Sindinapezepo nkhani zambiri ngati zanga, pomwe panalibe chidwi chokhudzana ndi kugonana kapena kuchita bwino. Ndikulemba izi ndikuyembekeza kuti zithandizira munthu yemwe angaganize mwanjira imeneyi kapena atha kutsegula malingaliro anu ku malingaliro atsopano. Ndikulangiza kuti ndiyang'ane zolemba zanga chifukwa zimayenda bwino pazosintha. Ndibwerezanso izi m'masabata angapo ndikakhala ndi nthawi yochulukirapo koma ndasintha zina nazi:
Chifukwa chiyani ndidayamba?
Nditayamba, ndinali pamalo otsika kwenikweni pamakhalidwe komanso pantchito. Ndinazindikira kuti ndakhala ndikumwa mankhwala anga onse zolaula. Koma izi zimangopereka mpumulo kwakanthawi pamavuto omwewo. M'malo mwake, m'mene ndimadzilowerera mu mankhwalawa, idayamba kukhala gawo lazomwe ndimachita ndikakhala gawo la yemwe ndinali. Zinandipangitsa kuti ndiyike patsogolo zolinga zanga zazing'ono m'malo mwake ndimangoyang'ana pakufuna nthawi yomweyo. Ndinazindikira kuti ili linali vuto kangapo koma sindinathe kudzipereka kuti ndilitaye. Ndikukumbukira kuti ndinadziuza ndekha kangapo kuti: "Ndapanikizika kwambiri, ine akuyenera zolaula. ” Ndinalinso ndi mavuto angapo ogonana omwe mungawerenge pa zolemba zanga koma pano ndikusankha kuyang'ana mavuto anga azikhalidwe komanso akatswiri. Chodabwitsa, mfundo yomwe ine ndinali nayo inali kuwonera kanema uyu "Dzikondeni Wokha". Ndi kanema wokonda kwambiri ndipo kumapeto kwa kanemayo, ndidadzipeza ndikulira mosaletseka kwa mphindi 15 zabwino. Sizinali chabe chifukwa cha kanema. Ndinazindikira kuti ndimadzimva wosakondedwa. Sindinachitire banja langa, anthu okhawo omwe ndimamva kuti amandikonda, momwe amayenera kukhalira. Ndinali nditasiyitsa anzanga ambiri omwe anali atandikonda kale chifukwa chodzikuza ndikulephera kuzindikira tanthauzo lakachita zinthu zopambanitsa. Mwina chifukwa ubongo wanga umaganiza kuti "Sindikufuna izi, ndimatha kubwerera zolaula." Ndinazindikira momwe ndimasangalalira ndikamakondedwa. Zinakhala zomveka bwino kwa ine kuti dziko silimangoyenda mozungulira ine, ndipo ndiyenera kuphunzira kumvera chisoni anthu ndikuwona zinthu momwe amaonera. Ndinadzudzula zolaula chifukwa cholephera kumva chilichonse. Ndinadzudzula zolaula chifukwa cholephera kugwira ntchito. Ndinaika patsogolo pakuyang'ana kuti ndichite ntchito yabwino. Ndinkadana ndi zolaula, ndipo ndinkafuna kuthetseratu.
Pazifukwa zomwe zoyesera zanga zam'mbuyo zinalephereka komanso zomwe ndidasintha nthawi ino.
Ndayesera kuzipereka kangapo kusiyana kwakukulu pakadali pano ndikuti sindinachite kuti ndikhale mulungu wogonana. M'malo mwake, sindinasamale za vutoli. Ndikhoza kudziyang'ana pagalasi, ndikunena, ndikukhulupirira moona. Mwanjira ina, ndimamva kuti zinali zosamveka kuti ndizolowera. Pali njira zambiri zosangalalira ndipo timasankha zodabwitsazi kuposa china chilichonse. Popeza chidwi changa chokha chinali choti ndikhale wogonana bwino, sindinkachita maliseche koma ndimaganizirabe nthawi zonse. Njira imeneyo sinandigwirepo ntchito. Zili mofananamo ndi kukongoletsa ndipo ubongo sungathe kuthana ndi kupsinjika kumeneko. Nthawi ino, ndidakonza kuti ndisaganize konse za izi. Ndinali ndi cholinga chomveka chomwe chimawoneka choyenera kwambiri. Amayenera kukhala munthu wabwino, kukhala wokoma mtima kwa anthu, kusamalira dziko lapansi, kukonza kumvetsetsa kwanga, kuphunzira kumvera ena chisoni, ndikutha kuyika patsogolo zinthu kutengera kuganiza mozama ndikumvetsetsa zikhalidwe zanga.
