Pepani chilankhulo changa, koma zoyipa zopatulika! Sindinkaganiza kuti ndibwera pano, ndipo ndili ndi ngongole zambiri ku NoFap (Kupepesa koyambirira kwa khoma lalikulu la zolembedwa).
Pakhala patadutsa kanthawi kuchokera pamene ndinayendera subreddit iyi, kapena reddit yonse, pazifukwa izi, koma ndimaganiza kuti ndidzadutsa kuti ndidzacheze ndikugawana nanu nkhani yanga yonse, komanso upangiri wina, ndipo mwachiyembekezo zolinga zina.
Ndikadapanda kuti zangochitika kuti mupeze zolemba za NoFap pa Facebook, sindikudziwa komwe ndikadakhala pano. Ndikamaganizira za izi, mwina ndikadakhala ndi chizolowezi chowonongera moyo komanso chidaliro choyipa chomwe munthu angafunse. Komabe, pa Novembala 31 ya 2013, ndidapezeka kuti ndidawona uthengawo, ndipo udandigwira. Ndinayang'anamo, ndikuyamba kuwerenga nkhanizi, ndipo nthawi yomweyo ndinazindikira zomwe ndiyenera kuchita kuti ndisinthe moyo wanga.
Sabata yoyamba sinali kanthu. Ndinalimbikitsidwa ndi kuyendetsa komanso kudalirika komwe ndidapeza kuchokera pamtunduwu, komanso kufunikira kwanga kuti ndikhale ndi moyo wabwino, ndidatha kuchotsa zikwatu zanga zonse ndikuyamba ulendo womwe ungasinthe moyo wanga. Chisangalalo chenicheni cha chisangalalo chotsukidwa kwa sabata loyamba, ndipo kale, ndinali ndisanamvepo chodabwitsa m'moyo wanga. Anthu ambiri mu pulogalamuyi amvetsetsa momwe izi zimamvekera, ndipo ambiri a inu mudzamvanso momwe ndidamvera pambuyo pake.
Posakhalitsa, zinthu zinayamba kuvuta. Ubongo wanga unali wofunitsitsa kuganiza zogonana ndikuyang'ana akazi ngati zinthu zosavuta zomwe zimandisangalatsa. Ndinayesedwa kuti ndiyang'ane zithunzi zolaula nthawi zonse, ndipo nthawi zambiri ndinkangodzipereka, ndikumadzichitira manyazi chifukwa chongoganizira zokhazokha pazolowera. Thupi langa silinadziwe chochita ndi testosterone yonse yomangidwa, monga nthawi yoyamba mibadwo, ndinapitilira sabata yopanda. Njira yanga yothanirana ndi nkhawa inali itatayidwa, kuzizira, chifukwa ndimadziwa kuti ndiyo njira yokhayo yothetsera mavutowa. Chifukwa cha zonsezi, kukhumudwa kwanga kudatsika nthawi zonse, zomwe zidangokulirakulira chifukwa cha zomwe zimachitika kunyumba. Ndinayamba kukhala wokwiya, ndikulalatira ena, zomwe zimangondipangitsa kuti ndizimva kuwawa, popeza ndimamva kuti ndikukoka aliyense kuti apite naye.
Ngakhale zinali zovuta bwanji, nthawi zonse ndimatha kukhala wolimba, ndipo ndimadziwa kuti ndili ndi gulu lachikondi lotere. Kwa anthu onse odabwitsa omwe adayankha pazolemba zanga ndikuyamikira kupambana kwanga, komanso upangiri munthawi zovuta zanga, ndikukuthokozani. Dera lino, kuphatikiza ndi moyo watsopano, wathanzi komanso nyimbo zomwe ndimatha kumvana nazo, mwazinthu zina, zidandikoka munthawi yamavutoyi, ndikuthandizira kupanga munthu yemwe ndili lero. Sindinangokhala ndi anzanga komanso abale m'moyo weniweni, ambiri mwa iwo omwe adandithandizira m'mbali imeneyi ya moyo, komanso banja ili; gulu ili la anthu omwe amvetsetsa ndendende zomwe ndimakumana nazo, ndipo samatsutsa konse za izi. Sindingathe kupsinjika mokwanira momwe dera lino linali lofunika kwa ine m'masiku oyambilira ndikachira.
Kumbuyo pa mutu wa nyimbo, ndikuganiza kuti ichi ndichinthu chomwe chimayang'aniridwa nthawi zambiri ndi gulu lino; mphamvu yochiritsa yoona ya nyimbo. Kwa ine, nyimbo iyi inali ya Bisani. China chake chokhudza kukongola kwa kusungunuka, komanso kuyipa kwaumunthu kuphatikiza zamagetsi zomwe ndimakonda kale zidandisangalatsa nthawi zovutazo; ndipo inali nyimbo iyi yomwe ndimatha kumamatira nthawi iliyonse kuti ndipange bwino. Anali malo otetezeka, ndipo ndimamva ngati sindinali ndekha pankhondoyi ndikamamvera. Aliyense atha kukhala ndi nyimbo zosiyana zomwe zitha kuwakoka munthawi yovuta, koma ziribe kanthu kuti ndi zotani, NDIMAYAMIKIRA kwa aliyense. Kungotseka dziko lapansi ndikukutayika mu nyimbo kumatha kugwira ntchito zodabwitsa pakukhazikitsanso kwamaganizidwe, komanso kupumula kwa thupi.
