Yambani ku nkhani yapachiyambi: September 22, 2015, ndi Yona Mix
Mwezi watha, Journal of Sex Research inafalitsa "Kodi Zithunzi Zolaula kwenikweni Za 'Kupanga Udani kwa Akazi?' " pepala lofuna kupeza mgwirizano wabwino pakati pa zolaula ndi malingaliro achikazi. Akatswiri ofufuza a ku Canada omwe akufufuza zofukufukuwa sanagwiritse ntchito momveka bwino kuti amadana nawo kwambiri kuti:
"Malingana ndi lingaliro lachikazi lachikazi, zolaula zimapititsa patsogolo kugonjera kwa amayi mwa kuphunzitsa ogwiritsa ntchito, amuna ndi akazi mofanana, kuti awonere akazi mochuluka kuposa kugonana komwe amuna ayenera kukhala nawo. Mitundu yowonjezera ya General Social Survey inagwiritsidwa ntchito poyesa lingaliro lakuti ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula angakhale ndi malingaliro omwe amathandizira kwambiri kusiyana kwa amuna ndi akazi kusiyana ndi osakonda zolaula. Zotsatira sizinagwirizane ndi zozizwitsa zomwe zimachokera ku chiphunzitso chokhwima chachikazi. Owerenga zithunzi zolaula ankachita zinthu zosagwirizana-kwa akazi omwe ali ndi maudindo, kwa akazi ogwira ntchito kunja kwa nyumba, komanso kuchotsa mimba-kusiyana ndi anthu osakonda zolaula. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula komanso osasamala zolaula sizinali zosiyana kwambiri ndi malingaliro awo pa banja lachikhalidwe komanso mwa kudzidzidzimutsa monga chikazi. Zotsatira za phunziroli zikuwonetsa kuti zolaula zimagwiritsidwa ntchito sizingagwirizane ndi kugonana kosagwirizana mwa njira zomwe zimagwirizana ndi chiphunzitso chachikulu chazimayi. "
Inde, malo ogulitsira nkhani ali kale adalumphira pa phunzirolo monga umboni wa ngale yaikulu-yachikazi yokhala ndi luso. Koma ufulu wotsutsa awa, monga ofufuza okha, akulakwitsa za chiphunzitso chokhachi chachikazi. Malo odana ndi zolaula sanena kuti amuna omwe amaonera zolaula ndizofunikira Zambiri kusayenerera kuposa amuna omwe samatero - kokha kuti zolaula ndizozoloŵera komanso zothandiza momwe amuna amaphunzitsidwira ku misogyny.
Zina, njira zabwino zowonjezera chidani chazimayi chikhalirebe, ndipo amuna ambiri omwe samayang'ana zolaula amawoneka kuti akutsogoleredwa ndi akuluakulu ozungulira: Chitetezo chachipembedzo. Mukamayang'ana njira zikwi zambiri zomwe abambo angaphunzire kudana nazo akazi, zimakhala zoonekeratu kuti "Amuna omwe amagwiritsa ntchito zolaula sagonana kwambiri kuposa amuna omwe sali" ndipo "Porn sizimapangitsa amuna kugonana" ndi zosiyana kwambiri mawu. Omwe akugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo omwe amagwiritsa ntchito cocaine mwina amakhala moyo wautali kuposa mankhwala osokoneza bongo omwe amagwiritsa ntchito heroin. Izi sizikupangitsa cocaine kukhala zabwino kwa inu.
Koma phunziro ili silikufunsa ngakhale funso lake lopusa bwino. Chifukwa chimodzi, amatha kufotokoza zolaula ngati wina aliyense amene "wasankha filimu ya X m'chaka chapitacho." Kodi zimenezi zikutanthauza chiyani? Zolaula zambiri lero zimayang'anitsidwa mufupikiti pa intaneti, ndipo anthu ambiri samagwiritsa ntchito "X-rated" or "Filimu" kuti muwafotokozere. Palibe njira yodziwira momwe amuna omwe amachitira kafukufukuyo amamasulira funsolo; Ndikutha kulingalira kuti owerenga ambiri oonera zolaula sangaganizire maminitsi khumi ndi asanu omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito pa Porn Hub monga "filimu X."
Ndilo chikhalidwe chosavomerezeka cholengeza anthu ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula. Pansi pa mzerewu, munthu yemwe amadzikweza Kusokoneza nkhope kawiri patsiku amawerengedwa ngati ofanana ndi munthu yemwe adasindikiza kafukufuku wam'mbali Atsikana Athawa miyezi isanu ndi itatu yapitayo. Zonsezi ndizolakwika molakwika, koma ndi zopanda pake kuziyika zomwezo pamene mukuchita phunziro ngati ili. Njira yabwino kwambiri yowonetsera zolaula zimagwiritsa ntchito malingaliro ogonana ndikuyang'ana mgwirizano.
