Anyamata amapezako zolaula zaka 10, pafupifupi, koma ambiri amayamba kutha msinkhu pa zaka 12.
Izi zikutanthawuza kuti mamiliyoni a anyamata padziko lonse ayamba maulendo awo ogonana pa Intaneti pa Intaneti, kutali kwambiri ndi moyo weniweni, kuti panthawi yomwe amayamba kugonana nawo kale. Ndipo iwo akanakhoza bwanji kudziwa bwinoko?
Kuyambira kubwera kwa liwiro lachilendo, zolaula zosasuntha ku 2006, amuna ndi anyamata apita ku maofesi a pa Intaneti ndi osadziwika bwino erectile malingaliro ndi otsika libido.
Don Jon wa Joseph Gordon Levitt akufotokoza za chizolowezi choonera zolaula…
Zotsatira zina za kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula zimaphatikizapo kuthamangitsidwa, kuchepetsa kugonana, kusaganizira bwino ntchito, nkhawa zaumphawi, kuchepa kwachangu, ndi kuvutika kukagona.
Mungafulumire kukana lingaliro lakuti kugwiritsa ntchito kwanu zolaula kumakhudza ubongo kapena thupi lanu, koma Gary Wilson, wolemba buku lakuti Your Brain On Porn , ali ndi fanizo labwino kwambiri lofotokozera momwe zimakhalira zovuta kusiya zomwe muli nazo.
Pa nthawi yolankhula za TED , Gary anafotokoza kuti kufunsa momwe anyamata amaganizira kuti zolaula zimawakhudzira kunali ngati kufunsa nsomba zomwe imaganiza za madzi.
Ngati mwazunguliridwa ndi china chake kwanthawi yayitali, simungathe kuzizindikira, ndipo mwina sangakumbukire zomwe mudali kale.
Polankhula ndi UNILAD , Gary Wilson anati:
Kudya zakudya zopanda thanzi kumakhala kozolowereka, monga kusuta kunali kamodzi. Zimatengera zaka zambiri kumvetsetsa zoopsa za zochitikazi. Tikungoyang'ana kutsogolo kwa zotsatira za kukula kwachilendo chosagwirizana ndi kugonana, ndipo zingathe kukulirakulira kuzinthu zoopsa kwambiri.
Palibe amene akudziwa bwino zotsatira zake. Chosangalatsa ndichakuti, pali gulu lalikulu komanso lokula padziko lonse lapansi la (makamaka) anyamata osapembedza omwe amasiya zolaula chifukwa cha zabwino zomwe anzawo amalemba.
Ndinayankhula ndi omwe kale anali achiwerewere komanso YouTuber Gabriel Deem yemwe amapanga makanema othandizira ena kuyesa 'kuyambiranso' ubongo wawo chifukwa chogwiritsa ntchito zolaula.
Gabriel adalongosola kuthekera kwa zolaula zomwe zingabwezeretse chidwi chaubongo potengera chikhumbo, ndikupangitsa kuti izidzutsidwa ndi pixels pazenera mosiyana ndi anthu enieni.
Izi zingafanane ndi momwe Ivan Pavlov anayesera kuti agwiritse ntchito galu wake kuti adye chakudya phokoso la belu. Amuna okha ndi omwe amakonzedweratu kugonana kuti aganize mafoni awo ndi makompyuta amatanthauza kugonana, ndipo pamapeto pake sangakhale okondwa kapena owukitsidwa ndi chinthu chenicheni.
Ponena za galu wa Pavlov, m'mawu a Gabriel, 'mnyamatayo amangodzipukutira m'nsalu ndi mathalauza ake mmanja mwake'.
Gabriel anauza UNILAD kuti :
Zizindikiro zakuthupi zomwe zimabwera chifukwa chogwiritsa ntchito zolaula ndi izi: kukanika kwa erectile, komwe mbolo yanu imagwira ntchito zolaula, koma osati ndi munthu weniweni; kuchedwa kuthamangitsidwa, komwe kumatengera munthu kwamuyaya kuti akwaniritse, kapena ndizosatheka, ndipo ayenera kudzimaliza ndi dzanja lake, kapena angaganize zolaula mpaka pachimake. Ngati simukukhalanso hema m'mawa womwe ukhoza kukhala mbendera yofiira kuti mukukhala ndi vuto.
