Ndine bambo wazaka makumi anayi zoyambirira ndili ndi mkazi ndi ana.
Miyezi isanu ndi umodzi yapitayo
• Banja langa linali losagonana.
• Ndimakonda kuchita PMO ndi MO mbali.
• Ndinali wonenepa kwambiri komanso wopanda mawonekedwe.
• Ndimamva kukhala wopanda chidwi ndipo sindinali wachinyamata.
• Ndimamva ngati kuti ndidatopa ndikukhazikika nthawi zonse.
• Ndinaopa kupita kuntchito ndi anzanga ovuta.
• Ndinapewa mikangano ngakhale zitanthauza kuti kuthana ndi nkhope ndikudzipangira tokha ntchito.
• Nthawi zambiri ndimakayikira kukayikira kwanga zomwe ndakwaniritsa.
• Zinkawoneka kuti zaka zanga zabwino kwambiri zandiyandikira.
Zambiri zasintha.
Ndapita masiku 182 - ndiwo masabata a 26 - wopanda P kapena M. Kugonana ndi mkazi wanga kunaloledwa, koma panali zovuta zazitali. Wokondwa kunena kuti nthawi zosagonana zikuchepa.
NoFap anali chiyambi chabe. Zinali zothandizira kuwerenga, kusinkhasinkha komanso kudzisintha.
Ndidayamba kugwira ntchito tsiku lililonse, popanda chowiringula. Cardio, matabwa, masitepe, mafinya, zolemera.
• Ndidawerenga za Nice Guy Syndrome, ndikudzizindikira kuti ndine wochita bwino, ndipo ndidatsimikiza mtima kusiya izi. Ngati simukudziwa, Nice Guy Syndrome ndichinthu china chake. Ndikofunika kuyiyang'ana. Zimaphatikizaponso kufunikira kovomerezeka nthawi zonse. Kuthetsa izi sizitanthauza kukhala woperewera. Ndimafunabe kukhala munthu wokoma mtima komanso wokhulupirika. Osati mnyamata wabwino wosowa.
• Ndinaphunzira zambiri zokopa, zogonana komanso maubale. Ndidawona momwe malingaliro anga akale, kuphatikiza 'abwino', adatayira chikhumbo.
• Ndidazindikira kuti pokhapokha ndikudzilimbitsa ndekha ndikudzilemekeza ndekha momwe ndingasinthire ubale wanga ndi mkazi wanga ndi ana.
Background
Mofanana ndi amuna ambiri azaka zanga, Ndinakulira ndimagazini zolaula. Ndinazindikira chinsinsi chobisika cha abambo anga ndili ndi zaka 12. Mwinanso panali zikwangwani panthawiyo kuti mwina ndidzakhala ndi vuto tsiku lina, koma sindinazione. Ndikuganiza kuti ndinali bwino ku koleji konse. Koma pafupifupi zaka makumi awiri mphambu makumi awiri zolaula zolaula pa intaneti zidayamba kupezeka. Bomba losayima lokhala ndi zinthu zomwe sizinaume konse. Ndinali kukhala ndekha kwa nthawi yoyamba. Zinali njira zatsoka. Sindingakhale ngati ndikudya pang'ono. Imeneyi inali zaka zosungulumwa zodziponyera usiku umodzi, kutaya tulo ndikuwonetsa moyo weniweni ndili ndi ubongo. Chibwenzi ndi maubale mpaka pomwepo. Poganizira, mwina ndinali wokhumudwa.
Zinthu zinayamba kukhala bwino nditakumana ndi mkazi wanga. Anali wamkulu ndipo ndinali wokondwa kukhala naye. Porn sizinaime konse. Ndimakondabe pambali. Pomwe tinali otanganidwa ndi ana ndi onse, popita nthawi izi zidalowetsa moyo wathu wogonana. Pakanakhala kuti pali zovuta muubwenzi, sitikanakonzekera ndikubwerera kuchipinda. Ndinayamba kusiya ndikupita ku PMO ndi MO mwachisawawa. M'kupita kwanthawi kunayamba kuwonekera ngati kuti kwatha pakati pathu. Tinali ngati ogona nawo chipinda chimodzi.
