Kodi mudzazaza bwanji "bowo"?
M'zaka zaposachedwa, asayansi akhala akuphunzira za nyama yochititsa chidwi yozama kwambiri: the prairie vole. Pali mitundu yambiri yofanana kwambiri, koma mitundu ina imakwatirana moyo wonse pomwe ena samangirirana (monga nyama zambiri).
Maderawa ali m'gulu la magawo atatu mwa mitundu 3 ya nyama zoyamwitsa, zomwe zimaphatikizaponso anthu. Amayanjana, nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi moyo wawufupi, nthawi zina amaphatikizana pang'ono pambali ("kubera"). Apanso, monga anthu.
Umboni pakalipano ukusonyeza kuti ubongo umayambitsa ma prairie voles kuti ukhale wapakati (mwachitsanzo, kutengeka kwa mwana wothandizira mwanayo) kumakhala kofanana kwambiri ndi njira za ubongo zomwe zimayambitsa us kuti muyambe kuyanjana. Izi zimapangitsa anthu otsutsawa kukhala ofunika kwambiri kwa anthu:
Popeza kulumikizana kwakukulu pakati pa njira zomwe zimakhudzana ndikupanga mgwirizano ndi chizolowezi, malo omwe ali m'minda akuwoneka kuti ndi njira yothandiza pofufuza ... [Kuchokera kafukufuku]
Nazi zotsatila zitatu zosangalatsa, zomwe zimakhudza momwe timayendetsera wathu kukonda miyoyo:
1. Pezani mapiri okhala ndi ma amphetamine, omwe amatulutsa dopamine yambiri muubongo wake, ndipo iye sungagwirizane. Gawo laubongo wake lomwe limamulimbikitsa kuti agwirizane limayenda pa "gotta get" neurotransmitter, dopamine. Koma, modabwitsa, zopitilira muyeso dopamine imayambanso kuyambitsa ma dopamine receptors omwe amachititsa kuti azimva kukhumudwa komwe kumamupangitsa kuti asakonde akazi "ena". Atakhumudwa kwambiri sagwirizana nawo aliyense akazi, ngakhale kuti mwina amakondabe zogonana chifukwa cha pulogalamu yake yoyamwitsa "yamba". Kutenga uthenga? Kuwonongeka kwa madera oyang'anira mphoto kungasokoneze chikondi.
2. Chotsatira, perekani amphetamines ku ma voles onse ogonana komanso ogonana. Ma Prairie (kuphatikiza-awiri) ma voles adzagwiritsa ntchito zambiri. Mwachidule, mphotho yomweyi yoyenda muubongo wawo yomwe imawapangitsa kufuna kugwa mutu imawasiya makamaka osatetezeka ku chizolowezi choledzera. Mosiyana ndi izi, makoswe ambiri samakonda mowa. Ayenera kupangidwa mwapadera kuti agwiritse ntchito. Koma ma prairie voles ndi anthu azimwa, kuwonetsa kuti kufanana komwe kumachitika pakulandila mphotho kumapangitsa mphekesera yolimba. M'malo mwake, asayansi atero tsopano akugwiritsa ntchito mapira a prairie kuti apange mankhwala opangira ma ARV kuti athetse uchidakwa ndi kuledzera pozindikira kuti ali ofanana ndi anthu.
3. Tsopano, perekani amphetamines kuma voles awiri omwe amakhala ogwirizana ndi omwe sanakwatiranepo. Omangikawo osapeza ma amphetamines osangalatsa, koma omwe alibe anzawo amagwiritsa ntchito mankhwalawa mwachidwi. Kulimbitsa mwamphamvu "kulanda" mawonekedwe aubongo omwe adasintha kuti akalimbikitse kulumikizana. Mfundo yofunika: Mankhwala osokoneza bongo amatha kubera njira yolumikizirana, ndikulembetsa ngati choloweza m'malo mwa chikondi.
Zimakhala ngati mphotho yoyenda ndi awiri amakhala ndi “kabowo” kofuulira kuti kadzazidwe ndi ma bond awiri (ngakhale sangamangidwe). Pakakhala kuti palibe wokwatirana naye, awiriwo amayang'ana pozungulira kuti apeze kena kake china kudzaza "dzenje" limenelo. Zachidziwikire, anthufe nthawi zambiri timayesa kudzaza dzenje ndi abwenzi ambiri, zolaula, zolaula, mankhwala osokoneza bongo, mowa, kudzipereka kwa mphunzitsi kapena wochita zinazake, kapena zilizonse — zonse zomwe zimapereka, kapena kulonjeza, kukhutitsidwa ndi mitsempha .
