Sidakhale chaka chovuta kwambiri, koma, ndikuganiza kuti chakhala chovuta. Zinthu zamoyo wamba, zowonjezeranso kuti ndili panjira yoti ndiyambe kupanga zisankho zazikulu mtsogolo mwanga, ndipo zitha kukhala zowopsa komanso zovuta. O, osatchulapo pafupifupi chaka chathunthu popanda zolaula, komanso kusinthasintha kwamalingaliro komanso kusintha. Inde, ndikuganiza kuti zakhala zovuta, lol.
Gawo 1 la Alcoholics Anonymous limati: "Tidavomereza kuti tilibe mphamvu pa zakumwa zoledzeretsa - kuti miyoyo yathu yakhala yosalamulirika." Ndikukhulupirira kuti zitha kugwiritsidwa ntchito pa zolaula: "Tidavomereza kuti tilibe mphamvu zolaula - kuti miyoyo yathu yakhala yosalamulirika. ”
Chopanda mphamvu ndichinthu chomwe ndimakambirana kwambiri pano… lingaliro ili, ngakhale nditayika pafoni / kompyuta yanga zingati… ngakhale zitandichititsa chidwi ndi zolaula ndikulumbira kuti sindidzayang'ananso… zimawoneka ngati ndinali kubwerera komweko ndisanakhale pamodzi nthawi iliyonse. Nthawi zina usiku womwewo. Nthawi zina ngakhale mphindi zochepa, chifukwa, "fuck it". Kwa ine, kulibe mphamvu.
Koma lero pamene ndimayenda tsiku langa modekha mawu adabwera m'maganizo mwanga - "kusinthika. Panopa zinthu zikuyenda bwino pa moyo wanga. ” Zomwe ndizomwe zimabwerera ku theka lachiwiri la gawo 1.
Ndili patchuthi pang'ono tsopano. Chaka chatha sukulu, zomwe zikutanthauza nthawi yambiri yaulere, koma ndayambiranso kusintha zinthu ndi gig yanga yophunzitsira. M'malo mwake sabata yatha inali yovuta kuposa sabata yabwinobwino yasukulu, chifukwa ndimayenera kukonza zinthu zatsopanozi za chilimwe. Lero, komabe, ndidangophunzira maola ochepa ndipo pamapeto pake ndimamva ngati ndili ndi chipinda chopumira. Ndipo chaka chonse kumbuyo kwanga sichinali choyipa kwenikweni.
Ndidakwanitsa, ndipo ndidakwanitsa kupyola bwino. Ndinkachita bwino pantchito yanga, ndinkadzisamalira ndekha, ndinkakonda kuchita zosangalatsa, ndinkachita zonse zomwe ndiyenera kuchita mtsogolo mwachidule, ndipo ndimapeza abakha angapo motsatizana. Ndipo zonsezi osayang'ana zolaula. Ndipo monga ndidanenera, sizinali zoyipa. Ndipo tsopano ndikupuma pang'ono. Zotheka. Ndi momwe ndingafotokozere moyo wanga pompano.
Pamene ndinali pakati pa chizolowezi chomwa mowa (chomwe chinali ndi zinthu zina kwa ine), palibe njira yomwe ndikadakhala ndi chaka chonga ichi. Ndinaphulitsa mayeso, ndinazengereza, ndinadalira zinthu zina kuti ndikwaniritse maphunziro anga, ndawononga maubwenzi, ndalowa m'mavuto azamalamulo, ndathyola mafupa ... mungatchule dzina. Izi ndizomwe ndingatchule "zosatheka".
Zolaula sizinandiyambitse kwathunthu ngati zinthu zina. Koma osati mofulumira! Izi sizinathandize. Kukhala ndi nkhawa m'mavuto, maubwenzi omwe ali pamavuto, kuzengereza, komanso kulephera kukonzekera tsogolo langa ndikuthana ndi zovuta pamoyo… Ndidali ndi zolaula zothokoza pazonsezi. Chifukwa m'malo moyang'anizana ndi mavuto anga, ndimagwiritsa ntchito zolaula kuti ndizithawa ndikudzifufuza mozama.
