Lero ndi chaka ndendende kuyambira pomwe ndidazindikira kuti zolaula zikusintha kwambiri moyo wanga. M'chaka chatha chothana ndi vuto lokonda zolaula, kumwa mowa mwauchidakwa komanso chizolowezi cha chikumbumtima ndidaphunzira zambiri zokhudzana ndi momwe izi zimathandizira. Munkhaniyi ndiyankhula kwambiri zokhudzana ndi zolaula komanso zotsatira zake pa bambo. Iyi ikhala nkhani imodzi yayitali, koma Ikufotokoza zonse zomwe muyenera kudziwa zolaula.
Popeza mukuwerenga izi ndikuganiza kuti mukudziwa zolaula zomwe zimayambitsa matenda osokoneza bongo, kutaya msanga komanso kukonda kugonana chifukwa izi ndi zotsatira zitatu zoyipa za zolaula, koma pali zambiri zosalunjika, kapena ndinganene kuti zolaula zomwe zachitika munthu. Zotsatira zachiwirizi ndi - kukhumudwa, nkhawa, ziphuphu, kusowa kolimbikitsira komanso kuwongolera koyipa.
Zotsatira zachiwiri zomwe ndatchulazi ndizovuta kwambiri, chifukwa pali anthu ambiri omwe amati alibe zizindikirozi, komano pali anthu omwe alumbirira kuti kuchotsedwa kwa zolaula m'moyo wawo izi zidangotayika .
Choyamba, ngati mumakonda zolaula zomwe muyenera kukhala, muyenera kudziwa momwe zovuta zilili.
Mwachitsanzo, ndinali wosuta kwambiri nikotini ndipo ndinali chidakwa ndipo ndinkatha kusiya zizolowezizi pafupifupi miyezi itatu, ndipo tsopano ndatsuka pafupifupi miyezi iwiri - koma zolaula, ngakhale ndikudziwa mavuto zikundipangitsa, sindingathe kukwaniritsa masiku opitilira 25 opanda zolaula.
Sindikutanthauza kuti ndikufooketseni, koma muyenera kusiya malingaliro "awa adzakhala osavuta".
Njira yothetsera zolaula sizomwe zimakhala zovuta, padzakhala zovuta zambiri, mphindi imodzi yomwe mukumva ngati simufunikiranso zolaula, ndipo patatha mphindi khumi ndi zisanu mumamwa mowa kwambiri. Kuzolowera, chinthu chokha chomwe chingachiritse kusuta kwathu ndikusintha kwa moyo wathu, kufunitsitsa kwathu komanso nthawi.
Tsopano, lolani kuti muchepetse zilembo!
Kusokonekera kwa Erectile ndichinthu china, ngati si onse omwe ali ndi vuto losuta, koma zikuwoneka kuti ndi chimodzi mwazizindikiro zomwe zimatha koyamba. Anthu ambiri amafotokoza kuti akumenya "flatline" (kusowa kwa chilakolako chogonana ndi zovuta) zomwe zimatha milungu ingapo, koma sindinafikeko, ndimakhala ndi vuto la erectile, koma masiku 10 opanda zolaula amandigwirira ntchito.
Pali mafotokozedwe amomwe ED zimachitikira komanso bwanji koma sindilemba za izi chifukwa izi zikhala zazitali kwambiri ngakhale popanda izo, chifukwa chake ndingogunda - ubongo wanu umasokonezeka ndi atsikana amoyo weniweni (eya, ubongo osati mbolo, chifukwa zosintha zimachokera muubongo), bwanji ubongo wanu ungapangitse mtsikana weniweni wowoneka bwino yemwe muyenera kumugwirira ntchito ngati agwiritsa ntchito mtsikana aliyense amene akufuna kuchita chilichonse chomwe akufuna kudina pang'ono?
Komabe, tonse ndife osiyana, sindingakuuzeni kuti zitenga nthawi yayitali bwanji kuti mubwezeretse zovuta zanu, koma siyani zolaula ndipo muzibweza posachedwa.
Zosintha pakufuna kugonana, ndani, ichi chinali chizindikiro chovuta kwambiri kwa ine. Ndidakhala ndi HOCD yayikulu (Matenda okakamiza amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, MUSAMAYIPATSE ngati mukuganiza kuti mukudwala, ndikhulupirireni). Ndilankhula za mbiri yanga ya OCD kupitilira nkhaniyi, popeza tsopano tikambirana zachiwerewere.