Nditayamba, ndimadana ndi zolaula ndipo sindinkaganiza za izi. Poyang'ana m'mbuyo, silo lingaliro loipa. Mphamvu ndiyofunika, koma siyokwanira. Nthawi yanga yambiri ndimakhala ndikuphunzira momwe ndingakhalire opindulitsa pantchito ndikuyesera kukonza zinthu ndi anzanga ambiri. Ndinkakhala nthawi yayitali ndikulankhula ndi banja langa pafupipafupi. Mofulumira kwambiri, ndinawona momwe zinthu izi zimandipangitsa kukhala wosangalala kwambiri. Ndinayamba kumwetulira kwambiri ndipo ndikadziyang'ana pagalasi, ndimawoneka wokondwa. Koma ichi chinali chiyambi chabe cha zinthu.
Kodi ndimaganiza kuti masiku 90 angamve bwanji?
Kunena zowona sindinaganizirepo mtsogolo muno. Ndidawona kauntala wa tsiku pafupipafupi kwa milungu ingapo koma sindinkawawona pambuyo pake. Ndinali ndi zolinga ziwiri zokha. Chitani ntchito yabwinoko, khalani munthu wabwino. Ndinayesa kuganizira izi sabata iliyonse (pafupifupi tsiku lililonse). Sikuti ndikungofuna kukhala chabe koma kuphunzira ndikudzikonzekeretsa. Sizinali zophweka. Ndinakhala masiku ambiri ndekha ndikusungulumwa kwambiri. Koma sindinazione ngati chifukwa chowonera zolaula. M'malo mwake, ndimayesetsa kuti ndimve choncho. Sindinkafuna kumvanso. Zowonadi, ndikumverera komwe kumandithandiza kuti ndisabwererenso ku zolaula, sindikufunanso kuzimvanso.
Kodi zimakhala bwanji masiku 90?
Ndikumva mwayi kwambiri. Sindinazunguliridwe ndi abwenzi 100. Nthawi zambiri amakhala 1, nthawi zina zambiri. Koma ndikuwonetsetsa kuti ndidziwitse anthu awa momwe ndikuthokoza. Osangowauza izi koma ndikuzindikira kufunikira kwawo. Ndimayesetsa kukonzekera kucheza nawo. Sichikugwira ntchito nthawi zonse, koma sizabwino. Alibe ngongole yanga.
Ndalimbitsa mphamvu zanga zazikulu: banja langa. Ndimakhala nawo nthawi yochulukirapo kuposa kale ndipo sikuti ndi nthawi iliyonse. Ndimawawona ngati gulu langa ndipo amatenga gawo lofunikira pakupanga zisankho, ndipo inenso nditenga nawo gawo. Ndili ndi mwayi waukulu pano, chifukwa amandidziwitsa kufunika kwake kwa iwo. Amaonanso kusintha kumeneku mwa ine ndipo amandilimbikitsa. Ndicho chilimbikitso chachikulu.
Ndakhala ndi nthawi yanga yopindulitsa kwambiri pantchito, nthawi zonse. Pali malo ambiri oti ndisinthe koma ndimakondadi ntchito yanga. Nthawi zambiri ndimaganiza za komwe ndikupita nazo mtsogolo. Sizinthu zonse zomwe zingagwire ntchito momwe ndimafunira, koma ndayesetsa kwambiri. Ndipitilizabe, ngakhale kupita patsogolo kukukulira.
Kodi zopinga zanga zazikulu ndi ziti?
Kwa masiku 30 oyambirira kapena apo, sindinaganizepo za zolaula. Panali masiku omwe ndimaganiza kuti "ndidachiritsidwa". Koma mwatsoka, masiku anu sakhala angwiro ndipo moyo wanu sungasinthike. Zomwe ndimachita pazinthu izi ndizomwe ndimakondwera nazo kwambiri. Sindinatengepo yankho losavutalo, ndimaganizira momwe ndingathere, ndinakumbukira momwe ndinkamvera kale komanso momwe sindinkafunanso kudzimva, ndikukumana ndi vutoli polimbana nalo.