Chifukwa cha zonsezi, ndasintha kwambiri moyo wanga. Zachidziwikire, ndimakhalabe ndi zotsika. Inde, mahomoni anga amasintha nthawi ndi nthawi, ndipo nthawi zina ndimaganizirabe zogonana zomwe ine, ndimachita manyazi nazo, koma ndasintha kwambiri, ndipo sindidzabwereranso.
Ndine munthu wathanzi kwambiri; mwakuthupi, m'maganizo, komanso mwauzimu. Ndili ndi moyo wabwino kwambiri, ndipo ndasiya chakudya chopatsa thanzi kuchokera pazakudya zanga. Kupyolera mu izi, ndapezanso mphamvu zambiri, ndipo pophatikiza ndi nthawi yomwe ndapulumutsidwa osayang'ananso pa intaneti zolaula, ndakhala wopindulitsa kwambiri. Ndili ndi malingaliro abwino pazinthu zambiri, ndipo ndapeza njira zokhalira ndi thanzi labwino. Ndine wolimba mtima kwambiri, koma sindinalole kuti ndikhale tambala, ndipo ndauzidwa ndi ambiri kuti ndakhala munthu wabwino kwambiri. Ndinadabwa kuti ndakhala womasuka kwambiri ndi zogonana. Isanafike NoFap, ndikadadziona ndekha molunjika, osanenapo zonyansa zogonana (ngakhale sindikanavomereza). Komabe, zikuwoneka kuti kudzera "pakudzuka" kwanga, titero kunena kwake, sindikumvanso choletsedwa ndi zomwe zikuyembekezeka kuti ndichite kudzera pagulu lachiwerewereli, ndipo m'malo mwake ndimakhala womasuka kwambiri kukhala ndiubwenzi wamitundu yonse. Tsopano ndikutha kuzindikira kukongola m'thupi la munthu, komanso kwa anthu onse, m'malo mongoyang'ana anthu ena ngati zinthu zogonana.
Chifukwa chake kwa onse omwe mukukumana ndi nthawi yovuta, khalani okonzeka! Mutha kupyola mu izi, ndikukhala munthu wabwino chifukwa cha izi; Ndikukutsimikizirani za izi. Chinsinsi chake ndi kupeza njira zothetsera mavuto obwera chifukwa chosiya kusuta. Nditha kupangira zolimbitsa thupi, nyimbo, komanso kuthera nthawi yochepera pa intaneti, koma pali njira zingapo zothanirana ndi izi, ndikungofunika kupeza zomwe zili zoyenera kwa inu. Nthawi zina zimakhala zophweka ngati kuyika kompyuta yanu kwakanthawi, ndikupeza zosangalatsa zina, nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta. Mumadzidziwa nokha kuposa wina aliyense, komabe, ndipo mudzadziwa zomwe zingakupindulitseni, osanenapo kuti mudzadzidziwa bwino kwambiri panjira.
Mwachidule, kusiya zachiwerewere chinali chimodzi mwazisankho zabwino kwambiri zomwe ndidapanga m'moyo wanga wawufupi pano. Ndikulangiza izi kwa aliyense ndi aliyense amene akufuna kuwongolera moyo wawo; osati zogonana zokha, koma m'mbali zonse. Pali anthu ambiri omwe ndikufuna ndikuthokozeni chifukwa cha momwe ndafikira, koma mwa anthu onse, ndiophunzira, mdera lino, omwe adayambitsa zonsezi. Zikomo. Ndipo chifukwa cha aliyense amene wavutikapo kuwerenga izi. Ndakhala nthawi yayitali pa izi kuposa momwe ndimayembekezera, ndipo mwina ndipita kukagona posachedwa.
Ndikuganiza kuti ndizikhala masiku angapo otsatira, ndikudumphadumpha nthawi ndi nthawi, kotero ngati wina akufuna wina woti alankhule m'modzi za kuchira kwawo, ndidzakhala pano. Komanso, ngati wina angafunse mafunso aliwonse okhudzana ndi kuchira kwanga, khalani omasuka kutero pansipa. Ndifika kwa iwo posachedwa, ngakhale atha kukhala maola ochepa ndisanayankhe aliyense, popeza ndikukonzekera kugona posachedwa. Ndikungofuna kuchita gawo langa kuthandiza anthu ena kusintha miyoyo yawo, monga ena andichitira.
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