Choyamba, mawu anzanga.
Ndili ndi zaka 24, ndine wochokera ku Russia ndipo pakadali pano ndimaliza digiri yanga ya sayansi, komanso ndine wosakwatiwa. Ndakhala ndikuyesera kuti ndisayang'ane P kuyambira 2015. Ndinali ndi zotsatira zosiyana kale, kotero mzere wanga wautali kwambiri unali wodabwitsa miyezi iwiri mu 2016. Vuto langa lalikulu komanso chifukwa chomwe ndinayambira kuchita NoFap ndikutaya mwayi wokhala ndi moyo wosangalala, chifukwa kukwaniritsa maloto anga, ndi chilichonse cholumikizidwa. Nthawi zambiri, ndinali wosasangalala, ndimakhala ndi malingaliro olakwika ndekha ndimalingalira zodzipha, komanso ndimasungulumwa ngakhale ndimakhala ndi anzanga ocheza nawo nthawi zonse.
Ndikufuna kupita molunjika ku mapindu omwe ndikuwona tsopano.
- Kudzikhulupirira kwanga komanso kudzidalira kwanga kunakulira misala
- Ndinayamba kucheza ndi anthu, amene ndimawaona kuti ndi amtengo wapatali. Ndidasonkhanitsanso phwando la kubadwa ndi anzanga, zomwe sindinachitepo mwadala.
- Sindikufuna kukukhumudwitsani, anyamata, koma sindinakhalepo ndi chilimbikitso chachikulu chotere kapena kuchepa kwa ulesi, sindinayanjane ndi atsikana aliwonse, sindinakwere phiri, KOMA zomwe ndakumana nazo komanso zomwe Ndimanyadira kuti ndikakhala wanzeru komanso wanzeru, ngakhale sizinandithandizire ndimakhoza, koma ndinayamba kuwona kuti zizolowezi zanga zakale zinali zopusa komanso zopanda tanthauzo. Mwachitsanzo, ndikudzidzimutsa ndi chakudya. Ndidazindikira kuti theka la nthawi zomwe ndimayandikira firiji ndizongofuna kubisala kuti ndisamve kuwawa kwam'mutu, osati chifukwa chopeza zosowa zathupi. China chomwe ndidazindikira, kuti nthawi zina ndimakwiya popanda chifukwa.
- Ubwino wina womwe ndimapezekanso ndikuti ndinayamba kuvomereza ndekha kuti ndine munthu wofooka komanso mphamvu zanga.
- Phindu lomaliza ndikuti ndidayamba kuthokoza pazonse zomwe zikuchitika komanso zomwe zidachitika m'mbuyomu, ndikuthokozanso chifukwa cha zoyesayesa zonse zomwe makolo anga adayesetsa kundilera.
Munthawi imeneyi sindinakhalepo bwino momwe zimakhalira, chifukwa chake panali mavuto omwe ndidakumana nawo.
- Pachiyambiyambi cha chingwechi ndidakumana ndi mavuto, ndinali wokhumudwa kwambiri, kotero ndidayitanira amayi anga kuti athetse ululu wanga. Ndinkadziwa kuti pamapeto pake zitha, choncho ndinangopitiliza.
- Vuto lina lomwe ndinali nalo linali loti m'miyezi iwiri ndinayamba kumanga pa P. Mwamwayi, mnzanga wofufuza ndalama adatsimikiza kuti ndizovuta ndipo ndiyenera kusiya.
- Vuto lomaliza lomwe ndinali nalo, kwenikweni linali lero, ndinali kulingalira ndikutha kulingalira ndipo ndinayamba kufunafuna P, koma ndinadziyimitsanso poganiza kuti ndikudziwa kale zomwe zingachitike komanso momwe ndingamverere pambuyo pake.
Lingaliro lalikulu la chizolowezi.
Ndinawerenga chaka chapitacho buku lotchedwa Power of Habit. Chimodzi mwazinthu zofunika zomwe ndatulukapo ndikuganiza za zizolowezi zazikuluzikulu, kuti powasintha padzakhala unyolo, makamaka, kuti zizolowezi zina zidzasinthanso, koma pali zovuta ziwiri; choyamba - ndizovuta kuzindikira chizolowezi chofunikira, chachiwiri - ngati titasintha chizolowezi cholakwika, zizolowezi zina zisinthanso mbali yomweyo, chifukwa chake tiyenera kukhala osamala kuti. Ndidamvetsetsa ndikusanthula moyo wanga kuti chizolowezi chachikulu kwa ine ndi P ndi M. Nthawi zonse ndimachita zoyipa ndikachoka ndikuchita bwino ndikamapewa. Ndikukuchenjezani: sizingakhale choncho, kuti chizolowezi chanu chachikulu sichofanana ndi changa.
