'OCD Achiwerewere': Amuna Oongoka Omwe Amayesa Kuti Ndi Amtundu Wachiwerewere
Akatswiri ena a maganizo amaganiza kuti kuvomereza kwa amuna okhaokha kwalepheretsa kuvomereza kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
Katswiri wazamisala Steven Brodsky yemwe amakhala ndi vuto lokonda kutengeka ndi zinthu mopitirira muyeso, akuti nthawi ina iliyonse amakhala ndi makasitomala "ochepa" omwe amawongoka ndikuwakayikira kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
Brodsky, yemwe ali mkulu wa chipatala chake OCD ndi Panic Center ya NY ndi NJ, adati adali ndi wodwala wamkulu wodwalayo yemwe anali wolumala kwambiri chifukwa choganiza kuti sangayambe kugonana ndi amuna okhaokha ndipo anayenera kubwerera nawo limodzi ndi makolo ake. Brodsky adati adatsimikiza kuti wodwalayo ali ndi OCD yogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
"Anali ndi chikwama chapamwamba," adatero Brodsky. “Ankadzimva kuti amakopeka ndi anyamata ena.”
Wodwala uyu anali wolunjika, molingana ndi Brodsky, koma anali ndi maganizo olakwika omwe sanakhazikitsidwe pa zovuta zenizeni mu khalidwe lake.
Brodsky adati wochiritsira m'mbuyomu adazindikira kuti wodwalayo ndi gay, ndipo pempho la wodwalayo, adamutumiza mankhwala othandizira, njira yotsutsana yomwe siinayesedwe kukhala yothandiza ndipo ikhoza kukhala yovulaza.
"Ndili ndi makasitomala ambiri achiwerewere ndipo phobia ndi bizinesi yanga," adatero. "Ndimawawona ngati kasitomala aliyense amene akufunafuna thandizo, ndipo ndimasangalala kwambiri ndikamagwira nawo ntchito limodzi ndi makasitomala anga onse."
Koma, akuti odziwa zaumoyo amafunika kumvetsetsa bwino OCD kuti odwala alandire chithandizo choyenera cha maganizo, m'malo mopereka uphungu pa zovuta za kugonana zomwe amati alibe chochita ndi matenda a maganizo.
OCD imeneyi imagwera pansi pa zochitika za kugonana, malinga ndi Jeff Szymanski, katswiri wa zamaganizo komanso wamkulu International OCD Foundation.
"Ndachitapo izi kangapo," adatero. “Anthu awa amadwala matenda okayikira. Ngakhale akudziwa kuti ndi 100% molunjika, osati amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, amawaganiziranso. Mwachitsanzo, angaganize kuti, 'Dikirani miniti ndakhala nthawi yayitali ndikumuyang'ana munthu uja m'chipinda chosinthira. Zimatanthauza chiyani?' Amasochera posowa kudziwa - kufunikira kotsimikiza. ”
Szymanski adati mwa 90% ya milandu yomwe adachitapo, wodwalayo akuwongoka. Nthawi zina, munthu amaphunzira kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo. "Ndikunena, o, ndizosangalatsa, mumamva bwanji za kukhala amuna okhaokha ndipo tingachite bwanji izi? '
Anatinso kutengeka mtima "ndikofala kwambiri mdziko la OCD."
"Ngati mungalumikizane ndi sing'anga wamba ndi kuwauza za izi - kapena munthu amene akuopa kuti akutukwana Mulungu, anganene kuti, 'Izi zimveka zachilendo.' Koma ife akatswiri timawona nthawi zonse. ”
Brodsky akuti kuvomereza kwamasiku ano kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso moyo wamtundu wa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumatha kuchititsa khungu othandizirawa ku matenda amtunduwu amphwayi mwa amuna owongoka. Madokotala atha kudumpha mwachangu, koma molakwika, kuti wodwalayo akufuna njira yotuluka mchipinda ndikumuthandiza "kutuluka kumeneko ndikuyesa."
Dr. Jack Drescher, katswiri wazamisala wodziwika ku New York City yemwe amadziwika kuti ndi katswiri wazamisala wa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso amathandizira odwala OCD, adavomereza kuti "kuda nkhawa kuti munthu akhoza kukhala gay sikumangokhala ngati kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha."
"Munthu yemwe ali ndi OCD yemwe ali ndi malingaliro okhumudwitsa kapena ayi, samachita zachiwerewere, chifukwa chakuti sanaphatikizepo kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha mwanjira iliyonse yotsimikizira kuti ndi ndani," adatero Drescher. "Komanso, ngati samakopeka ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, samachita maliseche ndi zogonana za amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, satengeka kwenikweni ndi zolaula za amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, ndiye kuti zimakhala zovuta kunena kuti ali ndi kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha malingaliro. ”
Drescher adachiritsa odwala malingaliro ena okhudzana ndi kugonana. "Wodwala wina anali ndi chidwi chokhala ndi ana ogona ana, ngakhale anali asanamwalirepo ndi ana. Wina anali kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndipo amawopa kuti ali ndi kachilombo ka HIV.