Panali tsiku lomwe ndimaganiza kuti sindifunanso Nofap, sindinathe. Koma kuzindikira kwanga kwakukulu ndikuti ulendowu siulendo wamasiku 90. Ndi moyo wanga wonse womwe ndidzagwirepo tsiku ndi tsiku m'moyo wanga. Ndipo ndili bwino ndi zimenezo. Musanyoze konse mphamvu yakulephera. Mutha kukhala ndi zochepa zazing'ono kapena zokwanira koma osazichotsa. Chitani nawo, mverani zowawa, chifukwa mukamamvanso, mudzakhala munjira yomwe siyikulolani kuti mumverenso. Ndikudziwa kuti iyi ndi nkhani yovuta: kumva ululu chifukwa pali mayankho omwe sitiyenera kutenga pano. Ngati mukumva kuwawa kwambiri kotero kuti simukuwona njira yomwe mungatenge kuti mutuluke, chonde chonde funani thandizo. Lingaliro langa pano sikuti muzimva kuwawa nthawi zonse koma kuzimva kuti musabwereze zolakwa zanu. Ndikukhulupirira kuti chifuniro chanu chidzapulumuka ndikukhala mosangalala kuposa mphamvu zina zonse.
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- Ndatsanzika kwawailesi yakanema kwa masiku 75 ndisanabwezeretse njira imodzi yokha.
- Kusinkhasinkha: masewera asinthidwa. Zinandipangitsa kuzindikira kuti nditha kusintha umunthu wanga kwathunthu.
- Kuganizira: popita nthawi, uyu anali wosintha masewera kwa ine. Ndinakhala mausiku angapo ndikumakhala ndikufunsa chilichonse chomwe ndachita kuti ndimvetse chifukwa chomwe ndachitapo kanthu kapena kumverera mwanjira ina.
- Zosangalatsa zatsopano: adakhala wocheperako (moyo wambiri), samalani mbewu, utoto, yoga.
- Ndasiya zizolowezi: Ndimapikisana pamasewera angapo, ndidasiya zonse. Mwina ndidzafikanso ngati ndingakhale ndi chidziwitso chokwanira champikisano koma ndimawona kuti ndiwodzikonda kwambiri.
Kodi ubale wanga ndi zolaula ndi kugonana ndindani?
Izi zimveka zachilendo koma dzilimbikitseni. Ndikuganiza kuti zolaula ndizabwino. Sindikunama ndekha kuti sindinakonde, inde ndinatero. Koma sindidzawonanso. Sizongokhala zanga. Ubwenzi wanga ndi iwo umangobweretsa zinthu zoyipa. Ndikutsimikiza kuti anthu amatha kupeza malire nawo ngati angafune. Osati ine.
Za kugonana, malingaliro anga pa izi anditsogolera kuzindikira kuti sindimamvetsetsabe. Ndinkafuna china chake moyipa kwambiri chifukwa aliyense amawoneka kuti akufuna. Ndimaganiza kuti ndimagwiritsa ntchito zolaula chifukwa ndinali wamanyazi kwambiri. Koma m'miyezi ya 3, sindinakhalepo (sindinalole kuti ndikhale). Zachidziwikire, ndikawonerera china chake chotentha kwambiri mu kanema (chibadwa changa chayamba kuyang'ana kwina), ndimadzuka. Koma ndipamene zimathera, sindimaganiziranso.
Ndine wokonzeka kumvetsetsa zambiri za izi ndipo tsiku lina ndikuyembekeza kutero. Koma kuyambira pano, sindikudziwa momwe zimandithandizira kulumikizana ndi munthu wina pamalingaliro.
Ndipita apa. Ndinayesera kuti mituyo ikhale yokhudza anthu azachuma komanso akatswiri momwe ndingathere. Ndikukhulupirira kuti izi zimathandiza munthu amene amaganiza ngati ine.
LINK - Masiku 90: ulendo wopitilira kugonana
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