Ndakhala ndi 2017 yovuta kwambiri, kuyambira ndikumwalira kwa abambo anga Januware watha. Ndakhala chaka chatha ndikufufuza za chizolowezi changa chogonana (ndimakhalidwe ena okakamiza) ndipo ndidayamba kufunafuna chithandizo chamankhwala ndi pulogalamu ya 12-step. Ndine wokondwa kwambiri kunena kuti dzulo ndinapatsidwa masiku 300 osapumira pachikhalidwe chogonana.
Zina mwazinthu zomwe zandithandiza ndi:
1) Pulogalamu yamagawo 12. Chimodzi mwazinthu zoyambirira zomwe ndidaphunzira pulogalamu yanga ndikuti kusuta kwanga ndimomwe ndimathandizira kuthana nawo. Mwa kulowa mu pulogalamu yothandizira, ndaphunzira kuti sindili ndekha pamavuto anga, nditha kupeza thandizo, ndipo sindikusowa zolaula kuti ndipirire moyo wanga. Chinthu china chofunika chimene ndinaphunzira chinali chakuti kupita kumisonkhano ndekha adandichotsa pakompyuta yanga. Sindikufuna kuyambitsa mabwalo, chifukwa ndipamene ndidayambira, koma kutuluka mnyumba yanga ndikukhala ndimacheza enieni ndi omwe ndimagonana nawo kunali KWAMBIRI.
2) Chithandizo. Ndimayankhula sabata iliyonse ndi wothandizira za ZONSE. Kuyankhula zamavuto ndi njira yabwino yothetsera mavutowa ndipo ndikuphunzira momwe ndingafotokozere zosowa zanga komanso nkhawa zanga ndi onse omwe ali pafupi nane.
3) Kupeza othandizira. Pamabwalo, ndinali ndi bwanawe, yemwe anali wabwino, koma ndili ndi wondithandizira mu pulogalamu yanga (5 zaka zambiri zamagulu osokoneza bongo, 25 zaka zakumwa zoledzeretsa komanso zamankhwala osokoneza bongo) yemwe wandithandizira kwambiri kuti ndichite manyazi zambiri zogonana zogonana zenizeni zenizeni.
Pambuyo pazaka ziwiri ndi theka ndikulimbana ndi nofap ndekha, ntchito yowonjezerayi yomwe ndachita yapindula.
Ndine wokondwa kugawana kuti ubale wanga ndi chibwenzi changa ndibwino kuposa kale lonse. Timagonana pafupipafupi ndipo ndaphunzira kuyankha "ayi" yankho. Heck, ndili bwino ndikumuuza izi Ndine kutopa kwambiri. Ndawona kuchepa kwakukulu pakulakalaka ndikukonzekera zogonana. Ndayambanso kuyimba ngoma - ngati ntchito yeniyeni, osati kungosangalala.
Mphatso zomwe ndalandira zidaposa "mphamvu zanga zazikulu". Ndikukulimbikitsani nonse kuti mupitirize!
Ndikuganiza kuti ndi izi pakadali pano. Ndikungofuna kugawana nanu anyamata kuti matendawa ndiwotheka kuthana nawo. Ngati mukuwona kuti mukuvutika kuti mukhale olimba, musawope kutengera izi gawo lina ndikuyamba kufunafuna thandizo.
Kwa ine, kuzindikira kuti kuchuluka kwa kuyambiranso masiku a 90 sikunali kokwanira ndichinthu chabwino kwambiri chomwe ndikadadzichitira ndekha.
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Hei aliyense. Ndalemba zolemba zoyipa zazitali kwambiri, ndipo ndikukhulupirira kuti nditha kuzilemba mpaka kutalika. Ndine wazaka 34, kwathu ku New Jersey, ndipo tsopano ndikukhala ku California. Anandichotsa pantchito yanga yazaka 12 mu Januware. Pakadali pano ndikuphunzirira chiphaso changa cha PMP (Project Management Professional) ndikuyembekeza kuti chimandipatsa ntchito yabwino kwambiri yomwe imalipira kawiri kuposa momwe ndimalipirira (nditha kuyembekezera, sichoncho?).
Ndine m'modzi mwamibadwo yomwe ili pakompyuta. Ndinali ndi kompyuta mnyumbamo chifukwa bambo anga ankagwiritsa ntchito makompyuta kuyambira ndili mwana, koma sindinatero amafunika kukhala ndi yanga mpaka nditamaliza koleji. Foni yanga yoyamba idakhala nthawi yayitali ndikufa m'bokosi lamagalimoto langa.
Ndinayamba kufunafuna zolaula ndili ndi zaka 11 kapena 12 ndipo ndidapeza mindandanda yoyitanitsa ya VHS ya abambo anga. Poyamba zithunzi (zogonana mwachizolowezi) zidatembenuza mimba yanga, komabe ndimakondabe kubwerera kukaziyang'ana. Pambuyo pake ndidapeza matepi obisika ndipo ndimakumbukirabe zina mwa izo. Pakadali pano, sindinadziwe zomwe ndimachita ndipo sindinakhalepo PMO kwa miyezi ingapo mgululi.
Mwinanso patatha chaka chimodzi pomwe ndidayamba kulowa pakompyuta ndipo ndimachita masewera osavuta ndikulemba nyimbo zanga za MIDI kuti ndiziyikemo. Gawo la nyimbo lidakakamira ndipo ndikulembabe ndikusewera nyimbo mpaka pano. Tsoka ilo, chinthu china chomwe chidakanika chinali zolaula pa intaneti - ngakhale sindikudziwa ngati zili choncho liwilo lalikulu pamene mukuyembekezera chithunzi kuti mutsegule… .modzi…. mapikiselo… ..pam …… a… ..nthawi.