Zochita zanga (zomwe ndimakonda kuchita ndikakhala ndi kukakamiza).
- Ngati ndikadakhala ndi vuto ndikanagwiritsa ntchito batani lochita mantha kapena kusewera patsamba lino,
- Nditangopeza chidwi changa ndinasintha ntchito, kapena malo, kuti ndisabwererenso kukonzanso.
- Pomaliza, ndinapenda mlanduwo kuti ndi chifukwa chani chomwe ndinayambira chizolowezi changa chakale. Kutha kukhala kuzengereza kapena kumverera kukakamizidwa kusankha kwakukulu kapena ntchito yomwe ndikufunika kuchita.
Maganizo ena.
Kukhala wotanganidwa nthawi zonse ndikuwongolera malingaliro anga kunandithandiza kwambiri. Komanso ndikufuna kugawana nanu kuti NoFap palokha idasintha moyo wanga, koma idalepheretsa kukula ndi kusintha kosalekeza. Tsopano pang'onopang'ono ndinayamba kuwonjezera zizolowezi zatsopano, monga kusinkhasinkha, kuunikanso malingaliro anga ndi maloto anga, machitidwe ndi machitidwe anga, kuyankhula ndi abale anga (m'mbuyomu m'moyo wanga ndinanyalanyaza izi zofunika) pakuyika zizolowezi zosiyanasiyana.
Mafunso ochokera kwa anzanga owerengera ndalama.
- Mukuwona kuti mumayang'ana akazi mopepuka?
Sindingathe kuyankha zenizeni, chifukwa sindinayese kuwapha mu theka la chaka chatha.
- Kodi simumanyazi komanso osamasuka?
Ayi, ndine wamanyazi komanso wopanda nkhawa, koma ndisanakhale ndi vuto nazo, koma tsopano ndikungokhala momwe ndiliri. Mwinanso sindichita manyazi ndikamachita zinazake. Mwachitsanzo, nthawi zina ndimakhala kuti mnzanga yemwe ndimakhala naye m'chipinda chimodzi mwadzidzidzi amalowa mchipinda chathu pomwe ndimayang'ana P, ndimangodabwa. Zachidziwikire ndidatseka tabu, koma ndidachita manyazi nazo. Mtima wanga umagunda kwambiri
- Kodi mumaona kuti simumadziletsa, komanso kumva kuti ndinu wofunika kwa ena? (Ndikudziwa kuti mwalankhula za chiphunzitso chanu)
Kwathunthu, inde! Ndanena kale kuti sindidya, ngakhale ndimakonda chakudya. Mbaliyi imandithandiza osati kungopulumutsa ndalama, komanso kukhala tcheru komanso kuyang'ana kwambiri. Ndangozindikira ndikamadya kwambiri patsiku ndimakhala waulesi komanso wopanda chidwi. Chifukwa tili ndi anthu ambiri otizungulira sizitanthauza kuti tifunikira kuwadyanso chimodzimodzi kwa P ndi chibwenzi, pali ochita zolaula ambiri komanso atsikana amoyo kunja uko, koma sitiyenera kuyesa zonse iwo. Kuchuluka kwa mabuku, makanema atsopano, zomwe zili pa intaneti, zikukulirakulira, koma sitiyenera kuwonera chilichonse.
Pomaliza, ndinganene kuti NoFap ndiyofunika kwambiri, ndipo ngati muli pa mpanda ngati zili zabwino kwa inu kapena ayi - ingopitani kukadziyang'ana nokha. Ndikukhulupirira kuti zabwino zonse zomwe ndili nazo pano ndizotsatira zamachitidwe motsatizana kuchokera kumizere yapitayi. Zotsatira sizinatuluke mwadzidzidzi. Kuti ndikulimbikitseni, anyamata, ndinganene kuti: ngati munabwereranso kapena kuterereka kamodzi - dziwani kuti mukupitabe patsogolo ndipo pamapeto pake tsogolo lanu lidzakuthokozani pazomwe mukuchita pano!
Zinthu zomwe zidandithandiza kukhalabe pamsewu:
- PornFree Radio podcast.
- Kuyankhula zamavuto anga ndi kufunafuna thandizo kwa ammudzi (a Accounting Partner) ndi oyandikana nawo.
- Dinani la mantha mwadzidzidzi (kuwonjezera mu Chrome)
- Kuwerenga ndi kumvetsera bukhu la 7 machitidwe a Anthu Opambana Kwambiri ndi Stephen Covey, akuganiza kuti palibe chilichonse chokhudza NoFap.
- Kuwerenga ulusi apa.
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