Zaka 26 - masiku 90 hardmode: zotsatira zowoneka bwino

WOW - ndidachitadi. Sindikudziwa kuti ndili ndi PMO'd m'miyezi yapitayi ya 3.

Uwu ukhoza kukhala utali wautali - ndikulemba izi kuti ndikhale ngati chowunikira kwa ena komanso kuti ndithandizire ndekha. Ndili ndi ntchito yoti ndichite usikuuno koma izi ndizofunikira kuti ndigawane. Mutha kudumpha mpaka kumapeto pazabwino zomwe ndakumanapo nazo, koma ndikulemba nkhani yanga yonse kwa iwo omwe ali ndi chidwi.

NKHANI YANGA:

Ndine 26 / m.

Ndidayambira ulendowu osadziwa kwenikweni momwe zingandikhudzire. Ndinawerenga zambiri za 30, 60, ndi 90 malipoti a masiku, ndinayang'ana YBOP, komanso nkhani ya TED. Nkhani ya TED inali chiyambi changa ndipo zidandipangitsa kukhala ndi chidwi ndi zonsezi - kutseguka kwa diso!

Kuyamba, sindimakonda kuganiza ngati ndinali / ndine 'chizolowezi' - ndimangoganiza kuti mawuwa amatanthauzira zambiri zomwe zimapangitsa kuti anthu ayambe (kuphatikizapo ine poyamba). Ndinaganiza mumtima mwanga kuti: "Sindine m'modzi mwa anthu omwe amakonda kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti, ndizochititsa manyazi! ndimangoonera zinthu pa intaneti usiku kwambiri ndisanagone ndipo nthawi zina ndikakhala kuti ndatopa, monga anzanga onse. ” Ngakhale ndili ndi malingaliro amenewo, ndine munthu wololera… mphamvu zazikuluzi zimawoneka ngati zosangalatsa ndipo ndakhala wosakwatiwa kwakanthawi. Ndinaganiza bwanji osawombera, zikuwoneka ngati pali zovuta zina zokha!

Kotero ine ndinayamba. Kenako ndinalephera. Pambuyo mwina masiku a 3 - ndinali wokwiya kwambiri. Ndinayambiranso masiku angapo pambuyo pake, ndinalephereranso. Anayambanso, analephera kachiwiri. Izi zinkandichititsa mantha. Tsopano ndidayamba kudabwa… zoyipa ... kodi izi ndizovuta? Ndimaganiza kuti ndimakhalidwe abwinobwino kwa munthu wina wazaka 20 ku America kupita kwa PMO kangapo pamlungu. Koma nditayamba kuyesayesa kuti ndiyambe kusiya ndikubwereranso, ndinazindikira kuti NDINADANA ndikuti china chake chakhala chikundigwira (pun). Ndinagwiritsa ntchito chidanicho kuyambitsa kuyesa kwanga kotsatira, komwe kwandibweretsa kuno lero. Tsopano ndadziyesa ndekha, ndipo ndikumva zosatheka.

Ndapeza zambiri zamtengo wapatali, zambiri zomwe ndimakhulupirira sindizokhazikitsidwa chifukwa cha NoFap, zomwe ndikuganiza kuti ndizolakwika zolakwika pano. NDIPONSO, ndikuganiza NoFap inagwiritsidwa ntchito monga CATALYST ku gulu la kusintha kwakukulu komwe kunadzetsa phindu.

