Ndimadzimva kuti ndikulephera kulemba pansi pa gawo la nkhani zopambana - pang'ono kufuna kwanga kuti anthu asandione ngati odzitamandira, komanso kuzengereza kwanga kulengeza kupambana pasadakhale. Ndikukhulupirira kuti simukuzindikira zomwe ndalemba ngati momwemo, koma pangano la mphamvu yolimbikira (zanditengera zaka 20 kuti ndifike pano) komanso chofunikira kwambiri pamsonkhanowu, womwe ndi nkhani yopambana ndipo chopanda chikaikiro chidakhala chidutswa cha jigsaw chomwe ndakhala ndikusowa kwa zaka zonse zomwe ndakhala ndikulimbana ndikupitilira kugwa. Ndili wokondwa kwambiri kwa onse pano chifukwa chogawana nzeru zawo, kudzichepetsa komanso kukhala nawo limodzi komanso kundithandiza.
Cholinga changa polemba izi ndi ziwiri - kupereka chiyembekezo ndi upangiri kwa iwo omwe abwera kumene kumsonkhano kapena omwe akuvutika - ndayesetsa kutaya zomwe ndaphunzira zomwe zandithandizira kuti masiku anga a 90 akhale oyera, ambiri anatengedwa kuchokera pazokambirana pano. Kachiwiri, ndikulemba ndikudzikumbutsa ndekha za kupita patsogolo komwe ndapanga - chopezera mwina munthawi ya zosowa zanga zamtsogolo.
M'malo mongokufotokozerani zambiri zaulendo wanga pano, ngati mukufuna kudziwa zambiri za momwe zakhalira, chonde khalani omasuka kuyang'ana positi yoyamba m'mbiri yanga:
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Nkhani yabwino yomwe ndiyenera kukugawanizani zilibe kanthu komwe muli paulendo wanu, ndipo ngakhale mutakhala mukuyesera nthawi yayitali bwanji, ziribe kanthu momwe zinthu zingawonekere mopanda chiyembekezo, ndikukhulupirira kuti kusintha ndi kuchita bwino ndikotheka (kumatanthauza kumasulidwa ku chizolowezi cha PMO - Maliseche Oseweretsa Maliseche Pazovuta zilizonse). Sitinabadwe ndi zovutazi… zidaphunziridwa… chifukwa chake titha kuziphunzira.
Nkhani yachiwiri yabwino ndiyakuti kutengera masiku 90 apitawa, ndikukuwuzani kuti moyo wopanda PMO ndiosangalatsa komanso wopindulitsa popanda iwo. Kusangalala, kugona bwino, kukhazikika m'maganizo, machitidwe abwino - kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, kudya bwino, kupsa mtima pang'ono komanso kukhumudwa. Ndakhala mwamuna wabwino, kholo komanso munthu wabwino. M'masiku 90 apitawa ndabwezeretsanso zomwe ndikuganiza kuti ndi masabata 13 x maola 10 pa sabata = maola 130 kapena 5 DAY MASIKU OKWANA okonzekera, kucheza, kuseweretsa maliseche… nthawi yomwe ndimabisala manyazi ndi mkazi wanga , ana aakazi ndi abwenzi… .kuchokera kwa ine ngakhale. Ndili ndi zaka 47. Ngati ndingakhale ndi zaka 90 ndikupitilira izi, ndidzakhala ndikubwezeretsanso masiku 932 kapena ZAKA ZIWIRI NDI CHIWIRI CHA moyo wanga (Kodi mungaganizire kwambiri za PMOing kwa zaka ziwiri ndi theka… zolimba?!… Onjezani maola 8 tsiku lililonse kugona mmbuyo ndi zaka zake zapafupi za 4!). Kuphatikiza apo ndalimbikitsanso kwambiri nthawi yomwe sindinawononge PMOing, koma ndikadakhala kuti ndikukumana ndi zotsatira za PMO zomwe sizodziwika bwino. [Maganizo anga pa chifukwa kucheza ndi vuto linalake.]