Mfundo yofunika ndi yakuti ubongo umene umapangitsa kuti mgwirizano ukhale wolimba kwambiri, osati woganiza bwino. Zimayambitsa khalidwe malinga ndi dopamine yotulutsidwa. Kuwonjezereka kwakukulu, makamaka mtengo timazindikira mu ntchito inayake. Kodi zingatheke bwanji kuti chinthu chomwe chimasangalatsa kuyembekezera koteroko chikhale chisankho cholakwika? Monga momwe katswiri wa chikhalidwe cha anthu Helen Fisher ananenera, "Chikondi sichimangotanthauza; ndimayendedwe. ”
Pa kusintha kwachisangalalo, kukondweretsedwa kumeneku komwe kumayendetsedwa ndi dopamine kumakhala bwino. Panalibe asayansi oyipa pafupi ndi kuyeretsa amphetamine. Ma voles sanayenera kulimbana ndi dopamine yodzikongoletsera yomwe idasokoneza makina awo osasunthika. Okwatirana omwe angawatembenukire (adakula dopamine). Iwo adakondana kwambiri; okwatirana ngati amisala; kenako adakhazikika kuti alere ana pamodzi.
Zindikirani: Kugwirizana kwa awiriwa si makhalidwe abwino; ndi njira yothandizira, ndipo amachokera ku ubongo wosadziwika. Chitsanzo chachisindikizo chimasonyeza kuti kugwirizana si chikhalidwe cha chikhalidwe. Ambiri amamanga akuwoneka kuti asintha njirayi yothandizira kuti ana awo azikhala bwino ndi osowa awiri. Mwachitsanzo, anthu amatenga nthawi yaitali kuti akhwime, choncho makolo omwe amakhala pachibwenzi amatha kukwatirana nafe ndi inshuwalansi yabwino.
Kulumikizana ndi awiriwa kumapindulitsa kwambiri
Nchiyani chomwe chimasunga mgwirizano? Osagonana mwachangu (ngakhale kuti poyambilira imatha kuthandizira awiriawiri chifukwa ubongo umadzipangira wokha kuti uzikumbukira "chofunikira" chotere). Malinga ndi wasayansi David Barash, “anthu amene amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha” sikuti kawirikawiri anthu amachita zogonana kapena kuchita khama kwambiri. Kuyanjana kwakukulu pakati pa okwatirana kumatenga nthawi yopumula pamodzi, kudzikongoletsana, komanso "kuthawirana". Izi zati, nthawi zonse khalidwe la flirty ndi kugwirana ndithudi zingakhale makhalidwe abwino.
Mfundo yakuti ogwirizanitsa awiri amakhalabe ogwirizana popanda zida zowononga nthawi zonse zogonana zimasonyeza kuti mgwirizanowo ndi wogwirizana palokha nthawi zambiri amapindulitsa. Mfundo yoti a Mr. ndi Akazi a Vole amatulutsa mphuno zawo ku amphetamine imatsimikizira kukhutira kwawo. Kukhazikika pakona la khola lawo kumamveka bwino kuposa kukwera. Ubongo wamagulu awiriwa umakonzedwa kuti uzisangalala ndi mgwirizano pazokha - pokhapokha china chitasokoneza. Chibwenzi chimadzaza "dzenje" laling'ono, ndipo okwatirana ambiri amapititsa miyoyo yawo muukwati wokhala ndi banja limodzi.
Izi zati, ngati mwayi wokonda kubadwa wagogoda pakhomo, onse amuna ndi akazi omwe amakhala m'mapiri amadziwika kuti ndiwopenga - kenako amathamangitsa wakubayo. Kupatula apo, chisinthiko sichimatero ngati kugonana kwapadera kwambiri. Amalekerera molimbika mwa mitundu yochepa chabe.
Cholinga chake ndi chakuti majini athu ogwirizanitsa awiriwa adapanga mphoto zathu kuti tipindule kwambiri ndi zolumikizira zosamvetseka. Kusamalira tinthu tating'onoting'ono ta majini athu awiriawiri, kwinaku tikusakanikirana ndi mitundu ina yamtunduwu kumbali, kumapereka zabwino zonse mwapadziko lonse lapansi… malinga ndi chibadwa chathu.
Pomwepo ndichifukwa chiyani timagwirizanitsa ma bonders? Chifukwa dopamine amauluka pakati pa makutu athu. Nyengo. Kupanda kutero, sitingatero. Kuyesa kuyesa ndi kowopsa chifukwa ma bonders awiri mwabwinobwino amakhala oteteza anzawo, ndipo amalanga osakhulupirika. Ndalama zomwe mzanu aliyense wadzipereka zimawoneka kuti zimadalira poganiza kuti zonse zomwe zikuchitika zithandizira ana omwe alowa nawo. "Chitani zambiri."