UBWINO:

Kuwonjezeka kwa mphamvu - ndimamva kukhala ndi thanzi labwino lomwe ndinalibe kale. Ndimadzuka m'mawa ndili ndi mphamvu zambiri ndikumaliza tsikulo ndili wokhutira, osatopa kwenikweni.
Liwu lakuya - lodziwikiratu komanso loyamikiridwa. Ndimayankhula kwambiri pafoni nthawi zambiri kuntchito kwa anthu atsopano ndipo nthawi zambiri amaganiza kuti ndine mkazi. Izi zitha kuwoneka ngati zopanda pake kwa ena, koma zimakuvutani inu mukamayang'aniridwa mobwerezabwereza monga inuyo kapena amuna kapena akazi. Izi zatsirizidwa kwathunthu. Ndikuzindikira kuti izi ndizoyeserera, koma mosazindikira kuyambira pomwe ndidayamba izi, aliyense amandiyankhula ngati mnyamata pafoni.
Chidaliro - chokwera kwambiri. Sindinakhalepo pandekha, chifukwa ndakhala wokonda kucheza, koma sizofanana ndi kudzidalira. Ndikumva kuti ndikuyenda ndikulimba mtima tsopano momwe ndinalibe kale. Ena atha kutcha 'swagger' haha. Ndimayang'ana anthu m'maso, ndikuyenda pang'ono / motalika. Anthu amachoka panjira yanga pamene ndikufuna kupeza malo. Zimamva bwino.
Kukweza ntchito komanso magwiridwe antchito kusukulu - Ndili ndi ntchito yovuta nthawi zonse ndipo ndimapita kusukulu ya grad usiku. Ndapatsidwa maudindo ambiri pantchito, ndimadzidalira pamisonkhano, ndipo nthawi zambiri ndimachita zambiri / sindimasokonezedwa masana. Ndikulimbikitsidwa posachedwa. Ndidakwanitsanso kuyang'ana bwino mkalasi ndikutsatiranso zokambirana. Izi zakhudza kwambiri moyo wanga.
Kusintha dimba langa - ndimaganiza kuti mkazi wangwiro angobwera kwa ine kuchokera kubuluu popeza ndinali 'wogwira'. Tsopano, ndayamba kuzindikira kuti azimayi ali ndi zisankho zambiri… ndikuganiza kuti ndi ziti, asankha mnyamatayo yemwe angawathandize kwambiri. Izi zidandipangitsa kuganiza… ndiyenera kupereka chiyani? Lingaliro ili limanditsogolera kuti ndikhale wolimbikitsidwa pantchito ndi kusukulu, nditenge zosangalatsa zina zatsopano (monga kujambula zithunzi), ndikukhala modzidalira. Kungolongosola… Sindikukuuzani kuti musinthe nokha kukhala akazi, ndikunena kuti ndinali ndi epiphany yomwe inandipangitsa kuzindikira kuti palibe mkazi amene angangobwera kudzandiyankha kapena kuyankha chilichonse chomwe ndingachite ngati sindili bwino Mnyamata, komanso kuphatikizika bwino kumathandizanso kuti moyo ukhale wosangalatsa. Ndemanga yomwe ndawerenga apa ikuwerengera mwachidule - china chonga… ”Osataya nthawi yanu kuthamangitsa agulugufe. Sinthani munda wanu, ndipo agulugufe adzabwera. ” Izi zinakhala zowona pamene ndimapita pachibwenzi ndi msungwana wokongola kwambiri ... tsiku langa loyamba kwakanthawi. Anali ochezeka komanso osangalatsa. Palibe chomwe chidabwera (tidakali abwenzi), ndipo zili bwino! Pre-NoFap ine ndikadachotsa kukhumudwako, koma ndidabwezeretsanso mphamvuzo kuti ndikhale bwinoko. Kumufunsa, kudziyika ndekha kunja uko, ndikupita tsiku lomwelo kunali kopitilira kanthawi, komwe ndimawona ngati kupita patsogolo.