Popanda zolaula ndili ndi nthawi yochulukirapo, komanso mutu womveka bwino wothana ndi mavuto anga ndikukumana ndi mayesero amoyo. Ndipo ndiyeneranso kupanga njira ndi njira zatsopano zothanirana ndi mavuto zomwe zimandipangitsa kukhala bwino pazinthu izi. Zinthu monga kudzisamalira, kuleza mtima, kutenga zinthu tsiku limodzi, kupempha thandizo, kulandira, kuthokoza, komanso kupumula. Komanso zochita za konkriti monga masewera olimbitsa thupi, zakudya zopatsa thanzi komanso nthawi yabwino yogona. Izi ndi zinthu zonse zomwe ndatha kudziwa popanda zolaula m'moyo wanga.
Zotsatira zomaliza? Moyo wabwino. Ndipo motero moyo womwe ndi wosangalatsa, osati vuto lina lililonse lomwe ndimayenera kudzichotsamo. Sikuti zonse zimayenda momwemo nthawi zonse, siwo moyo. Koma palibe vuto lomwe lingandibweretsere pansi. Ndine wotsimikiza za izi tsopano.
Kumva bwino. Zikomo anthu pondilola kugawana.
LINK - Moyo wanga wayambanso kuyenda bwino.
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tsiku 365
Malinga ndi kuwerengera kwanga, lero ndi tsiku la 365 lopanda zolaula kwa ine. Ndikulemba izi Lamlungu nthawi ya 2 koloko m'mawa, ndiye ndikuganiza kuti "mawa" likhala tsiku langa lokumbukira zonse. Koma mwaukadaulo tadutsa pakati pausiku ndiye ndikuti ndafika kale. Wakhala usiku wabwino choncho ndilemba izi tsopano, pomwe ndidalimbikitsidwa kuti ndilembe.
Ulendowu wakhala ukundichitira, ndinganene pafupifupi zaka 5 tsopano, nditayamba kumwa mowa mwauchidakwa ndi mowa. Ndikudziwa kuti iyi si nkhani ya aliyense, koma, ndi yanga, ndipo yandipatsa malingaliro pazomwe zimatanthauza kusiya china chake, ndi zina mwanjira zabwino kwambiri zochitira izi. Ponena za kusiya zolaula, zakhala zikuchitika pafupifupi zaka 4 tsopano. Ndinali ndi china chonga mwezi wa 9 pamenepo, mwezi wa 6, komanso zina zomwe zidali zobwerera ndikuyambiranso kwa zaka pafupifupi 3. Tsiku 365, lero, ndilo lalitali kwambiri lomwe ndidapangapo osayang'ana zolaula, kuyambira kuyambira zaka 13.
M'zaka 4-5 izi ndikuganiza kuti ndaphunzira zambiri, ndipo moyo wanga wafika ponseponse. Chifukwa chake pamene ndimayandikira tsiku la 365, ndakhala ndikuganiza za upangiri wanji womwe ndingapereke kwa iwo omwe akuvutika ndi izi, zomwe ndi zofunika kwambiri paulendo wanga, zomwe ndikufuna kukuwuzani nonse. Ndinali ndi malingaliro ambiri, koma ndiyenera kunena, lingaliro lomwe ladziwonetsa kwa ine madzulo ano lakhala lapadera kwambiri. Imodzi yomwe imafotokozera mwachidule ulendo wanga.
Ndipo lingaliro ili ndi: chipiriro. Nkhani yokhudza zolaula ndiyoti, zolaula ndizanthawi yomweyo. Mumakweza msakatuli wanu, kudumphira patsamba lanu lomwe mumakonda, ndipo patangopita masekondi ochepa mutha kukhala ndi mwayi wopeza mamiliyoni a makanema ndi maola pa maola ambiri. Pompopompo mankhwala amamva bwino podina. Ndi zomwe zolaula zimakhala. Koma, ndicho chimodzimodzi chomwe moyo suli… Moyo suli pompopompo. Ndipo moyo sutanthauza kudzisangalatsa nthawi zonse.
Kwa ine chinsinsi sichinangokhala kuchotsa zolaula… kwakhala kusintha kwa malingaliro, kusintha malingaliro. Kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kwanga chinali chabe chizindikiro cha vuto lalikulu. Chifukwa ngakhale wopanda zolaula, malingaliro anga amathabe kufunafuna kukonza kwakanthawi komwe kungapangitse chilichonse kukhala changwiro, pompano, pompano.
Vuto ndilakuti, ndikafuna ungwiro m'moyo, sindikhala wokhutira. Moyo ungandikhumudwitse. Sizingafanane ndi miyezo yanga momwe ndikumvera kuti ziyenera kukhalira. Chifukwa chake mutha kunena kuti vuto ndi moyo. Koma, ndiye inu mungakhale wovulazidwa. Ndikulingalira ndinaphunzira kunena kuti, vuto silamoyo, vuto ndimalingaliro anga amoyo. Vuto ndi ine.