Pakadali pano, sikunali koyenera kuti mupeze zithunzi pa intaneti, ndipo ndikuganiza kuti ndinali ndi unyamata wabwinobwino wongoganiza zongopeka m'malingaliro mwanga. Koma posakhalitsa chatekinolojeyo idakhala bwino ndipo ndimatha kupeza makanema (zidutswa zachiwiri za 30 zinali ngati mphatso yochokera kwa Mulungu!) Ndipo ndikuganiza mutha kulingalira zomwe zidachitika kuchokera pamenepo.
Ndataya unamwali wanga ndili ndi zaka 15 koma ndinapitilizabe chizolowezi changa ndipo izi zimangokulirakulira pomwe chatekinolojeyo ikulira.
Pomwe ndimakhala ku koleji, nthawi zina ndimayang'ana pakompyuta ya mnzanga kapena ndimagwiritsa ntchito abambo anga ndikakhala kunyumba. Pambuyo pake ndimagonana koyamba pafupipafupi ndi mtsikana yemwe anali ndi chibwenzi, ndipo mwamunayo anali wosangalatsa. Posakhalitsa izi zitayima (werengani monga: tidazindikira), ndinali ndi mwana wanga wamkazi ndipo timagonana nthawi zonse.
Apa ndipamene ndidayamba kuzindikira zovuta zina za ED. Ndikulimbikira kuti ndikhale ndi mtundu wina wogonana, kaya ndi kugonana kapena PMO, tsiku lililonse.
Kutumiza mwachangu pang'ono apa - Nditamaliza koleji ndinali ndi vuto - msungwanayo adanditaya ndipo ndidayamba kumwa kwambiri. Ndimakhala ndekha ndipo ndipamene ndimatha kutsimikizira kuti chizolowezi changa cha tsiku ndi tsiku chidakhazikika - m'mawa ndi usiku, pabedi. Chowonadi ndichakuti, mwina chinali chizolowezi chatsiku ndi tsiku, ngakhale ndimakumbukira makamaka ndikusangalala ndikakhala ndichinsinsi nditapeza malo anga.
Ndinali ndimagonana awiri kapena atatu nthawi imeneyo, koma aliyense anali ndi vuto laling'ono la ED, sanachedwetse kumiza komanso nkhawa zonse zotsatana nazo.
Tsopano, patha zaka pafupifupi 10 kuchokera nthawi imeneyo. Ndakhala pachibwenzi ndi mtsikana watsopano kwa zaka 2.5 zapitazi ndipo ndikutsimikiza kuti ndiye. Sizinatenge nthawi yayitali kukhala pachibwenzi kuti tipeze kuti tonsefe timasewera maliseche tsiku lililonse. Chifukwa chake tidaganiza kuti "Hei, tiyeni tileke izi ndikuzisungitsa tikakumana". Ndipo ndipamene zidandigunda. Sindingathe kuyima.
Mzere wanga wodziletsa kwambiri pazaka 2.5 zapitazi wakhala masiku 21. Ndinkamuuza msungwana wanga nthawi zina ndikatuluka, koma osakwanira. Ndasiya kukhala ndi zizindikilo zanga za ED komanso zina, ndimangogwira ntchito bwino kumeneko, chifukwa sichinakhale vuto. Mumtima komabe, ikugwiritsa ntchito chida chake. Ndikuwonetsa mtunda wonse, kutsutsa komanso zikhalidwe zina zotsutsana ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu zomwe zimagwirizana ndi zolaula nthawi yayitali. Akusokoneza ubale wanga.
M'miyezi yapitayi, ndayamba kuyesa zosefera komanso zotchingira masamba awebusayiti, koma kenako ndidayamba kugwiritsa ntchito ma P-subs, ndi ntchito zina kuzungulira.
Pomaliza, masiku awiri apitawo, ndinali wokhumudwa kuti sindingathe kuyima ndipo ndidayamba kuwerenga yourbrainonporn ndikuwonera makanema oyambiranso. Zinandigunda ngati kuwunikira - sindingathe kuwongolera. Ndiponso, ndinaulula kwa bwenzi langa ngati kuti zonse zinali zatsopano kwa ine. Adandikumbutsa nthawi zina zomwe ndimazindikira kale, ndipo ndidadabwa kuti sindidakumbukire momwe ndidamupwetekera m'mbuyomu. Ndinadzilola ndayiwala kwathunthu tsiku ndi tsiku ndipo zidachoka. Kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kunakhala kofunika kwambiri mobwerezabwereza.
Ngakhale zili choncho, iye akundichirikiza ndi lingaliro langa kuti ndipeze thandizo.
Kubwerera ku 2011, ndidakhala mu AA ngati gawo lamalamulo kukhothi la DUI. Ndinakhala ndikumvetsera ndikuganiza, "Sindine ngati awa." Ndipo moona mtima, ndikukhulupirira moona kuti ndilibe vuto lakumwa. Nditha kumwa kapena kusamwa, nditha kukhala nawo, ndimatha kucheza nawo, ndipo sizingakhale zotopetsa. Osati monga zolaula zimachitira. Sindingathe kumiza chala changa m'madzi awa.
Chifukwa chake ...
Cholinga changa choyamba ndi masiku 7 kenako 30. Sindinawonepo 30.
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