Kuphunzitsa ana za zolaula ndikofunikira, chifukwa zolaula zitha kukhala nafe bola ngati intaneti ili pafupi. Komabe, ophunzitsa ayenera kuphunzitsa ophunzira momwe pulasitiki imagwirira ntchito.
Kaŵirikaŵiri wina amawerenga m'mauthenga omwe aphunzitsi ayenera kuganizira:
- kusiyanitsa "zolaula" ndi "zolaula," kapena
- kuchepetsa vuto "kufunikira kovomereza musanalimbikitse kugonana ndi mnzanu," kapena
- momwe "zolaula sizofanana ndi kugonana kwenikweni."
Zonsezi zimaperewera pazofunikira, monga aphunzitsi ambiri amazindikira kale. Tiyeni tiwatenge mwadongosolo.
Ingowawuzani kuti ayang'ane "zolaula"
Lingaliro la "zolaula zabwino / zolaula" limakhudza aliyense mumtsutsano wosatha wonena za "zamakhalidwe," ndipo mitundu yomwe amakonda zolaula ndi "yabwino" kapena "yoyipa". Ichi ndi chododometsa, osati sitepe yopita patsogolo kukonzekeretsa ana kuti azitha kugonana masiku ano.
Kuphatikiza apo, ngakhale zolaula zolaula komanso zolaula zenizeni zilipo, ubongo wa achinyamata udzafunafuna zachilendo komanso zanzeru. Izi ndichifukwa choti maubongo awo amangomvera zachilendo komanso kudabwitsidwa. Komabe samamvetsera kukondoweza komwe amadziwika - komwe kumangokhala "kotopetsa" mwachangu. Mapulogalamu aubwana -ubongo awa amapezeka m'mitundu yazinyama. Zinasintha kuti zilimbikitse achinyamata kufunafuna magawo atsopano ndi okwatirana okha (popanda kubereka). Koma izi zikutanthauza kuti achinyamata ali pachiwopsezo chotenga nawo gawo kusefukira kwa zolaula zosatha, zolimbikitsa, zolaula.
Choopsa kwambiri, kwa nthawi yoyamba mu kusintha kwa anthu, achinyamata amatha kukwera kufika pa zinthu zoopsa kwambiri pamene akudziseweretsa maliseche. Izi zikutanthauza kuti zizindikiro zomwe zimapita ku ubongo wawo wanzeru zimazimitsidwa pang'ono ndi zizindikiro zazikulu kuchokera ku ma circuits oyambirira a arousal/reward muubongo. Zotsatira zake n'zakuti ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula masiku ano amatha kufika pachimake pa (kulimbitsa) mitundu yonse ya zinthu zachiwerewere. Sakanatha kufunafuna zinthuzi pamene anayamba kudziseweretsa maliseche. Pakapita nthawi, ambiri amapeza kuti sangathenso kupitirira kukonda zinthu zakale. Mu 2016, ofufuza adanena kuti theka la ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula adakwera kufika pa zinthu zomwe kale ankaziona kuti "zosasangalatsa" kapena "zonyansa": Zochita zogonana pa intaneti: Kafukufuku wofufuza za machitidwe ovuta komanso osavuta omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito mwa amuna.
Zokonda zakugonana
Izi zingapangitse achinyamata omwe amagwiritsa ntchito zolaula masiku ano kukhala ndi mantha ndi zomwe amakonda pa nkhani ya kugonana, kapena ngakhale zomwe amakonda pa nkhani ya kugonana. Mwachitsanzo, tamva kuchokera kwa anyamata omwe amafika pa nkhani ya zolaula zosaloledwa ndipo amadabwa kuti “Kodi ndine ameneyo?” Tamva kuchokera kwa anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha omwe amaonera zolaula zogonana mwachisawawa. Ndipo anyamata omwe amaonera zolaula za transgender kapena gay. Magulu onse awiri nthawi zina amachita mantha akamaganizira za zomwe amakonda, kenako sangathe kufika pa zomwe amakonda kale. Onani Kodi Mungakhulupirire Johnson Wanu?
Ena amakayikira ngati ali "ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha" chifukwa amangoyankha zolaula osati anzawo enieni. Kapenanso amadzifunsa ngati ali "okonda amuna kapena akazi okhaokha" chifukwa akhala akufikira pachidwi cha zolaula kuyambira ali aang'ono kwambiri kotero kuti sadziwa tanthauzo la zomwe amakonda. Mavutowa anali osamvekapo m'mibadwo yakale ndipo akuwoneka kuti ndi zotsatira za maubongo achichepere omwe amatha kugundidwa ndi zokopa zosatha kudzera pa zolaula pa mafoni awo.
