Kodi zotsatira zolaula zolaula zikuwoneka bwanji?
Anyamata omwe amasiya zolaula nthawi zambiri amafotokoza kusintha kosadabwitsa, monga Kuchita bwino kugonana komanso kukhutira, chikhulupiliro chowonjezeka komanso chikhumbo chocheza, bwino ndende, ubwenzi wokhutiritsa kwambiri wokondana ndi zina zotero. Komabe amakhalanso akunena za kusintha kwina: Amamva zambiri Maganizo. Izi nthawi zambiri zimalandiridwa komanso zosasamala poyamba. Pano pali mauthenga ena ochokera kwa anyamata omwe akuyesera ndikusiya zolaula:
Mnyamata: "Sindinaganizepo za zinthu ngati chisoni mpaka nditayamba kuyesaku. Maganizo awa omwe amadza chifukwa chosiya zolaula andisonyeza kuti ndine munthu wogwirizana komanso wokonda kwambiri kuposa momwe ndimaganizira. Kunali kofunika kwambiri kuti ndikhale ndi malingaliro otere. ”
Kusintha kungakhale kosokoneza komanso kovuta:
Mnyamata wina: "Kuchokera pachisangalalo chosaneneka mpaka chisoni chopuwala, tsopano ndikumva chisoni ngati kale. Kuchita maliseche zolaula kunapangitsa kuti izi zitheke, zomwe zinandichititsa kukhala wosasangalala komanso wosasangalala. ”
Mnyamata wina: "Zomwe anthu ambiri samawoneka kuti akuvomereza, ndikuti mudzakumana ndi zomwe simunamvepo kwazaka zambiri, mwina konse. Atsikana omwe sanali ofunika kwa inu m'mbuyomu adzakhala mwadzidzidzi pa moyo wanu - mfumu. Mayeso amenewo mwalephera? Inu simumachiphulitsa icho; mumadandaula za magiredi anu; mumadandaula za kubwera komaliza m'masabata awiri. Ndipo izi ndi zabwino; gehena ndizabwino. Uku ndikumva kuwawa komwe mumaphunzira, komwe kumakulitsani monga munthu. Koma zidzapweteka. Nthawi zina mumakhala achisoni, osokonezeka mwina komanso okhumudwa. Koma musagwere mumsamphawo. Maganizo amapita, zikumbukiro zimatha, ndipo mudzatuluka mwamphamvu chifukwa cha izi. Kumbukirani kuti muli ndi zaka zokula msinkhu m'maganizo ndi kukhwima zomwe muyenera kubwera. Mwina zingakhale zovuta, mwina simungamve bwino, koma ndichofunika. ”
Kusintha uku sikuchitika mwadzidzidzi, monga mnyamatayu adadziwira:
“Poyamba ndinali munthu wokonda kutengeka mtima komanso wachikondi. Kwa zaka 3, mpaka mwezi watha, ndimakhala ndikumenya nyama yanga zolaula pa 2 mpaka 3 maola pafupifupi. Zandipangitsa kukhala wosaganizira za chikondi ndi malingaliro. Ndimamva ngati zombie yopanda chidwi! Ndapita masiku 20 osakwanitsa zolaula. Tsopano, atsikana angapo akubwera kwa ine. Koma chodandaula changa chachikulu ndikuti sindingathe kumawakonda (agulugufe m'mimba) kwa iwo. Chifukwa chake, inenso ndiyenera kusiya, chifukwa ndimawona kuti sindingathe kuwakonda. Ndiyambira liti kumverera chikondi? Chonde wina andithandize pa izi !!! Sindikumvabe chilichonse. ”
Chikuchitika ndi chiani?
Mnyamata wina anafotokoza kuti:
“Pakatikati pa zithunzi zolaula, zimakhala ngati chizolowezi china chilichonse kapena zizolowezi zina. Sichimapangitsa kupweteka kwanu, koma m'menemo muli vuto. Mukuwona, simungasankhe kutengeka mtima kapena kumverera popanda kugwedeza mtima uliwonse. Chifukwa chake ngakhale zinthu izi zimachepetsa ululu wa kusatetezeka, kusungulumwa, kukhumudwa, kukhumudwa komanso mantha, zimathandizanso kuthana ndi malingaliro monga chisangalalo, chiyembekezo, chisangalalo ndi chikondi. ”
Kodi zimachepetsa bwanji malingaliro anu? Ubongo wathu udasinthika kuti tikwaniritse homeostasis. Ngati tikukhudzidwa ndi chidwi chachikulu amasintha. Mwachitsanzo, amaletsa ziwonetsero za neural posintha milingo yamankhwala amitsempha yama neurotransmitters ofunikira. Kudzikweza mopitirira muyeso kumatha kubweretsa dzanzi.
Mwachiwonetsero chomwecho, kuchotsa kuwonongeka kwakuwoneka kovunda poyamba (chifukwa moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku umawoneka wochuluka kwambiri ndi wopanda pake), koma pang'onopang'ono njala imadzitembenuza yokha. Mitundu imabwerera ndipo changu chimakula.
