Zopangira 10 Zomwe Zingapindulitse Kubwezeretsanso Kapena Kubwezeretsa!
Nawu mndandanda wa maupangiri omwe angathandize aliyense amene akufuna kuyambiranso (physiologically) kapena kuchira (zamaganizidwe) kuchokera ku chizolowezi choonera zolaula kapena maliseche osagwiritsa ntchito magulu kapena magulu azoyankha:
- Osaganizira.
Ngati mukuganiza za izi, kaya mukuzikonda, kapena poyesetsa kuti musiye, mukuganizabe za izo.
Ichi ndi nkhani ya chifuniro: cholinga chikuwonekera mwa chidwi.
Ngati malingaliro anu alowerera mu malingaliro a kugonana, za mkazi weniweni kapena woganiza, pitani pansi pa izo. Ndikumva bwanji kuti ndikufunika mwadzidzidzi kusintha maganizo anga motere? Kodi wina wandinyoza? ndimakana? Kodi ndimamva kuti ndanyalanyazidwa? Kodi ndimaganiza molakwika?
Ngati lingaliro, kukumbukira kapena zongopeka zibwera m'mutu mwanu, osayesa kulimbana nawo mwachindunji, mungoyatsa moto. M'malo mwake, ikani malingaliro anu pa chinthu china. Imbani nyimbo yomwe mumakonda, konzekerani pambuyo pa ntchito, ganizirani za chinthu chomwe mumathokoza, ndi zina zambiri…
- Kukongola kwaulemerero Popanda kukakamiza (Idolizing) It.
Kwa ine, kukopeka ndi mkazi ndi nthawi yomwe ndimatha kudziwa momwe ndimakhalira mkati momwe ndimakopeka ndi iwo. Nditha kuthana ndi izi magawo atatu:
1) Ndikawona mkazi wokongola, ndidzavomereza ndikuchotsa m'maganizo mwanga.
2) Nthawi zina, padzakhala kukoka kwamphamvu kuti mumugwire- ndipo chifukwa chake, mwina ndimupempherera.
3) Nthawi zina, kukoka kumatha kukhala kovuta kwambiri kwa ine- ndiye ndikudziwa kuti pali chosowa chozama, ludzu lomwe Ambuye yekha ndi amene angathe kuzimitsa, lomwe ndikuyesera kuti ndithetse kukongola kwa akazi.
Chifukwa chake, sindimadzitsutsanso ndekha momwe ndimayankhira kukongola kwa akazi, koma m'malo mwake ndimagwiritsa ntchito kuyeza 'ludzu' langa - osati la akazi, khama, koma la Ambuye- Yemwe Amadzi Amoyo amabisidwa ndi kukongola ndiubwino za dziko lino lapansi, nthawi zambiri.
Chifukwa chake, nditenga zojambulazo ngati lingaliro kuti-
1) Ganizirani momwe ndimamvera: ndi chiyani chachitika kunja kapena mkati (kapena zonse ziwiri) chomwe tsopano ndikuyesera kukumana ndi zosowa zanga kudzera munjira yodzichiritsira?
2) Kambiranani motere m'njira yomwe ingandiyankhe ndekha, pakupembedza Ambuye- monga Madzi amoyo, popeza ndiye yekhayo amene angakwaniritse zosoweka zakuya mumtima mwanga.
[Kwa ena, pangakhale njira zina zothetsera zosowazi kudzera mu nzeru zomwe zawapatsa - zitha kukhala kusinkhasinkha, kucheza, kapena kucheza ndi okondedwa awo, ndi zina zotero…]
- Sungani Mavuto Odziwika.
Simuli chidakwa ngati simulowereranso kumwa! Komanso simumachita chiwerewere ngati simugwiritsanso ntchito zachiwerewere kapena zolaula kuti mudzithandizire nokha! Ndizabodza kunena kuti, "Akakhala chidakwa amakhala chizolowezi chake" - Zowonadi, akadali chizolowezi ngakhale munthu atasiya kugwiritsa ntchito x-kuchuluka kwa zaka? Kudzizindikiritsa tokha kumatsegula mwayi woti tsiku lina libwerere, mwina $ #! + Itagunda fani!
Simunali chizoloŵezi chanu, kapena ndinu maganizo anu, kapena thupi lanu. Iwe siwe nkhani yako, koma umboni wa izo_ndi momwe iwe ukusankhira kutanthauzira izo zonse ziri m'manja mwanu.