Ndinayamba kukhala ndi ziwopsezo zowopsa zakukwati kwathu. Ndidadzilola kulingalira zosatheka - kuti zimapachikidwa ndi ulusi womwe ukhoza kuduka. Zomwe tidasiya kuyanjana monga momwe maanja okondana amachitira. Kuti kulephera kwathu mwina kumazindikira ndi ana athu. Kuti sitinasangalalenso chimodzimodzi.
Tsiku lina ndinali ndi gulu la ntchito yofunika kuti ndichite kunyumba m'mawa. M'malo mwake ndimakhala m'mawa wonse pa PMO. Sindinapeze ntchito iliyonse. Ndinkanyansidwa ndekha. Zinandipangitsa kuti ndichitepo kanthu. Ndamva za NoFap pa YouTube ndipo ndidaganiza zowunika tsambali. Ndinayesapo zomvetsa chisoni kuti ndichepetse P ndi M kale koma sizinakhalitse. Nditalowa NoFap, ndidayamba kulandira chowonadi. Kwa ine kunali kofunikira kuchotsa P ndi M kwathunthu ndikukonzekera mutu wanga. Panalibe yankho la theka-abulu kwa mnyamata ngati ine.
Ndidafunira zabwino mkazi wanga, ana anga, ndi inemwini.
Tikuphunzirapo
NoFap idalidi yovuta, makamaka m'miyezi yoyambirira. Ndinafika pafupi ndikuphwanya chingwe changa kangapo, koma mwanjira ina, ndidakwanitsa. Khalidwe lomweli lomwe lidandipangitsa kukana kwanthawi yayitali mwina lidandithandiza.
NoFap inalinso yopindulitsa. Sindinayambe ndadzikankhira m'mavuto ngati amenewo. Zinalumikizidwa ndikusintha kwina komwe ndimapanga m'moyo wanga ndikuwalimbikitsa.
Ndikugawana maupangiri potengera zomwe ndakumana nazo.
1. Muyenera kukhala odzipereka pa 100%. Tifuna kusintha zina ndi zina. Wokonzeka kuvutika, zenizeni. Osadzipereka nokha. Ubongo wanu umakusokonezani munjira iliyonse ndikuyesera kukuthandizani kuti mubwerere ku zizolowezi zakale. Ndikumenyana komwe mukufunikira.
2. Khalani osanthula. Kodi mumachita ndi liti? Zoyambitsa zanu ndi ziti? Zogonana komanso zachikhalidwe. Zinthu monga kupsinjika kapena kusungulumwa nawonso.
3. Pezani yankho lomwe limagwira ntchito ndi inu, zida zama TV, YouTube, kapena mayesero ena onse a digito. Mwinanso izi ndizosiyana pang'ono kwa aliyense. Khalani ambiri a munthu wopanda intaneti.
4. Ziwonetsero zozizira zimatha kubweretsa chilimbikitso pansi ndikukukhazikitsani m'mavuto akukumana ndi zovuta.
5. Kumbukirani kuti kukopa kulikonse kumatha pamapeto pake. Khalani ndi iyo kwakanthawi. Yesani kuyang'ana kwambiri pakupuma.
6. Izi ndizachidziwikire koma ndiyenera kunena mokweza. Yang'anitsani manja anu pokhapokha ngati pakufunika kutero!
7. Tulukani malo anu okhala ngati mukukakamizidwa ndi zokakamiza. Mutha kuyenda.
8. Chitani masewera olimbitsa thupi tsiku lililonse. Zitulutsa mphamvu zina zogonana. Muyamba kumverera komanso kuwoneka bwino. Izi zidzakuthandizani kukhala osangalala chifukwa cha zomwe zikuchitika.
9. Achibale anu ndi anzanu awona kusintha kwanu mwa inu, koma sangadziwe chifukwa chake. Zitha kuthandiza kukambirana zina ndi izi ndi wokondedwa wanu. Zimatengera ubale wanu. Kwa ine izi zinali zosavuta nditatha kale kupita patsogolo komanso kumva kuti ndili ndi chiyembekezo. Ndinalankhula bwino ndi akazi anga kuyambira pafupifupi milungu inayi kuti izi. Ndikuganiza kuti kugwira ntchito pa inu nokha ndiye chinthu chofunikira kwambiri, koma ndikuwona kuti si aliyense amene akuganiza choncho.
