Ndayimirira pamapewa a zimphona patsamba lino, koma ndikuganiza kuti ndabwera mayankho olimba ku mafunso ambiri omwe amafunsidwa pano.
Mukangowona koyamba zingaoneke ngati zomwe ine ndikunena sizingagwire ntchito kwa inu omwe muli achichepere komanso osakwatiwa, koma ndimvereni chifukwa ndikuganiza kuti zikugwiranso ntchito kwa inu.
Mbiri yachangu kwa ine ndikuti ndine woyamba 40's ndikwatiwa zaka 12. Kugonana kumakhala kwabwinoko muukwati wanga wonse womwe ndimagwiritsa ntchito ngati chowiringula kuti ndisachite nawo zolaula zanga zakale. Ndidadzinyenga poganiza kuti ndiyenera kuchita bwino. Pamapeto pake mothandizidwa ndi tsamba lino ndidatenga momwemo ndipo kwa zaka za 2 sindinapeze PMO ndisanabwererenso m'miyezi ingapo yapitayo (zolozera za zolaula koma ndimadziuza kuti zinali zosiyana ndi zina). Pang'onopang'ono ndaika chithunzi cha zomwe zimachitika kwenikweni ndi chizolowezi choonera zolaula komanso momwe zimagwirizirana ndi kugonana kwenikweni komanso maubale enieni.
1. Zolaula ndi ubale weniweni. Ndife owoneka kwambiri ngati nyama ndipo mukamakhala nthawi yayitali mukuyang'ana akazi ndi kugonana, mumapanga zodziwika bwino. Gawo lake ndi nkhope zomwe anthu amazidziwa bwino ndipo mbali ina yake ndi pulogalamu yokhazikika yomwe amakhala pakompyuta. Uwu ndi gawo la ubale weniweni, kotero ngati muli pachiyanjano china ndi mkazi wamoyo ndiye kuti mukubera. Ndikunena izi chifukwa mukukongoletsa zithunzi za akazi awa zomwe zimabwereza m'mutu mwanu usana ndi usiku. Tangoganizirani ngati bwenzi lanu anali ndi zithunzi zolaula za nyenyezi zolaula zamphongo zomwe zimamumangirira usana ndi usiku komanso pamene anali kugona nanu? Kubera mayeso chifukwa kumachotsa ulemu kwa munthu amene muli naye. (Ndikadasiya zolaula kale ndikadazindikira izi).
2. Zolaula zimawononga mphamvu. Zinalembedwa bwino patsamba lino kuti ndife akapolo a dopamine hit, koma zomwe sizinafotokozedwe ndizakuti muyenera kuchira kuchokera kumenyaku. Imbani mphamvu zakugonana zomwe mungafune (mwina osakaniza zina zingapo), koma zilipo. Kutha kwa mphamvu kumasiya chidziwitso chomwe ndikukayikira kuti tonse tikudziwa bwino pano. Kuwona mtima kungawoneke ngati kanthu kakang'ono, koma ndikukhulupirira kuti ndichinthu champhamvu kwambiri. Chimodzi mwa izo ndi mulingo wokhumudwitsa moyo wanu. Simukufuna zinthu zomwezo, simuyankha momwe mungakhalire mwanjira ina, simumawoneka ngati munthu yemweyo kwa iwo omwe amakudziwani bwino (pokhapokha atakudziwani kale). Ndikuganiza kuti zimatenga masiku owerengeka kuti mulandire mphamvu, ndiye chifukwa chake ambiri osokoneza bongo a PMO samapeza mwayi woti ayambe kuchira.
Kodi zimasiyira kuti chizolowezi chodziseweretsa maliseche nthawi zonse kwa munthu yemwe wabwereratu vuto? Kuti musunge mphamvu ndimaona kuti ndibwino kuti muchepetse malire. Aliyense ndiwosiyana koma kwa ine zaka zanga momwemonso sindingatchulidwe kamodzi kokha.
3. Kugonana kwabwino kwambiri (ndikukhulupirira) kuli ngati kusinkhasinkha komwe muyenera kupewa kusokonekera (komanso kupewa kuganizira zamtunduwu) monganso momwe mumapewa kuganiza komanso kusinkhasinkha. Chiwombankhanga chikuyenera kukhala chochitika mwangozi chomwe simukanatha kupewa kwamuyaya. Poganizira za mpweya wanu komanso chidziwitso chanu mutha kukwaniritsa izi, koma simungathe poganiza kuti "musaganize, musaganize" kapena "musabwere, musabwere". Ndizovuta kuchita, koma pang'ono pang'ono zichitika. Mukangochita chimakhala ngati khomo likutsegulirani. Mwadzidzidzi chidziwitsocho chimakhala chomiza kwathunthu komanso chenicheni. Inu muli mu "mphindi". Zotsatira zake ndizomwe zimakhala zopanda nkhawa, zosafulumira komanso zolemera mu chilichonse chomwe PMO ilibe.
Asanamvetsetse izi, kugonana (kapena kusinkhasinkha) kuli ngati zomwe munthu wachitatu, pomwe iwe umangodziyang'ana wekha uzichita izi kwinaku ndikudziyerekeza wekha pazosankha ndi momwe ukuchitira. Kuti "kudzipenyerera" kuli ngati chiyembekezo cha zomwe adakumana nazo za PMO. Mukudziwona kuti ndinu wosewerera kanema wanu wamaliseche. Kuti mumve zambiri popewa orgasm google Karezza.
Mukuwona chipembedzo chodziwika pansipa? Kuzindikiritsa ndi kuletsa. Ili ndiye nkhondo yomenyedwa. Ziribe kanthu kuti ndinu ndani kapena mukufuna chani pamoyo, mukufuna kukhala okhudzidwa mokwanira ndi izi, mufuna kudziwa zomwe mungachite. Osakhala owonerera.
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