Doug Lisle akufotokoza izi momveka bwino mu nkhani yake ya TEDx: Msampha Wokondweretsa. Amapereka zitsanzo za momwe odya mopitirira muyeso angathetsere chilakolako cha chakudya ndi nthawi ya kusala kapena madzi okhaokha. Mfundo yomweyi yowonjezeretsa chidwi popewa kukokomeza kwambiri imagwiranso ntchito pamalipiro onse achilengedwe, kuphatikiza maliseche pa intaneti. (Kulekerera maliseche kuti muwone bwino izi nthawi zambiri kumatchedwa "kubwezeretsanso. ")
Todd Becker ndi www.gettingstronger.org tsamba labwino kwambiri, lomwe limafotokozera bwino za mfundo ndi maluso osinthira "zomwe mwasankha" kuti mumve bwino ndikukhala okhutira. Mverani kwa a Kuyankhulana kwa wailesi ndi Todd.
Kafukufuku wokhudzana ndi kukhumudwa amatithandizanso kudziwa za kukhumudwa komwe kumachitika chifukwa chakukondoweza, ndipo tiwona izi mozama mtsogolo. Pakadali pano, tingowonetsa kuti kafukufuku akuwulula izi dopamine amapereka cholimbikitsa kuti athane ndi zoyeserera zonse, chifukwa chake ngati zachepa, zosayembekezereka zoyipa zimayembekezereka - chifukwa kanthu akumva ofunika kukhumudwitsa.
Kafukufuku nthawi zina amalephera
Ofufuza apeza kale umboni wokhudzana ndi "kukhudzidwa mtima" (kutsekedwa kochepetsa kwa magawo aubwino wamaubongo) mu Intaneti imamwa mankhwala, zakudya zamakono ndi kutchova njuga kumangokhalako. Ndipotu, zizolowezi zonse zamakhalidwe ndizo ubongo womwewo umasintha, chomwe chisokonezo chokha ndi chimodzi.
Komabe, kunyalanyaza zovuta zonsezo, Labani la SPAN, linayendera ndi katswiri wogonana, Oyesa ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula pamavuto awo podzipatsa malipoti okhudzana ndi kanema wa mphindi 3 komanso kanema wina. Mosadabwitsa, anthu omwe alibe vuto loyang'anira zolaula amafotokoza momwe zimakhalira nthawi imodzimodzi kuposa omwe amalephera kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula. Chodabwitsa ndichakuti, ofufuzawo sanapereke tanthauzo la kusiyana kumeneku. M'malo mwake adatsutsa kuti omwe amakonda kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula amayenera kuwonetsa "kuchititsa chidwi" kwamalingaliro (popanda malingaliro ambiri a lingaliro ili), ndikuwonetsa kuti kuchepa kwamaganizidwe awo ndi umboni kuti ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula sanali osokoneza. (Ah?)
Zoona zake n'zakuti ubongo wambiri uli ndi Zochepa Zomwe zimachitika kuti zikhale zovuta-kupatula ngati, zedi, izo Zotsutsana ndizomwe zili zenizeni chifukwa cha chizolowezi chowonera (chomwe chimadziwika ndi osokoneza bongo monga kulimbikitsa). Komanso, maganizo angakhudze momwe munthu alili amazindikira mitundu ina, ndipo amakhulupirira kuti izi zimakhudzana ndi ubongo wa dopamine.
Kodi kutanthauzanji kukhala munthu? Kukhala wamwamuna?
Zachidziwikire kuti munthu aliyense payekhapayekha amafotokozera zakusiyanasiyana mosiyanasiyana. Komabe, zikuwonekeranso kuchokera ku luso la mawu kuti amuna amuna mwachiwonekere adasinthika kukhala ndi malingaliro osiyanasiyana.
Kodi malingaliro athu apano okhudzana ndi "thanzi lamunthu wamamuna" asokonezedwa ndikuti kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti ndizofala pakati pa amuna ambiri? Mwina anyamata amasiku ano angatiwonetsere zocheperako kuposa momwe amamvera mumtima chifukwa choti ubongo wawo "wakhazikika" poyankha ma smörgåsbords a lero okonda zolaula? (Akazi ayamba lipoti zofanana zomwezo, Ndisanayiwale.)