Osakhulupirira nkhani iliyonse yokhudza inu komwe mwatayika, komwe mumakhala ofooka komanso opanda mphamvu! Ndinu munthu wokhalapo, wopangidwa m'chifanizo chaumulungu, wodzala ndi kuthekera kopanda malire kwa zabwino. Mukukhululukidwa ndikukondedwa ndi Mulungu, ndipo simuyenera kudziyimbira mlandu ndikudzudzula komwe kwadzetsa manyazi, zomwe mwina zikuyambitsa chizolowezi chanu.
Zomwe tafotokozazi zikukuthandizani, kaya ndinu okhulupirira kapena ayi! Ngati simukukhulupirira, mumakondedwabe ndikukhululukidwa, dzikhululukireni- dziyenireni nokha.
- Sungani Zinthu Zochititsa manyazi.
Monga tafotokozera kale, manyazi amachititsa manyazi nthawi zambiri, ndipo amadzimadzimadzira ndi kudzidzidzimutsa.
Ndikhoza kudziyankha ndekha ngati wokhulupirira, kuti zinthu ziwiri zinachitika:
1) Lamulo, kuzunzidwa mwauzimu komanso kudziona kuti ndine wogonana (mkati ndi kunja) zidandipangitsa kuti ndizivutika zaka zambiri kuposa zomwe mwina zinali zofunikira. - ndi-
2) Chisomo, kuti ndimvetse kuti zidasokoneza mutu wake. Kuzindikira: kuti machimo athu onse akhululukidwa pakadali pano- machimo athu onse akale, apano kapena amtsogolo onse akhululukidwa ndikuchotseredwa ndi Mulungu.
Pamene izi zidakhulupirira ine (ngakhale nditatha zaka zopitilira 25 ndikukhala wokhulupirira), mwanjira ina iliyonse, ndikalephera ndimatha kudzuka mosavuta, ndikudzipukuta, ndikupitiliza. Sanalinso mkhalidwe wabwino kwa ine panonso. Zachidziwikire, kumbuyo kwa malingaliro anga ndidamvetsetsa kuti kungakhale koyenera kupewa, ndikuchita zachiwerewere kudzipangitsa kudzikonda- koma zolephera zanga sizinali tchimo lalikulu lomwe lidandilekanitsa ndi Mulungu. Ayi. Tsopano zili ngati, ngakhale nditagwa mu china chake, ubale wanga ndi Mulungu sunakhudzidwe ndi gawo limodzi. Sindinatalikirane ndi Mulungu, kapena pamtundu woyipa m'malingaliro Ake. Ndikudziwa kuti izi zitha kukhala zotsutsana kwa ena omwe akufuna kuyeza mayendedwe awo ndi magwiridwe ake- koma ndizopanda malamulo zomwe sizithandiza aliyense. Koma nditha kuyankhula zomwe zandithandiza, kwambiri.
- Lekani Kudzidalira, Nkhope Yeniyeni.
Dziwani kuti zizolowezi zathu zosokoneza bongo ndi namsongole chabe, koma zolumikizidwa ndi mizu yomwe imapita mozama. Kuti tifike pamizu, kapena nkhani zakuya, tiyenera kusiya zizolowezi zosokoneza bongo, kuzizira ngati kuli kofunikira. Chifukwa chakumva kuwawa, zoopsa, kapena malo olakwika m'banja lathu, tinapanga njira zolakwika zothetsera mavuto, njira zabodza zothanirana zomwe [zimadzipiritsa] zokha kapena kutiteteza ku zowawa, zovuta ndi nkhawa za moyo chifukwa ndife kuwopa kuyang'anizana ndi zinthu izi popanda 'bulangeti lathu lachitetezo'.
Imeneyi ndi njira yopita kukhwima ngati akuluakulu, kutaya njira zowononga zonyenga, zikhale zolaula kapena maliseche, ndipo tidzipangitse kuti tikumane ndi mavuto osaneneka komanso ovuta tsiku ndi tsiku.
Nthawi zonse tikayesedwa kuti tichite momwe timakhalira kale, titha kugwiritsa ntchito ngati choyezera kuti tidziwe zomwe zikuchitika mkati kapena kunja zomwe zikutikakamiza kutero. Kenako, titha kukhala limodzi ndi mavutowo ndikuyesa kuyang'anizana nawo (tulolere kuzimva zonse, zoyipa-ndi zoyipa), ndi / kapena kupeza njira zina zabwino zothanirana ndi izi.
