudzipatula chifukwa cha miliri yomwe ikuchulukirachulukira kwakhala ndi zotsatirapo pazizindikiro zonse zam'mutu zomwe zatchulidwa pamwambapa. Zowonadi, ndakhala ndikugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yosaonekera pamaso pa chinsalu (netflix ndi youtube), zomwe mosakayikira zimakhudza mphamvu / mikhalidwe / kupita patsogolo kwanga. Komabe, ndikuganiza kuti ndikofunikira kukumbukira kuti kuchezerana ndikukwaniritsa zopindulitsa zazikulu pamoyo wanu sizinthu zosavuta kuwonetsa munthawi ngati izi. Ngakhale adandilimbikitsabe kwambiri kuti ndisinthe izi m'moyo wanga, ndikudziwa kuti kuyesera kuwathamangitsa pomwe dziko lapansi liyenera kugunda kaye sikungakhale kwanzeru kapena kopindulitsa. Ndikudziwa kuti ndili pachiyambi pazomwe zitha kukhala njira yayitali yochira, chifukwa chake ndikusankha kuti ndisadzipanikizire. Mbolo yanga ikusankhanso kuti ikhale yovuta pa iyo yokha, koma mwanjira ina yeniyeni.
Masiku 10 apitawa kapena apo (ndipo ndizabwino kwambiri kuyambira kuyambira nofap):
Pambuyo pa masabata atatu pazomwe zimawoneka ngati zopanda pake (ndipo pafupifupi miyezi itatu ya nofap mindset), ndakhala ndikumva bwino sabata yatha kapena apo. Masiku enanso amanyazi koma amakwaniritsidwa bwino. Ndili ndi zabwino zambiri zomwe ndimapeza pazisankho zanga za tsiku ndi tsiku zokhudzana ndi moyo wathanzi, koma malingaliro a nofap ndi chikhumbo changa chofuna kukonza PIED zandithandiza kuti ndizitsatira zomwe ndasankha. Nazi zitsanzo zina za zopindulitsa koma ndikutsimikiza kuti ndayiwala chimodzi chimodzi:
- Kuwonjezeka kowonekera kwa mphamvu komanso kuwonekera kwamaganizidwe: Ndazindikira kuti ndimayankhula molunjika kwambiri ndikudzidalira ndikugawana malingaliro anga posachedwa, zomwe ndi zomwe ndakhala ndikulimbana nazo. Ndakhala ndikupanga zisankho mwachangu kwambiri. Zandilola kuti ndizisangalala ndi nthawi yanga yambiri ndikuchita zinthu zomwe ndimakonda. Ndimakwanitsa kuchita zambiri, m'malo mongokhala wopunduka osachita chilichonse komanso ulesi. Ponseponse, ndimamva kulimba. Tikukhulupirira kuti mbolo yanga idzalimbikitsidwa ndikumverera chimodzimodzi.
- Kukopa kwabwino: Ndikakhala pamaso pa ma gals, ndimawona zokopa zambiri pamphamvu ndi umunthu wawo, osati thupi / mawonekedwe awo okha. Pakhala nthawi yayitali kuyambira pomwe ndimamvanso choncho ndipo ndikulingalira kuti zidzakhala bwino pakapita nthawi. Zowona, ndakhala ndisanayankhe mwakuthupi / mwanyama mthupi / ndimayang'ana kwakanthawi (osatsimikiza kuti mapulani anga adayamba liti). Mwinanso ndimakhala ndi nthawi yochulukirapo yomwe imabwerera mwakale koma ndikuyamba kuyamikira. Ndimakonda lingaliro loti sindikhala mnyamata yemwe amatsogolera zogonana. Kwenikweni kutembenuka kwakukulu kwa aliyense amene ndingaganize kuti ndi chisankho chabwino kuti agwirizane naye. Ngakhale malingaliro anga (omwe ndingakulimbikitseni kuchepetsa ngati muli pano) akhala osamvetsetseka posachedwa (mwachitsanzo, kukumbatirana, kupsompsonana, kusangalala, kukumbukira zakale, ndi zina zambiri). Ndazindikiranso kuti ndikuwoneka kuti ndikuwonetsa chidwi / kukopa kwa ma gals ambiri, omwe ndi amodzi mwamapindu omwe ndakhala ndikufunitsitsa. Chisamaliro sichimakhala chogonana nthawi zonse, nthawi zina ndimangomva ulemu komanso kutonthozedwa. Komabe, ndalandiradi kukopana kodziwikiratu komanso zisonyezo zosangalatsa kuposa momwe ndikukumbukira m'mbuyomu. Chifukwa cha izi mwina ndichakuti chifunga cha zolaula chikuyamba kukwera ndipo ndikuyamba kuzindikira pomwe gal ikuwoneka kuti ili ndi chidwi. Kumveka kwamaganizowa kumandithandizanso kukhala ndi chidaliro cholankhula nawo ndikungokhala ozizira m'malo mongomangika mwamphamvu. Ponseponse, ndimamva ngati ndikupita patsogolo pagululi.
