Mlungu watha panali ndemanga yopangidwa ndi membala wa mamembala pano amene anandivutitsa kwambiri. Iye anati:
Ndikudziwa kuti ndidzadana nazo izi komabe, ndiyenera kuwunikira ena a inu. Ambiri mwa anthu pano sadzasiya PMO kapena kupitilira masiku 100. Ndikudziwa kuti anthu akuyenera kukhala olimbikitsidwa koma ndizovuta.
Zimandivuta chifukwa sizoona. Ndipo zimandivuta chifukwa ndikufuna kuti onse omwe ali pamsonkhanowu achite bwino. Patha zaka zopitilira 3 kuyambira pomwe ndidatulukiranso Reuniting / YBOP ndipo zakhala pafupifupi chaka chimodzi kuchokera pomwe ndidakhala adayambitsa msonkhanowu. Ndaziwona zonse. Ndaziwerenga zonse. Sindimadziona ngati wokonda zolaula.
Gary Wilson ndi Marnia Robinson ndi apainiya enieni m'munda uno. Ndi chifukwa cha iwo kuti tili ndi zikwi za anthu padziko lonse lapansi kuyesa kusiya zolaula pogwiritsa ntchito kumvetsa za sayansi momwe zimakhudzira ubongo wathu. Ndidzakhala wokondwa kwa iwo nthawi zonse.
Komabe, kumvetsetsa kwa sayansi sikokwanira, monga zikuwonetseratu ndi ochuluka omwe amawomboledwa komanso akuvutika ndi vutoli.
Zomwe ndikugawana nanu anyamata sizatsopano. Mwina mwawerenga kale kwina. Koma sichipatsidwa kufunikira kokwanira apa. Anthu akudandaula kwambiri ponena za zolaula zomwe zimapangidwira ED, dopamine ichi ndi dopamine kuti, masewera a testosterone, maloto onyowa, ndi zina. Koma osakwanira momwe angagwiritsire ntchito mankhwalawa.
Ulusi uwu sungatanthawuze kukhala wokakamiza. Chilimbikitso ndi cha kanthawi. Mukhoza kuyang'ana mpira wachitsulo wa Nike pa YouTube, mutenge zonse ndikulimbikitsidwa, ndikubwezeretsanso masiku a 4. Izo sizikutanthauza kanthu.
Ulusiwu umatanthawuza kuti umvetsetse. Zimapangidwira kuti zikupatseni chidutswa chomaliza chazovuta kuti muthane ndi zolaula.
Ndimakhulupirira, kuchokera pansi pa mtima wanga, kuti aliyense amene amamvetsetsa ndikugwiritsa ntchito zomwe ndikugawana pano apambana kusiya zolaula.
Zonse zomwe muyenera kuchita ndipewe kupanga zolakwika za 3.
Chonde mutengere nthawi yanu chotsanidi zomwe muwerenga kenako. Izi sizodziwika ndipo amuna ambiri sazindikira, makamaka iwo omwe angoyamba kumene kuyambiranso. Oyambiranso bwino mwina sangapindule kwambiri ndi ulusiwu.
Khalani pansi, khalani ndi nthawi, ndikupita kukamwa khofi kapena tiyi, chifukwa ndikugawana nanu zolakwitsa zitatu zakupha zomwe munthu wobwezeretsanso akhoza kupanga.
Nthano #1: Kugwiritsira Ntchito Porn Kuleka Kumva Zoipa
Anthu omwe sadziwa zolakwika izi adzakhala ndi nthawi yovuta kusiya zolaula.
Izi ndi zomwe zimachitika nthawi zambiri:
Mumapanikizika kwambiri pantchito kapena kusukulu. Mudakhala tsiku lanu lonse mukugwira bulu wanu mopanikizika ndipo mukudziwa kuti masiku akubwerawa akhala chimodzimodzi. Pali ululu mthupi lanu. Mwafooka m'maganizo. Mukufuna kumasuka ndikumverera bwino. Ndiye inu mumachita chiani? Onaninso zolaula.
