Malangizo ena a NoFap omwe ndaphunzira kuchokera ku AA
O, anyamata, ndine Wophunzira Wodzichepetsa, pokhala mu AA kwa zaka 5 ndikukhala woyera nthawi zonse kuchokera ku mankhwala anga osankhidwa, heroin komanso zinthu zina zomwe zimasintha maganizo. Ndili ndi chidziwitso chosiya zinthu zovuta kwambiri, ndikukhala tsiku labwino la 1 tsiku. Ndikufuna kufotokozera zina zomwe ndaphunzira, chifukwa ndi zothandiza kuti ndikuthandizireni kugawidwa komanso kuthandizira.
1) Za Lero Lokha: Dziwani kuti tikuchita zinthu tsiku ndi tsiku. Pali nthawi imodzi yokha yomwe tingathe kuchita chilichonse, ndipo ndi nthawi yomweyi. Musaganize kuti izi zidzakhalapo kwamuyaya. Pitirizani kukhalapo mpaka lero. Dzukani ndikudzikumbutsa kuti simukuchita zinthu za Lero Lokha. Aliyense akhoza kuchita zinazake kwa maola 24.
2) Kupita patsogolo, osati ungwiro: Khalani oleza mtima ndi kumvetsetsa nokha ngati simukukwaniritsa miyezo yanu. Timadzivutitsa kwambiri. Anthu omwe akhala akugwiritsa ntchito zinthu zakunja monga PMO kuti alandire mankhwala kapena kuchepetsa nkhawa za dziko lapansi amakonda kudzipweteka okha, ndipo amagwiritsa ntchito kukhumudwa kapena malingaliro oipa kuti alungamitse khalidwe lathu. Chepetsani zochita zodziwononga. Khalani okoma mtima kwa inu nokha ndipo mvetsetsani kuti tikuyesetsa kukhala bwino.
3) Pewani Anthu, Malo ndi Zinthu: Pali zinthu zina zomwe zimatipangitsa kukhala ndi chizolowezi. Anthu omwe ali ndi chizolowezi chogwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo amawongolera miyoyo yawo motsatira chizolowezi. Mwayi ndi wakuti, pali anthu ena m'miyoyo yathu omwe amavomereza khalidwe lathu kutipangitsa kumva kuti kuyang'ana PMO n'kovomerezeka komanso kwachibadwa. Amakayikira chisankho chanu chofuna kuchita izi kuti mukhale bwino. Ndi anthu ngati awa, ndibwino kuti musayambitse nkhaniyi, m'malo mwake, ibweretseni kwa anthu omwe akumvetsa ndikusamalira lingaliro lanu. Tikufunika thandizo ndi chikondi kuti tigonjetse vuto losadziletsa komanso kudzivulaza.
4) Khalani Othandiza!: Pa chizolowezi chilichonse, pamakhala kudzikonda komanso kudzitumikira komwe kumabwera. Nthawi zambiri, ife anthu timagwira ntchito motsatira mantha. Nthawi zambiri timaopa kuti tidzataya zomwe tili nazo kapena sitidzapeza zomwe tikufuna. Timaopa kusungulumwa komanso kutopa. Timaopa kukhala tokha ndikuopa ubwenzi ndi kufooka komwe kumabwera chifukwa cha zinthu zonse ziwiri. Koma njira yeniyeni yothanirana ndi izi ndi kudzera mu kutumikira ena. Tikuyesera kudzidalira. Tikhoza kukwaniritsa izi mwa kuchita zinthu zabwino. Kudzidalira kudzera mu zochita zolemekezeka. Yesetsani kukhalapo kwa ena m'moyo wanu. Mwachitsanzo, ndinali ndi chilakolako chofuna kuchita zinthu mopanda nzeru, ndipo m'malo mongodzipereka ku chilakolakochi, ndinaganiza zopereka chidziwitso chomwe ndapatsidwa ndi munthu amene adatenga nthawi kuchokera m'moyo wake kuti alankhule nane. Khalanipo chifukwa cha anthu ena ndipo khalani odzipereka, mudzapeza kuti mavuto ndi malingaliro anu atha. Ndipo kwenikweni, kodi sichoncho chomwe tonsefe timachita zinthu mopanda nzeru? Mtendere pang'ono wa mumtima?
Komabe, ndikuyembekeza izi zithandizira. Ndine wokondwa kupitiliza kugawana zida izi (popeza pali TON yambiri) ngati anthu akufuna kudziwa zambiri za momwe ndapitilira kudzipangira ndekha kudzera pazida zophunzitsidwa pamapulogalamu a 12. Ndinganene moona mtima kuti izi ndi zina mwa zinthu zomwe zandithandiza kuchita zomwe sindingathe kudzipangira ndekha. Chonde, khalani omasuka kufunsa mafunso ndikunditumizira uthenga. Ndili pano kuti ndithandizire ndikufuna kuthandiza aliyense kuchita bwino. Tili mgulu limodzi anyamata!