Mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya kusintha kwa ubongo ingachitike mukamagwiritsa ntchito intaneti pafupipafupi: zokhudzana ndi maganizo, zikhalidwe komanso zoledzera. Zonsezi zimakhudza kusintha kwa mapuloteni m'mapangidwe a maselo a mitsempha ndi kugwirizana kwawo. Palibe mzere womveka bwino wolekanitsa maganizo ndi chikhalidwe kuchokera ku kusintha kwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo.
Mwachitsanzo, kodi ndi kulimbitsa thupi, kapena "kusangalala kosatha" ngati wina ayamba kulakalaka chilakolako cha kugonana kapena mtundu wina wa zolaula? Kapena zonse ziwiri? Kanemayu akuwonetsa sayansi yomwe imayambitsa kugonana kwa achinyamata komanso zolaula pa intaneti: Ubongo wa Achinyamata Ukumana ndi Zolaula Zapaintaneti Zothamanga Kwambiri. Ulusi wa reddit uwu ukuyankha funso lomweli - Ndani pano amene akuchita NoFap yemwe si "wokonda chizolowezi?"
Zowonongeka zingayambitse ngakhale munthu asanalowe muyeso. Kusintha kwakukulu kosayembekezereka komwe kumawoneka ndiko kukhumudwitsa ndi kukuthandizani. Kufuna kudziletsa ndi "kusokonezeka maganizo." Zikuwoneka kuti ndizowonjezereka kwambiri muzinthu zoopsa kwambiri kapena nthawi yochuluka yowonerera zolaula. Kuyanjanitsa kumaphatikizapo kupanga mapulogalamu ambiri ovuta kukumbukira zolaula. Izi zikuwoneka ngati cues (kuona chithunzi, kupanikizika, kukhala yekha) kuchititsa chilakolako chogwiritsa ntchito zolaula. Pamene ubongo wanu umalimbikitsidwa kwambiri, khalidwe limakhala lokha.
Munthu uyu anaganiza zoyambiranso ntchito yake kumayambiriro kwa ndondomekoyi, ndipo anafotokoza zomwe adakumana nazo:
Ndine wamwamuna wazaka 22 ndipo ndakhala ndi posachedwa (masiku 33) ndidayamba PMO wanga. Sindingaganize kuti ndine woledzera, koma ndimayang'ana zolaula ndikuchita maliseche mwina kuyambira khumi ndi zisanu. Ku koleji kunali kosavuta kutero, chifukwa chake ndimayesa kuseweretsa maliseche pang'ono, koma osati kwambiri. Ndinkangokhalira kuseweretsa maliseche kamodzi patsiku, ndikumaonera zolaula. Komabe zochepa zolakwika zidachitika ndipo ndidayamba kufunafuna mayankho. Ndapeza tsamba ili ndi yourbrainonporn.com ndipo zonse zinali zomveka.
Ndine wamkulu wa biology ndipo zonse zokhudzana ndi ubongo ndi ma dopamine zimandipangitsa ine kuyesera. Ndinawona zotsatira m'masabata osakwana 2, ndipo ndinapeza kuti kusiya zolaula kunali kosavuta. Muyenera kungopanga mfundo pamutu mwanu kuti simudzawonanso zolaula. Zimakhala zosavuta ndi nthawi, koma kenaka sindinali chidakwa kwambiri. Komabe ine ndinatero ndipo ndikupezabe zolimbikitsa kuti ndizichita maliseche.
Zonsezi pambali, ndimangomva bwino patatha milungu ingapo: mphamvu zambiri, ndimakhala ochezeka, komanso wolimba kwambiri. Sindingathokoze anthu pano mokwanira kuti agawane zambiri zawo zakuyambiranso nane. Chiyambireni kubwerera ku semester iyi yaku koleji, ndakhala ndikugonana bwino ndi atsikana osiyanasiyana a 3 ndipo sindinakhalepo ndi chidaliro chogonana. Sindinakhalepo wovuta kwambiri m'moyo wanga, ndipo sindimakhala wopunduka panthawi yogonana tsopano. Sipitiliza kukhala PMO wamtsogolo zowonadi, koma ndikumva ngati ndamenya chinthu ichi, ndipo chifukwa cha ichi ndasiya pang'ono. Ndikudziwa kuti sindidzaoneranso zolaula.
