Ndilongosola izi ndikunena kuti ndilibe chotsutsana ndi amuna ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, ndipo izi sizitanthauza kuti zichepetse aliyense pamitundu yosiyanasiyana yakugonana.
Ndidakhala pachibwenzi ndi "Sarah" kwa zaka pafupifupi 1.5, ndipo tidasiyana chaka chatha. Pofika muubwenzi, ndinali wogwiritsa ntchito zolaula mosasinthasintha. Ndidaziwona mwina masiku 3-7 pa sabata kwazaka 11 zapitazi. Pa nthawi yomwe ndinali ndisanakhalepo ndi vuto ndi PIED (zolaula-zomwe zimayambitsa vuto la erectile) ngakhale ndimagonana ndi atsikana ena awiri okha, ochepera nthawi 10.
Poyamba, kugonana kwanga ndi Sarah kunali kwabwino, koma nthawi imeneyo mwina inkangopita mwezi umodzi kapena apo. Sindikudziwa kuchuluka kwa zolaula zomwe ndinkadya panthawiyi, koma sindinapewe. Nthawi ina ndinayamba kuvutika ndi PIED, ndipo ndimayimba mlandu pamitsempha. Zitachitika kamodzi, ndimaganiza kuti chochitika chilichonse chotsatira chinali chifukwa cha mantha anga kuti zichitika - makamaka ulosi wokwaniritsa wokha. Sarah anali womvetsetsa poyamba, koma ndimatha kudziwa kuti zidamupangitsa kukhala wopanda nkhawa, chifukwa amaganiza kuti ndi vuto lake.
Pafupifupi miyezi isanu ndi umodzi tili pachibwenzi, Sarah adasunthira pafupi maola khumi kuchokera kwa ine, koma tidapanga kuti tizionanabe kangapo 6-1 pamwezi. Panthawiyi ndinali kuwonerera zolaula nthawi zonse. Ndinkadziwa / kuganiza kuti kupeŵa zolaula komanso maliseche m'masiku otsogolera masiku athuwa kungathetse vutoli, chifukwa ndimakhala woopsa. Monga momwe mungaganizire, sizinatero.
Popita nthawi PIED yanga idakulirakulira, ndipo Sarah adayamba kuvutika nayo kwambiri. Amandifunsa ngati ndimakopeka ndi iye (ndinali), ngati ndimamunamiza (sindinali), ngati ndimayang'ana zolaula (ndimanama), ndipo pamapeto pake, ngati ndimachita zachiwerewere. Munthawi yonseyi ndimakhala m'maganizo mwanga ngati wovutikayo. Ndinkadziwa kuti sindinachite zachiwerewere, kuti ndimakopeka ndi iye komanso zonsezi, komanso kuti zolaula sizikanakhala zovuta, popeza nthawi zambiri timagonana bwino. Ndinkakhulupirirabe kuti ndi misempha chabe yomwe imabweretsa vuto langa. M'kupita kwanthawi tidaganiza zothetsa chibwenzicho. Mwa zina chifukwa cha mtunda, ndipo gawo lina (osanenedwa) chifukwa cha zovuta zomwe ndalongosola. Ndidadzitsimikizira pang'ono kuti mwina sitimagonana, pazifukwa zosadziwika.
Tsopano ndikudziwa PIED yanga pa zomwe zili, ndipo ndikuzindikira kuti ndinathetsa ubale wabwino chifukwa cha zolaula. Ndikudziwanso momwe mavuto onsewa ayenera kuti anamusokonezera Sarah, ndipo ndikudandaula kwambiri. Kufunsa moona mtima ngati chibwenzi chake chopitilira chaka chinali chiwerewere, popeza sindinathe kulimbikira kapena kukhalabe ndi mkazi wamaliseche pabedi panga, ndipo ndinalibe chifukwa chomveka chopatula mantha. Ndinaganiza zobwera kwa Sarah, ndikuvomereza kuti ndinanama za zolaula zanga, ndikuti mwina ndizomwe zimayambitsa vuto langa. Ndinaganiza zotsutsana ndi izi, komabe, ngakhale zitandichititsa kuzindikira, zitha kungolimbikitsa lingaliro la Sarah kuti sanali wokongola mokwanira kwa ine, ndipo sayeneranso kuvutika m'mutu.
Ndinkafuna kulemba izi chifukwa ndikuganiza kuti anthu ambiri amaganizira za zolaula zawo pakugonana / malingaliro awo, koma osaganizira zomwe zimakhudza wokondedwa wawo. Ngakhale simukukhala pachibwenzi, siyani. Ngakhale mutakhala pachibwenzi ndipo mulibe mavuto ogonana, siyani. Simudziwa kuti PIED ikhoza kukugwerani. Ndipo ngati mukuvutika ndi PIED ndipo zikuyambitsa mavuto muubwenzi wanu, chifukwa cha mulungu, siyani zolaula. Mnzanu sayenera kuda nkhawa komanso kudzikayikira chifukwa cha zomwe mumachita.
M'chaka chomaliza chokhala wosakwatiwa, ndayesetsa kulephera kusiya zolaula nthawi zambiri. Miyezi iwiri yapitayo ndidaganiza zosiya kuwombera kwina, pomwe ndimaphunzira zambiri za zoyipa zomwe zimachitika chifukwa cha zolaula, ndikulowa mumitundu ina yambiri. Pafupifupi mwezi umodzi kuti ndiyesere izi, ndidayamba kucheza ndi bwenzi langa labwino, lokondana lomwe ndidaganizapo kale kuti ndingatuluke mu ligi yanga. Sitinawonjezere zinthu zakupsompsona pano, ndipo ndikudziwa kuti miyezi iwiri mwina siyikhala nthawi yokwanira "kukonzanso waya" muubongo wanga, koma sindiri kuda nkhawa kuti ndilephera kuchita nthawi ino. Zikachitika, nditha kuzidutsa ndikuvomereza kuti zotsatira zake ndizotsalira zomwe ndidakonda m'mbuyomu. Sindidzinamiziranso ndekha kapena anzanga pankhani zolaula. Sindingalole kuti wina aliyense azunzidwe ndi zizolowezi zanga zoipa.
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