Kwa ine, kuleza mtima kumazifotokozera bwino kwambiri. Tonse tili ndi zolinga, tonse tili ndi zinthu zomwe timayesetsa, ndipo tonsefe tikufuna kukonza malo athu. Zonsezi ndi zinthu zabwino. Koma amakhala oyipa tikamafuna zotsatira TSOPANO, kapena timakhala ndi lingaliro lazomwe zotsatirazi zikuwonekere. Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndimafunsa kupirira. Kuleza mtima - kukula kudzafika. Kuleza mtima - mayankho adzabwera. Kuleza mtima - zonse ziziyenda zokha munthawi yake. Ingokhalani oleza mtima, oleza mtima kwambiri.
Ndipo chinthu china ndicho - kuleza mtima ndi ena. Chibwenzi changa sichimandisangalatsa nthawi zonse, kapena kuchita momwe ndimafunira. Khalani oleza mtima ndi iye. Kukhala woleza mtima ndekha. Zomwe ndikufuna kuganiza kuti ndikangopanga zochitika zanga ndimatha kukhala osangalala mpaka kalekale, ndimadzifunsa kuti ndivomereze kuti mwina ndine munthu wolakwitsa, ndipo sizomveka kufunsa kuti ndichite zinthu mwangwiro nthawi. Ndipo potsiriza kukhala woleza mtima ndi moyo. Moyo, monga ine, kapena bwenzi, kapena kholo, suli wangwiro. Ngati kuli Mulungu, mwina iyenso akuyesetsa kuti andithandize. Ndipo mwina nthawi zonse samakhala wabwino kundipatsa zomwe ndikufunikira panthawi yomwe ndimazifuna. Khalani oleza mtima ndi Iye, ndi moyo. Chomwe ndikutanthauza ndikuti, khalani odekha. Ndi ena, ndi ine, komanso ndi moyo weniweniwo.
Ndikafuna ungwiro, ndikafuna kuti moyo ukhale momwe ndimafunira, zimandikhumudwitsa. Koma ndikasintha miyezo yanga, ndikavomera ndi chiyamiko chilichonse chomwe moyo umandipatsa, ndipamene ndimayamba kuwona mphatsozo. Ndipamene sindikufunika kuthawa zolaula, kapena kudziwononga.
Ndikamayang'ana zinthu motere, ndimakhutira ndi komwe ndili. Ndi zina zonse? Ndikupirira, ndikudziwa kuti abwera nthawi. Koma zinthu zofunika, chabwino, ndazipeza kale zonsezo… Ine ndakhala ndikutero, ndipo ndidzatero.
Zikomo anyamata pondithandizira masiku 365 apitawa. Kukhala wolumikizidwa ndi gawo ili mosakayikira ndi gawo lalikulu lazopambana panthawiyi. Pali ochepa a inu omwe akhala akuthandizira kwakukulu, mukudziwa kuti ndinu ndani. Kuchokera nthawi yanga zikomo kwa inu. Ndipo kwa nonsenu, kaya tidagawana ndemanga, kuwerenga zomwe wina analemba, kapena kungogawana nawo gawo pa reddit iyi ... zikomo kwambiri kwa nonsenu.
Zikomo anyamata. Khalani ndi sabata yodabwitsa.
Wawa bwenzi, zikomo kwambiri chifukwa chodziletsa! Ndikutha kumvetsetsa zomwe ukunena. Nditadziperekadi kuti ndisakhale oledzera, ndikunyamula chip yoyera - sindinamwe kapena kumwa kuchokera pamenepo. Koma ndidapanga zambiri zosiya zolaula, ndipo monga ndidanenera, zaka 4 zapitazi zidaphatikizaponso zambiri zobwereranso. Kotero ndikumverera kwathunthu.
Ndikuganiza kusiyana kwake ndikuti ndinayamba kumva mumtima mwanga kuti zolaula zimandiwononga. Malingana ngati panali kukayikira komwe kumakhalapo, ndimatha kusiya. Nditadzipereka kotheratu, ndinamva ngati wotetezedwa m'njira ... zolaula zomwe zimangotayika ndizomwe zimandisangalatsa.