Omwe akugwirizanitsa awiriwa, ndiye, tenga mfuti chifukwa chomwecho Hugh Grant ndi Elizabeth Hurley aliyense anachita. Mavuto ndi zowonjezereka amachulukitsa dopamine, kuti mwayiwo uwoneke kukhala wofunikira zowonjezera zomwe zingatheke-pakali pano. Makhalidwe abwino amalepheretsa anthu kuchita zinthu, koma chilakolako chofuna kubodza chimachokera ku dopamine. Chilendo chimagwira ntchito monga aphrodisiac chifukwa cha zofanana zomwezo.
Kodi anthu angaphunzire chiyani kuchokera ku makina ogwirizanitsa awiri?
1. Mgwirizano wapawiri ungakhale magwero a chisangalalo champhamvu. Kafukufuku wochulukirapo wokhudza anthu (ndi nyama zina) amatsimikizira kuti kukondana komanso kukondana, mgwirizano wodalirika umachepetsa kupsinjika, kumachepetsa kukhumudwa, kuchira mwachangu, ndikuthandizira kupewa.
2. Mitundu yolumikiza awiri-awiri imadalira kwambiri kukondana, kuchita zinthu mosakondana, kugwiranagwirana komanso kukhudzidwa mwachikondi kuti akhalebe olumikizana pambuyo povutikira koyamba. Osati zachilendo.
3. Zokakamiza kwambiri (monga zachilendo) zitha kubera makina osakhazikika omwe mabungwe athu amakhala. Tikalekanitsidwa ndi dopamine yowonjezerapo ya zinthu zomwe zingachitike, mankhwala osangalatsa, zokumana ndi cam-2-cam ndi zina zotero, zitha kupangitsa kuti mgwirizano wathu woyamba usakhale wowoneka bwino.
4. Okwatirana opempha kuchitapo kanthu mwachibadwa amakonda kubera dopamine, monga Tiger Woods adatulukira. Koma chitani chomwecho pafupifupi "Okwatirana" akudandaula kuti awone chidwi. Ichi ndichifukwa chake kuthekera kokulirapo kwapaintaneti lero kungathe kutipanga musamalumikize zomangira zathu ziwiri. (Zolaula zogonana zingathe khalani ndi zotsatira zofanana, kumene.)
Kumbukirani kuti gawo loyambirira la ubongo limayesa mwayi wa kugonana osati pa lingaliro kapena phindu lenileni, koma kokha pa kuchuluka kwa dopamine kumasulidwa panthawiyi.
Samalani zachilendo-monga-aphrodisiac
Zonsezi zikutanthauza kuti upangiri wazakugonana masiku ano sugwira bwino ntchito kwa okonda omwe akufuna kukhalabe awiriwiri. Zakhazikitsidwa pa njira ya dopamine-cranking "novelty-as-aphrodisiac": kuyesa chidole chatsopano chogonana, kuwonera zolaula, kusinthana ndi zibwenzi, kuchita zongopeka kinky, kuchita zachiwerewere kapena zowawa, ndi zina zotero. Chachilendo ndi mantha zimadzutsa. Komabe zachilendo-as-aphrodisiac zili ndi zovuta zina.
Choyamba, mukangoyesapo kena kake, siyatsopano ayi. Kuti musangalale nazo chimodzimodzi mtsogolomo, mungafunikire kuyambiranso kukondoweza. Ndiye kuti, zachilendo-as-aphrodisiac sizokhazikika. Mutagunda ubongo wanu ndi dopamine yochulukirapo yopangidwa ndi zosankha zowonekera, mumatani?
Chachiwiri, kukakamiza kwambiri kungathe dzanzi la chisangalalo chaubongo. Choncho, mmalo momangokhalira kukhala okhutira kapena okhudzidwa kwambiri, okonda akhoza kukhala osakhutira kwambiri kusiyana ndi kale pakati pa zovuta, zomwe zimapangidwira mwatsatanetsatane. Mpaka mutabweretsanso ubongo wanu chidziwitso chachibadwa, mungayang'anenso ngakhale wina ndi mnzake.
Malangizo: Ngati mukufuna kuti muteteze mgwirizano wanu monga gwero lakhutira, choyamba phunzirani kuchokera kumapiri a prairi: Chitani zomwe mungathe kuti mupewe kupambanitsa komwe kumasokoneza kugwirizana. Malangizowo angakhale ovuta lero chifukwa kuyesa okwatirana akufala kwambiri kuposa momwe analili ndi ubongo wathu. (Mwana wa sukulu ya sekondale akuwona zotentha zambiri mu holo pakati pa makalasi omwe makolo ake adawaona m'moyo wawo wonse, osatchulapo zotentha.)
