Amaqabane amakhoboka aneyawo imingeni. Iindaba ezimnandi kukuba namhlanje kukho inkxaso eninzi ekhoyo.
Njengeqabane lekhoboka elichachayo, uxanduva lwakho lokuqala kukukhulisa ngokwakho. Hlala uqhagamshelwe kubahlobo kunye nosapho. Cinga ngokuzivocavoca, i-yoga, ukucamngca, ixesha kwindalo kunye nemisebenzi yokuyila oyonwabelayo. Zonke zinokukunceda ugcine ulungelelwano ngelixa iqabane lakho lilungiswa. Amaqela enkxaso kumaqabane omabini kunye namakhoboka angafunyanwa kweli phepha.
Qonda ukuba umlutha weqabane lakho awukho ngawe. Awukwazi "ukwenza njengenkwenkwezi ye-porn" ukugcina iqabane lakho lanelisekile. Ukukhotyokiswa akunakuze “kwaneliseke.” Nokuba kuhlangatyezwana neemfuno ezikhawulezileyo, uvuselelo olushushu lukhawulezisa ukuqhubela phambili komlutha.
wena unakho, nangona kunjalo, nceda iqabane lakho. Xa izibini ezitshatileyo zifunda ukusebenzisa indlela yokuziphatha edibeneyo ukuzolisa i-amygdala, inxalenye yengqondo esabela ngokugqithisileyo kwizisongelo ezibonwayo, inokunciphisa kakhulu uloyiko oludityaniswe nokuphiliswa kukungcatshwa, ukurhoxa, kunye nomonzakalo wokulutha. Oku kunokumisela inqanaba lokuphiliswa kokwenene ukuba kwenzeke.
Isitshixo kukuzibandakanya kuthando lwemihla ngemihla loluhlobo oluchazwe kweli nqaku: Indlela Ekhohlakeleyo Yokuhlala Uthandweni. Bona kwakhona Umlingane Uyeka Ukunyaniseka? Iingcebiso ze-5.
Iqabane lekhoboka le-porn elichacha libhala:
Amaqabane akakho “ekuchameni;” “singabasindi kumonzakalo”. Andilithandi kakhulu igama elithi “ixhoba”. Njengoko le nto ithanda ukudityaniswa “nexhoba lomhlaza” kwaye andifuni nokungena kwindlela endiziva ngayo ngaloo nto!
Nangona kunjalo, yintoni eya kuba luncedo kakhulu endiyivayo, nangona indawo yakho ingekho indawo yokubuyisela, abantu abafuna ukufunda iKarezza ngokuqhelekileyo banokuphiliswa okuninzi.
Ke ukuba ubufuna ukuba nesihloko secandelo, into enje, i-Attachment Trauma Resources….eya kubandakanya naluphi na uhlobo lokwenzakala ekufuneka abantu baphole kulo, kuquka namaqabane oMzantsi Afrika.
okwangoku, www.RebootNation.orgIcandelo liyinto efana ne, Partners of Addicts. Oku kuya kuvumela amaqabane ukuba afumane ulwazi oluya kunqumla okanye lwehlise iminyaka emininzi yokuthuthunjiswa, kuba abayazi indlela yokuzixhasa kunye / okanye iqabane labo ngeli xesha kwaye ekugqibeleni baya kunikezela ekwenzeni iKarezza, kwaye mhlawumbi uqhawulo-mtshato.
Iya kuqalisa ukuzisa izinto, kuba eyona nto iphambili ibigxile kwikhoboka.
Kwakhona, olu phononongo kumaqabane abasebenzisi be-porn lusekwe kwi-attachment, lwenziwa kunye nabantu "abangamaKristu alondolozayo", abaxelayo kwisifundo sabo. Nangona kunjalo, ndiyifumene ilungile emalini kum kwaye andikho unqulo, ngokomoya nje ngokunzulu. Ndifumanisa ukuba le yeyona nto ibalulekileyo icwecwe elingenalo malunga namaqabane amakhoboka. Ngolwazi lweKarezza oludityanisiweyo luya kugqitywa.
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Amava Abafazi baBayeni baSebenzisa iphonografi kunye nenkohliso ehambelanayo njengesoyikiso sokuncamathela kwi-Adult Pair-Bond Relationship
nguSPENCER T. ZITZMAN kunye no-MARK H. BUTLERUbungqina buyakhula bokuba ukusetyenziswa kwephonografi kunokuchaphazela kakubi ukuthembela kubudlelwane babantu abadala. Sisebenzise indlela esemgangathweni yokuqonda iziphumo ezincanyathiselweyo zokusetyenziswa koonografi kunye nokukhohlisa okuhambelanayo. Iqela lohlalutyi lomgangatho lihlalutye udliwano-ndlebe lwabafazi abali-14 kubudlelwane obuncamathelayo-bulungelelaniso lwesibini kunyango lwesibini kusetyenziso lwephonografi yeqabane labo. Uhlalutya lutyhilwe iimpembelelo ezintathu ezinxulumene nokuqhotyoshelwa kukusetyenziswa koonografi kunye nokukhohlisa kwabayeni: (1) ukuphuhliswa komgca we-attachment edibeneyo kubudlelwane, obuvela ekuboneni ukunyaniseka kokuqhotyoshelweyo; (2) kulandele umsantsa okhulayo wokuncamathela obangelwa kukuziva kwabafazi ukuba kude kunye nokuqhawula umtshato kubayeni babo; (3) ukugqiba ukuncamathela estrangement ukusuka kwimvakalelo yokungakhuselekanga ngokwasemoyeni nangokwengqondo kubudlelwane. Lilonke, amakhosikazi anike ingxelo yokungathembani kwihlabathi jikelele ebonisa ukonakaliswa kokuncamathela. Ukwakha kule datha, sakha imodeli ene-attachment-informed yeziphumo zokusetyenziswa koonografi kunye nenkohliso ehambelanayo kubudlelwane be-pair-bond.
Okokugqibela, kucetyiswa ukuba amaqabane amakhoboka afunde i inzululwazi ye-porn addiction. Ukuba awazi nto ngayo, qala ngale ntetho imfutshane ye-TEDx: I-Big Porn
Uphando oluninzi luza malunga nendlela ukusetyenziswa kwe-porn echaphazela ngayo isondo kunye nobudlelwane:Studies ukudibanisa ukusetyenziswa koononophelo okanye ukuxhatshazwa ngoonwabo / ngesondo kunye nokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo, phantsi ukuvuselelwa kwengqondo kwisistim sezesondo, kunye nokunciphisa ukwaneliseka ngokwesini.
Kukwaluncedo ukufunda ukuba ukurhoxa kunokuba buhlungu kangakanani na kwikhoboka: Kutheni ukuhoxiswa ekugqithisweni koononopopayi kubonakala ngathi? Ngapha koko, abanye abakhotyokisiweyo baba neempawu zokurhoxa eziphinda-phindayo iminyaka embalwa, ngaphandle naphambili.: Ngaba i-post-acute syndrome ye-retrait (PAWS) iyenzeka nge-addiction?
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