Kanthawi kapitako ndinawona wina akufunsa pa NoFap ngati winawake wasandulika kukhala "kwamuyaya yekha" kukhala munthu yemwe ali ndi moyo wabwino. Sindikukumbukira kuti uyu anali ndani ndipo m'mabwalo angati omwe anafunsa funso ili, koma ndikuganiza kuti ndili ndi ngongole yankho komabe.
Yankho ndilo inde, ndizotheka. Tsopano ndi masiku 209 apitawo kuyambira pomwe ndinasewera maliseche komaliza ndipo sindinawonenso zolaula panthawiyi. Zotsatira za izi zasandutsa ine kukhala munthu yemwe sindikanaganiza kuti ndidzakhale ndisanayambe NoFap. Izi zimandipangitsa kukhala woyamikira kwambiri kwa anthu omwe akuthandizira tsambali ndipo ndikhulupilira kuti nditha kulimbikitsa munthu yemwe ali mumkhalidwe wofanana ndi wanga ndisanayambe NoFap.
Ndiye ndinali ndani? Ndinali ndi zaka 26 ndipo sindinakhalepo ndi chibwenzi. Ndipo inde, sindinayambe ndagonanapo. Ndinkayang'ana zolaula mwina nthawi 2-3 komanso kuseweretsa maliseche mwina tsiku lililonse lachiwiri, chifukwa chake ndikuganiza kuti sindinali wothamanga kwambiri m'mphepete mwa zolaula monga anyamata ena pano. Komanso, ndinaphunzira kukoleji yabwino ndipo ndimadziona kuti ndine wanzeru kwambiri. Komabe, chidaliro changa mwa ine chinali chochepa kwambiri. Ndinali ndi abwenzi abwino, koma ndidawawona mocheperako ndipo china mwazifukwa zake chinali kulephera kwanga kupanga ubale ndi akazi. Izi zidandipangitsa kuti ndisamadzidalire kwambiri ndi anzanga ndipo ndidayamba kuwapewa. Zonsezi zinali zoyipa. Ndinayamba kuwerenga pang'ono m'mabuku ndipo izi zinandithandizadi. Ndinayambanso kufikira amayi koma zokambirana nthawi zonse zimatha ndipo sindimadziwa choti ndinene. Potembenukira kumbuyo zikuwoneka ngati ndangotaya mphamvu. Zowonjezera ndinakhala… ndekha ndekha.
Ndinayamba NoFap pafupifupi mwangozi. Ndinasamukira ku tawuni ina kuti ndikalembedwe kwanga ndipo poyamba ndinakhala ku hostel ndipo pambuyo pake ndinagwirizana ndi mipanda yoonda. Inde, pangakhale nthawi zosiyana koma chinachake chinandibwezera. Ndinakumbukira bwenzi langa amene adayankhula za kubwezeretsa kwake kanthawi kapitako ndipo kotero ndinabwera ku tsamba la NoFap. Ndinawerenga zina mwazochita bwino ndikuganiza kuti ndikuyesa: Masiku a 90 anali cholinga choyambirira.
Masabata awiri oyamba sanali ovuta chotere. Ndidachita mitsinje yambiri ndisanatero chifukwa cha tchuthi komanso zankhondo. Pambuyo pa sabata ziwiri zidakhala zovuta kwambiri. Kungowerenga nkhani zopambana muno kunandipangitsa kuti ndizitsatira. Zomwe zidandithandiza makamaka ndikusamba kuzizira, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi pafupipafupi, kusinkhasinkha komanso kusunga zolemba.
Ndinayambanso kusiya mavidiyo a Youtube ndi kuwerenga nkhani. Ichi chinali chinachake chomwe ndinkafuna kuti ndipeze kwa zaka zambiri koma sindinapeze chilango kuti ndichite zimenezo. Ichi chinali chizindikiro choyamba kwa ine kuti NoFap ikugwira ntchito. Ndinatenganso nawo marathon a hafu pa nthawiyo ndipo nthawi zambiri ndimakhala ndikuwonjezeka. Pambuyo pa masiku a 40 ndinasiya kumwa mowa. Njira ya Monk inali!
Kuchokera kuzungulira tsiku 40 tsiku 50 mwina nthawi yovuta kwambiri. Ndinali ndi maloto ochepa kwambiri ndipo chinthu choipa kwambiri chinali chivomezi nthawi zonse. Kwenikweni chibwenzi changa chinkaoneka ngati kamwa ya njala, zinali zoopsa. Panthawiyi ndinayesera kulankhula ndi amayi pamsewu koma sindinayambe kulimba mtima kuti ndiyankhule ndi wina aliyense. Zinali zachiwawa. Komanso nthawi imeneyo ndinayamba kugwiritsa ntchito Tinder. Ndinali ndi masewera angapo ndipo ndinali kulemba ndi atsikana angapo. Zambiri mwa zokambiranazi zinatha mwamsanga, komabe mosiyana ndi chidziwitso, iwo anali kundipangitsa kuchepa, choncho ndinapitirizabe. Patapita nthawi ndinayamba kulemberana mameseji ndi mtsikana wina yemwe amalumikizana kwambiri ndipo patadutsa milungu iŵiri yolemba mauthenga kwa wina ndi mzake tinali ndi tsiku!