- Moyo ndi kusintha zolinga: Ndakhala ndikuyesetsa kwambiri kuti ndizisamalira ndekha, zomwe zakhala ndi zotsatira zabwino kwambiri. Monga ndanenera poyamba, malingaliro a nofap andithandiza kuti ndikhale ndi zizolowezi zathanzi / moyo wabwino (zomwe ndidalemba pamwambapa) zomwe ndikulinga kuti ndikhalebe moyo. Ndakhala ndikufuna kupanga zosintha zambiri kwakanthawi koma sindinawathandize. Malingaliro a nofap ndi chikhumbo changa choyambiranso / rewire zandipatsa chifukwa champhamvu choyambira kuyesetsa kuti ndizidzikonda ndikukhala ndi tsogolo labwino komanso labwino, mwakuthupi ndi m'maganizo. Mwachitsanzo, chimodzi mwa zolinga zanga ndikupita koyenda ngati zinthu ngati izi zilibwino. Chifukwa chake, ndikugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yanga yowonekera kuti ndiphunzire Chisipanishi kudzera pa makanema aku youtube. Ndinaiwalanso kutchula kuti ndikuyamba mankhwala posachedwa. Ichi ndi chachikulu kwa ine ndipo ndikukhulupirira kuti ndisintha masewera ena. Ponseponse, ndimamva bwino ndi zomwe ndikuchita ndi nthawi yanga masiku ano.
- MW, ma boners wamba, libido, ndi zina zambiri…: Pafupifupi sabata yapitayo (mwina koposa) Ndinayamba kumva kuunika kwakanthawi kwa libido ndikudzuka. Ndakhala ndikupeza MW tsiku lililonse koma sizikhala motalika. Nthawi zina amakhala ndi mphamvu zonse, nthawi zina theka kapena kucheperapo. Zomwezo zimapita kwa maboners wamba. Ndazindikira kuti ndimatha kukhala wolimba ndimalingaliro ndekha (w / o ngakhale kukhudza), zomwe zimawoneka ngati kusintha koma palibe chomwe chingamangiridwe kapena kusangalala. Ndimayesetsa kuti malingaliro anga akhale abwino komanso owona, koma ngakhale atha kubweretsa zilakolako zosayenera, zomwe ndizofunika kupewa poyambiranso. Nkhani yayitali, ndazindikira kusintha kwina koma ndikudziwa kuti ndili ndi zambiri zoti ndichite / ndikuyembekezera. Ndikutsimikiza kuti ndikadali ndi PIED ndipo mwina ndikumana ndi zovuta koma ndimamva ngati ndadutsa pakuyipitsitsa. Mwinamwake sindimva kupita patsogolo koyenera kwambiri mu dipatimentiyi mpaka nditayamba kuyanjananso ndi mnzanga.
- Kuchepetsa zilakolako za P: Kuyambira pomwe P yanga yomaliza idabwereranso, ndapeza kuti sizovuta kuonera zolaula. Ndikudziwa kuti sizimachitika kawirikawiri m'mafamuwa ndipo sindikutanthauza kuti ndizinyalanyaza, zongondichitikira ndekha. Zomwe ndakhala ndikubwereranso kuyambira pomwe ndidayamba nofap zakhala zazifupi kwambiri komanso zosakhutiritsa; amawoneka kuti atuluka kwambiri chifukwa chakukhumudwa / kukhumudwa m'malo modzuka. Sanapereke zomwe ndimayembekezera ndipo malingaliro omwe atsatira nthawi yomweyo sanali achimwemwe, kunena pang'ono. Zinandipweteka kwambiri. Ndili ndi mwayi (mwa njira) kuti ndikhale ndi chizolowezi chomwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo (makamaka heroin) yomwe inandiphunzitsa zambiri za kudziletsa komanso kutalika komwe ndimatha kukasangalala / dopamine. Ndidaphunzira kalekale kuti "kamodzi kokha" sikundigwirira ntchito. Mmodzi ndi wochulukirapo ndipo chikwi sichikwanira. Ndikumva kuti ndine wotsimikiza kuti P ndiyofanana momwe zimakhudzira ubongo, chifukwa chake ndimadzimva kuti ndili ndi zida zokwanira ndikamalimbana ndi zikhumbo masiku ano. P wayamba kale kukhala chikumbukiro chakutali. Zachidziwikire, zimangobwerabe m'mutu mwanga nthawi ndi nthawi koma sizimandigwira monga kale. Ponseponse, zolakalaka zimakomoka ndikucheperachepera masana. Umu ndi momwe ndimafotokozera ma boners anga pomwe ndimagwiritsabe ntchito P.