Mnyamata wina: "Mwadzidzidzi ndili ndi zaka 24, ndikukhala ndekha, koma osasangalala mwamisala, osalephera koma osapambana. Moyo wanga unali wabwino kwambiri komanso wopanda chilichonse. Palibe chomwe chidandichotsa. Pomwe malingaliro angayambe kundizunza pakulemba buku lomwe ndimalemba kumbuyo kwa malingaliro anga, zothamanga marathon omwe ndakhala ndikufuna kuthamanga, pamabuku onse omwe ndimafuna kuwerenga, mwachidule, anthu khalani-ndikadatha. “Ndiyamba mawa; Pakadali pano ndikutha. ” Nonse mukudziwa momwe zimachitikira. Ndi njira yachidule, yokoma, komanso yosavuta yodzazira chikho chopanda kanthu mkati mwanu…. sanamve kanthu kalikonse. Ndinkakhala mumzinda wawung'ono, wachinyamata wosangalatsa - ndipo sindinapereke kwenikweni - k. Nthaŵi zina ndinkakhala ndi nkhawa kapena mantha enieni (pamene kukula kwanga kunayamba kundithandiza kuti ndisagwire ntchito), ndipo nthawi zina ndimasangalala. Koma ndinali nditakhala chotupa. Chilichonse chimanditopetsa poyerekeza ndikukula. Chochititsa mantha, nthawi zina kugonana kunali kosayenera. ”
Nazi ndemanga kuchokera kwa anyamata ochuluka atapezedwa:
Mnyamata woyamba: "Kuonera zolaula kwambiri komanso kuseweretsa maliseche kunachepetsanso kuthekera kwanga kokhudzidwa mtima. Ndinalira koyamba kwazaka zingapo patadutsa masiku khumi kulowa m'modzi mwamipanda yanga yoyamba. Kuyambira pamenepo, ndakhala ndikulira nthawi zambiri - ndikamamvera nyimbo, kuwerenga nkhani, kuganizira za anthu ena m'moyo wanga, ngakhale malingaliro abwino atha kundipangitsa kukhala wokhumudwa. Izi sizinali choncho kale. Kwa nthawi yonse yomwe ndikukumbukira, ndinali wosungulumwa ndipo sindinakhudzidwe ndi dziko lozungulira. Zinthu zina zinali zamphamvu zokwanira kudula utsi womwe ndimakhala, koma makamaka ndimayandama. Sindinkamva bwino kwenikweni. Kusintha kwa izi kwakhala kusintha kwakukulu kwambiri komwe ndakhala ndikuwona kuyambira pomwe ndidasiya, ndipo kwakhala kopindulitsa kwambiri. Kuzindikira kwamphamvu kwadzetsa kuphulika kwachidziwitso kwambiri. Kusunthidwa ndi china chake chomwe mudapanga ndikopindulitsa kwambiri, komanso kumalimbitsa modabwitsa. Ndalemba nyimbo zambiri zomwe ndikunyadira nazo m'miyezi ingapo yapitayi kuposa zomwe ndalemba m'zaka zinayi zapitazi. ”
Mwamuna wachiwiri: "Zina mwa zinthu zambiri zomwe zasintha pamoyo wanga kuyambira pomwe ndimasiya zolaula ndikuchulukirachulukira kwachifundo changa kwa ena. Nthawi zambiri, ndimasamala za anthu ena koma ndilibe chisoni chachikulu kapena kutha kumvetsetsa kapena kugawana zomwe anthu ena akumva. China chake choipa chikamachitika kwa winawake, nditha kuvomereza kuti mwina akumva kuwawa koma sindimadzimvera chisoni. Miyezi ingapo yapitayi, komabe, ndadzipeza ndekha kuti ndikhudzidwa kwambiri ndi mavuto a anthu ena ndipo ndakhala ndikumva kupweteka kwawo m'njira yomwe sindinakhalepo nayo kale. Ndakhala ndikulira ndi ena pang'ono, ndipo ndatha kufotokozera nkhawa zanga m'njira zomwe sindinakhalepo nazo kale. ”
Munthu wachitatu: "Ndikamayang'ana zolaula, ndimakhala wosachita bwino pagulu. Sindinapereke ziganizo ziwiri za izi: Ntchito, Banja, Ngongole, Maganizo a Akazi, Chiyembekezo cholera ana (zimangowoneka zopusa kwa ine - chifukwa chiyani munthu angakhale ndi ana?). Kuopsa kwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo, Kuvota & ndale, Anthu am'deralo, Kukonda dziko. Ndikutanthauza, ndikanatha kulemba zolemba za Reddit zazitali chifukwa chake china chake chinali cholondola kapena cholakwika, ndikupanga nzeru zopanda malire. Koma zikafika pakugwira ntchito, ndinali wakufa. Ngati anyamata ena ali ofanana ndi ine, ndiye kuti, monga chitukuko, tili pamavuto akulu. Pali nthano yonena kuti Ufumu wa Roma udagwa chifukwa chakuchenjera kwa poyizoni wazitsulo - zotsatira zoyipa zaukadaulo wawo watsopano wazipangizo zamakono. Kaya izi ndi zoona kapena ayi sizothandiza pamfundoyi. Chofunika kwambiri ndi kufanana kwa oyang'anira makompyuta amakono, omwe alowa m'nyumba iliyonse ndi chipinda chilichonse, ndikuponyera intaneti muubongo. ”
Mnyamata wachinayi: "Kubwezeretsanso (kusiya zolaula) kumatipangitsa kukhala 'ogwirizana' m'njira zambiri kuposa kungodziwa masewera owonerera. Imagwirizananso umunthu mozama, ndipo nditha kunena kuti zonse zomwe zimayambitsanso mphamvu zikakula, padzakhala kusintha kwakanthawi padziko lonse lapansi chifukwa cha izi. ”
Mwachidule, ngati anthu akungotchera misala yawo mosazindikira mwa kungowonjezera ubongo wawo, sichingakhale chabwino kuti izi zidziwike? Zingalole kusankha kosankha zambiri, ndipo mwina kungalimbikitse kuyesa kwakanthawi. Wina angasankhe kunena, kusiya zolaula pa Intaneti kwa miyezi ingapo kuti ndingowona momwe moyo umayendera pa "set point" yosiyana ya neural.