Kuwonongeka kwa kumwa mowa ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo komwe kudachitika pamoyo wanga kunali kowonekeratu. Ndicho chifukwa chake ndikuganiza kuti ndinayamba kukhulupirira kuti ndikufunika kukhala wosachedwa kuledzera. Ndi zolaula, sindinakhulupirire. Ndinkakonda kunena kuti zolaula sizinali vuto langa, ndipo sizinali choncho, koma ndimagwiritsa ntchito izi ngati chifukwa chobwereranso. Kuphatikiza apo, mupeza zifukwa zambiri zokhutiritsa kunja uko zakuti zolaula ndizabwino. Koma pamapeto pake panafika mfundo, monga kumwa ndi kumwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo, kuti zilibe kanthu zomwe wina anena - ndinamvetsetsa kwambiri kuti zolaula zinali zoipa kwa ine.
Zolaula zili ndi zinthu zambiri zoyipa, monga utsi wamaubongo, malingaliro olakwika okhudzana ndi kugonana, nkhawa zowonjezereka, ndi zina zambiri. Ndipo sichingakhale chinthu "kamodzi kokha". Ndikamagwiritsa ntchito, ndimagwiritsa ntchito tsiku lililonse, kapena kupitilira apo. Zimakhala ndodo yanga.
Ndimakonda tsopano kukhala moyo mogwirizana ndi moyo. Ndiyo njira yokhayo yomwe ndingakulire, ndikuphunzira kuleza mtima ndikulandila mphatso zamoyo ndikuyamika. Porn zilibe gawo pa izo kwa ine. Nditangovomereza chowonadi chimenecho, kusiya kunali kosavuta. Nkhondo pang'ono, zedi, koma kutsika kwambiri kuposa kukwera. Zakhala zikuyendetsedwa bwino, ndipo tsiku limodzi nthawi imodzi, ndimakonzekera kupitiriza izi.
Ndikhulupirira kuti mutha kufanana ndi zomwe ndakumana nazo. Zikomo chifukwa chogawana ndi ine.
Malingaliro pa Incels:
Anthu mdera lathu amawopa kukondana, kuphatikiza kuti amuna amaphunzitsidwa kudzera pa zolaula komanso kudzera pachikhalidwe kuti kukongola kopitilira muyeso ndiye chinthu chokha choyenera kuyamikiridwa. Zinthu monga kudzidalira, kusacheza bwino ndi mawonekedwe osawoneka bwino zimatha kusintha. Ndipo sizimatengera kuthekera kokhala pachibwenzi pomwepo. Vuto mumakhala amuna owoneka bwino, okhumudwa omwe amatsata azimayi otentha azimayi omwe nthawi zambiri amakanidwa ndi azimayi omwewo.
Amuna awa, m'malo moyang'ana moona mtima machitidwe awo, amasankha kudzudzula anthu kapena kusankha kunena kuti ali ndi mtundu winawake womwe umawapangitsa kukhala osafunikira. Ndi ulosi wokhutiritsa wokha womwe umalimbikitsa kulimbitsa mtima komanso kuteteza bamboyo ku chinthu chomwe chingagwedeze mtima wake ndikuwononga malingaliro ake. Kuopa sikuti amuna awa SANGAKHUDZANE ndi akazi / anthu, ndizoti angathe. Chikondi ndi kukondana zimapweteka kwambiri.
Ndikudziwa chifukwa ndinali m'modzi mwa anyamatawa. Idafika nthawi yomwe ndidayamba kuzindikira kuti m'modzi yekhayo yemwe ndimamupusitsa anali ine ndekha, ndipo ndidasankha kuyikira pansi malingaliro angawa. Zinali zomveka kuganiza motere ndili wachinyamata, koma osati ngati munthu wazaka 20 wazaka. Ulendowu unali wovuta koma woyeneradi, ndipo tsopano ndakhala ndikukondana kwazaka 2+ ndipo maubale anga ndi azimayi komanso anthu ambiri ndizodabwitsa komanso gawo lofunikira pamoyo wanga.
[Yankhani kwa] Kafukufuku wa Red incit "incels"
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China chake chinandipulumutsa, ndipo nditha kudalira.
[Dziwani: adalemba izi pachiwonetsero china. Ndapanga zosintha zingapo pano kuti zikhale zogwirizana kwambiri ndi maulendo anga opanda zolaula.]Ndinali ndi vuto loledzera, mankhwala osokoneza bongo, nkhawa, kukhumudwa, kukanika ... mayadi asanu ndi anayi onsewa. Ndipo ndinali wachichepere. Matenda okhumudwa, kuda nkhawa komanso kusagwira ntchito zinali nane kuyambira ndili wachinyamata. Zolaula zinali komweko. Koma kumwa ndi kumwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo kunayamba ndili ndi zaka 18. Ndipo ndidathamanga nawo kwa zaka pafupifupi 4.