10. Gwiritsani ntchito kauntala wa tsikulo. Zimakulitsitsani chidaliro chanu kuwona chiwerengerochi chikuchuluka. Anthu ena amaganiza kuti kuwerengera tsiku kulibe phindu chifukwa izi ziyenera kukhala zosintha pamoyo wanu wonse. Kwa ine zidagwira ntchito chifukwa zidakopa chidwi changa pampikisano. Sindingathe kuyimirira ndikuganiza za ziwerengero zanga zobwerera ku zero.
11. Ndikupangira kuti mupeze gulu limodzi kapena zingapo za Owerengeka. Amapereka chithandizo ndi mtundu wabwino wa anzawo. Ndagonjetsa zokakamiza zina chifukwa sindinkafuna kunena zachiwopsezo ku AP yanga Inunso mukhala bwino pothandiza wina.
12. Zikhala zosavuta. Simungaleke konse kusamala kwanu. Izi zitha kukhala kugwa kwanu. Koma zovuta zamasiku oyambilira sizikhala kwamuyaya. Kudzakhala bata komanso chisangalalo.
13. Chomaliza. Ngati muli ndi zaka zochepa pansi pa lamba wanu, kumbukirani - pali pano komanso mtsogolo. Zakale zitha kukuthandizani. Mwina muli ndi zosintha kuti mupange. Koma chisoni chingakuwononge. Musalole kuti izi zisokoneze thanzi lanu komanso kuthekera kwanu kupita patsogolo. Ngakhale mutapanga zisankho zabwino pamoyo, mumatha kuganiza kuti 'zikadakhala bwanji?'. Sangalalani ndi pano ndikuyika maziko a moyo womwe mukufuna!
bwino
Chifukwa chiyani ndimakhala wokonzeka kulemba nkhani yopambana?
• Ndapita masiku 182 popanda P kapena M. Zikadawoneka ngati zosatheka miyezi 6 yapitayo. Ndapitilira zomwe ndimayembekezera tsiku limodzi.
• Ndimakhala ndi mphamvu zambiri komanso kuchitapo kanthu.
• Ndachepetsa thupi lonse. Ndili ndi minofu yolongosoka bwino m'manja mwanga ndipo ndili pafupi ndi m'mimba mosabisa tsopano. Ndiwo minyewa yambiri yomwe ndakhalapo m'moyo wanga komanso kulemera kotsika kwambiri komwe ndidakhala nako zaka zosachepera 15.
• Ndimayang'ana pagalasi ndikuganiza kuti ndikuwoneka bwino. Sipangakhale cholakwika chilichonse ndi kuyang'ana zaka zanga, koma tsopano mwina ndikuoneka kuti ndine wazaka 5-10 kuposa momwe ndimakhalira.
• Ndinametedwa bwino komanso ndinakhala ndi zovala zoyenera. Zachidziwikire, ndicho chinthu chachabechabe pamndandandawu. Kumva zinthu zabwino ngakhale. Chidaliro chimakhala chofunikira.
• Ndimayang'anana ndi amuna ndi akazi mosavuta ndipo ndazindikira momwe akundichitira.
• Sindinena zambiri. Ndimalongosola malingaliro anga mwachindunji komanso mopepesa. Kukhala bwino pamenepa kumatenga nthawi yayitali, koma ndikudziwa kuti pang'ono chabe sizinaphe aliyense.
• Panopa ndili ndi malingaliro abwino pantchito.
• M'miyezi ingapo yapitayi ndidayitanidwanso kukafunsidwa mafunso angapo pantchito yampikisano. Nthawi yoyamba ndidapeza kuyankhulana mzaka zambiri. Zinangochitika mwangozi? Mwina ayi. Ndidakwanitsa kupyola pamafunso amenewo ndikukhazikika kuposa kale. Mwinanso chofunikira kwambiri ndi ichi - pomwe zoyankhulana sizinapereke mwayi, ndidakhala wokhumudwa osadzidalira.