Zotsatira za kuyesera kotero zinadabwitsa munthu uyu:
"Zomwe ndinamva ndisanatuluke:
- Moyo ndiwotopetsa, kopita kuti moyo ukhale bwinja.
- Porn ndi dziko langa, atsikana ali chabe zidole za kugonana.
- Palibe chomwe chimatchedwa Chikondi; pali choonadi chimodzi cha chilengedwe chonse, LUST.
- Kugonana konse ndi kugwirizana ndi zabodza.
- Aliyense amatha kotero vuto ndi liti ngati inenso ?!
- Porn ndi SEX EDUCATION (LOL izi zandiuza ine pamene ndinawona zojambula zanga zoyamba).
Pambuyo pake:
- Moyo suli wokongola zokha koma mitunduyo ndi yowala kuposa sewero la HD; njira zonse ndi zanu, ingotenga sitepe; moyo unalidi utawonongeka pamene ukufalikira 😛
- Zolaula ndi dziko lapansi kwa iwo omwe safuna kukhala mbali ya dziko lenileni ndipo atsikana ndi zolengedwa zokongolazi zomwe zitha kuwalitsa dziko lanu.
- Pali choonadi chimodzi chokha… CHIKONDI, CHIKONDI NDI CHIKONDI CHONCHO.
- Ubale ndi mgwirizano zimasiyanitsa anthu ndi zinyama zambiri.
- LOL kachiwiri, ngati zolaula ziridi maphunziro a kugonana ine ndikanati ndipeze doctorate pakalipano.
Ndikhulupirireni anyamata, masiku 90 awa anali ndi zokumana nazo zambiri, koma sindinaganizepo kuti padzakhala masiku odabwitsa komanso osangalatsa chonchi m'moyo wanga. ”
Popeza kuti kugwiritsa ntchito zithunzi zolaula pa intaneti kunali kovuta, kuthekera kwa ubale wabwino kwambiri ndi moyo wathanzi kungakhale kwakukulu. Onani zomwe mukuganiza pamene mukuwerenga kudzera m'makalata awa:
Mnyamata wina: "[Tsiku 36] Ndikumvadi chisoni chomwe sindinamvepo m'mbuyomu. Zinali ngati zolaula zidatulutsa chilakolako chambiri m'moyo wanga. Ndinayambanso kumverera mwatsopano. Zosankha zanga zimakhala zovuta kwambiri…. Ndimamva mwachibadwa kwambiri ndikamayankhula ndi anthu, ndipo ndimasinthasintha pang'ono. Ndimayamikira atsikana kwambiri, ndipo ndimaona kuti ndikufunika kuti ndilankhule nawo koposa zongogonana. Chinthu chomwe chinandipangitsa kuti ndisinthe chinali chakuti kuonera zolaula kungandilepheretse kuti ndisakhale ndi moyo weniweni. Zingandipangitse kukhala wosagwirizana ndi anthu. Zimapindulitsa chifukwa chodana ndi anthu. ”
Mnyamata wina: "[Tsiku 36] Ndikumvadi chisoni chomwe sindinamvepo m'mbuyomu. Zinali ngati zolaula zidatulutsa chilakolako chambiri m'moyo wanga. Ndinayambanso kumverera mwatsopano. Zosankha zanga zimakhala zovuta kwambiri…. Ndimamva mwachibadwa kwambiri ndikamayankhula ndi anthu, ndipo ndimasinthasintha pang'ono. Ndimayamikira atsikana kwambiri, ndipo ndimaona kuti ndikufunika kuti ndilankhule nawo koposa zongogonana. Chinthu chomwe chinandipangitsa kuti ndisinthe chinali chakuti kuonera zolaula kungandilepheretse kuti ndisakhale ndi moyo weniweni. Zingandipangitse kukhala wosagwirizana ndi anthu. Zimapindulitsa chifukwa chodana ndi anthu. ”Mnyamata wina: "[Zaka 17] Ndinayamba kuseweretsa maliseche ndili ndi zaka 13 ndipo sindinayang'ane kumbuyo. Ndinganene kuti ndimakhala kamodzi patsiku pazaka 4 zapitazi. Zandibera kumva chikondi, kuleza mtima, chisangalalo, ndi malingaliro ambiri. Tsopano ndikutha kuyankhula ndi atsikana mosavuta ndipo ndimakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi akazi ambiri. Tsopano zikumveka bwino momwe ubale wonse umagwirira ntchito, popeza kuti sindinakhalepo ndi chidwi chokhala ndi SO. ”
Uwu ndiye phindu wabwino kwambiri wa NF, pomwe malingaliro anu akusunthira kuchoka kumakhalidwe kupita kumalo achilengedwe, ngakhale atakhala sabata, kapena tsiku. Mukatsegulira dziko lapansi chitseko, mukufuna kuti zonse zizikhala zenizeni; simukufuna zithunzi kapena makanema, mukufuna khungu lenileni, kulumikizana kwenikweni. Simukufuna kudzikhutiritsa pompopompo, bongo wanu wokonda kufuna izi, koma pansi pa liwu lodzikonda mumafuna zambiri, ndipo ndinu oposa amenewo. KULUMIKIZANA
Ulusi wopambana pazomwe maso akuyang'ana bwino ndi pamene osayanjanitsidwa ndi zolaula: Ili m'maso
Ndinali pa tsiku langa loyamba kuyambira pomwe ndinayamba mndandanda wanga watsopano. Linali tsiku loyamba. Ndimamva ngati maso anga amalumikizana ndi moyo wake. Zinali ngati ndimatha kulumikizana ndi pano kudzera m'maso. Adandiuza "suta maso ako" ndidati "zili ngati atha kulowa mwa ine" adangomwetulira. Zili ngati onse awiri adamva kuyanjana kwamaso. Zili ngati pali matsenga. Ndakhala ndikukumana ndi izi kale koma pokhapokha ndikakhala pamizere yayitali. Chifukwa chiyani ndikufuna kuti moyo ukhale wowongoka pomwe nditha kukhala ndi izi. Zingakhale zosangalatsa ngati wina angachite kafukufuku wokhudzana ndi diso ponena za nofap. Ndikukhala tsopano .. ndisanakhale zombie ..