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Ndakhala ndikukula kwa zaka 2 zokha ndipo ngakhale ndimangopita kamodzi patsiku kapena awiri. Zomwe ndikuwona mu subreddit iyi ndikuti aliyense amawoneka ngati munthu amene wakhala akugwedezeka kwazaka ndi zaka. Funso langa nlakuti, kodi ndidzawona zabwino zilizonse? Popeza izi sizinanditengere moyo wanga kapena kundisintha mwanjira iliyonse yayikulu, kodi ndipindulabe zabwino zake? Ndimakhala ndi nkhawa kwambiri ndipo zimandivuta kulankhula ndi atsikana. Chifukwa changa chachikulu chochitira izi ndikuti ndikhale wolimba mtima, chifukwa ndi zomwe akatswiri ambiri amafufuza.
Yankhani 1
Sindinaganize kuti ndinali nditaledzera kwambiri chifukwa ndimangokhalira kutengeka kamodzi sabata iliyonse kapena awiri. Koma pamapeto pake ndinazindikira, zopanda pake zakhala zaka 8. Sindinapange zambiri kuti masabata a 2 m'zaka 8. Chifukwa chake ndimayesa kuyima. Sindingathe. Sabata kapena awiri samakhala pafupipafupi koma ngati wina SANGAPE sabata limodzi kapena awiri, pepani koma ali ndi vuto. Uku ndiye kutalika kwambiri komwe kwachitika m'zaka (masiku 27) ndipo yakhala nkhondo yayikulu kwambiri m'moyo wanga. Kubwereranso pambuyo poyambiranso. Mwezi ndi mwezi. Chaka ndi chaka. Ndikadatha kubwerera ndikusiya ndili ndi zaka zingapo ndipo osatsimikiza kuti zinali zoyipa bwanji ndikadatero. Osayang'ana kumbuyo izi ndikukhumba mukadakhala kuti mukuyendetsa zinthu pomwe zinali zosavuta.
Yankhani 2
Inde, ndikudandaula zakale ndizomwe zikundisowetsa mtendere masiku ano. Mipata yambiri yatayika…
Yankhani 3
Mukuwona anthu omwe akhala akugwedezeka kwazaka ndi zaka chifukwa ndizovuta kuyima panokha. Ndine poizoni, wochenjera kwambiri, ndipo simukuziwona zikubwera. Mukuganiza kuti mulibwino mpaka nthawi yomwe mudzakhale ndi mwayi wolankhula ndi mayi wodabwitsa ndipo mwangokhala pamenepo, ubongo wadzazidwa ndi zithunzi zamatope ndi vaginas, mukutuluka thukuta, m'mimba mwanu muli mfundo, ndipo inu dziwani kuti simungaganize zilizonse zoseketsa kapena zonena. Mwayi umatha, wapita kukapeza anthu abwinobwino ndipo simudziwa zomwe zachitika, chifukwa chiyani thupi lanu linakuperekani chonchi. Chifukwa chake mumapita kunyumba ndikumapita kukamva bwino. Ndizovuta kwambiri. Ngakhale anthu omwe mwanjira inayake amatha kupeza wokwatirana naye amawononga miyoyo yawo ndikukula kwambiri. Maliseche si mnzako.
Yankhani 5
Sindikuganiza kuti ndimakonda kwambiri zolaula, koma ndapindulapo kwambiri. Mphamvu zambiri, chilimbikitso chochuluka chokhala ndi akazi enieni. Yesani kuti muwone ngati mungapindule, ndikutsimikiza kuti mudzatero.
Palibe amene akudziwa kuchuluka kwa ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula - omwe sanali ndi chizolowezi choledzera - omwe akukumana ndi mavuto, koma pofika mu 2016, pafupifupi 30% ya amuna omwe amagwiritsa ntchito zolaula akunena kuti ali ndi mavuto , kapena akuyesedwa kuti ali ndi mavuto . (Kafukufuku woyamba mwa awiriwa adanenanso kuti theka la ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula afika pa zinthu zomwe kale zinali "zosasangalatsa" kapena "zonyansa.") Izi zikusonyeza kuti amuna omwe sakanakhala ndi vuto lalikulu akanapanda kuonera zolaula, akuvutika ndi mavuto okhudzana ndi zolaula.