• Zinthu zili bwino kwambiri ndi mkazi wanga. Ndi njira yayitali ndipo panali magawo ena amiyala. Ndikusinthabe tonsefe. Takhala tikukambirana pang'ono ngakhale. Nkhani zowona mtima. Palibe kukhazikika kapena kunama. Tinalankhula zomwe timamva osati zomwe mnzakeyo akufuna kumva. Ndipo ndinakwanitsa kuzigwiritsa. Onani kuti ndichinthu chovomerezedwanso. Nditha kuthana ndi chowonadi ngakhale chikundipweteka. Tikufalitsa nkhani poyera ndikuthana nazo.
• Tili ndi zolankhula zochepa tsopano. Timakondana ndipo ndimamupangitsa kuti aziseka ngati momwe ndinapangira m'masiku oyambilira. Timasangalala kuchitira zinthu limodzi. Timadzipatsanso tokha nthawi.
• Zikuwoneka kuti mkazi wanga wandikondanso. Zinatenga miyezi, koma kuthetheka kukubwerera. Sindine wosowa wothandizana naye pakhomo. Ndikukhala munthu wokoma mtima, wodziyimira pawokha, wamphamvu. Ndine wotsimikiza. Ndimapezeka m'maganizo koma sindimumangira mavuto anga ang'onoang'ono. Sayenera kukhala njira yanga yothandizira pafupipafupi, koma ndikudziwa kuti adzakhala ndi ine pazinthu zazikulu. Ndimathandizira pakhomo, koma ndichifukwa ndikufuna malo ogwirira ntchito tonsefe, osati chifukwa ndikuyembekeza kuyamikiridwa kapena kuchitiridwa zabwino. Ndinadabwa, ndikudabwa, alowanso kwa ine.
• Payenera kukhala mawu atsopano ogonana pa NoFap, popanda libido yochepetsedwa ndi PMO. Ndikuganiza kuti akadali gawo lomwe tikugwirako ntchito, koma zili bwino kale.
• Zolaula zandisiya m'mutu mwanga. Pakhala masiku posachedwapa pomwe ndimangoganiza zolaula chifukwa mawu amapezeka patsamba lino.
Ndili ndi chidaliro ndipo ndikulimba mtima ndikayamba kuchita chilichonse. Nditha kukhala wonyada popanda kufunika kubisa zofooka zanga. Anthu safuna ungwiro. Amafuna kuti mukhale enieni. Ndimasintha ndekha nthawi zonse, ndipo ndikwanira.
• Ndikulingalira kuthekera kwatsopano m'mbali zonse za moyo. Tsopano ndikuganiza Chifukwa chiyani?
• Sindikuganiza kuti zaka zanga zabwino kwambiri zatsalira. Amagona patsogolo, ndipo sindingathe kudikira.
zikomo
Pakhala pali anyamata angapo pano amene nthawi zonse amakhala akumandipatsa. Mukudziwa kuti ndinu ndani. Ndathandizidwa ndi kudzozedwadi ndi inu. Ambiri a inu mwandichirikiza ndi ndemanga ndi zokonda nanenso. Zinandithandiza kwambiri. Zikomo.
Zina mwa ulusi womwe ndawerenga apa zidasintha malingaliro anga. Anthu omwe adawalemba mwina sangadziwe kuti andithandiza. Nayi mfuu kwa aliyense amene amagawana nkhani zawo ndi nzeru zake pano. Simudziwa yemwe akuwerenga.
Gawo lotsatira lathanzi kwa ine ndikupita kutali ndi tsambali. Zowawa, chabwino? Sindikuganiza kuti ndichokapo kwathunthu, koma osadandaula ngati simukundiona. Ndi chinthu chabwino.
Sachedwa kwambiri, anyamata. Sizichitika nthawi imodzi. Chochita chilichonse, nkhondo yaying'ono iliyonse, idzakutsegulirani mwayi watsopano.
Inu mukhoza kuchita izo. Yambani tsopano.
LINK - Sizingachedwe Kusintha Moyo Wanu - Masiku 182
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