Mnyamata wina: "Mukamakula kwa nthawi yayitali, simumva chisoni ndi chilichonse, kapena mundilole ndinene motere: Pali dongosolo lamtundu wakuda / loyera lokha ili. Ndinu wabwinobwino kapena wachisoni. Izi zinali choncho kwa ine. Komanso, ndinkangokhala wokhumudwa. Zinandigunda ngati tani ya njerwa pomwe malingaliro onsewa adabwereranso m'moyo wanga! Chitsanzo chachangu: Nthawi zina ndimangoyimilira pakatikati pa msewu ndikungoyang'ana kumwamba ndikumwetulira ngati wamisala, ndipo nthawi zina ndimangokhala mchipinda changa ndikulira ngati kanyimbi chifukwa ndimamva nyimbo yachisoni. ”
Mnyamata wina: "Ndimakhudzidwa kwambiri: M'mbuyomu, ndikamagwiritsa ntchito zolaula ndimakhala wopanda nkhawa. Sindinamvepo zotonthoza kuposa sabata ino. Ndinamva mkwiyo, kuwawa, chikondi, mpumulo, chisangalalo. Ndinalira kwambiri ndipo ndinamwetulira kwambiri. Ndinamva momwe munthu amafunikira kumva. ”
Mnyamata wina: "(Tsiku 90) ndili ndi zaka 45, ndili ndi chizolowezi cha PMO wazaka 15… Zina mwazifukwa zazikulu zopatukana ndi ED ndizolimbikira kwa ine, kuvutika kwambiri kukhala ndikufotokozera zakukhosi, ndikudzidalira komanso kudzidalira. Pakati pa tsiku 35 ndinayanjananso ndi wokondedwa wanga, usiku umodzi wokha, ndipo ndinatha kutsimikizira kuti vuto langa la ED linali labwino kwambiri, komanso kuti ndinali wokhumudwa kwambiri kuposa kale nthawi yogonana. Maganizo anga onse atha kukhala amadzimadzi, ndipo [ndimamva] phindu polankhula ndi anthu chifukwa ndimalumikizana ndi malingaliro anga ndikuwayika m'mawu mosavuta. Zachidziwikire, chifukwa chokha chomwe zidagwira ntchito poyambira ndikuti [kusiya] kundichotsa mu mkhalidwe wamaganizidwe omwe ndinali nawo zaka. Tsiku la 75, ndidakumana ndi mayi wina kuphwando lobadwa la mnzake - anali wokongola, komanso wosudzulana posachedwa. Sindinkadzidalira kwambiri, komanso sindinakhalepo ndi vuto lodzidalira ngati kale. Ndinangomva bwino kukhala m'khungu langa. Ndimamvanso kuti ndikhoza kulankhula zakukhosi kwanga, mokhudzana ndi vuto langa komanso kwa iye. ”
Mnyamata wina: "[Tsiku 18] Nditakhala zaka 12 zapitazi ndili ndi mphamvu zopanda pake komanso nkhawa, ndikumverera mwamphamvu kuposa amuna ambiri omwe ndimadziwa. Mulingo wamagetsi ndiabwino, ndipo ndimakhala wokhutira ndi moyo, ndikumva kukhala wolimba monga momwe munthu weniweni ayenera kukhalira. Ndimatengeka mtima, komabe sindimakhudzidwa ndikumverera kwanga. Ndine chinthu chokhazikika chodalira. "
Mnyamata wina: "Pamapeto pa kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula kwanga ndimayang'ana zina f -— ed up sh-t pamasamba okhudzana ndi ndewu, chaka, imfa..mazinthu zonse f -— adamaliza. Ndimayang'ana makanema 20 patsiku, osadandaula ndikamawona kanema wa wina akuthyola mwendo ndi zina zambiri. Popeza ndinasiya kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula komanso makanemawa, ndinawona chithunzi cha wosewera mpira wa basketball ali ndi mwendo wosweka ndipo ndidayamba kumverera wopepuka ndikudwala. Zimakhala ngati ubongo wanga ukuyambiranso kuyankha moyenera. Ndikayang'ana m'mbuyo, mutu wanga uyenera kuti udali wolimba. Kodi pali wina aliyense amene angamve izi? ”
Mnyamata wachiwiri: "Inde, ndikudziwa zomwe mukutanthauza. Pamene ndakhala ndikuwonera zolaula kwakanthawi, palibe chomwe chikuwoneka ngati choyipa kwambiri kapena chowonekera kwambiri kwa ine. Patatha milungu ingapo ndisanachite zolaula, sindingathe kuwona zolaula [za transgender] osadwala m'mimba. Koma pakatha milungu ingapo ndikuonera zolaula ndimatha kudya ndikamawonera izi, kapena zinthu zina zachilendo zomwe sindidzazitchula. ”
Munthu wachitatu: “Ndizoseketsa ukunena choncho. Pomwe ndinali wogwiritsa ntchito zolaula ndimakonda kuwonera makanema owopsa osazengereza kapena kuganiza izi ndikudwala. Koma tangoganizirani, tsopano ndikulowerera m'malo ena ... ndizodabwitsa kwambiri. ”
Ndili tsiku la 134 la hardmode pakadali pano. Ndikumva kuti ndikuyang'anitsitsa ndikuwongolera pakadali pano. Mitundu yonse, mamvekedwe, kununkhira, ndi malingaliro apadziko lapansi ndi owoneka bwino kwambiri. Zimakhala ngati ndikudzuka kutulo tina tating'onoting'ono. Dziko ndi lokongola kwambiri!