Anagwirizana ndi Brodsky kuti othandizira ena atha kuphonya matenda a OCD, koma "chomwe chimayambitsa izi sikuti amatsimikizira kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha koma kuti alibe maphunziro odziwa zizindikiro za OCD."
OCD ndi matenda ovutika maganizo momwe anthu amakhalanso ndi maganizo ndi zolakwika zomwe zimawapangitsa kudzimva kuti ndi olakwa kapena kuyesedwa kuti azichita mobwerezabwereza (compulsions), zomwe zimakhudza anthu a 2.2 miliyoni, malinga ndi American Psychiatric Association. Zovuta zowonjezereka zimaphatikizapo nkhaŵa zokhudzana ndi majeremusi, zovulaza kapena zoletsedwa zogonana kapena maganizo achipembedzo.
Brodsky adanena kuti munthu yemwe amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amakhala ndi "mayanjano osangalatsa" okopa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndipo munthu yemwe ali ndi OCD satero.
"Munthu amene ali ndi OCD" sangaleke kuganizira za izi ndikukakamiza kuti athetse ganizo, "adatero. "Mobwerezabwereza, modandaula, kuwunika zomwe zidachitika m'mbuyomu, kudziyesa okha, kufunsa kuti atsimikizidwe, kufunafuna intaneti mwachangu kuti ayesedwe amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, kudziyesa okha ndi zolaula kapena amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
"Amadziwa kuti samakopeka ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndipo amakopeka ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo, koma amakhala akumenya nkhondo tsiku lonse," atero a Brodsky. “Sangaganizire china chilichonse. Kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sikumaphetsa nkhondoyi. ”
Ross Murray, wolankhulira gulu la advocacy LGBT GLAAD, adanena kuti sanamvepo za mtundu umenewu wa OCD, koma Brodsky amamveka bwino.
"Zikumveka chimodzimodzi ngati mantha amantha kapena kuopa njoka," adatero. "Sindingaganize za aliyense amene amakhala ndi chidwi choterechi pa zakugonana."
"Wina yemwe amagonana amuna okhaokha, koma mu chipinda, sakhala nthawi yofufuza komanso kudziyesa," adatero. "Amadziwa pansi pamtima kuti ndi gawo lawo. Amuna achiwerewere sakufuna kutsimikizika kwamtundu uliwonse. ”
Kukhala ndi maganizo okhudzana ndi kugonana sikuli kosiyana ndi kukhumudwa kwina kulikonse, anati Brodsky.
"China chake chomwe adawerenga kapena kumva poyamba chimayambitsa izi," adatero Brodsky. "Mnzathu anganene china chake ndipo angaganize kuti, 'Gee, ndikhoza kukhala wogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
Amatha kukhala ndi malingaliro obisika amthupi, kutengeka ndi mwamuna wina. "Zachidziwikire kuti izi sizimapangitsa kukhala amuna kapena akazi okhaokha," adatero. “Sizitengera chilichonse kuti munthu akope.”
Malingaliro okokomezawa sanakhazikitsidwe pakukonda amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, malinga ndi Brodsky. "Izi - ngakhale kugonana - sizikugwirizana nazo," adatero. “Mwina adazunzidwa ali mwana kapena adangomva kuti 'amuna kapena akazi okhaokha' akunyozedwa. Palinso nkhani zina m'moyo wawo zomwe zimawalepheretsa kukhala ndiubwenzi wokondana komanso wokhulupirika. ”
Ponena za chithandizo, Brodsky adati athandiza wodwala yemwe analidi gay kuti atsimikizire malingaliro awo ndikukhala ovomerezeka, "kupeza bata ndi mtendere wamumtima."
"Izi ndizosiyana ndi njira ya chithandizo cha OCD chomwe chimagwiritsa ntchito mankhwalawa, omwe amayesa kuyambitsa nkhawa ndikuwopa mantha," adatero. "Kuwonetsera sikukhudzana kwenikweni ndi chowonadi, kufikira kumveketsa kapena kudzidziwa wekha ... Ndizosavuta, umakumana ndi mantha ako ndikukayika nthawi zokwanira, osadzilimbitsa, ndipo umakhumudwa ndi izi."
Odwalawa amatha kuchiritsidwa bwino mofananamo mitundu ina ya OCD imathandizidwira, malinga ndi Brodsky. "Ndizosavuta ndipo ndizothandiza."
Drescher adanena kuti mankhwala amathandizanso kwambiri, makamaka pamtendere ndi mankhwala.
Kuzindikira chomwe chimayambitsa kukhumbira "sikuda konse," malinga ndi Brodsky. "Ndipo uyenera kuwona mbiri yonse yamakhalidwe awo ... Pali kusiyana pakati pa OCD ndi munthu amene amakopeka ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo."
