Sindinayambe ndakumanapo ndi amayi ena omwe adakhalapo (kapena okonzeka kuvomereza kukhala nawo) ngakhale kutali kwambiri ndi zolaula zomwe ndakhala nazo. Mwakutero, sindinganene kuti zomwe ndakumana nazo ndizofala, koma ndikhulupilira kuti ndizapadera. Kwenikweni: zolaula zidanditengera kugonana kwa atsikana (kapena osakakamira) atsikana ndikusintha kukhala munthu yemwe sangadzutsidwe kapena kukhutitsidwa ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo, makanema aliwonse achiwerewere, zogonana zenizeni, ndipo osati ndekha . Polemba izi, ndimangotsatira momwe zolaula zakhudzira moyo wanga wogonana ndi amuna ndi akazi osiyanasiyana.
Pakali pano inu nonse mukudziwa kuti zolaula zambiri (99%, ngati ndikuyesera kuti ndikhale hyperbolic) zimayang'aniridwa kudzera mwa amuna, ndi amayi monga chinthu chothandiza abambo ndi omwe amalingalira za amuna.
Chifukwa ndazolowera kuwona zachiwerewere pomwe zimayang'ana pa chinthu chachikazi, sindikudziwa momwe ndingatenge nawo gawo - osakhutitsidwa kapena kukhutitsidwa ndi - kugonana komwe ndilibe chinthu chazimayi kuti ndizingoyang'ana kuyatsa Ndipo chifukwa chakuti pakati pazinthu zotsutsana / zotsutsa ndizofala kwambiri ndipo sizinasokonezedwe zolaula, ndimamva kuti ndiudindo wanga ndiye, ngati mayi yekhayo amene analipo, kukhala wolakwayo. Chifukwa sindine munthu wodalira, zomwe zimachitika ndi chimodzi mwazinthu izi:
- Ndimamva kuti sindinapite kumbuyo / ndikusachita manyazi (ndipo ndikuchita manyazi kwambiri ndi wotsika) chifukwa ndikuona kuti sindingayambe kupikisana ndi amayi omwe amaonera zolaula omwe amalipidwa kukhala amaliseche. Kupezeka kwapadera ndi zosavuta zolaula zomwe zikuphatikizapo akazi a mtundu uliwonse-ndi-thupi lonse zandichititsanso ine kusankha kwambiri za mtundu wa matupi aakazi omwe ndimakopeka nawo. Chifukwa thupi langa liribe pafupi ndi thupi langa labwino, ndikuona kuti ndi kovuta kulingalira chifukwa chake wina angandipeza ngakhale kutali ndikugonana. Ndipo chifukwa amayi oipitsitsa pa zolaula nthawi zambiri amachita zinthu zoopsa kwambiri komanso zonyansa, ndimatha kumverera ngati ndikuyenera kuchita chimodzimodzi (ziribe kanthu momwe sindikufunira) kuti 'ndipange' momwe angasangalatse Ndine.
- Ndimawona kuti ndikuwopsezedwa komanso kukhala pachiwopsezo, chifukwa ndikudziwa zinthu zomwe zingachitike pazinthu zolaula. Tsoka ilo, ndikudziwanso zina mwa zinthuzi ndekha ndipo ndikudziwa zomwe zimachitika kwa zinthu zomwe zimayesetsa kukana. Nthawi zonse anthu akamayankhula za yankho la 'nkhondo kapena kuthawa' pangozi, satchula njira yachitatu: kuundana. Ndimakhala wopunduka, chifukwa ndimakhala wotsutsana kwambiri komanso womvera kwambiri nthawi yomweyo. Sindingathe kudzutsidwa.
Chifukwa ndimazolowera kutsutsa ndikudzuka ndikuwona matupi azimayi zolaula, tsopano ndizosatheka kuti ndipeze thupi lamwamuna likugonana. Thupi langa limatha kudzutsidwa chifukwa cholimbikitsidwa ndi mnzanga wamwamuna, koma ndizosazindikira komanso zachilengedwe - malingaliro anga sali 'owopsa'. Ndimasangalalabe ndipo ndimakonda kuyankhula mwakuthupi, koma mbolo ndi munthu wolumikizidwa ndi njira zothetsera osati zosangalatsa, makamaka zowoneka.
Kugonana ndi azimayi komabe, kulinso patebulopo, chifukwa cha nkhani yaying'ono koma yofunika. Izi zikhoza kukhala gawo lovuta kwambiri pa positiyi kuti mumvetse, kotero apa akupita: Chifukwa chakuti zolaula zimawomberedwa ndikuwonetsedwa kuchokera kwa amuna, ndimakopeka ndi akazi ngati kuti ndine mwamuna. Tsopano sindingathe kudzutsidwa ndi zolaula.
Eya.
Kufotokozera, ine sindiri wopandukira ndipo sindikuganiza kuti ndikumva chisoni ndi "mbolo" pamene kumangokhalira kugonana ndikuyesera kugonana ndi mkazi. Pamene ndikuwonera zolaula, sindikudziwa kuti pali kusiyana pakati pa omvera ndi omvera achikulire, mosasamala kaya ali ndi POV kapena ayi. Malinga ndi malingaliro anga omwe amadziwa nthawi yomwe imadzutsa, mbolo yomwe ili pazenera ndi yanga.
Ndipotu, ngakhale kuti ndingakonde kugonana ndi amayi omwe ali mmenemo, zolaula zokhudzana ndi zibwenzi zanga sizikundikakamiza pamene palibenso mbolo kapena mbolo yooneka ngati mbolo yomwe ikugwiritsidwa ntchito mu equation. Zithunzi zamakono zandichititsa kuti amayi anga aziwakonda kwambiri pogwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zanga zogonjetsa, zolinga komanso kuti ndizitumikire ndi anthu.
Pamwamba pa zonse ndikuchotsa kaboni kakang'ono kabwino, zolaula zidakwanitsa kuthana ndi zodabwitsazi komanso chisokonezo chokhudzana ndi kugonana kwanga NDISANAKHALE ndikhoza kudzipangitsa kuti ndikhale ndekha. Zomwe zikutanthawuza kuti kuyesayesa kulikonse kwa maliseche (kutanthauza ambiri - ngati si okhawo - njira yokhutiritsa ndikugonana yomwe ndasiya) kumabweretsa manyazi aku Vatican, ooneka ngati dildo, chifukwa-ichi-sichowopsa, manyazi, kukhumudwa, mkwiyo, kunyansidwa ndi kudzinyansitsa.
Ndipo ndipita kuti komwe sindingathe kudzutsidwa ndikumva kuti ndine wotsika komanso wopanda umunthu?
Zolaula, ndithudi.
Dziko limene amayi ali ndi zinthu zogonana zomwe safuna kukhutira ndi kugonana, ndipo pamene ine, zobisika mwa omvetsera, ndingathe kudziyerekezera sindiri mmodzi wa iwo.