Jason sangakhulupirire kuti wabwera ku izi: Iye ali pabedi, wamaliseche, ndi mkazi wokongola - ndipo sangathe kutembenuzidwa. Wodzifotokozera kuti "kawirikawiri mnyamata wotchuka kwambiri," yemwe dzina lake lasinthidwa chifukwa chachabechabe, watenga mkazi uyu pakhomo pambuyo pa masiku asanu akugwiritsira ntchito kugonana - koma tsopano kuti awiriwo ali osakanikirana, iye alibe chirichonse koma cholimbikitsa.
Ayi, Jason sanagwidwe mwadzidzidzi ndi mantha a 11th-ora la kugonana. Ndipotu, vuto lake ndilosiyana: Iye wakhala akuwonera zolaula zambiri. Kulipira moyo wake wosakwatiwa, yemwe ali ndi zaka zakubadwa, yemwe ali ndi zaka zapakati pa tsiku la 36 adayambitsa kudya kwake kolaula kamodzi pa tsiku. "Ndinkakonda kudzikuza pazinthu zanga zogonana, koma pamene ndayamba kuchita maliseche pazinthu zolaula, nthawi zambiri ndimangokhala ndi anzanga enieni," akutero East Village.
Jason si mnyamata yekha amene wagwidwa ndi vuto ili. A July 2014 kuphunzira kuchokera ku Journal of the American Medical Association Psychiatry inapeza kuti amuna a zaka za 21 ndi 45 omwe amawonera zolaula zambiri - zomwe zimafotokozedwa ngati maola anayi pa sabata - anali ndi zochepa zochepa mu ubongo zomwe zimagwirizanitsidwa ndi chiwerewere kuposa omwe ankayang'ana zochepa. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, kafukufuku wa 2013 wochokera m'nyuzipepala ya Christian Post anapeza kuti kuposa oposa 50 peresenti ya oonera zolaula pa Intaneti amalemba kuti sakufuna kugonana ndi anzawo. "Aphungu ogonana akuwona odwala ochuluka omwe amadalira zolaula - omwe amafunikira - kuti atulutse moyo weniweni," anatero katswiri wa kugonana ndi chibwenzi Yvonne Fulbright.
Choncho, n'chifukwa chiyani kuwonjezera-kugonana kopanda zolaula kumawonjezeka? Chifukwa cha intaneti, ndi zosavuta kwambiri kuposa zolaula, kotero anthu ambiri amaziyang'ana. Ngakhale kuti anthu sangavomereze kuti amaziyang'ana mofanana ndi momwe amachitira, a 66 peresenti ya amuna ndi a 41 peresenti ya amayi amaziyang'ana kamodzi pamwezi, malinga ndi kafukufuku wa JAMA Psychiatry. Ndipo chifukwa cha zimenezi, amuna ambiri amatsitsimuka pochita chidwi. Fulbright akulongosola kuti: "Amuna akamaseŵera zithunzi zolaula, amatha kuphunzitsa matupi awo kuti azidalira zochitika zoterezi kuti apite patsogolo.
Chinanso chachikulu: chinthu chachilendo. "Popeza pali zolaula zambirimbiri zomwe zimapezeka pa intaneti, amuna ena amazoloŵera kuonera akazi osiyanasiyana nthawi iliyonse," anatero Ian Kerner, wotsogolera kugonana ku New York City. "Ndipo ngati zachilendo zimenezo sizinalengedwenso m'miyoyo yawo, zikhoza kukhala zochepa."
Komabe, kuyang'ana zolaula kungakhale wathanzi komanso wotetezeka, ngati simungapitirire. Sizimapangitsanso anyamata onse kukhala ochepa. Ndipotu, ena amamva kuti amawathandiza kuchepetsa chilakolako chawo chogonana.
"Ndimaonera zolaula tsiku ndi tsiku, ndipo ngati sindinatero, ndikuganiza kuti ndisanayambe kugonana nthawi zonse - zimandithandiza kumasula mavuto kuti ndidziwe bwino m'moyo weniweni," anatero Ben, 26, bartender. ku Bed-Stuy amene akufuna kutchula dzina lake lomaliza.
Koma ngati libwenzi lanu kapena chibwenzi chanu chikutsutsa? Kerner akuwonetseratu kudula zolaula zanu kapena kutenga masabata atatu. "Ngati zithunzi zolaula sizipezeka, amuna ambiri amayamba kuchita maliseche ku zithunzi za abwenzi awo ndi abambo osati amai pa intaneti," akutero. "Zimenezo zingawapangitse kuti aziyandikana kwambiri ndi anzawo, zomwe zikhoza kuwonjezera ma libidos."
Njira ina: chinthu chachimake chodziwika ndi zojambulajambula pogwiritsa ntchito zidole zatsopano, malo opatsirana pogonana kapena sewero. "Kuchita chilichonse chatsopano kumatulutsa zosangalatsa za hormone dopamine, zomwe zingakuthandizeni kukhala osangalala kwambiri m'chipinda chogona," Kerner akulangiza.
Jason anatenga njira yake yoyamba ndipo anasiya zolaula zake kudya kamodzi masiku angapo. "Apa ndi momwe ndikuonera: Ndinkakonda kudya chimanga cha shuga, ndipo tsopano ndikudya omelets a veggie chifukwa ali ndi thanzi labwino. Ndinkakonda kuona zithunzi zolaula, ndipo tsopano ndabwerera, "akulongosola.
Ndipo ndikuganiza chiyani? Zizindikiro zake zikuoneka kuti zikugwira ntchito. "Tiye tingonena kuti ndakhala ndikugwedeza sabata yatha - ndipo sindinakhumudwitse!"
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