Maganizo akubwerera. Ndinali wofooka, wopanda chidwi komanso wotopetsa nthawi zambiri, ndipo sindinkapeza chisangalalo chilichonse. Komabe masiku angapo apitawa, ndidakumana ndi chojambula chonena za mbiri yakale yomwe idakhudza moyo wanga ndikulira. Zomwe ndikadaganizira zazing'ono kapena zopanda pake zisandisunthira kwambiri. Ndikuwona zotsatira!
Mnyamata wina: "China chomwe ndidazindikira chinali "kumasula" kwakung'ono. Kukhala wokhoza kumva kumverera kwapakhosi ndi chifuwa ndikakhala pafupi ndi mkazi (ngakhale sikulimba monga ndikukumbukira) ikani malingaliro anga ena pamzere. Ndimadandaula kwambiri, ndikulira, chibwenzi chakale, ndipo ndinali nditasokonezeka kwazaka zambiri chifukwa chomwe sindinathe "kuzimva" molondola. "
Mnyamata wina: "[Tsiku 63] Ndikuganiza kuti kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pafupipafupi kumapangitsa kuti ndisamayanjane nawo. Ndikutsimikiza za izi monga momwe ndadziwira ndekha. Ndikutanthauza, zimakhudzanso momwe mumamvera ndikumapha kusinthana kwamalingaliro mwachangu ndi ena. Tsopano ndikulumikizana ndi malingaliro anga. Kusintha uku kumachitika pang'onopang'ono komanso kumawoneka bwino sabata iliyonse. Zikungokhala ngati kumvanso ndi moyo :). ”
Mnyamata wina: "Ndinali wokhumudwa kale ndikagwiritsa ntchito zolaula, koma mwanjira ina ndakhala wokhumudwa tsopano. Monga, ndikawona ana akusangalala, ndimakhala ofunda mkati. Komanso, ndimakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi mmene anthu akumvera mumtima mwawo. ”
Mnyamata wina: "[Tsiku 36] Maganizo obwerera kumoyo. Izi zitha kukhala zopweteka ndipo nthawi zina zimakhala zosagwirizana, koma ndimadzimva wamoyo. Wina analemba kuti kupambana kumakhudzanso zovuta. Ine ndikuyamba kumvetsa izo. Njira ina ndikuwononga kutengeka (kapena kuti musazindikire kuti mumakhala ndi chidwi) ndiwankfest ya maola asanu. Ndikumva bwino za ine ndekha ndi moyo wanga. Mayi anga adati dzulo kuti amaganiza kuti ndimawoneka wokondwa kuposa kale. Sangalalani ndikumverera ndipo, ngati zinthu zingalole, sangalalani kukopana mosatekeseka, mwanjira ina. Anthu monga choncho ndipo amayankha. Ngakhale kuyenda mumsewu ndi chinthu chosangalatsa kwambiri pakadali pano. ”
Mnyamata wina: "Ndimagwirizana kwambiri ndi momwe ndikumvera. Sindiyeneranso kubisa mbali yanga yovuta. Ndimatha kufotokoza za mavuto anga ndikuloleza anthu kuti alowe. Kuopsa ndi vuto lalikulu kwa ine, makamaka ndi chilichonse chomwe ndimabisala. Tsopano popeza ndaziulula poyera, ndilibe vuto locheza ndi anzanga kapena omwe ndimakhala nawo pafupi za zomwe zili m'maganizo mwanga kapena zomwe ndikukumana nazo. Ndimazindikiranso momwe ndimakhalira, ndikuzindikira kuti ndichinthu chomwe chitha kuwongoleredwa. Wokwiyira mnyamata yemwe wakudula? Pumirani kwambiri ndikuyamikira zabwino m'moyo wanu. Ndili wotseguka kwambiri pakuwonetsanso kutengeka. Osangalala kwenikweni? Lolani ilo lituluke. Kuseka ngati kulibe mawa; pangitsani wina aliyense kumva bwino. Ndinkakonda kukhala wokondwa kwambiri ndi china chake ndikumverera ngati ndiyenera kubisa. Ndinkadzimva ngati wosatetezeka ndikadakhala wosangalala. Chifukwa chiyani? Sindikudziwa. Kusangalala ndi ena ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zabwino kwambiri zomwe mungakhale nazo. Kumene ndinkakana chikondi tsopano ndikulilakalaka. Sindikufunanso kukankhira anthu kutali. Ndikufuna kuwabweretsa pafupi. ”