Kukhala wathanzi - Ndinadzipereka pamene ndinayamba NoFap kuti ndiyiphatikize ndi zizolowezi zina zabwino, monga kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi komanso kudya zakudya zoyenera. Ndinayamba kupita kumalo ochitira masewera olimbitsa thupi osachepera 2x sabata, 3x ngati ndingakwanitse, ndikudya osachepera 1 saladi / tsiku. Ndimazindikiranso mozama zakudya zomwe zasinthidwa, pokhapokha ndikapita kukadya ndi ena. Ndataya ma 10-15 lbs - Ndikuwoneka bwino, koma koposa zonse KHALANI wathanzi.
Lingaliro labwino la akazi - Uku kwakhala kusuntha kowoneka bwino, koma kowonekera. Ndazindikira azimayi zochulukirapo tsopano, ndipo onse amawoneka ofunika kwambiri. Ndikuganiza kuti izi ndi zotsatira zachidule zolaula. Komanso, ndinkalimbana ndi HOCD ndichinthu chomwe ndimadziwa ena ambiri pano. Sindinganene kuti zachotsedwa kwathunthu popeza sindinayang'ane, koma ndikukuwuzani kuti ndikuwona azimayi mochulukirapo m'moyo weniweni ndipo sindikhala ndi nkhawa yayikulu yokhudza HOCD. Ndikuganiza kuti zolaula zimasokonekera ndi ubongo wanga motere.
Zizolowezi / ukhondo wabwino - Ndimatsuka nyumba yanga pafupipafupi, ndikusamalira mano anga. Zimangokhala zosangalatsa kudzisamalira ndekha, zomwe sindinadziwe kale kale.
Chidwi chowonjezeka pazowonera zenizeni - Zomwe ndikutanthauza ndi izi ... ndimakonda kuwonera ma TV / makanema ambiri oyipa pa Netflix - zopanda pake zomwe zimangowononga nthawi. Tsopano ndimangowerenga zongopeka ndikuwonera zolemba komanso zokambirana za TED pa TV. Izi sizinali dala kapena zoyembekezeka… Ndimangofuna kuthera nthawi yanga pa TV pamapulogalamu amtunduwu. Sindinaganizirepo za izi mpaka m'modzi mwa anzanga anali kuyang'ana mndandanda wanga womwe Wawonedwa Posachedwa ndipo ndinadabwitsidwa pang'ono ndi kuchuluka kwa zolemba zomwe zidakhalamo haha. Ndimakumanabe ndi ma South Park ngakhale, mwachiwonekere.
Kusakhala ndi nkhawa pang'ono pakati pa abambo / akazi - Ndanena kale kuti ndakhala ndimacheza, koma pazifukwa zina sindimakhala womasuka pang'ono ndikakhala ndi anthu atsopano. Sindikudziwa kuti izi zidachitika chifukwa cha kuchepa kapena kusadzidalira, koma zili bwino tsopano! Ndikufuna kunena kuti ndine womasuka kwambiri pafupi ndi ANTHU ena, zomwe ndizabwino! Sindikumvanso kuti 'beta' - ndimamva ngati ndiyeneranso kukhala ndi 'mpando patebulo'.
Kukhazikika - ndili ndi mtendere wamaganizidwe womwe ndinalibe kale. Izi mwina ndichifukwa chakuchotsa malingaliro anga pazithunzi zachilendo za alendo omwe amapitako pafupipafupi. Inenso amati izi ndi chizolowezi changa chatsopano chosinkhasinkha… zomwe zimanditsogolera ku gawo langa lotsatira….