KOMA… siulendo wophweka. Ichi ndichizolowezi, ndipo mawonekedwe omwe amachititsa kuti zikhale zovuta kuwapangitsa kukhala ovuta kusiya. Koma sizosatheka. Zomwe tili pano zikuwonetsa kuti tazindikira kuti tili ndi vuto ndipo tikufuna kuchitapo kanthu. Izi zokha zimakulitsa bwino kuchuluka kwathu. Achinyamata ambiri mwatsoka amakhala ndi chizolowezi ichi mwakachetechete ndikukana, osazindikira vutoli, ndipo osati chithandizo ndi chithandizo cha ena chomwe tili nacho pano. Ndife mwayi.
Ndiye, bwanji za zomwe aphunzira? Pansipa, ndayesera kufotokozera mwachidule zomwe zakhala maphunziro ofunikira omwe ndapeza pazaka zambiri (makamaka masiku 90 apitawa) omwe andithandiza:
1) KULANDIRA. Muyenera kuvomereza kuti muli ndi vuto, ndichizolowezi, komanso kuti m'dziko lanu lino, mulibe mphamvu zothetsera vutoli. Popanda kudzichepetsa kwa kuvomereza uku, kusintha sikungatheke.
2) ZOTHANDIZA. Muyenera kuchita izi kwa inu nokha. Zoyeserera zanu sizingakhazikike pa ena, kapena kukondweretsa ena chifukwa chophweka kuti ubale wanu ndi anthuwa ukakhala pamavuto, chidwi chanu chimakhudzidwa mwachindunji. Izi sizitanthauza kuti gawo lanu lolimbikitsidwa silingakhale kukhala bambo / bambo wabwino (wanga analidi), koma ndi kwa inu kuti mukhale mwamuna kapena bambo wabwino kuti muthandizire inu makamaka. Kwa ine, ndinafika poti ndimadwala kwambiri chifukwa chokhala moyo wopusitsika, komanso kusazindikira komwe kumandipangitsa kunandichititsa kuti ndisamadziwe kuti ndine ndani. Kunja kwanga sikunafanane ndi mkati mwanga. Ndinali wachinyengo. Ndinkadziwa, ndipo unali mtolo waukulu kunyamula. Zinandipangitsa kukhala wokhumudwa, wamanyazi, wamlandu, wopanda chidaliro.
3) KUPHUNZIRA NDI KUMVETSA. Mukakhala kuvomereza vuto ndikulimbikitsidwa kuti musinthe, kuphunzira momwe mungathere za sayansi yamankhwalawa ndikofunikira. Simuli njira zanu zamaubongo. Ubongo wanu ndi machitidwe ake ndi chida chopatsidwa kwa inu. Pamene sakukutumikirani momwe ayenera, kumvetsetsa chifukwa chake njira yoyamba kuwongolera. Kumvetsetsa kumeneku kungathandizenso kwambiri kuchepetsa manyazi. Onerani makanema omwe ali pano (Gary Wilsons Ted talk ndi fave wanga), ikani ndalama kuti muchiritse. Kumvetsetsa ndikuwunikira zomwe zikuchitika muubongo wanu kumatha kukupatsani mphamvu.
4) KUTHANDIZA ENA. Ndanena kale kuti bwaloli lidandipatsa jigsaw yomwe ikusoweka ndipo sindingathe kufotokoza izi. Kukhala mwamabodza mobisa kumabweretsa manyazi. Zomwezo zimayambitsa kupweteka. Ululu (kwa ine osachepera) umapangitsa PMO kukhala ntchito yopulumutsa. Kwa onse obwera kumene, werengani magazini omwe akusinthidwa pafupipafupi m'zaka zanu (mupeza zofunikira apa), yambitsani zolemba zanu. Gawani nkhani yanu, onetsani chidwi ndi ena, pangani ubale. Zimapindulitsadi. Kubwera kuno kunandipatsa zabwino zotsatirazi:
a. Ndinaphunzira kuti sindinali ndekha pankhondoyi, kapena mkhalidwe wamunthu womwe umadzetsa zizolowezi zosokoneza bongo zomwe zidachepetsa manyazi anga.
b. Ndinaphunzira kuchokera pazokumana nazo za ena, ndipo izi zidandithandiza kupanga dongosolo langa lakuukira.
c. Ndinatha kulandira thandizo ndikuthandizanso ena, ndipo izi zinandipangitsa kudzidalira.
d. Kubwera kuno kumayambiliro tsiku lililonse kudapangitsa kuti ndikhale ndi nthawi yabwino, ndikupanga zizolowezi zabwino ndikukhala ndi chiyembekezo m'malo moiwala zakudzipereka kwanga kwa ine kuti ndisinthe.