- Khalani ndi Maganizo Akumapeto.
Ambiri amaika zizolowezi zawo pamaso pawo, mmbuyo mwao-ngati chinthu chakale. Tiyenera kudziyesa tokha ngati omwe tinali osokonezeka, kapena osatayika konse. Izi ndizosavuta kwa Gary Wilson, kapena ine sindidzamwa mowa kachiwiri, nthawi zonse Jack Trimpey (Rational Recovery).
Ili ndiye lingaliro lolimba mtima loti zinthu izi zitha kugonjetsedwa, kuyimitsidwa ndikuchira. Kuti titha kudzuka, ndikudziwa kuti sitidzagwiritsanso ntchito izi kudzipatsanso mankhwala. Kodi amenewo si malingaliro omasula komanso opatsa mphamvu?
- Kukhala ndi Zolinga, Kufufuza Moyenera Kulephera.
Pomwe pali ambiri omwe amasankha nthawi yomweyo kuti sadzagwiritsanso ntchito, ndipo amatsatira. Zambiri zomwe timakumana nazo ndizongokhalira kukayikira zomwe timakonda - sitili okonzeka kusiya zomwe takhala tikusankha kwa zaka 10, 20, kapena 30! Ndiponso, zizolowezi zathu ndizomwe zidakhazikika, njira zamitsempha zomwe zimakhazikika kwambiri pakuyenda kwa dopamine, kuti timafanana kwambiri ndi omwe amamwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo a cocaine, kuposa omwe amayamba kupikisidwa.
Chifukwa chake, khalani ndi zolinga zotheka. Ndidachita zanga pang'onopang'ono. Ndinali ndi cholinga chamasiku 120, koma ndidachigawika ndikulumidwa kwambiri (ndipo panthawiyo, kukhulupilika) kulumidwa kwamasiku 20 kenako zolinga za masiku 40. Osachita manyazi ngati mukuyenera kukhala ndi sabata limodzi, kapena tsiku limodzi ngati cholinga. Chilichonse chomwe muyenera kuchita. Ndiye pamene chidaliro chanu chakhazikika penapake, mutha kukulitsa cholinga chanu.
Ngati tilephera, komabe, tiyenera kudziwa ngati ndikutsika, kutha kapena kubwerera. Mwachidule timalongosola lililonse ngati:
1) Lembani mayesero osayembekezereka omwe amakukhudzani, koma mwangoyambiranso kuyambiranso. Palibe kugwa kwaphatikizidwa, ngakhale panali chiyeso chogwiritsa ntchito. Mwinamwake panali ena akuchitapo, koma mwamsanga munayima ndikuyambiranso.
2) Kutaya- pansi pa kuyesedwa, kunagwa. Koma mwamsanga munabwerera, ndipo simunabwereze khalidwe lachilendo. Inu munapitilirapo kuchokera kumeneko, mukuphunzira zomwe mukufunikira kuti muphunzire kuchokera ku zochitikazo.
3) Kubwereranso- Popeza wagwa, pali kugwa mobwerezabwereza, kubwereranso. Panali zovuta zokhudzana ndi zomwe zidatayika kale, ndipo chifukwa chake, kubwereranso kumachitika. Pali kubwereza kwa zizolowezi zomwe zidachitika kale.
Zofunika! Momwe timasankhira kuchitira kapena kuchitapo kanthu polephera kapena kuwonongeka zitha kudziwa ngati ndi phunziro lomwe taphunzira kapena kubwereranso kwathunthu!
Ngakhale poyambiranso, palibe kugonjetsedwa kotheratu, pokhapokha ngati takana kuyambiranso, ndikuyesanso. Kukhala ndi dongosolo lopewa kubwerera m'mbuyo ndibwino. Ndipo bwanji, bwanji kapena winawake akabwezeretsanso kontrakitala yawo ndiye chisankho chawo.
- Kufunika kwa Chikoka.
M'malo mongolimbikitsidwa tsiku ndi tsiku kuti tisagwiritse ntchito, tikukhalira tsogolo la moyo wachimwemwe komanso wokhutiritsa. Timakonzekera kukhala opanda zopinga izi, koma m'malo moika patsogolo kwambiri kupewa izi, timangoganizira zolinga zathu, kaya ndi ntchito, thanzi kapena zina.
