July 1, 2014 by Bryan Kubweza
Kaputeni wakale wa US Air Force Bryan Reeves pazomwe kusiya zolaula ndikofunikira kwa amuna amakono omwe akufuna kugonana kwambiri ndikukhala kudziko lomwe silizunza akazi.
Muubwana wanga waunyamata masiku orenji, kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kumafuna kuleza mtima, ngakhale kungoganiza.
Limodzi la maulendo anga oyamba ndi zolaula limapezeka masabata masana nditafika kusukulu yapakati. Ndidapeza matepi osokoneza bongo a abambo anga a abwana a matekinolo a betamax okhala ndi mayina ngati "Babricitter Yaku East" ndi "Atsikana Otsika." Ndinangokhala ndi zenera laling'ono kuti ndiziwayang'ana ndikusangalala nawo kwa zaka khumi ndi ziwiri. wachinyamata kachiwiri) aliyense asanafike kunyumba.
Zaka zingapo pambuyo pake makonda anga anakula kwambiri amayi atayamba kupeza zikwangwani za Victoria Secret m'makalata. Ngakhale ndimakhala ndikudziwa kale chinsinsi chachikulu, zolemba zakale izi zidapangitsa kuti malingaliro anga azikhala ovuta kutsegula nthawi iliyonse, ndipo ndidakondwera nazo.
Masiku amenewo oleza zolaula ndikuseka malingaliro anga apita.
Pakadali pano kwambiri, ine - ndi amuna ena onse ku Western Civilization - ndili ndi chida chaching'ono chodzaza ndi zolaula zonse zolaula zokonzeka kusuntha chilolezo changa ndikumapukusa zitseko zanga. Sindiyenera kudikiranso kuti ndikatumizireko.
"Zokwanira Zokwanira" ndi "Co panganoEyes," mabungwe awiri achitetezo apa intaneti (imodzi ndi yachikatolika), akupereka ziwonetsero izi:
- Sekondi iliyonse, ogwiritsa ntchito intaneti a 28,258 amawonera zolaula.
- Makampani opanga zolaula ndi makampani $ biliyoni a 97 padziko lonse lapansi.
- Amuna ndi 543% Zambiri mwina kuyang'ana zolaula kuposa akazi.
- Zoposa 1 pakufufuza kwa 5 ndi zolaula pazida zam'manja.
Ngati muli ndi intaneti, mumaonera zolaula m'nyumba mwanu. ”
- Jill Manning, Ph.D., Ukwati ndi Wothandizira Banja
Monga mwamuna wopanda mwamuna kwa zaka zinayi zapitazi, kugonana kwakukulu ndi akazi kwakhala chinthu chosowa kwambiri. IPhone yanga, ndikulakalaka kuvina, kundisokosera, kundiseka, kundinunkhira, kundiyamwa, kundinena ndi kundizunza, chilichonse chomwe ndikufuna, nthawi iliyonse yomwe ndikufuna.
Nthawi zambiri ndimakhala wopanda umunthu, komabe nthawi zina ndimapita milungu ingapo ndikugwiritsa ntchito zolaula za intaneti usiku uliwonse kuti ndidzutse ndikudziwonetsa. Pali nthawi zina zomwe ndimawoneka kuti ndimazifuna ndikungogona. Ndinaigwiritsa ntchito kwambiri mpaka nthawi ina yomwe inkandibwezeranso nkhawa, ndikusokoneza masewera anga oyipa a basketball.
Palibe cholakwika ndi kuseweretsa maliseche. Koma zolaula zamakono zitha kukhala zowononga osati kwa amuna okha, komanso kwa akazi omwe timawakonda, nawonso.
Nazi zifukwa za 5 zomwe ndimakhulupirira kuti amuna ayenera kusiya kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kuti azisangalatsa:
1) Zolaula zimatha kuwononga malingaliro athu ndi akazi enieni.
Nditakhala ndikugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kwa pafupifupi chaka chimodzi, ndinazindikira kuti sindingathe kumangokhalira kucheza ndi akazi bola ndikanakwanitsa. Ndinkachita mantha ngati kale, koma popanda kusinthasintha kosintha koonera kanema patatha kanema, thupi la mayi wina silinathe kuyang'ana kwambiri zolaula ngati kale. Ndinadabwa kuti, kugonana kwenikweni kumakhala kovutitsa pang'ono. Zachisoni. Popeza ndasiya zolaula, ngakhale mitengo yam'mawa yabwerera ngati mtengo wokongola wopulumutsidwa kumbali yakumapeto.
2) Zolaula zimatha kuphunzitsa matupi athu kuti asadaluke msanga.
Sindinakhalepo ndi vuto la kufunda mwachangu ndisanayambe kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula. Nthawi zonse ndimatha kugwirizanitsa, popanda kunja, akazi anga ogonana nawo, wokhala ndi kondomu kapena wopanda makondomu.