ADVICE

Sinkhasinkha - izi ndizazikulu. Kusinkhasinkha kwatonthoza malingaliro anga mwanjira ina iliyonse yomwe sinakhalepo nayo. Ndimatenga kulikonse kuyambira mphindi 5 mpaka 10 m'mawa kuti ndikangokhala pamtsamiro m'chipinda changa ndikuyeretsa malingaliro anga ndikungoyang'ana kukongola kokhala wamoyo. Kukhala bata kumeneku kumanditsatira tsiku lonse.

Ndinali mphunzitsi wamkulu pamene ndinayamba kusinkhasinkha. Ndinagwiritsa ntchito ndondomeko iyi yaulere, yomwe ndikuyamikira kwambiri:

http://www.urbandharma.org/udharma4/mpe1-4.html

Yambirani pa Chaputala 1 ngati simukufuna kuwerenga mbiri - ndibwino kuti muyambe kusinkhasinkha !!

Fufuzani pa NoFap - Umenewu ndi gulu labwino kwambiri komanso lothandizidwa lomwe lathandizira kundipatsa malingaliro ndikundikumbutsa mobwerezabwereza chifukwa chomwe ndimachitira izi. Osadandaula za kubwera kuno, ndikukulangizani kuti musayang'ane tsiku lililonse pokhapokha mutafunikira chilimbikitso. Kupanda kutero, ndimamva ngati atha kukhala 'za baji' ndipo mumawopa kuti mudzayambiranso. Izi sizomwe zili izi… ndi zakusintha kwa moyo wamuyaya.
Lembani zomwe zikusoweka - Zikuwoneka kwa ine kuti fapstranauts ambiri amalakwitsa pokhulupirira kuti mudzapeza mphamvu zazikulu mukangosiya. Sindikukhulupirira izi. Komabe ndikukhulupirira kuti mutha kudzipangira nokha moyo wabwino pothana ndi PMO ndikusintha kukhala ndi zizolowezi zabwino, monga kuwerenga mabuku abwino, kugwiritsa ntchito malingaliro ndi thupi lanu, kucheza ndi anzanu komanso abale, kuthandizira pulojekiti, Masewera kuntchito / kusukulu, ndi zina zambiri. Pali moyo wochuluka kwambiri, ndipo ambiri aife ndife achichepere… bwanji kukhazikika pang'onopang'ono pakompyuta pomwe chilengedwe chimatipatsa kuwunika kunja kwa khomo lanu?
Werengani, werengani, werengani - Ndinadziponyera m'mabuku omwe amadzipangira ndekha ndipo nditha kunena moona mtima kuti tsopano ndine munthu wabwino. Ingowerengani masamba a 10 patsiku, mwina munthawi yomwe mukadatha, ndipo mudzamaliza ndi mabuku musanadziwe.

Ena mwa okondedwa anga:

Powonjezeranso Bambo Nice Guy, The Slight Edge, Ganizilani ndi Kulemera, Sankhani nokha, Matenda, Matenda, Kuthamanga, Mphamvu ya Chikhalidwe (makamaka zogwirizana ndi gulu lino).

Onaninso za kukhalapo kwanu konse - haha… .ndikuseka, mwina (kwachedwa). Muli ndi mphamvu pakadali pano yosankha momwe mungakhalire moyo wanu. Ndikukulangizani kuti muwerenge mwachilungamo zonse zomwe mukuchita pompano, kenako ndikudzifufuza ndikumvetsetsa zomwe mukufuna. Kodi muli komwe mukufuna kukhala? Ngati muli pagawo ili, mwayi ulipo, simuli zonse zomwe mukufuna kukhala. Lembani zolinga zanu - mumadziwona kuti muli mchaka chimodzi, zaka 1, zaka 3, osati NoFap, koma mu Moyo? Kodi muli ndi ntchito iti, ndi mzinda uti womwe mukukhala, mnzanu ndi wotani, anzanu ndi otani, ndinu athanzi bwanji, mumagwiritsa ntchito nthawi yanu kuchita chiyani? Tsopano muli ndi pulani yamasewera ... dziko lamtsogolo komanso dziko lamtsogolo - gawo lovuta latha. Tsopano mukungofunikira kuswa zolinga zanu kuti zitheke, ndikukhazikika pang'onopang'ono. Sizowopsa kuposa momwe mungaganizire, ndipo ndizosangalatsa kulota!
Pezani anthu oti mutengere chitsanzo - izi ndizofunikanso. Pakhoza kukhala anthu m'moyo wanu omwe mukufuna kutengera, mwina osati kwathunthu, koma mumawasilira chifukwa cha machitidwe ena. Chifukwa chiyani simungatenge izi? Mutha! Ngati mulibe anthu amomwe mungatengereko gawo pagulu lanu, pali mbiri yakale yomwe mungasankhe, osatchulapo atsogoleri amakono. Aliyense adayamba kwinakwake, inunso mutha kutero. Mwachitsanzo, Steve Jobs adasintha dziko lapansi ndi iPhone - mbiri yake sinali yokongola. Ngati angathe kuchita, inunso mutha kutero.
Osataya mtima - ili ndi vuto lakufuna. Zinkandivuta nthawi zina (pun yomwe amafunira). Nthawi zina ndimavutika kuti ndipewe - ndimakumana ndimasinthidwe akulu. Ndidaphunzira kuti timakhala pakati pa anthu ogonana kwambiri… zogonana zili paliponse. Ili m'malonda a pa TV, makanema momveka bwino kuposa kale, ndipo pali zambiri zabodza kunjaku. Muyenera kuyimilira ndikuchita zomwe zikukuyenderani. Kodi mupita kutali motani?