Ponseponse, ndimamva bwino kwambiri kuposa momwe ndinkamvera miyezi ingapo yapitayo. Ngakhale kuposa momwe ndinazindikira kuti ndinali ndi PIED. Uku kwakhala kutsegulira kwa maso ndipo ngakhale zakhala zopweteka kwambiri nthawi zina, ndikuganiza ndimafunikira chothandizira choyenera kuti ndibwezeretse njira yanga. Ngakhale ndikudziwa kuti covid ipanga rewiring pang'ono, ndili wokondwa kuti ikundipatsa nthawi yakukhazikitsa zizolowezi zatsopano m'moyo wanga. Ndikumva kuti uwu ndi mwayi wapadera womwe sindikufuna kuwononga. Titha kuponyanso wrench pamoyo ngati dziko lonse lapansi likuchita kale izi. Ufulu wakudzisankhira ndi mphatso yayikulu kwambiri yomwe tili nayo.
Zikomo powerenga ngati mwafika pano. Pepani ngati lipotili likuwoneka ngati lanzeru kuposa lakuthupi. Monga mwachizolowezi, ndikukulimbikitsani kuti mundifunse mafunso aliwonse omwe mungakhale nawo okhudzana ndi moyo wanga / moyo wanga / maboners omwe mungawathandize kwambiri / otonthoza pamkhalidwe wanu. Kapenanso, ngati mungafune kuti ndifotokoze chilichonse chomwe ndanenapo, izi zingayambitsenso kufunsa mafunso. Ndimayesetsa kukhala buku lotseguka ngati ndikumva kuti lingathandize ena. Nthawi zonse ndimakhala wokonzeka kulandira upangiri / kutsutsidwa mukaona zolakwika zilizonse m'malingaliro mwanga kapena momwe ndimafikira nofap. Ingodziwa, sindimapachikidwa pamalamulo kapena mitundu ina ya nofap koma ndimalemekeza kumvetsetsa kwa aliyense ndikuchita. Ndangokhala pano kuti ndigawe zomwe ndakumana nazo ndikukhulupirira kuti ndiphunzira kuchokera kwa ena.
Chinthu chimodzi chomwe ndinganene motsimikiza ndikuti zimakhala bwino kwambiri pambuyo pa mwezi woyamba. Mwezi woyamba unali wovuta kwambiri kwa ine ndipo ndawerenga malipoti ofanana nawo. Kuyambira pamenepo, zinthu zangokhala bwino ndikukhala bwinoko. Masiku ena opusa komanso zovuta zamtsogolo koma ndikumva kukhala wokonzeka. Ngati muli ndi malingaliro oyenera, mudzayamba kuwona zinthu zazing'ono m'moyo zomwe ndizofunika kwambiri kwa inu ndipo zidzakupangitsani kudabwa kuti ndichifukwa chiyani mukuwononga nthawi yochuluka kufunafuna zosangalatsa zopanda pake ngati P. Ngati muli pano , mwachiwonekere mumasamala za inu nokha mokwanira kuvomereza kuti muli ndi vuto ndipo mukufunitsitsa kuyamba kuchitapo kanthu kuti mukonze vuto lanu. Kuchira kulikonse kumawoneka kosiyana ndiye kuti upangiri wanga wabwino ndikuti musinthe nokha ndikupanga tanthauzo. Sindikukonzekera kugwiritsa ntchito P, ngakhale PIED yanga itachiritsidwa. Sikoyenera kuwonongeka komwe kumachitika. Sindikukonzekera MOING posachedwa koma makamaka chifukwa nthawi yomaliza (masiku angapo apitawo, monga tafotokozera mu chodzikanira) sizinali zosangalatsa komanso zimawoneka ngati njira yanzeru kuyeserera kugonana kwanga pamene. Ndili ndi chikhulupiriro kuti ibweranso, mwina kuposa kale.
Simukuyembekezera kugawana nkhani yopambana yoti mugawane ndi anthu onse nthawi ina posachedwa. Zikomo kachiwiri powerenga ndikudandaula ngati ndanena boners nthawi zambiri. Limbikitsani!
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