Mumapita kukasangalala usiku wina. Pali mtsikana m'modzi yemwe mumamukonda kwambiri, chifukwa chake mumayesetsa kuti mulankhule naye, koma akupitilizabe kukunyalanyazani. Mmodzi wa anzanu ochezeka kwambiri amangomuseka ndi nthabwala zake. Ndinu nsanje. Mumanena mumtima mwanu "Tsitsani izi" ndikuyamba kuyandikira azimayi ena pomwepo. Onse akukana. Ngakhale m'modzi wa iwo adati kwa iwe "Choka pano!". Mumabwerera kunyumba mukukhumudwa kwambiri. Mtima wanu watsika kwambiri. Mumayamba kudzifunsa ngati mungakwanitse kupeza bwenzi lokongola. Mumayamba kukhumudwa kwakanthawi. Ndizopweteka. Mukufuna kuthawa izi. Ndiye inu mumachita chiani? Onaninso zolaula.
Munapita kukamwa usiku watha. Munali ndi zosangalatsa zambiri, koma tsopano mwatsala ndi matsire owopsa. Mukudwala mutu, nseru, kupweteka m'mimba. Simungathe kukhazikika kapena kuchita chilichonse. Mukungogona mukumwa Gatorade. Zachidziwikire, kukhala ndi hungover kumayamwa. Mukufuna kusiya kukhumudwa, kwakanthawi kochepa. Ndiye inu mumachita chiani? Onaninso zolaula.
Ndiwe wotopa ngati m'nyumba mwako. Inu ndi ulesi mumakhala amodzi. Simuli okonda chilichonse, ngakhale kuwonera kanema. Kunyong'onyeka, kunyong'onyeka, komanso kunyong'onyeka. Ndani akufuna kumva kuti watopetsa? Palibe. Nthawi imayenda pang'onopang'ono. Palibe chosangalatsa. Mumapita ku Facebook ndipo palibe zosintha zosangalatsa. Mumatsitsimutsa mabwalo omwe mumawakonda ndipo palibe mayankho atsopano kuzolemba zanu. Palibe chochita. Mumayamba kuda nkhawa komanso kusowa mtendere. Ndiye inu mumachita chiani? Onaninso zolaula.
Chonde, imani izi.
Muyenera kusiya kumwa mankhwala ndi zolaula nthawi zonse mukamamva ululu komanso osamva.
Uku ndiko kusadziwa kwa moyo weniweni.
Kupsinjika, kukhumudwa, kukhumudwa, matapira, kunyong'onyeka, kuvulala, kupweteka thupi, nkhawa, manyazi. Inu mukudziwa zomwe iwo ali? Inu mukudziwa zomwe iwo amatchedwa?
Amayitanidwa MOYO.
Musathamangire kumoyo. Musathamange kuchoka ku chenicheni.
Sitidzakhala osangalala ngati tipitiriza kuchita izi.
Mu Buddhism izi zimatchedwa chisokonezo. Akuthaŵa ululu. Kuthamanga kutali ndi kusokonezeka.
Maganizo onse oipawa ndi osakhalitsa. Kupweteka, kupanikizika, kupweteka, kumverera. Zonse zidzadutsa.
Ngati tipitirizabe kutetezeka pa zolaula ndikuthaŵa ululu ndi zovuta ndiye sitidzakula ngati anthu ndikukhala amuna enieni.
Tifunika kutulukamo. Kapena osachepera yesetsani.
Apo ayi, kodi mungatani ngati zinthu zikukhala zovuta pamoyo? Bisani m'chipinda chanu? Khala wovutika maganizo?
Kodi mudzachita chiyani mukazindikira kuti kugunda atsikana kumabweretsa nkhawa ndi mantha? Thawani? Perekani zifukwa?
Kodi muchita chiyani mukakhala munjirima yamagalimoto kwamaola awiri ndipo muli ndi njala yovuta? Mukudandaula? Menya lipenga kosatha?
Kodi muchita chiyani mukazindikira kuti kuonda sikophweka monga momwe mumaganizira? Taya mtima? Kudya zakudya zopanda pake?
