Hei anthu. Dzulo linatchula tsiku langa lomaliza la nofap, ndimaganiza kuti ndidzagawana nawo mwachangu zomwe ndakumana nazo m'masiku 230 apitawa. Ndinayamba nofap ndi cholinga chosiya zolaula. Ndakhala ndikuvutika kuti ndisiye zolaula kwa chaka chimodzi ndi theka, mwina ngati awiri. Ndikanakhala bwino osayang'ana zolaula kwa milungu ingapo kapena kenako ndikalakalaka kuti ndiyiyang'anenso, ndikumatha kulira ndikuwonera pafupipafupi momwe ndimakhalira. Ndinazindikira kuti ndinayenera kusintha kwambiri nditakumana ndi mavuto ena azakugonana komanso zochitika zogonana.
Ndasiya kuyambiranso pazifukwa zingapo… makamaka ndimafuna "kukonzanso". Ndakhala ndikuonera zolaula kwanthawi yayitali kwambiri moti zidanditengera kugonana. Popanda izo ndinali wokhudzana ndi kugonana. Ndinkafuna kudzimana chilakolako chololeza "kuyambiranso"… Ndinkafuna kukhala ndi malingaliro atsopano ogonana, omwe amakhala mozungulira azimayi enieni komanso othawa zolaula.
Zinathandiza! Kukopa kwanga kwa akazi enieni kwakula mpaka pamiyeso yomwe sikunafikepo kale nofap. Ndikuyamikira kukongola kwa, ndipo ndimakopeka kwambiri, ndi akazi ambiri kuposa kale nofap. Kuphatikiza apo, ndikaganiza kapena ndikulakalaka kumasulidwa tsopano, ndi akazi enieni omwe ndimaganizira, osakhala pakompyuta ndikuyang'ana pazenera.
ED-anzeru, sindimangokhalira kudzichitira zokha momwe ndimafunira, koma ndikutsimikiza kuti ndidzayankha bwino ndikamachita zachiwerewere ndikuchita bwino. Ndipo malingaliro anga onse okhudzana ndi kugonana amakhala athanzi kwambiri miliyoni kuposa momwe amawonera zolaula nthawi zonse.
Sabata yatha ndidayamba kumva kuti ndakwaniritsa cholinga changa chodzimasula ku zolaula, ndipo ngati ndinali wokonzeka kuyamba kubwereranso m'moyo wanga popanda kumva kuti ndine wopanda thanzi. Chifukwa chake ndikutseka kauntala.
Khalani nacho anthu. Zimapanga kusiyana kwakukulu kuti mudzimasule ku zizolowezi zolaula. Zolimbikitsazo ndi gawo lovuta kwambiri chifukwa ndizamphamvu kwambiri… ndimawapezabe nthawi zina. Mukamachita masewera olimbitsa thupi mumakhala ndi njira zanu zodziwira ndikunyalanyaza zolakalaka, ndipo pamapeto pake, chikhumbo chikakugwerani, mumazindikira kuti sichachabe koma gawo lokonda bongo lanu lomwe mukuyembekezera kukonza zina, ndikuzinyalanyaza. Ndipo nthawi iliyonse zomwe zimachitika, zolimbikitsazo zimafooka, ndipo koposa zonse mphamvu zawo pamalingaliro anu zimafooka.
Monga ena, nthawi ya nofap ndidawona kusintha kosangalatsa… chidaliro chowonjezeka, chizolowezi chomverera bwino komanso mozama… zosintha zodabwitsa komanso zodabwitsa (sindikufuna kukopa chidwi koma ndazindikira kusintha kwakukulu!). Ndikukhulupirirabe kuti zosinthazi zikukhudzana kwambiri ndikukhala ndi malingaliro opanda chizolowezi kuposa zovuta zilizonse zomwe zingabwere chifukwa chokula.
Phunziro lofunika kwambiri lomwe ndingatengepo kuchokera pamenepa ndi phunziro lomwelo lomwe ndidatenga tsiku la 90. Ngati muwona zovuta m'moyo wanu; zinthu zomwe zimabweretsa nkhawa kapena kusowa chitetezo, kapena kudalira mopanda thanzi pazinthu zopanda kanthu, kapena "mizere" yamaganizidwe obwerezabwereza yomwe imabweretsa chisangalalo ndi kuwawa, muli ndi mphamvu yosintha. Ndikulimba mtima, ndikuthandizidwa ndi ena, komanso kukhala ndi chiyembekezo (dzilimbikitseni posachita bwino, zimagwira ntchito bwino kuposa kusasamala), mutha kusintha zomwe zikufunika kuti musinthe kuti mukhale ndi moyo wachuma.
KULUMIKIZANA - Tsiku 230 - kuyitcha kuti ikutha
by BakumanLam
MALINGA;
Zachidziwikire! Ndine m'modzi mwa anthu achichepere omwe akhala akuonera zolaula nthawi yonse ya unyamata, kotero anali ndi gawo lamphamvu kwambiri pakukhala ndi chiwerewere. Paubwenzi ndinali ndi zovuta zosiyanasiyana panthawiyi… makamaka mwina ndikulephera kukhala wovuta konse, kapena kutulutsa msanga msanga. Mwanjira iliyonse, sizinali zosangalatsa, ndipo ndi zomwe zidandipangitsa kuzindikira kuti ndiyenera kusintha.
Nditasiya zolaula, kwa kanthawi ndinamverera kuti sindinasangalale kwenikweni chifukwa sindinkangolakalaka kapena kupeza zosokoneza, ngakhale sizinatenge nthawi kuti ndimve zambiri, ndimakopeka kwambiri ndi akazi amoyo weniweni (omwe zinali zosangalatsa kwambiri!). Popita nthawi, matabwa am'mawa adayambiranso kubwerera, monganso momwe ena amaganizira zogonana ndi azimayi enieni (zomwe zinali zabwino inenso, chifukwa chimodzi mwa zolinga zanga chinali kuyambiranso kugonana kwanga komwe kuli koyenera). Tsopano, nkhuni zam'mawa zimabwereranso, ndipo zosintha mosakhalitsa zayamba kubwerera, zomwe zimayambitsidwa chifukwa cholumikizana ndi akazi enieni mwanjira ina.
Ndiyenera kuwonjezera chodzikanira kuti sindinagonepo panthawiyi kotero sindingathe kunena momwe ndachitiramo zochitika zogonana zenizeni.
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