5) KHALANI NDI Dongosolo NDIPO PITIRIZANI KULIMBIKITSA. Kuchira sikungachitike mwangozi. Ndimachitidwe obwereza. Mudzalephera nthawi zambiri musanapambane. Ngakhale mutachita bwino, mutha kulephera mtsogolo. Ndikofunikira kuti mukhale ndi pulani, ndipo nthawi iliyonse yomwe mungapunthwe mumazindikira kuphunzira kuchokera kugwerako. Kulephera sichinthu choipa. Ndi mwayi woti musinthe. Ndi chinthu choyipa ngati mungalephere kuchotsa kuphunzira kotsatira.
6) MVETSETSANI AKUFUNA ANU OTHANDIZA. Izi ndizofunikira pa dongosolo lanu. Kodi ndizomwe zimayambitsa zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala PMOing? Kuyang'ana kwambiri zakuthupi (onani mkazi wokongola) ndizochepa chabe. Ndi zikhalidwe ziti zomwe zimabweretsa zomwe mumachita zosayenera? Zanga zimaphatikizapo kusungulumwa, kusungulumwa, kupsinjika, kusamvana (kukangana ndi mkazi = PMO zowonadi), kulephera (kudzipeputsa), ngakhale nthawi zina kuchita bwino (kudzipatsa mphotho). Ndikudziwa kuti ndikatopa, ndimakhala pachiwopsezo. Mphamvu zodziwitsa zoyambitsa izi ndikudziwitsa. Kusamvana kumene kunalipo pakati pa mkazi wanga ndi ine kunanditengera zaka kuti ndidziwe, koma nditangozindikira ndipo ndinakudziwa, kunayamba kutaya mphamvu… ndinkaona ikubwera. Onetsetsani kuti nthawi iliyonse yomwe mumagwa, mumazindikira zoyambitsa. Kukumba mkati - pitani ku chowonadi chenicheni. Dziwonetseni nokha.
7) SANKHANI KUMENE MUDZAKHALE KANTHU KUKHALA KUKHALA. Kwa zaka zambiri ndimalumbira kuti sindikhala PMO. Ndinafotokozera PMO kuti apite zolaula kapena malo ochezera. Chifukwa chake ndipamene ndidatanthauzira (kapena kumanga) khoma langa lokana. Ndipo zowonadi, zidagwira ntchito, mwakuti sindinadzuke ndikuganiza kuti 'Hei, ndipita ku zolaula kapena malo ochezera'. KOMA, nayi koma… ubongo wanga, pofunafuna dopamine nthawi zonse umakhala ndi zochitika zotsika kuti ndichite zomwe ndingadzifotokozere kuti ndili bwino (kapena ndimangodziwa). Izi zimaphatikizapo zopeka (malingaliro anga - nthawi zambiri usiku, ndimasankha kuganiza zogonana ndikamagona), tsiku lotsatira ndimadzipeza ndikuchezera masamba 'opanda vuto' koma pomwe ndimadziwa kuti pali zomwe zingandidzutse (FB, Insta… chilichonse). Nkhani yake ndiyakuti, ubongo wanga ukayamba kununkhiza dopamine ndi zochitika 'zotsika' izi, ndimachoka .... NDIKANANGOKHALA pamapeto pa zolaula kapena malo ochezera omwe ndimafuna kupewa. Kutsimikiza kwanga kudatsitsidwa ndi 'zinthu zofewa'. Kuphunzira kwanga?.. Tsopano ndimanga khoma lolimbikira pamalo oyenera. Kwa ine, izi ndizongopeka chabe. Ngati ndingathe kuletsa izi, ndili ndi 90% yocheperako kupita kumalo opanda vuto. Ngati sindipita kumalo opanda vuto, ndiye kuti sindingayesenso 90% yopita ku zolaula / kucheza. Zikugwira. Yesani.