Zosintha zosintha
Mwamwayi, miyezi isanakwane kumapeto kwa zolaula pa intaneti zimapangitsa kuti zizolowezi zolaula zongowonongeka, ziwonongeke, ndipo anthu amatha kudziwa zachiwerewere. (Chosangalatsa ndichakuti, wachichepereyo amayamba kujambula zolaula, zimatenga nthawi yayitali kuti abwezeretse zachiwerewere.)
Mfundo ndi yakuti, ngati ana sadziwa momwe kulimbitsa thupi kumagwirira ntchito (mukukumbukira agalu a Pavlov?), alibe njira yomvetsetsera zomwe zikuchitika, kapena momwe angasinthire. Saphunzitsidwa zizindikiro zoyenera kuyang'ana, monga kulephera kugwiritsa ntchito kondomu chifukwa kukhwima kwa chiberekero kumatha ndi okondedwa enieni, kuchedwa kutulutsa umuna kapena kutopa kwa chiberekero, kukwera kufika pa zokonda zosazolowereka, ndi zina zotero. M'malo mwake, nthawi zambiri amaphunzitsidwa kuti zolaula sizingasinthe zokonda za wowonera, ndipo zimangothandiza wowonera kupeza kugonana kwake "koona". Izi n'zosamveka. Ubongo, makamaka ubongo wachinyamata, ndi wopepuka kwambiri. Kupatula apo, zikanakhala choncho, theka la owonera zolaula sakananena kuti kukwera kwa zinthu zoopsa kwambiri akamafufuza akuganiza zofunsa.
Kuchotsa zizindikiro
Ndipo ngati ogwiritsa ntchito sachenjezedwa za zizindikiro zoyipa zosiya kugwiritsa ntchito (mutu, mantha, kusowa tulo, kukumbukira zakale, kusinthasintha kwa malingaliro, kutayika kwakanthawi kwa chilakolako cha kugonana, ndi zina zotero) zomwe zingachitike atasiya, nthawi zambiri amabwerera ku zolaula kuti "achiritse" mavuto awo - m'malo mopitiliza njira yobwezera ubongo wawo pamalo abwino.
Ndi aphunzitsi angati amakono omwe ali ndi zida zophunzitsira ana izi? Palibe, pokhapokha atadziphunzitsa okha ndi akatswiri mu pulasitiki yaubongo, monga akatswiri osokoneza bongo. Zachisoni, mlangizi wamba pasukulu sanaphunzitsidwe kuchita ntchitoyi.
Ingowaphunzitseni kuti avomereze
Lingaliro pakuphunzitsa ana malamulo opezera chilolezo, limamveka bwino. Koma ngati mnyamatayo amangopeza erection pomwe akuchita zolaula, malingaliro ake ovomerezeka atha kusokonekera. Kuphatikiza apo, atsikana achichepere ambiri sazindikira ufulu wawo woti 'ayi' pazinthuzo. Makamaka ambiri omwe amakonda zolaula. Zimatengera kulimba mtima komanso kulimba mtima kuti muuze mnyamata yemwe mumamukondadi kuti simukufuna kuchita zomwe adadzikwaniritsa kuti adzafike pachimake. Ngakhale amayi achikulire ali ndi vuto ndi vutoli.
Atsikana omwe akumvetsa kuti vuto lenileni ndi kugonana kosakwanira angathandize. Akakumana ndi anyamata omwe akufuna kuyesa kusiya zolaula angathandize kufulumizitsa njirayi. Koma osati mwa kuchita ngati nyenyezi za zolaula. Kodi Chibwenzi Chisiya Zolaula? Malangizo 5
Kupatula kuvomereza
Mulimonsemo, ana amafunikira malamulo ochulukirapo kuti amvetsetse zoopsa zogwiritsa ntchito zolaula. Ayenera kumvetsetsa mitundu ya zizindikiro zomwe ogwiritsa ntchito nthawi zambiri amanena . Ndipo momwe zimakhalira kukhala wolakwiridwa ndi khalidwe la munthu wina lokonda zolaula . Monga momwe mnyamata wina ananenera,
Ndikudabwa ngati mungatenge tsamba la buku lamasewera ophunzitsira mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Kudziwa momwe heroin angakusokonezereni kungalimbikitse kwambiri (anthu) kuti asakhudze zinthuzo. Osati "kuwopseza machenjerero" pa se (mwina lol pang'ono), koma kungomvetsetsa zomwe zingachitike chifukwa chogwiritsa ntchito kwambiri. Ndikudziwa kuti ndikadadziwa zomwe zingachitike chifukwa chogwiritsa ntchito zolaula, pali mwayi wabwino kwambiri kuti sindingalole kuti chizolowezi changa chifike pakuledzera.