Chachiwiri, mbuye ndikugwiritseni ntchito zida zothandizira pa mitundu ina yokhala ndi mitundu ikuluikuluyi imadalira. Zikuwoneka kuti ife anthu tinkadziwiranso ntchito:
Anthu amenewo ndi odala omwe amasangalala ndi chisangalalo cha chikondi
Kusangalala kukumbatirana kwa matupi a Aphrodite
Monga ngalawa ikuyenda mosavuta panyanja yamtendere,
Kupewa zovuta zomwe zimapangitsa manyazi.
Kwa kugonana, ngati khungu la akalulu, lingadetsedwe ndi mbola,
Ndipo Eros ali ndi mivi iwiri pa chingwe chake. . . .
Kungoyamba kumene kwa oyambirira kumabweretsa chisangalalo chonse,
Koma mabala achiwiri amafa, ndipo amabweretsa kukhumudwa.
-Euripides (ca 480-406 BCE), Iphegenia ku Aulis
Ndemanga pawuni ina
Ndisanapeze zolaula pa intaneti ndimafuna kugona ndi akazi osiyanasiyana. Osati za 'notches one the belt' zopanda pake zomwe ife amuna timatsutsidwa koma chifukwa cha zosiyanasiyana. Amayi aliwonse ali ndi mawonekedwe apadera, mawonekedwe apadera a thupi, ndipo amangosiyana ndi kale. Ndipo chinthucho chimakhala patatha nthawi zingapo ndikukondana ndikungofuna wina wosiyana. Osati kuti mayiyu sanali wodabwitsabe koma ndimangodabwa kuti winayo anali wotani.
Ndipo chodabwitsa chili mu maubale anga chikondi changa chenicheni ndi chisamaliro cha mayiyo zidakula pakapita nthawi. Ndimawachitira zinthu zambiri ndikuwakonda kwambiri ndikuwonjezera zina. Ndimatha kutenga chipolopolo. Koma sindinkafuna kwenikweni kugonana ndi iwo.
Panali m'modzi kapena awiri omwe amasunga chidwi changa koma zinali chifukwa chakuti ndimawawona akuthamanga kwa miyezi ingapo panthawi kenako amakhala kutali kwakanthawi. Ndipo iwo atachoka adadzutsa chilakolakocho.
Sindinganene zomwe zimakhudza zolaula zili pa amuna onse. Koma ndikunena kuti zandichititsa kuti ndisamayanjane. Ndili ndi abwenzi angapo omwe ndimakonda kucheza nawo ndi kugwirizana, koma ponena za kugonana kumakhala kosavuta kuti ndilowe mu DVD, kukweza malo kapena kuthamanga ndikuwakumbukira okondedwa anga komanso maliseche.
Ndipo kuti ndinapeza zolaula panthawi ya chilala chogonana. Akazi okondedwa ambiri koma palibe amayi omwe akufuna kukhala wokondedwa wanga. Chilala chinapitirira kwa zaka. Kotero ine ndinangosankha kuti ndikhale wokondwa ndi abwenzi ndikupeza chisangalalo changa chokondweretsa.
Sindimayang'ana ngakhale katchulidwe tsiku ndi tsiku. Koma kwa ola limodzi kapena choncho Lachisanu ndi Loweruka usiku uliwonse pamene sindiyenera kugwira ntchito tsiku lotsatira, ndimatenga nthawi yanga ndikubweretsa malo ndikulola anthu awiri apite. Ndizosavuta kwambiri njira imeneyo.
Chochititsa chidwi, polemba chidutswa ichi, a phunziro linatuluka zomwe zinawonetsa amuna omwe anali ndi zibwenzi ang'onoang'ono omwe anali osangalala ndi ubale wawo. Kodi mtengo wazinthu zathu zonse zowonjezereka, zakuyanjana ndi chiyanjano ndi chikondi kumakhudza mtsogolo mmoyo? Mwanjira ina iliyonse, m'nkhaniyi akhoza kufotokoza chifukwa chake anataya chidwi, kupatula ndi anzake omwe amakhala kutali.
Zofufuza za kugonana pakati pa kugonana ndi mankhwala mu ubongo
Phunziro la 2015: "Zinthu zogwiritsa ntchito kugonana kwa pa Intaneti ndi mavuto pakupanga ubale wapamtima pakati pa abambo ndi abambo pa Intaneti" - Zithunzi zolaula komanso zolaula pa intaneti zimaneneratu zovuta pamaubwenzi, makamaka mwa amuna.
phunziro 2016: Mapiri a Prairie amasonyeza anthu ngati chitonthozo [koma ndege zosagwirizanitsa sizigwirizana]
Papepala la 2016: Kukonda Kwambiri, Kukondedwa, Kukondana Kwambiri: Kulimbitsa Thupi? Momwe Minda Yomwe Imafotokozera Chikondi ndi Kugonjetsedwa Kwazomwe Zimatha Kudziwitsa Ena Olembawo akusonyeza njira zogwiritsira ntchito maulendowa kuti athe kuchiza.
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