Palinso zifukwa zomwe zimachokera kutali ndi khalidweli, pomwe timakumbukira mawonekedwe owawa ndi owopsya pankhope ya wokondedwa wathu titawauza chinsinsi chathu. Zowawa zomwe tidapweteketsa ena, makamaka tokha, ziyenera kukumbukiridwa, makamaka tikamayesedwa kuti tigwiritse ntchito.
- Kukhala ndi Support Network.
Kodi ndizotheka kuchita izi zokha? Kulimbana kwanga kwakukulu kunali kwayekha, koma ndikukhulupirira kuti ndizotheka. Komabe, ndikuwoneka kuti ndikulibwino, ndikufulumizitsa njira yakuchira pokhala gawo la netiweki yothandizira- monga pano, ku NoFap Reddit, kapena Reboot Nation. Koma, izi sizoyenera kukhala zoyankha. Tili pano kuti tizilimbikitsana ndikuthandizana. Kugwirana wina ndi mnzake? Eya, ku zolinga zathu ndi zolinga zathu zobwezeretsanso, koma osati malingaliro aliwonse akunja pazifukwa za wina aliyense zobwezeretsanso.
Koma ndizolimbikitsa kuti munthu wina amvetsetse mavuto anu, makamaka ngati nawonso adakhalapo. Kuti mukhale achifundo (osangokhala achifundo) mumafunikira izi, abale (ndi alongo) omwe sangakuweruzeni, koma akuchitireni chifundo.
- Konzani Mavuto Aakulu.
Ichi ndichinthu chomwe chimakhudzana ndi mfundo zina pamwambapa. Ngakhale zomwe titha kuziwona ngati 'zowopsa' m'mbuyomu kuti titha kuchira zimatha kusintha monga tikupitilira - mwachitsanzo, kuyendetsa chigawo chowunikira chofiyira kale kumandikopa, koma tsopano, sikuli pachiwopsezo chachikulu kenanso, popeza sindiyesedwa pamtunduwu. Koma, zomwe zingakhale zowopsa tsopano, tifunika kukhala ndi mapulani okonzekera 'bwanji-ngati' okonzeka kupita. Kodi kumusiyani nokha mkazi atakhala kunja kwa mzinda ndi chiopsezo chachikulu kwa inu? Kapena, kodi kukhala ndi vuto losagwiritsa ntchito kompyuta mosavuta kuli pachiwopsezo? Kusamba kumatha kukhala pachiwopsezo chachikulu kwa anthu ena, mumapeza lingaliro ...
1) Khazikitsani zolinga zanu: "Ngati ndili mumkhalidwe uwu, sindichita izi kapena izo…"
2) Konzani izi, pokhala ndi zochitika zina zomwe zingatenge nthawi yanu ndi mphamvu (ndi chidwi) kutali ndi khalidwe.
3) Sinthaninso zomwe zili pachiwopsezo mosiyana, monga kusamba (mwachitsanzo) mutha kuyipanga kukhala nthawi yolingalira zomwe mumayamikira pamoyo wanu, m'malo mwa pmo. Mutha kuyesanso mawu anu a rock-star mmenemo. Mutha kuchoka panyumba, kupita njira ina, ndi zina zambiri. Ndipo izi zitha kukhala ngati 'mawilo ophunzitsira' koyambirira, mpaka zinthu izi sizikhala pachiwopsezo chachikulu.
Zachidziwikire kuti nthawi zonse pamakhala zochitika zowopsa zomwe munthu ayenera kupewa, ngati zochitika zamaliseche zosayembekezereka zikatuluka mufilimu, sitiganiza kuti 'titha kuthana nazo', ndikupitiliza kuwonera ...
Tikukhulupirira kuti mfundozi zithandizira ambiri omwe amabwera kuno kudzathandizidwa, ndikusintha miyoyo yawo. Zinthu izi zikugwiritsidwa ntchito pamoyo wanga, ndipo ndakhala ndikulimbana kwazaka zopitilira 20 ndimakhalidwe okakamiza komanso okakamirawa - ndipo chifukwa chake, ndikumverera za zomwe zimagwira, komanso zomwe sizinandigwire ntchito.
Mulole iwo akhale mdalitso kwa onse.
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