Ingowawuzani zolaula sizili ngati kugonana kwenikweni
Kuphunzitsa ana kuti "zolaula sizofanana ndi kugonana kwenikweni," kumveka zomveka, koma sizingathetse vutoli. Ana amadziwa kale kuti kugonana "si zenizeni". Izi zili choncho ngakhale alibe chidziwitso chawo chofanizira. Ena amakonda ngakhale zolaula zaku Japan. Amadziwa kuti izi si "zenizeni."
Komabe, vuto lalikulu ndilakuti akulimbikitsa chilakolako chawo chogonana ndi zolaula . Achinyamata ambiri sangakwanitse/kusunga chilakolako chogonana pokhapokha akuonera zolaula. Ena sangakwanitse kuimirira pokhapokha atakhala akuchita zolaula ndikupangitsa kuti anzawo aziona ngati ali ndi cholinga. Onani Kafukufuku akutsimikizira kuwonjezeka kwakukulu kwa achinyamata omwe ali ndi vuto la ED.
Izi zimachitika chifukwa achinyamata ambiri sanachitepo maliseche popanda zolaula. Amakhala ndi chilimbikitso chakuwonekera pazowonera, zachilendo nthawi zonse, kufunafuna ndi kufunafuna zinthu zowopsa, voyeurism, fetish, ndi zina zotero. Ndipo atsikana ochulukirachulukira omwe amaliseweretsa maliseche pa intaneti akutulutsa nkhani yomweyi.
Mwakutero, achinyamata akuphunzitsa masewera olakwika. Choyipa chachikulu, samazindikira pang'ono kuti adaphunzitsidwa masewera olakwika. Sadzadziwa pokhapokha atayesa kuletsa zolaula pa intaneti kwa miyezi ingapo. Tehy ayenera kudzionera okha kuti anzawo enieni amakula kwambiri.
Chifukwa chiyani maphunziro a ubongo adzagwira ntchito?
Tsamba ili linakhazikitsidwa kumayambiriro kwa chaka cha 2011. Kuyambira nthawi imeneyo achinyamata ambiri apeza kuti izi ndi zosangalatsa komanso zothandiza pophunzira kuthana ndi chilakolako chomwe chimawonjezeka ndi zinthu zachilendo masiku ano. Amasangalala kuphunzira za ubongo, mphamvu zake zosinthira, zizindikiro zochenjeza za kusalinganika, komanso momwe kuchepetsa kubweza ubongo kungathandizire kubwerera ku chidziwitso chabwinobwino. Amakonda kupanga zoyeserera zawo akamvetsetsa zoyambira. Ndipo amakonda kuphunzitsana kudzera m'makalata ophunzitsira kuchira. Mutha kuwerenga nkhani zawo zambirimbiri zochira apa . Kapena onerani kanema wa wachinyamatayu . Monga momwe wogwiritsa ntchito kuchira ananenera,
Kusukulu adandiphunzitsa kudulira nkhuni, kuunjikira thaulo ndikupangira mphika wadothi… Chosangalatsa ndichakuti sindikufuna maluso awa mwanjira iliyonse pamoyo wanga watsiku ndi tsiku. Ndikadakhala bwino ndikadangokhala ndi kalasi imodzi kapena ziwiri zamanjenje pomwe ndimatha kuphunzira kukulitsa mphamvu zanga zamaubongo. Izi zikadakhala zamphamvu kwambiri ku 13.
Maphunziro okhudza kugonana masiku ano sali okwanira mpaka atafotokoza momwe kuphunzira kwa matenda kumachitikira. Maphunziro okhudza zolaula amafuna kuphunzitsa achinyamata za kufooka kwapadera kwa ubongo wa achinyamata. Ayenera kusonyeza momwe kugonana kungapangidwire kukhala ndi zinthu zomwe sizikugwirizana ndi okondedwa enieni. Kanemayu akufotokoza zambiri: Ubongo wa Achinyamata Umakumana ndi Zolaula Zapaintaneti Zothamanga Kwambiri - YouTube