Izi zidakhala zazitali kwambiri, wow. Ndikuganiza kuti ndinali ndi zambiri zoti ndigawane! Ndikukhulupirira izi zathandiza wina kunja uko. Nthawi zonse ndimawona malipoti awa kukhala olimbikitsa, ndipo ndine wokondwa kulipira patsogolo.

Chonde khalani omasuka kusiya ndemanga kapena PM kwa ine ndi mafunso aliwonse - ndiyankha mwachangu momwe ndingathere.

Gl aliyense - mwatenga kale sitepe yoyamba, thamangani kumapeto!

TL; DR: NoFap yandisintha moyo wanga m'njira zambiri, zambiri mwazidzidzidzi. Ndikupangira izi kwa aliyense amene akuganiza kuti akhoza kuchita zambiri ndi moyo wawo.

LINK - Masiku 90 - Hardmode. Zopindulitsa zochititsa chidwi.

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Masiku a 100 +, akulingalira MO, pa NMMNG

Moni nonse,

Ndikulalikira kuderali kuti ndithandizire, ndikhulupirira mutha kuthandiza!

Ndapita masiku 100+ ndisanakule, ndipo zotsatira zake zakhala zowopsa! Ndimamva kukhala wofatsa, wopanda nkhawa pagulu, wokhazikika. Ndikulingalira kuti vuto langa ndiloti sindinakhalepo ndi maloto akunyowa nthawi yonseyi (monga ndikudziwira osachepera) kotero ndalimba mtima.

Komanso, sindinawerengenso Mr Nice Guy omwe anali buku losangalatsa komanso malo owonetsera zotsalira zanga, komabe wolembayo amalimbikitsa chiwerewere chamoyo chabwino (mwachitsanzo, kutaya popanda P) kufotokoza zofuna zanu za kugonana mwa njira zabwino. Malingana ndi bukhuli, zimakuthandizani kuzindikira kuti kugonana ndibwino bwino komanso chinthu chomwe mungaphunzire kufuna kugawana ndi wina. Ndikuganiza kuti ndikufunikira izi kuti ndizitsirize.

CHONCHO, ndikuganiza zobwereranso, popanda P. Kodi pali aliyense (makamaka masiku opitilira 90) onena ngati akuwona kuti akupitilira 90 anali oyenera? Ndikadapitirizabe kulimbitsa thupi / kudya moyenera / kusinkhasinkha, ndikanangokhala MO.

Chiyembekezo changa chabwino ndikuti ndipitiliza kumva zovuta za NoFap ngati ndizichita bwino (ndikuyembekeza ndi wina posachedwa) m'njira zogonana. Kodi pali aliyense amene angayankhe pa izi?

Ndiyenera kunena kuti zolimbikitsazi zikuyambiranso panthawiyi… Ndikuganiza kuti mwina ndidayimilira kuyambira tsiku la 40-85.

Chonde ndidziwitseni malingaliro anu - zikomo!