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Ndemanga za nkhaniyi - Kukonza zonena zabodza za Drescher
Kuchita zachiwerewere OCD si zachilendo, ndipo zimachitika pakati pa ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula masiku ano pa intaneti. Ndiye kuti, tawona malipoti azambiri za amuna kapena akazi okhaokha omwe nawonso adasokonekera chifukwa choti, popita nthawi, amatha kungoyang'ana zolaula. Zolaula zawo sizinkagwiranso ntchito.
Ambiri amati panthawi yolaula, atakhala kanthawi kochepa, nthawi zambiri amapita ku chinthu china "chowopsa" kuti atsike. Chifukwa chiyani? Iwo sakuganiza, ndipo zimapereka kugundana kowonjezera kwamankhwala amitsempha (kuchokera ku nkhawa, mantha kapena kudabwitsidwa) komwe kumapangitsa nyongowayo kukhala yamphamvu. Izi, mosazindikira, zimapangitsa ubongo kuyamba kulumikiza kuyanjana pakati pazomwe zidapangitsa kuti pakhale "bwino" pachimake ndi malingaliro abwino.
Izi zikuwoneka kuti zikuyendetsedwa ndi chifukwa chakuti ena ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti amakhala opanda chiyembekezo chifukwa chakuzindikira kwakanthawi kotero kuti amafunikira zachilendo zina (kukondoweza). Mwanjira ina, zikuwoneka kuti ndi chiwonetsero cha kulolerana (kusintha kwa bongo komwe kumakhudzana ndi zosokoneza bongo). Tikunena izi chifukwa tidamvapo omwe kale anali ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula omwe asiya zolaula akuti, pang'onopang'ono, zokonda zawo zimayambiranso kukonda zolaula zawo zisanachitike pa intaneti. Mwawona Kodi Mungakhulupirire Johnson Wanu?
Mfundo ndiyi Kukula ndikufika pachimake pachinthu chomwe sichikugwirizana ndi zomwe mumakonda ndi chimodzi mwaziopsezo zakuseweretsa maliseche kwinaku mukusewera ukondewo. Zikuwoneka kuti ndizowopsa kwa aliyense amene ali ndi zizolowezi za OCD chifukwa akufuna "kukhala otsimikiza," motero pamapeto pake amayesa kuyesa ndikuyesa zolaula zosiyanasiyana, zomwe zimawapangitsa kuti alowe mu zingwe zawo zosafunikira (re).
Pankhaniyi, sitiyenera kutsutsana ndi Drescher kuti "kuonera zolaula kumatanthauza kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha." Sizomwe zimakhalapo ngati atagwera pomwe amafufuza zachilendo kenako ndikupitiliza "kuyesa." Kumbali inayi, zokonda za ogwiritsa ntchito koyambirira kwa zolaula zawo zitha kukhala chiwonetsero chazomwe amakonda.
Chinthu chomwe chimawathandiza kwambiri ndi kusiya kuyesa, kufufuza ndi kufunafuna chilimbikitso, komanso koposa zonse, kupeŵa zolaula zonse za intaneti kwa miyezi. Pang'onopang'ono, anthu amadziŵa kuti ndi ndani. Panthawiyi, ena amafunikira mankhwala chifukwa chakuti nkhawa zawo panthawi yopuma zimakhala zoopsa, ndipo zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kwa milungu ingapo.
Tikulakalaka zodabwitsazi zakugonana pakati pa ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula zimamveka bwino pakati pa akatswiri azaumoyo. Lamulo loti "Ndiomwe mumachita maliseche" mwina limagwira bwino ntchito zolaula za pa intaneti, chifukwa owonera samakonda kusefukira / kupita kumtundu watsopano wokhala ndi maliseche m'manja. Tsopano akutero, ndipo ubongo wathu umakhala pulasitiki kwambiri pankhani yakugonana, makamaka munthawi yaunyamata.
Izi zikutanthauza kuti Maganizo Oipa Ambiri Biliyoni akusocheretsa kwambiri anthu ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula. Ogas ndi Gaddam anangotsatira otsatira a miyezi ya 3, kotero zikuwoneka kuti anaphonya zochitika izi kwathunthu. Mulimonsemo, deta yawo inasonkhanitsidwa kwambiri musanafike padera pangozi yoopsya (kutsegulira zowonjezera zatsopano).
Ubongo wapulasitiki womwe umayambitsa zodabwitsazi, makamaka zikafika pakulumikizitsa mayanjano azakugonana muubongo wachinyamata, zikutanthauza kuti "Gwiritsani ntchito zolaula pa intaneti kuti mupeze omwe muli ogonana" upangiri ndichinyengo kwambiri kwa ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula. Ndizotheka kuti adzadziwe kuti ndi ndani miyezi yakugonana atasiya zolaula pa intaneti… ngati angayeseko.