Tiyenera kusiya kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula monga kupweteka kwapweteka.
Tiyenera kuthana ndi zenizeni, osati kuthamanga.
Chonde mvetsetsani zomwe ndikunena pano. Mukatero ndiye kuti mudzatha kuzindikira nthawi iliyonse yomwe mukugwiritsa ntchito zolaula ngati kuthawa.
Werengani mosamala mawu otsatirawa ochokera M'mawu a Buddha:
Choyamba cha kusiyana kumeneku, kotengedwa mu Text I, 2 (1), chimakhudza kuyankhidwa kwakumverera kowawa. Wolemba dziko komanso wophunzira wabwino amamva zowawa za thupi, koma amamvera maganizo amenewa mosiyana. Zomwe dziko limalankhula nazo ndizitsitsimutso, choncho, pamwamba pakumva kupweteka kwa thupi, amakhalanso ndi maganizo akumvetsa chisoni: chisoni, mkwiyo, kapena nkhawa. Wophunzira wolemekezeka, pamene akuvutika ndi ululu wa thupi, amatha kupirira moleza mtima, wopanda chisoni, mkwiyo, kapena nkhawa. Kawirikawiri amaganiza kuti ululu wamthupi ndi waumphawi umagwirizanitsidwa, koma Buddha amatha kufotokoza bwino pakati pa ziwirizi. Iye amakhulupirira kuti ngakhale kukhalapo kwa thupi kumakhala kosakanikirana ndi ululu wamthupi, kupweteka koteroko sikuyenera kuchititsa kuti munthu azikumva chisoni, mantha, mkwiyo, ndi mavuto omwe timakonda kuwayankha. Kupyolera mu kuphunzitsa maganizo timatha kukhala ndi malingaliro ndi kumvetsetsa kofunikira kuti tithe kupirira ululu wa thupi molimbika, ndi kuleza mtima ndi kufanana. Kupyolera mu luntha tingathe kukhala ndi nzeru zokwanira kuti tigonjetse mantha athu akumva kupwetekedwa mtima ndi kufunika kofuna kupeza mpumulo m'mabing'onoting'onong'onong'onong'onong'onong'onong'onong'onong'ono.
"Amonke, pamene dziko losavomerezeka limamva chisoni, chisoni, chisoni, ndi chisoni; Amalira akugunda pachifuwa ndipo amasokonezeka. Amamva maganizo awiri-thupi limodzi ndi maganizo. Tangoganizani kuti amenya munthu ndi dart, kenaka amumenya mwamsanga kenako ndi ndodo yachiwiri, kotero kuti munthuyo amve kumverera komwe kumayambitsa mikondo iwiri. Mofananamo, pamene dziko losavomerezeka limakhala ndikumva kupweteka, amamva maganizo awiri-thupi limodzi ndi maganizo.
"Pamene akumva kupweteka komweku, iye akutsutsana nazo. Akakhalabe ndi chidziwitso kuti amve kupwetekedwa mtima, chizoloŵezi chachikulu chodziletsa kukhumudwa kumangopeka. Pamene akumva ululu wopweteka, amafuna kukondwera ndi zosangalatsa zakuthupi. Chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa dziko losavomerezeka silikudziŵa kuthawa kumvetsa kupweteka kwina kusiyana ndi zosangalatsa zakuthupi. Pamene akufuna kuti azisangalala ndi chilakolako cha thupi, chizolowezi cholakalaka kukhudzidwa ndi chisangalalo chimakhala kumbuyo kwa izi. Iye samamvetsa ngati kwenikweni ndi chiyambi ndi kudutsa, kukondweretsa, ngozi, ndi kuthawa pambali ya malingaliro awa. Pamene sakumvetsetsa zinthu izi, chizoloŵezi chosazindikira ponena za kumverera kopweteka kapena kosangalatsa kumakhala kumbuyo kwa izi.