Kotero, poyamba mutayamba ndi zolaula za vanila, ndiye munasunthira kuzinthu zina zofewa monga masitonkeni, mtundu wina wa tsitsi, mtundu, kenako ndikupita ku zolaula zakugonana pakamwa, kapena kugonana amuna okhaokha, kuposa momwe mumafunira kuposa pamenepo, kusuntha mpaka ukapolo, zigawenga, kunyoza, chiwerewere, koma chiwonongeko, ngakhale izi sizinali zokwanira kuti muchepetse chizolowezi chanu kotero kuti mumatha kuwonera zinthu zomwe simunaganize kuti zingakusangalatseni, monga zolaula, zolaula, zolaula zanyama… Anthu ena pamapeto pake amakopeka ndi zolaula za amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, ndidamva ngakhale nthawi zina anthu atayamba zolaula.
"Ukayamba sitima yapamadzi, sungadziwe komwe zingakupititse."
Sindikudziwa kuti mudapitilira pati, koma nditha kuwerengera kuti machitidwe amtunduwu amamveka bwino kwa inu, sichoncho?
Musalole kuti zikusokonezeni kuti zolaula sizinthu koma zimayambitsa chizolowezi ngati china chilichonse. Zizolowezi zolaula ndizolowera monga china chilichonse; Zimayambitsidwa ndi mankhwala omwe ubongo wanu umatulutsa mukamasewera maliseche. Monga momwe zimakhalira ndi mowa kapena mankhwala ena aliwonse, mufunika muyeso wamphamvu komanso wamphamvu kuti muthamangire momwe mumamvera nthawi yoyamba yomwe mumamwa.
Chifukwa chake, popeza mumafunikira mulingo wamphamvu, simukhala maola awiri m'malo mwa ola limodzi tsiku lililonse kuwonera zolaula zomwe mumawona mpaka nthawi imeneyo chifukwa zimakhala zotopetsa, kuwonera zochulukirapo kumangokunyansani kwambiri. M'malo mwake mupita kumalo ena, zolaula, zosangalatsa kwambiri.
Khalidwe lamtunduwu ndi chizindikiro cha chizolowezi cha zolaula ndipo chimatchedwa kukwera.
Machiritso? Ikani zolaula!
Ndinali wokonda zolaula zolaula, ndikamakhala masiku a 20 + popanda zolaula ndimawoneka kuti sindimawakonda ndikuyamba kukopeka ndi zinthu zambiri za vanila, koma ndikangobwerera ku zolaula, zimangobwerera ngati sizinachoke. .
Kukhumudwa ndi nkhawa. Ma bastard awiriwa amalimbikitsidwa ndi chizolowezi choonera zolaula, ndipo izi zimapangitsa kuti azisokoneza bongo. Gulu lotani, eh? Komabe, ndimavutika kwambiri chifukwa cha zinthu ziwiri izi, koma ndikakhala masiku ochepa osawonetsa zolaula izi zimachepera ndi 80%. Sichosokoneza placebo, ndikhulupirireni.
Chifukwa chake, ndinalonjeza kuti ndidzalankhula za mbiri yanga ya OCD koyambirira m'lemba ili, tikupita
Kwa zaka zambiri ndakhala ndikuvutika ndi OCD, ndipo ndinali ndi pafupifupi mtundu uliwonse wa vutoli, ubale OCD, thanzi OCD, nthano za OCD, koma palibe zomwe zakhala zoyipa kwambiri monga kugonana OCD (HOCD). Tsopano, ndikudziwa kuti izi zimayambitsidwa ndi zolaula chifukwa kuyambira pomwe ndidasiya zolaula ndimangopeza ma spikes ochepa OCD. Koma musapusitsike, sizophweka. Mlandu woyipa kwambiri wa OCD womwe ndidakhalapo nawo (HOCD) udachitika chifukwa chosiya zolaula, ndipo zidatenga miyezi itatu pomwe moyo wanga udali gehena, ndimaganiziranso zodzipha kangapo.
HOCD nthawi zambiri imakhala mwa anthu omwe adachita zolaula zomwe sizikugwirizana ndi zomwe amakonda, monga ine. Ndi njira yokhayokha yomwe imakakamiza munthu kuti azilingalira mobwerezabwereza zokhudzana ndi kugonana kwawo, zimayambitsa nkhawa zosaneneka, ngati simudavutikepo nazo palibe njira yomwe mungamvetse izi.
Ngati mukuvutika ndi HOCD, sindiyesa kukutsimikizirani kuti simuli ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, chifukwa ndikudziwa kuti miyezi ingapo mmbuyomu pomwe ndimavutika nawo ngakhale Mulungu yemwe adatsika kuchokera kumwamba nandiuza kuti Ndine wowongoka komabe sizingaletse malingaliro anga osaganizira kwambiri. Malangizo anga ndi - kupeza chithandizo cha akatswiri, ASAP! Za ine, sizinayime mpaka nditafika pa alprazolam. Wina akafunsa kuti zolaula zatuluka bwanji, auzeni kuti mukudziwa mnyamata yemwe amamwa mankhwala kuti athe.