Mnyamata wina: "Ndimawona kuti malingaliro anga amatha kudzutsidwa ndi zinthu zachikondi zomwe ndimawona m'moyo kapena m'mafilimu. Ndimakhudzidwa kwambiri ndikakhudzidwa. ”
Ndili pa tsiku la 24 ndipo kuyambira tsiku la 6 ndakhala ndikulota maloto omveka bwino usiku uliwonse kwanthawi yoyamba ngati zaka 10. Kwa nthawi yoyamba mzaka 10 sindimakhala ndikugona masana ndipo ndimadzuka ndikumatsitsimulidwa m'mawa uliwonse. Phindu ili lidalowanso munthawi yomweyo nkhawa zanga, anhedonia, kusowa chidwi, ubongo wa ubongo ndi zina. Izi zisanachitike, ndimangokhala ndi zinthu zopanda pake zomwe zimayenda mozungulira mutu wanga usiku ndipo sindimamva kupumula ngakhale nditatha maola 8 mpaka 9 osagona tulo.
Nchifukwa chiyani izi zili zosangalatsa? Zingakhale choncho kuti wodwala PMO asagone mokwanira chifukwa REM-kugona ndikulota kowoneka bwino kumafunikira ntchito yathanzi ya dopaminergic. OMG! Umboni wa 100% NoFap imagwira ntchito! Wodwala PMO sangagone REM!
Ankabwerera kuchokera kumalo ochitira masewera olimbitsa thupi kudutsa pamunda waudzu pomwe china chake chidachitika. Zinkawoneka ngati wina muubongo wanga adasinthana "switch" ndikukweza gawo lazidziwitso zanga ndipo kwa nthawi yoyamba mzaka ndidamva kulumikizana ndi dziko lapansi. Phokoso lonse m'mutu mwanga lidangoyima, pamapeto pake pazaka ndidatha kungoyang'ana dziko lapansi ndikukhala kwake chete mu chete. Ndinangoima pamenepo, ndikumvetsera phokoso lachilengedwe kenako ndinakhala pansi kuti ndimve udzu pakati pa zala zanga. Anthu ena amandiyang'ana koma sindinasamale, mphindi ino inali yokongola chabe.
Kodi ndangokwera kumene kufikira chidziwitso chatsopano? Mulimonse momwe ndikuganizira kuti ubongo wanga ukupulumuka kuzolowera zakale komanso zosokonekera. Ndikayamba pang'onopang'ono kuwona kuwala kumapeto kwa mseuwo. Mulungu wanga ndawononga nthawi yayitali pamoyo wanga ndikupusitsidwa ndi intaneti komanso zina zopanda pake.
Ndangochotsa chilichonse chopanda pake pa kompyuta yanga. Ndinayimitsa nkhani yanga ya facebook, kuchotsa akaunti yanga ya Twitter, ndataya ndemanga zonse pa akaunti yanga. Zochitika zenizeni zandigunda ine ngati ngolo ya 100 lero ndipo tsopano ndikudziwa momwe ndinatayika kwenikweni. Zoonadi zandigunda ngati galimoto
Mnyamata wina: "Sindingathe kumvetsetsa chifukwa chomwe anthu amalankhulira zokhumudwitsa, chifukwa ndimakonda kuwapeza. Koma chowonadi ndichakuti sindikumva kutengeka, chifukwa ndikamakhudzidwa, makamaka zoyipa, ndimatha kubera dongosolo pochotsa maliseche pa zolaula za pa intaneti. Osatinso. Yakwana nthawi yokumana nayo, nthawi yolandira zovuta. Ndizowopsa kwambiri, ndipo tsopano ndikuyamba kuvomereza ndekha kuti zinthu sizili bwino ayi. ”
Mnyamata wina: "[Tsiku 104] Pazifukwa zina, ndimalumikizana kwambiri ndi momwe ndikumvera kuposa kale, ndipo ndakhala ndikumva zinthu kwanthawi yayitali. ”
Mnyamata wina: "Zifukwa zakusiyira: Yambani kumva izi nthawi zonse, m'malo mothedwa nzeru ndi dziko lokongola lazungulirani. Sikudzakhalanso Akufa Akuyenda. ”
Panali munthu yemwe ankasewera gitala ndikuyimba modetsa nkhawa. Mundibwezere kuti ndiweruze, ndikudziwa, koma mukadayenera kuzimva. Komabe, sindinathenso kuzigwira chifukwa ndinayenera kutuluka mchipinda chodyera ndipo ndinayamba kufuula ndi kuseka, ndikutanthauza kuti ndimalira ndikuseka zinali zazikulu. Sindikukumbukira nthawi yomaliza yomwe ndinaseka ngati kuti zinali zopanda pake. Amzanga andiona ndikuseka panja, kenako adayamba kuseka, anthu akuyamba kutembenuzira mitu m'malo ang'ono / opanda phokoso awa ndipo adafunsidwa kuti achoke! Zinali zoseketsa, koma zomwe ndimayesa kunena ndikuti: Sindikukumbukira ndikumverera kwachisoni mpaka lero mpaka zaka. Ndikumva chisoni kwambiri