"Ngati akumva kuti akumusangalatsa, amamva kuti amamukonda. Ngati akumva kuti akumva kupweteka, amamva kuti akugwirizana. Ngati akumva kuti akumva chisoni komanso chosangalatsa, amachimva. Izi, amonke, amatchedwa mdziko losasinthidwa amene amamangiriza ku kubadwa, ukalamba, ndi imfa; amene amamangidwa ndi chisoni, kulira, kupweteka, kukanidwa, ndi kukhumudwa; amene amamangirizidwa kuvutika, ine ndikuti.
"Amonke, pamene wophunzira wophunzitsidwa wophunzira amamva chisoni, samva chisoni, samva chisoni, kapena amadandaula; Salira kulira pachifuwa chake ndi kusokonezeka. Amamva kumverera kamodzi-thupi, osati maganizo. Tiyerekeze kuti akufuna kumenyana ndi munthu wina, koma samangomupweteka mwamsanga kenako ndi ndodo yachiwiri, kotero kuti munthuyo amve kumverera komwe kumayambitsidwa ndi dart imodzi yokha. Chomwechonso, pamene wophunzira wophunzitsidwa wophunzitsidwayo akumva ululu wowawa, amamva chimodzimodzi-thupi, osati maganizo.
"Ngakhale kuti akumva ululu womwewo, samangopeka nazo. Popeza sakhala ndi chizoloŵezi chokumva kupweteka, chizoloŵezi chodziletsa kukhumudwa sichitika pambuyo pa izi. Pamene akumva kupweteka kwamtima, samakondwera ndi zosangalatsa zakuthupi. Chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa wophunzira wophunzitsidwa wophunzira amadziwa za kuthawa kukhumudwa kupatulapo zosangalatsa zakuthupi. Popeza safuna kusangalala ndi zosangalatsa za thupi, chizoloŵezi cholakalaka kukhudzidwa ndi chisangalalo sichitika pambuyo pa izi. Amamvetsetsa ngati kwenikweni ndi chiyambi ndi kudutsa, kukondweretsa, ngozi, ndi kuthawa pamfundoyi. Popeza amamvetsa zinthu izi, chizoloŵezi chosazindikira ponena za kumva zopweteka kapena zosangalatsa sizinabweretse izi.
"Ngati akumva kuti akumusangalatsa, amadziona kuti alibe. Ngati akumva kupwetekedwa mtima, amamva kuti amalephera. Ngati akumva kuti samva ululu kapena wosangalatsa, amamva kuti amalephera. Izi, amonke, amatchedwa wophunzira wolemekezeka yemwe amalekerera kuyambira kubadwa, ukalamba, ndi imfa; amene amachotsedwa kuchisoni, kulira, kupweteka, kukhumudwa, ndi kukhumudwa; amene amamasuka kuvutika, ndikunena.
"Izi, amonke, ndizosiyana, kusiyana, kusiyana pakati pa wophunzira wophunzitsidwa bwino ndi dziko losasinthidwa."
(SN 36: 6; IV 207-10)
Nthano #2: Kudzimva Wolimba Nthawi Zonse Mukabwerera
Chabwino, ndiye "wabwereranso".
Khazikani mtima pansi. Kupuma.
Siyani seweroli. Siyani "Ndikudwala kwambiri ndi izi”Ndemanga.
Osakwiya. Osamadziona kuti ndinu wolakwa.
Izo sizikuchitirani inu ubwino uliwonse.
Ndinapanga kulakwitsa kambirimbiri m'mbuyomo.
Werengani zolemba zanga. Ndinali "wobwerera mobwerezabwereza" monga ena anenera.
Nazi zomwe zimachitika nthawi zambiri:
Mnyamata amabwereranso ndikuchita maliseche zolaula. Sanathe kuzitenganso ndipo anali ndi zolaula zolaula kwa ola limodzi. Akamaliza, amadzimvera chisoni. Amabwera pamsonkhano ndikulemba zolemba zake.
"Ndili chiwombankhanga chotani"
"Sindikukhulupirira kuti ndidagonjera, ndidzamenya bwanji izi?"