Kwa ine unali tsiku loyamba kuyambira zaka. Ndinali kusweka ngalawa kwa munthu pachiyambi pomwe ndinali wamantha kwambiri. Koma tsikuli linali bwino ndithu. Msungwana uyu ankawoneka kuti anali wotetezeka ndi yekha, komatu sanali wodzikuza. Tsiku loyamba likundipatsa chitonthozo chochuluka. Zinatanthauza kupita patsogolo kwa ine ndipo ndinali wonyada komanso wosangalala pambuyo pake.
Pambuyo pa tsiku loyamba ili, zinali zovuta kuthana ndi vuto langa lokhalitsa. Ndinalinso ndi vuto la kugona tulo nthawi zambiri. Panali kasanu pomwe ndimadzuka pafupifupi 2 m'mawa ndipo sindinathe kupitiriza kugona. Nthawi zambiri ndimakhala ndi maliseche ndikugona pambuyo pake koma izi sizinali zosankha. Komabe ndinapitiliza.
Komanso, ndinapitiriza kugwirizana ndi mtsikana wa Tinder. Komabe ndinali ndi mantha kwambiri pakubwera kwake. Mwachitsanzo, iye adafunsapo chifukwa chake ndili pa Tinder ndipo izi zinandichititsa kuti ndisamapite. Wakale ine ndimayankha ndi chinachake chomwe chikanandipangitsa ine kumalo okondana, koma mmalo mwake ine ndinali kuchita zozizwitsa zanga ndikumulembera mbuyo yankho lolondola. Zinali bwino kwambiri m'zonse komanso patatha masiku atatu tinapsompsona ndi pambuyo pa masiku a 5 tinagonana!
Panthawiyi ndinali masiku a 77 ku NoFap. Inde, zonse zinali kuyenda mosavuta pambuyo pake, ndi kugonana zambiri. Sindingathe kufotokozera momwe ndimakondera kuti zaka zonsezi zikupita kulikonse ndi akazi. Ndipo zinamveka zodabwitsa!
Patatha milungu ingapo, msungwana waku Tinder yemwe pakadali pano adakhala bwenzi langa, adapita kutchuthi ndipo ndidabwerera pa njira ya PMO. Nthawi yonseyi pafupifupi mwezi umodzi ndidatuluka kamodzi kokha ndipo panali mtsikana yemwe ndi mnzake.
Sindinanenepo kuti atsikana amandimenya kwambiri pa NoFap komabe mayiyu adachita misala. Amandikhudza nthawi zonse ndipo ndikamuuza kuti ndili ndi chibwenzi adayankha ndikunena kuti bwenzi langa kulibe pano. Sindinachite chilichonse ndi iye, chifukwa ndinkafuna kukhala wokhulupirika kwa bwenzi langa, koma mozama, ndinawona zotsatira za NoFap pa atsikana pantchito nthawi imeneyo.
Nditatsiriza malingaliro anga ndidabwerera ku tawuni yanga yakale. Ndimakumanabe ndi chibwenzi changa ndipo ndidakali pa NoFap. Ndinayamba kuchita masewera a karati kuyambira pomwe ndidabwerako, zomwe, ndimafuna kuchita kuyambira zaka koma sindinapeze kulimba mtima kutero.
Ndinayamba kuyang'ana kumbuyo pang'ono pazomwe ndidachita mosiyana ndisanayambe NoFap komanso momwe zidasinthira moyo wanga. Mwachitsanzo, ndimayang'ana zomwe ndalemba kwa atsikana pazaka zanga zakubadwa ndipo ndidapeza kuti, popanda kusiyanasiyana, nthawi zonse ndimakhala ine yemwe nthawi ina sindinkatumizirananso. Ndikuganiza kuti NoFap imakupatsani chidziwitso chotsimikiza chomwe simungapeze china. Kwa ine, NoFap tsopano ndi moyo ndipo ndikufuna kupewa maliseche momwe ndingathere.
Pomaliza, ndikufuna ndikuthokoza aliyense yemwe wapereka pa tsamba lino pofalitsa malingaliro okhudzana ndi kugonana. Sindingathe kufotokozera momwe moyo wanga unasinthira!
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