NDONDOMEKO YA 6 POINT (TOOLKIT EMERGENCY). Pali munthu wamkulu pano wotchedwa ShadeTrenicin yemwe amalemba mu Mibadwo 30-39. Ndi m'modzi mwa anthu odzipereka kwambiri omwe sindinakumanepo nawo. Mthunzi udasinthidwa ndikumangidwa pamzeru zina kuchokera ku Traveler32 pobwera ndi pulani ya 6. Kugwiritsidwa ntchito pakagwa zadzidzidzi pomwe zolimbikitsa zili zamphamvu. Imadziyankhulira yokha:
1. Zindikirani chilakolako
2. Lolani kuti chilakolakocho chilipo (simungathe kuchichotsa, zikhale choncho ndikuzifufuza)
3. Fufuzani chifukwa chake chilakolakocho chilipo (pali china chilichonse mkati mwanu chomwe chimakupangitsani kukhala PMO?)
4. Dziwani kuti chilakolakocho nchakanthawi
5. Kumbukirani kumverera kwachabechabe pambuyo pa gawo la PMO
6. (mwakufuna kwanu ngati chilimbikitso chilidi cholimba) Pitani ku zochitika zadzidzidzi monga kubwera ku bwaloli, masewera, zodana ndi zachiwerewere, zina zosangalatsa.
9) KHALANI OKOMA MTIMA NOKHA. Moyo ndi wovuta. Tili ndi chizolowezi chofananiza momwe timadzionera (nthawi zambiri zoyipa) ndi malingaliro athu padziko lonse lapansi (omwe nthawi zambiri amawonetsa chithunzi chabwino). Uku ndikufanizira kolakwika. Ndazindikira m'nkhani zambiri za anyamata kuti PMO amatenga nawo gawo podzitonthoza komanso kuthawa tokha, kapena momwe timadzionera - osayenera, olephera, osakwanira. Ndakhalako, ndipo ndikupitabe. Kulimbana ndi PMO popanda kuthana ndi mavutowa kumangokhala kopambana. Sindine wama psychologist ndipo sindingayerekeze kukhala ndi mayankho onse. Pofuna kuthana ndi mavuto angawa, kudzichitira chifundo ndikofunika kwambiri. Izi zimayamba ndikamayang'ana malingaliro athu. Ngati mukuvutika ndi malingaliro olakwika, werengani 'Stop Thinking, Start Living' Wolemba Richard Carslon. Zidapulumutsa moyo wanga. Ndidapezanso kuti kulingalira ndikothandiza kwambiri ndipo kuwonjezera pamenepo kumathandizanso pazinthu monga kumvetsetsa zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhumudwa (onani 6 pamwambapa).
10) DZIWANI MALANGIZO ANU 10! Zina mwazomwe zili pamwambazi zingakhale zofunikira kwa inu, zina zochepa. Pali zambiri zomwe sindinazitchule. Iyi ndi njira yophunzirira yokha - chinthu chachikulu ndichakuti pali nzeru zambiri komanso chidwi chothandizira patsamba lino. Kaya ndi upangiri wothandiza pazosefera pa intaneti, kapena kugawana nawo gawo lanu lomwe limalumikizana ndi anyamata ena omwe amathandizanso kukulitsa malingaliro anu, awa ndi tsamba labwino kwambiri. Gwiritsani ntchito, pangani nawo, ndipo dziwoneni nokha mukukula, kuthandiza ena m'njira.
Tithokoze aliyense amene wafika pano, chonde khalani omasuka kuti mupitilize, kudzudzula kapena kufunsa zomwe zili pamwambapa. Kukutumizirani nonse chikondi chaubale ndi malingaliro abwino pamene mukuyenda m'njira zanu mukuchira kwa PMO komanso moyo wokha. Samalira.
PS: Tithokoze kwambiri Gabe, Ite, PursuitOfUnFAPiness, Gracie, rainforth13, Androg, Charlie Marcotte, malando, Spangler ndi wina aliyense amene amakhala, kuwongolera, ndikuthandizira magwiridwe antchito atsambali. Zimayamikiridwa kwambiri.
LINK - Zowunikira, maupangiri, ndi zikomo pamasiku 90 oyera.
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