"Ndakhuta kwambiri"
"Moyo wanga ndi wosokoneza"
Nthawi zina amakwiya. Nthawi zina amadziimba mlandu. Nthawi zina amataya mtima. Amangobwereranso kwambiri ndipo amadzimvera chisoni. Kenako amapita kukachita cholakwika # 1 kuti asiye kukhumudwa, zomwe zimamupangitsa kuti azimva kuwawa pambuyo pake. Chifukwa chake amalira mpaka atatheratu. Kenako amayesanso kuyambiranso, osadziwa kuti walakwitsa. Masiku angapo pambuyo pake amayambiranso ndipo amadzipendanso yekha, osakhoza kusiya izi.
Mverani, nthawi ina mukadzayambiranso, musadzilimbitse nokha. Khazikani mtima pansi. Tsegulani "spreadsheet" yanu (yomwe ndikukhulupirira kuti aliyense ayenera kukhala nayo) ndipo lembani tsiku lomwe mwakhala muli ndi X. Kenako modekha bwererani pamzere posachedwa. Pezani mowa wanu kwambiri momwe mungathere. Simubwerera ku zero nthawi zonse mukamaonera zolaula.
Pali chikhulupiliro chowononga ichi mu msonkhano womwe ukupambana umayesedwa ndi masiku angati olondola omwe mumapita popanda zolaula.
Pali Hall of Fame, inde, koma iyi ndi njira chabe yolimbikitsira anthu. Sizomwe zikuwonetsa kuti mukuchita bwino kapena ayi.
Chonde mvetsetsani. Tiyeni tigwiritse ntchito luntha pano.
Ngati munthu amayamba kuonera zolaula tsiku lililonse ndikuwonera zolaula 3-4 pamwezi, ndiye kuti amachita bwino.
Chifukwa chiyani munthu ngati iye amadzilimbitsa nthawi zonse akabwerera? Sizomveka kwenikweni. Ali patsogolo mamiliyoni a amuna padziko lonse lapansi omwe amakonda kwambiri zolaula.
Zomwe akuyenera kuchita ndikupitiliza kuyesetsa kuti achepetsere kubwezeredwa mwezi uliwonse. Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndikukhulupirira kukhala ndi spreadsheet ndikofunikira. Idzamupatsa iye lingaliro la momwe wapitira patsogolo.
Pakapita nthawi adzapeza kuti zotsatira zake zimataya mphamvu zake. Kubwereranso kumbuyo pambuyo pobwezeretsa kumakhala kosavuta komanso kosavuta.
Atha kulowa mu Hall of Fame kapena sangakwanitse, koma zilibe kanthu. Kuledzera kulibenso mphamvu pa iye.
Izo, abwenzi anga, ndizopambana zoona.
Kungoti ndinu membala wa tsambali ndipo mukuyesera kusiya zolaula ndi chifukwa chokwanira chonyada ndikusiya kudzimenya.
Nthano #3: Kuwonetsa Zambiri ZOSALENGA ZOTHANDIZA
Ingoganizani?
Ngati mukuganiza zosawonera zolaula, mukuganiza zolaula.
Malinga ngati zolaula ziri mu malingaliro anu, mudzakhala ndi mavuto ochulukirapo.
Njira yolondola ndi yolungama kuiwala za izo.
Lekani kuganizira kwambiri za tsiku lomwe muli.
Siyani kutumiza pazinthu zanu monga "Omg kusiya zolaula ndizovuta, zolimbikitsa zimakhala zolimba kwambiri!"
Lekani kutanganidwa kwambiri pa forumyi.
Ingoiwala za zolaula. Musanyalanyaze ngati njirayi m'moyo wanu.
Ganizirani malingaliro anu pa zinthu zomwe ziri zofunika. Banja lanu, maloto anu, thanzi lanu, ntchito yanu.
Pamene chilimbikitso chikuuka, onetsetsani bwino. Awasunge. Musati muchite. Musati muwapondereze. Musati muwakankhire iwo kutali.
Kungomumwetulira mokoma mtima ndikuika maganizo anu pazinthu zina.
Kuonera zolaula sizotheka. Sichili gawo la moyo wanu panonso.
Ndi chinthu chakale.
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