Zotsatira za m'maganizo zimaphatikizapo: kusokoneza zokonda za kugonana (kuwonjezereka kukhala zatsopano, zowonjezereka kwambiri kuti zifike pamutu womwewo), ubongo wa ubongo (kusagwira ntchito molakwika), kuvutika kuika maganizo, kukhumudwa, kuchepa, kuvutika maganizo, kuvutika kugona.
Onerani Gabriel akulankhula pa pulogalamu ya Chelsea Handler ya Netflix.
Zochitika za sayansi za Coolidge zimakhala zosewera pokhudzana ndi kugonana kwachiwerewere: Amuna amphongo amawonetsa chidwi chogonana pamene akuwonetsedwa ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi mnzanu watsopano, kusiyana ndi chilakolako chake chogonana chogonana chifukwa chogonana ndi mnzanuyo.
Mukamaonera zolaula, pamatha kukhala ndi makanema ambiri pamasamba ambiri. Dzenje lowoneka ngati lopanda malire lazakumverera zonyansa kuyambira kumapeto kwawo.
Kodi munthu wamoyo weniweni angayandikire bwanji dopamine?
Mu TED Talk yake, Gary akufotokoza kusintha kwa mankhwala komwe kumachitika muubongo pamene munthu ali ndi chizolowezi cha chilichonse, kuphatikizapo zolaula.
Choyamba pali dopamine surges yomwe imachokera kukumwa mopitirira muyeso, kenaka kuwonjezeka kwa mankhwala a ubongo Delta-FosB (zofunikira pakupanga zizolowezi zoledzeretsa) zomwe zimalimbikitsa kuzunkha ndi kukhumba.
Ngati binging ikupitirirabe, ndiye kuti Delta FosB imamangirira ndipo imatha kusintha kusintha kwa ubongo kwa anthu onse osokoneza bongo kuphatikizapo kuyanjana ndi zolaula, zomwe zimaoneka ngati zosasangalatsa, koma zolaula ndi zosangalatsa kwambiri, ndipo -kukula kwa mphamvu.
Zina mwazinthu zikusonyeza kuti Delta FosB imapangitsa kuchepa kwa sabata lachisanu ndi chimodzi mpaka lachisanu ndi chitatu cha kudziletsa ku zolaula zomwe ziri zomveka ndi chifukwa chake amuna ambiri amawona kusintha kwakukulu akatha kufika sabata eyiti.
Kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kumayambitsa kusintha komweko mu ubongo monga chakudya, heroin, kapena mankhwala ena onse.
Ndizovuta kudziwa kuchuluka kwake chifukwa kuchuluka kwa zolaula ndichinthu chomwe chimadalira kulolerana ndi umunthu wamaubongo.
Njira yabwino yodziwira ngati (ndi momwe) ikukhudzirani ndi kuyesa kudula miyezi ingapo ndikuwona kusintha kulikonse.
Kuchira pazizindikiro zakugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kumatenga miyezi isanu kapena isanu ndi iwiri kwa anyamata, kapena miyezi iwiri yokha kwa akulu. Amuna omwe ali ndi zaka makumi awiri zoyambilira sakupezanso thanzi lawo la erectile mwachangu ngati achikulire chifukwa adayamba kuwonera zolaula zothamanga kwambiri pomwe ubongo wawo unali pachimake pakupanga kwa dopamine ndi neuroplasticity, pomwe amuna achikulire adaziwona pambuyo pake.
Gary anauza UNILAD kuti :
Moona mtima, wogwiritsa ntchito zithunzi zolaula samadziwa mmene zimamukhudzira mpaka atapereka nthawi yaitali. Wakale wa 25 yemwe wakhala akuchita maliseche tsiku ndi tsiku kwa zolaula kuyambira zaka 12 sangadziwe zomwe akanakhala ngati alibe. Ena sangawonongeke konse.
Musamayembekezere akatswiri kuti akuuzeni zotsatira za kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula pa intaneti. Mofanana ndi kusuta, zikhoza kukhala
zaka zambiri zisanachitike zotsatirazi zikudziwika bwino. Ngati mukuganiza kuti mungakhudzidwe, yesetsani kuyesa kuthetsa zolaula kwa miyezi ingapo.
Ngati simukudziwa kuti kugonana kwanu kwakhudzidwa chifukwa chakuti simukugonana, yesetsani kuchita maliseche ndi zolaula, ndipo nthawi ina yesetsani kugonana mosasamala popanda kuonera zolaula, m'malo olaula, kapena kukumbukira zolaula. Ngati kukweza kwanu ndi kudzuka kwanu kulibe kachiwiri, mwina mukukhala ndi vuto.