Tiyeni tipewe kukhumudwa, kwa ine silinali vuto lalikulu, ndimakhala wokhumudwa ndikangokhalira kudya zolaula ndipo zimatha masiku ochepa ndikupita ndekha. Koma kwa anthu omwe ali kale ndi vutoli akhoza kukhala ovuta kwambiri. Chifukwa chake ngati mumadzifunsa ngati kuledzera kumakupangitsani kuti muledzeretse - zimatero.
Kupanda kuthekera. Zoonadi zimayambitsidwa ndi zolaula. Sindingathe kufotokoza izi osalankhula za dopamine. Ndikupangira kuti mugoogle pang'ono za dopamine kuti mumvetsetse momwe zimayambira.
Kuwona zolaula, monga zosokoneza zilizonse zimayendetsedwa ndi dopamine, neurotransmitter yomwe imayang'anira dongosolo lathu la mphotho. Mukamachita ntchito zosokoneza thupi lathu limatulutsa dopamine, yomwe imakulitsa squopini yayikulu, yomwe imakulanso chisangalalo. Ndi nthawi, ubongo wathu umayamba kulolerana kuti dopamine kenako kulowerera kukhale gawo lakukula lomwe ndidatchulapo kale.
Chifukwa chake, popeza mudayamba kulolera dopamine ndipo chinthu chokha chomwe chingakupangitseni kuti muthane ndi vuto lanu, kodi mudzalimbikitsidwa kuchita zinthu zina zofunika m'moyo wanu zomwe zimakubweretserani chisangalalo chambiri poyerekeza ndi zolaula, yankho sichoncho.
Nkhani yabwino ndiyakuti kulekerera kwa dopamine kumazimiririka ngati muleka kusiya kusuta, ndipo chifukwa chomwe chimalimbikitsira kuti muchite zinthu zina zomwe sizili zokhudzana ndi kukopeka mudzabweranso.
Zikodzo - Apanso, maliseche-ziphuphu ndizomwe zimachitika payekha, ngati simukuvutika ndi ziphuphu mutha kudumpha gawoli, ngati mukudwala ziphuphu ndikupemphani kuti muwerenge izi chifukwa ndikudziwa momwe ziphuphu zimakhalira komanso zina mwa izi zinthu zinandithandiza kwambiri.
Sindinadziwe ngati maliseche adayambitsa ziphuphu choncho, tsiku lina nditabwereranso ndidaganiza zosiya kumwa zolaula kuti ndipeze yankho la funso ili. Ndinayamba kumwa mowa mosiyana ndi ena onse m'zaka zapitazi - zotsatira zake zinali zoyipa!
Kuphulika kwakukulu paliponse pa nsagwada ndi kumbuyo, sindinaphulike motere kwazaka. Zinangochitika mwangozi? Sindikuganiza choncho, ndidatsimikiza kuti panthawiyi ndikuchotsa zina zonse zomwe zingayambitse ziphuphu. Chifukwa chake, chifukwa china ndiyenera kusiya kuseweretsa maliseche.
Ngati muli ndi vuto la ziphuphu, ili ndiye mndandanda wazinthu zomwe zimandipangitsa ziphuphu, mwina titha kukhala ndi chinthu chofanana -
mkaka, shuga, mowa, fodya, maliseche, nkhawa, kukhumudwa, kusowa tulo, kuvala chikwama cham'mbuyo, osasintha zovala mutatulutsa thukuta, inde ndi mndandanda wautali, khungu langa mwachidziwikire limadana ndi ine.
Ichi chinali chidziwitso choyambira pazinthu zomwe mungapirire nazo ngati muli mu bwato lomwelo monga momwe ndidaliri chaka chatha.
Ndinakuwuzani kale kuti ngati mungaganize zopewa zolaula, ukhala msewu wopanda phokoso womwe mukupita pansi, koma ndikhulupirireni kuti ndikwabwino.
Muyenera kudziwa zomwe zasintha m'moyo wanga chaka chatha.
Modzipereka, chilichonse - dziko ndi losiyana kwambiri kuyambira pomwe ndidasiya mowa ndi chikonga ndikuyamba kuchita zinthu zopindulitsa. Zachisoni, sindinganene kuti ndinasiya zolaula, koma nthawi zonse ndinachepetsa zolaula zomwe ndimaziwona ngati 90%. Kuchuluka kwa zolaula zomwe ndidaziwona chaka chino mwina ndikofanana ndi zolaula zomwe ndimayang'ana mwezi umodzi zaka ziwiri zapitazo.
Ngakhale kuti sindinathe kuzikwanitsa, ndili wokondwa kuti ndinakwanitsa kupita patsogolo kwambiri, ndipo ndikuyembekezera tsiku lomwe ndidzanena kuti ndamasulidwa.
Tikukhulupirira kuti nkhaniyi idagwiritsidwa ntchito, ndikuti tonse tidzachiritsidwa tsiku lina.
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