Chilankhulo chosadziwika ndi magulu onyenga ndi mavuto, koma phunziroli limachokera ku zopanda pake ngati zopanda phindu pamene muyang'ana mchitidwe wawo wokhudzana ndi kugonana. Ofufuzawa anagwiritsa ntchito mfundo zinayi zapadera monga chithandizo: Kuwathandiza amayi pa maudindo, kuthandizira akazi omwe akugwira ntchito kunja kwa nyumba, kuthandizira kuchotsa mimba, ndi kudzizindikiritsa ngati akazi. Zoonadi, ofufuza? Ndiwo tanthauzo lanu la kugonana?
Ngati izi zinali 1960, zedi, zingakhale zomveka kuyeza misogyny mwa kufunsa za amayi omwe ali ndi ntchito ndi kuchotsa mimba. Zingakhalenso zomveka kufotokozera tsankho pofunsa za mndandanda wa chakudya chamadzulo. Koma palibe mafunso omwe anganene kanthu za dziko mu 2015, pamene misogyny (ndi tsankho, pa nkhaniyi) akhala akukwatirana ndi ufulu wodzipereka wopanda pake kukumbatirana awo omwe amawoneka kuti akuyimira patsogolo.
Ndizosavuta kudana ndi amayi pamene akukhulupirira kuti ayenera kugwira ntchito kunja kwa nyumba (chifukwa cha Yesu Khristu, kuchoka pa abulu anu ndi kuchita chinachake, madona!) Kapena kuchotsa mimba (chifukwa kulera ana ndi chikoka, koma amene akufuna kuvala kondomu?). Ngakhale amayi omwe ali ndi maudindo amapeza malo ovomerezeka kuchokera kwa makolo ambiri, malinga ngati akulonjeza kusunga mkazi yemweyo-kudana malamulo mmalo mwake. Kumbukirani Sarah Palin, aliyense?
Mafunso okhudza akazi omwe amagwira ntchito kunja kwa nyumba kapena ogwira ntchito ku ofesi akhoza kuwonekera kwa makolo akale a cartoon, koma amapereka mwayi waulere kwa osogynist ambiri. Anthu okhawo omwe amakanadi maufulu amenewa ndi ovomerezeka kwambiri - omwe amapanga amuna ambiri omwe samaonera zolaula! Izi zikuwonetsa zolakwika zazikulu mu phunziro lino lomwe limapanga zosayenera: Ofufuzawa adatanthauzira kugonana ndi zikhalidwe zomwe zikanatha kukwaniritsidwa ndi omwe ali m'gulu la osagwiritsa ntchito zolaula. Zina mwazinthu zina zomwe zingagwiritse ntchito ufulu wogonana ndi anthu ogonana pazinthu zolaula zimagwiritsidwa ntchito mosamalitsa.
Poganizira zonsezi, cholinga chenicheni cha phunziroli ndi chofooka. Zonse zomwe zikusonyeza kuti amuna omwe amamwa zolaula nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi "malingaliro osiyana." Njira yosokonezeka pambali, sindikukayika kuti ndizoona. Sizodabwitsa kumva kuti munthu amene amagwiritsa ntchito zolaula, akafunsidwa, angakuuzeni kuti ali ndi "maganizo osiyana" kwa amayi omwe akuwagwiritsa ntchito monga zithandizo zowononga. Zingowopsya kuti ochita kafukufukuwa amaganiza kuti malingaliro oipawa alibe chochita ndi akazi.
Egalitarianism ndi misogyny sizigwirizana. Ndipotu, kupatulapo zifukwa zina zowonongeka, ambiri omwe amatsutsana ndi chikazi masiku ano amachokera ku "malingaliro" oyenerawo - mukudziwa, omwe amachititsa kuti amayi azigwiritsira ntchito zachiwerewere chifukwa, iye, avomereza; amaseka nkhanza zapakhomo chifukwa, ngati akazi ali ofanana, zikutanthauza kuti amuna akhoza kuwagunda; ndikuchotseratu zaumoyo za amayi ndi zamakhalidwe abwino chifukwa simukufuna kuti wina azisamalidwe, kodi mumatero?
Kukulitsa kumvetsa kwenikweni za ubale pakati pa zolaula, mphamvu yamuna, misogyny, ndi chiwawa kumafuna zambiri kuposa mafunso ochepa kapena ayi. Kufunsa amuna kuti adziwonetsere ngati akuganiza kuti amayi ndi anthu si njira yabwino yodziwitsira misogyny, ndi kuyesa "maganizo osiyana" si njira yabwino yodziwira kudzipereka kuti athandize ufulu wa amayi. Phunziroli liri ndi chinachake chomwe chingatiphunzitse, koma sikuti amuna omwe amawonera zolaula amakhala ochepa kwambiri - ndilo tanthawuzo la chikazi chomwe chimagwiritsidwa ntchito "mosagwirizana" ndi lopanda phindu, ngakhale amuna odwala zolaula angathe kuzinena.
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