Mnyamata wina: "Masiku 280 - Mphamvu yanga yokopa kwa akazi enieni idakwera. Ndimamva bwino kwambiri momwe ndikumvera ndipo malingaliro anga nawonso amandilimbikitsa. ”
Mnyamata wina: "Lipoti la masiku 30 - Mudzatero ndikumverera zinthu: Ndimagwiritsa ntchito zolaula ngati njira yothanirana ndi zinthu zonse zomwe sindimafuna kuthana nazo. Makamaka kupsinjika, kuda nkhawa komanso kudzimva wosakwanira. Mukachotsa zolaula mu equation mudzamva zinthu zomwe mumabisalira. Kwa ine zinali, ndipo mpaka pano, zinali zopweteka pang'ono komanso zosasangalatsa. KOMA IZI NDI ZABWINO. Mudzakula mphamvu chifukwa cha izo. NDIMAKHALA, NDINE, NDIMAKHALA ndikulimba mtima ndipo ndine wonyadira kuti ndathana ndi mantha anga (nkhondoyi yatha).
Mnyamata wina: "Ndikakhala pa zolaula sindinamvepo m'mimba mwanga pafupi ndi atsikana. Tsopano, ndinakhala ndi erection yovuta pamene ndinawona mtsikana wokongola akuvina. Ndikumva njala iyi kuti ndipite ndikulumikizana ndi atsikana, chifukwa ndimayambiranso kukondana komanso kuwapanikiza. Sindingadikire kuti ndikhale ndi chibwenzi kachiwiri kuti tikwaniritse chikondi komanso chidwi. ”
Mnyamata wina: Ndinali pa tsiku langa loyamba kuyambira pomwe ndinayamba mndandanda wanga watsopano. Linali tsiku loyamba. Ndimamva ngati maso anga amalumikizana ndi moyo wake. Zinali ngati ndikumalankhula naye kudzera m'maso. Iye anati kwa ine, “zoyipa! maso ako! ” Ndati "chiyani?" "Zili ngati atha kulowa mwa ine." Anangomwetulira. Zili ngati tonsefe tidamva kuyanjana kwamaso. Zili ngati pali matsenga. Ndakhala ndikukumana ndi izi kale koma pokhapokha ndimayendedwe akutali. Chifukwa chiyani ndikanafuna kuti moyo ukhale wowongoka pomwe nditha kukhala ndi izi? Zingakhale zosangalatsa ngati wina angachite kafukufuku wokhudzana ndi diso ponena za nofap. Ndikukhala tsopano .. ndisanakhale zombie. Ili m'maso
Mnyamata wina: Momwe nofap imandipangira ine wotsutsa
Lingaliro langa limayenda motere: kuyambira pomwe ndidayamba nofap ndidakulitsa chidwi changa pamalingaliro. Chofunika kwambiri ndikulongosola ndikugawana zakukhosi ndi makolo anga ndi anzanga. Ndikuganiza kuti zomwezi zimachitika ndikakhala pafupi ndi anthu omwe ndimawakonda (abwenzi amzanga kapena alendo). Ndimangoganizira momwe ndikumvera komanso chifukwa choti ndikulimba mtima tsopano ndikutha kufotokoza popanda kuwopa kuweruzidwa.
Chitsanzo: Ndimayang'anitsitsa amuna ndikumwetulira azimayi chifukwa ndimawakonda. Ndisanayang'ane kwina ndikuganiza "zoyipa, adandiwona ndamuwona?" Tsopano malingaliro anga amapita, "Ndikufuna kuti awone ndikudziwa kuti ndinamuzindikira chifukwa ndimamupeza wokongola".
Chitsanzo china ndikukhala kunja kwa mzinda. Mubala kapena kuyenda mozungulira tawuni, ndikawona azimayi, ndimati "moni" kapena kuwathandizira.
Mu zitsanzo zonsezi, kutengeka kwanga kumadzaza ndikufika pofika pomwe ndimayenera kufotokoza. Sindikufuna kuvomerezedwa kapena chiyembekezo kuti nditha kuwatenga. Ndikungofuna kuti adziwe momwe ndimamvera. Ndimadzichitira ndekha, chifukwa ndimamva kukhala womasuka kufotokoza ndekha komanso osasunga malingaliro anga mkati.
tl; dr extrovert = nofap chifukwa cha: kuwonjezeka kwa maganizo + ndikuwonetsa maganizo anga
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