Kwa anyamata ambiri, zotsatira za zolaula pa moyo wawo zimangokhalira kukayikira pamene ubale woipa waumunthu ukuwakakamiza kuwonekera.
Ndikufunsa akatswiri, zinawonekeratu kuti anthu akudalira kwambiri zolaula kuti azitha kuchita zachiwerewere, kusiya kukondana kwenikweni, ndikuwononga ubale.
Kuphatikiza pa zotsatirapo zomwe zimakhudza amuna, pali zotsatira zofunikira za anthu komanso zamaganizo zomwe zimachokera ku zolaula zamakono.
Kodi mwawonapo kangati zithunzi zolaula zomwe zimaganizira zokondweretsa akazi?
Katswiri wodziwa kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo komanso katswiri wa zamaganizo Todd L. Love akufotokoza kuti:
Kupitilira kukangana kwachizolowezi, zikuwoneka kuti palibe kukayikira kuti kuwonera zolaula nthawi zonse kumabweretsa ziyembekezo zosatheka za magwiridwe antchito, gawo la munthu wina (kutenga hetero, thupi lachikazi), ndi zinthu ziti 'zachilendo', komanso matupi awo ( anyamata onse ali ndi maliseche akulu).
Achinyamata atha kupita kukalandira upangiri akumadzimva kuti ali ndi vuto lodziona ngati olakwa chifukwa chogwiritsa ntchito njira zina zowopsa zomwe amawonera zolaula (kukakamira, kuseka, kapena kuchita zachiwerewere ndi anzawo). Koma adazichita chifukwa ndizomwe adakulira akuwonera, osati chifukwa choti amakhala okwiya ndi akazi.
Mofananamo, atsikana akupita kukalandira upangiri osokonezeka pazomwe adachita, kapena akumva kuti akuyenera kuchita, kuti asangalatse anyamata awo. Ambiri amadziwa bwino kuti zina mwazochitazo si machitidwe achiwerewere 'koma' palibe amene wawafotokozera, motero adakumana ndi zovuta zawo.
Kafukufuku wochokera ku yunivesite ya Nebraska akuti: 'Adapeza kuti omwe adaonera zolaula ali aang'ono nthawi zambiri amavomereza mawu omwe amanena kuti amuna ndi omwe amalamulira, monga momwe zinthu zimakhalira bwino amuna akakhala ndi udindo'.
Pali magulu a ' Fapstronauts ' ndi masamba ndi masamba a nkhani zoyambitsanso. Mnyamata wina wazaka 24 yemwe wakhala wopanda zolaula kwa miyezi isanu ndi umodzi akufotokoza kuti ngakhale kuti akukumana ndi mavuto ndi zovuta, wasintha malingaliro ake, wamasuka ku liwongo ndi manyazi, wawonjezeka kudzidalira, walimbikitsidwa, wadziona kuti ndi wofunika, wachuma m'maganizo, waluso, komanso wakonzeka kusangalala.
Malangizo kwa omwe akufuna kusiya zolaula ndizochita masewero, kusinkhasinkha, kusinkhasinkha, ndi kufunafuna chithandizo kuchokera kwa ena omwe akuyesera zomwezo.
Zopindulitsa zowonjezera kuleka zolaula, zomwe zanenedwa ndi iwo omwe apambana ndizo: kukhululukidwa kwa mavuto a kugonana, mphamvu yowonjezera, kuchepetsa nkhawa za anthu, kusintha maganizo, kuchepetsa kupanikizika, kuyang'ana akazi mochuluka, komanso chikhumbo chofuna kukhala pachibwenzi.
Zomwe zimakonda zimakhumba chilakolako cha umunthu ndikuyendetsa galimoto pofuna kukondana ndi anthu, ndikuwatsogolera pawindo.
Kwa ena, kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula sikungakhudze kwambiri moyo wanu, koma ngati mutaya nthawi yayitali mukuchita china chake, ndibwino kuti mudziphunzitse nokha.
Chidziwitso cha anthu ofuna kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula chikuchulukirachulukira, ngakhale simukutero. Pitani ku Porn Help , Reboot Nation , kapena No Fap kuti mudziwe zambiri komanso chithandizo.