Onerani kanema wa miniti ya 18
"Zili ngati kupereka mankhwala kwa mwana. Linasintha moyo wanga kwamuyaya. "
Kwa James Wong wazaka za 26, zolaula zowonongeka pa Intaneti zinayamba ngati zopanda pake zopanda pake - ndipo potsirizira pake zinayambitsa chizoloŵezi chowononga.
Anagawana nkhani yake ndi pulogalamu ya SundayNZ ya Sunday, kuti afotokoze zomwe zokhudzana ndi zolaula zikukhudza achinyamata a Kiwi.
Bwana Wong anadziwidwa ndi zolaula ali ndi zaka zisanu ndi zinayi. Pamene anali wachinyamata, ntchito yake inakakamizika kwambiri.
"Ndikhoza kuyang'ana mavidiyo osiyana a 40 nthawi imodzi," adatero. "Iyo ikhoza kupitilira kwa nthawi yaitali, izo siziri zokondweretsa ngakhale. Ndi msampha umene umakusungitsani kuti mukhale pakhomo. "
Bwana Wong anagwiritsa ntchito zolaula kuti athawe kupanikizika ndi maganizo okhumudwitsa, koma zidatenga zowawa kwambiri pa thupi lake ndi malingaliro ake.
Anayamba kupweteka kwa erectile, ndipo amamva "manyazi kwambiri", chifukwa cha kusokonezeka kwake.
"Sindingakhale ndi ubale weniweni, chifukwa ndinali kukonza ubale umenewu ndi zolaula," adatero Lamlungu.
Bambo Wong siyekha. Ogwira ntchito zachipatala akudandaula kwambiri ndi zomwe zimalimbikitsa - komanso zowononga - zotsatira za zolaula pa intaneti.
Dokotala wina wa ku Los Angeles, dzina lake Dr Robert Weiss, adanena kuti, ngakhale kuti osagwiritsa ntchito zolaula aliyense adzalandira mankhwala osokoneza bongo.
"Ngati muli ndi zaka 15, ngati simunayambe mwamuwona munthu wamaliseche, ndipo mukuyang'ana zachiwerewere, zachilendo kapena zachilendo kachitidwe ka kugonana mobwerezabwereza ndi kuseweretsa maliseche - zidzakhudza moyo wanu wa kugonana ndipo kukhala ndi vuto, "adatero Dr Weiss.
Zambiri zamakono zowonongeka pa intaneti ndi zojambulidwa komanso zachiwawa. Wolemba wamkulu wa New Zealand, David Shanks, akudandaula kuti akupereka achinyamata kuti ayambe kuganiza za momwe kugonana kwenikweni kumaphatikizira - popanda chithunzi cha kuvomereza kapena kugwiritsa ntchito chitetezo.
"Zolaula pa intaneti sizitanthauza kukonda," adatero Mrs. Shanks. "Pali malo omwe amangoganizira zonyansa, zochititsa manyazi, kapena amalimbikitsa kugonana ndi kugwiriridwa."
"Ndicho chinthu chomalizira chomwe mukufuna kuti achinyamata adzigwiritsa ntchito ngati gwero loyamba la maphunziro pa nkhani yogonana."
Ofesi ya Chief Censor posachedwapa inapanga kafukufuku wamkulu wa achinyamata a 2,000 Kiwi, kuti amvetse momwe akugwiritsira ntchito zolaula, komanso momwe zimakhudzidwira.
Boma lidzagwiritsa ntchito zotsatira za kafukufukuyo - kumasulidwa mu December - kuyang'ana ngati zolaula zingathe kulamulidwa.
Pulezidenti wa Ana, Tracey Martin, adauza Lamlungu kuti adakambidwa ndi akuluakulu a boma kuti momwe zolaula zimakhudzira khalidwe lenileni la achinyamata.
"Tili ndi atsikana ambiri omwe amawonekera pa zaumoyo omwe ali ndi zotsatira zoopsa za kugonana koopsa - kuvulaza, kuvulaza, zinthu monga choncho," adatero mayi Martin.
"Nthaŵi zambiri zithunzi [zolaula] zomwe zimagwedeza mukamachita zogonana zimachitika - ndipo izi zikuchitika kwa atsikana athu."
Mtumiki akufunitsitsa kuteteza achinyamata kuti asawonedwe ndi zolaula asanamvetsetse kuti kugonana ndibwino ndi kotetezeka kumaphatikizapo chiyani.
"Anthu ena adzawona izi pamene ndikuyesera kuchotsa ufulu wawo," adatero Ms Martin. "Koma kumbali zonse za kamera, pali achinyamata ambiri omwe ali pangozi pano."
Pothandizidwa ndi wodwalayo wogonana, James Wong akugwira ntchito mwauchidakwa.
"Ndi chinthu chovuta kwambiri chomwe ndakhala ndikuchita, chifukwa ndikuyesera kuchotsa chinthu chomwe ndakhala ndikuchichita moyo wanga wonse," adatero Lamlungu. "Koma pali njira yotulukira."
Kumene mungapeze thandizo:
Lifeline - 0800 543 354, lemba laulere 4357
Youthline - 0800 376 633, lemba laulere 234
Nambala Yothandizira Kudzipha - 0508 828 865
Nambala Yothandizira Kukhumudwa - 0800 111 757 mawu aulere 4202
Ana aang'ono - 0800 54 37 54
Lowdown - mawu aulere 5626
Zovuta Zachiwerewere - 0800 883 300
OUTLine - 0800 688 5463
Kwa makolo omwe akufuna kukambirana ndi ana awo za zolaula, pitani ku The Light Project kapena ku Classification Office.
Mlungu wonse uno, mapulogalamu a nkhani ndi nkhani zaposachedwa a TVNZ adzafotokoza za mphamvu ya zolaula. Tsatirani mndandanda wathu apa , ndipo werengani zambiri za chifukwa chomwe tikukambirana nkhaniyi: “ Kuchokera mumdima – chifukwa chake ndi nthawi yoti tikambirane za zolaula . ”