Izi zidapangitsa kutaya makiyi, ma wallet, mafoni. Kuyendetsa moledzera. "Ngozi" ndi mnyamata pa njinga pomwe mukuledzera. Dzanja lophwanyika lomwe limafuna kuchitidwa opaleshoni. Kuwononga maubale. Kunenepa komanso mavuto azaumoyo. Nkhani zachitetezo ndikuzimitsa mdima ndikudzuka m'malo achilendo. Inu mumatchula izo. Ndipo kuseri kwa zonsezi dzenje lakuda lakuda lomwe limangofikira zonse.
Ndidayesa kwa zaka ndi zaka kuti "ndizilondola". Monga, ndikadakhala kuti ndikhoza kungonena zinthu zoyenera, kuchita zinthu zoyenera, kupeza msungwana woyenera, kutchuka ndi gulu langa… ndiye zonse zikadakhala zabwino. Koma sizinachitike. M'malo mwake, popita zaka, zinthu zimangoipiraipira. Zonsezi ngakhale ndimayesetsa kwambiri.
Chifukwa chake pamapeto pake padafika mfundo yomwe ndidangosiya. Ndinadzipereka. Ndidazindikira kuti - “ukudziwa, njira yanga sikugwira ntchito. Payenera kukhala njira ina ”.
Ndipo panthawi yomweyo zinthu zinali zitagwirizana ndipo ndinapeza gulu lothandizira. Ndinatenga chip yoyera chodzipereka ndipo sindinamwe kapena kumwa mankhwala kuyambira pamenepo, zaka 5 zapitazo. Ndipo mukuganiza chiyani? Ndimakhalanso ndi zolaula pafupifupi miyezi 18, inenso.
Sikuti ndimangokhala oledzera, komanso moyo wanga ndiwodzaza ndi chisangalalo, tanthauzo, komanso chisangalalo. Ngakhale nthawi zachisoni zimakhala ndi kukoma kwake, ndipo mkwiyo umawonjezera mchere pang'ono m'moyo. Ndimalandira zonse. Sindilinso mphasa pakhomo, ndipo ndili ndi bwenzi labwino kwambiri lomwe limandikonda ndipo limadziwa ngodya zanga zonse zakuda kwambiri. Ndimatha kukhala moyo womwe ndikusankha, osati moyo womwe munthu wina wandipatsa. Koposa zonse, tsopano ndikutha KUPATSA… sindikungotenga chabe.
Ndipo zonse chifukwa cha china chake chachikulu kuposa ine. Kumbukirani… khama langa linanditsogolera mu dzenje loyenda.
Nayi mgwirizano anthu inu. Ndangophunzira kuti, ngati pali china chake kunja uko chomwe chitha kundisankha - mwana wamantha wotayika, wosweka komanso woyamwa - china chomwe chingandisankhe ndikunditulutsa mdzenje ... mphatso zopanda malire zachimwemwe ndi chikondi.
Ndikutanthauza, ndiye kuti zomwe ndimachita ziwonetsero ndi chiyani? Kodi ndichifukwa chiyani ndikumvabe kufunika kokonza zinthu molingana ndi malingaliro anga?
Ndipo yankho losavuta ndilakuti, ndaganiza kuti palibe chifukwa chilichonse chochitira izi.
Ndipo chifukwa cha ichi chidaliro changa chakhala chokwanira. Monga munthu aliyense, ndimasokonekera nthawi zina, koma ndatsala pang'ono kubwerera.
Ndipo zinthu zimangokulirakulira.
Ndikukhulupirira zenizeni kuti Universal ikungodikirira kuti itisambitse ndi chikondi ndi chisangalalo. Ndikudziwa, chifukwa zakhala zochitika zanga zonse pamoyo.
Ndipo ngati ndingapeze, ndiye ndikukutsimikizirani - zitha kupezeka kwa aliyense.
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Cholemba chomaliza kuyambira apa ndi Free Free. Mphamvu yomweyo yomwe idachotsa chidakwa changa, ndikuwonetsa chikondi ndi chisangalalo ndi zinthu zina? Inde, eya, ndinadalira chinthu chimenecho kuti chisamalire nkhani yanga ya zolaula, inenso. Ndipo zinatero.
Itha kudaliridwa ndi chilichonse, ndi chilichonse. Chifukwa ndi chilichonse.
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