Ndi zolaula, ndimatha kuonera kanema kakafupi ndipo ndimatha mphindi zochepa ndikakhala pachimake. Koma ndimadziletsa ndisanafike patali kwambiri, chifukwa nthawi zonse ndimafuna kuti ndidziwe zojambula zina zakanthawi mu vidiyo yotsatira, ndikungodina nazo. Ndinkachita izi kwa ola limodzi, ndikukula mosatekeseka ndi video yatsopano iliyonse, ndikudziyimitsa m'mphepete nthawi iliyonse. Pambuyo pake ndimazindikira kuti yapita nthawi yayitali bwanji ndikusankha kanema wabwino kwambiri yemwe ndidamuwona ndikuloleza kundiponya.
Ndimapanga thupi langa kuti liwuke komanso kugunda. Nditha kusiya kuyendetsa dzanja langa ndikadziseweretsa maliseche. Thupi lodzutsidwa la mkazi silileka kuyenda kwambiri. Zili ngati kuyesera kusweka pamaboti a bwato liwiro m'madzi akuya. Nthawi zambiri sindinkatha kuthana ndi chidwi chake, ndipo ndidayamba kuda nkhawa.
Mwamwayi, kusiya zolaula kwapangitsa kuti thupi langa lizizolowera kuthamanga komanso kugona.
3) Kutaya nthawi koteroko.
Kuonera zolaula ndikugwiritsa ntchito mwanzeru nthawi yathu yamtengo wapatali pa Planet Earth.
4) Zimapanga ziyembekezo zosatheka za akazi.
Zolaula zimangotipangitsa kuganiza kuti azimayi ayenera kukhala osavuta kulowa pabedi. Zimatipangitsa kuganiza kuti titha kukhala ochulukirapo ngati titakhala olimba mtima kwambiri kapena ochenjera, kapena owonjezera.
Amayi omwe ali m'mavidiyo olaula nthawi zonse amakhala ololera kuti amuna (kapena abambo) awatsegule mwamphamvu ndikuchita zomwe akufuna. Amatenga ndalama zowombera kumaso, pamaondo awo pansi pa tambala ndi kamera, ngati kuti atsimikizitse kufunitsitsa kwawo kugonjetsedwa ndi munthu, komanso kuti dziko lonse liziwona.
Pazochitika zanga, azimayi enieni sachitapo kanthu kuwerengera mwamphwayi wamwamuna potsegula miyendo yawo. Ngakhale ena atachita izi sizitanthauza kuti ndikulumikizana kopanga ubale weniweni. Zimangopanga matupi awiri kumenyetseka wina ndi mnzake.
Akazi ndi osilira, zolengedwa zogonana, motsimikiza. Monga ife. Koma amuna akamakhala okonzeka kugwirizana ndi akazi mwakuya, njira zomwe zimaphatikizira zogonana ndikuzipatsanso, porn ndiyowopsa. Chodabwitsa chachikazi chodabwitsa kwambiri cha mzimayi, amene ndife amuna omwe timalakalaka kwambiri kukumana nacho, chimangopezeka kwa amuna omwe amaphunzira kuyang'ana mkazi mokwanira. Izi sizimachitika kulikonse zolaula.
5) Tikaonera zolaula, titha kukhala tikuthandizira kugwirira ntchito kwa anthu, ukapolo, kugwiriridwa, ndi akazi opanda ulemu padziko lonse lapansi.
Ngakhale ndimakonda, sindinawonepo makanema pawebusayiti yaulere omwe amandisokoneza.
Nthawi zambiri ndimawonera amuna akubera, ngakhale zachinyengo zenizeni, azimayi kuti azigonana mosafunikira, m'matekesi abodza, maofesi abodza abizinesi, ma seti onyenga, ndi zina zambiri. Kamera sinawonetse nkhope ya mwamunayo, nthawi zonse inali ya mkazi yekha.
Ndapeza zitsanzo zosawerengeka za milandu yapadziko lonse lapansi komwe anthu, makamaka amuna, adamangidwa ndikuwazenga mlandu wopanga zolaula ndi akazi omwe adawagulitsa kuchokera kumaiko ena; azimayi omwe adakhala akapolo amnyumba sakanatha kuchoka; azimayi omwe amakhalidwa ndi nkhanza zakuthupi; azimayi amawopseza kuti angawakonde ndi mabanja awo; ndi zina zambiri. Ndikudziwa tsopano kuti ndiyenera kuti ndinawonera makanema pomwe azimayi amachita zachiwerewere zomwe amakakamizidwa. Ndipo zomwe ndimakonda pa zolaula zinali zopanda pake.
Ndimayesabe kuonera zolaula nthawi zina. Ngakhale ndikulemba izi, iPhone yanga imakhala pambali panga, itatha mphindi zingapo kumasula gulu lankhondo la "Achibwana Abwino" olowera mu ubongo wanga wa buluzi. Koma, sizachidziwikire kuti palibe chabwino chomwe chimachokera pamenepa.
Amuna, tiyenera kusiya kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula. Ndikudziwa kuti ndikusintha mwachangu. Ndikudziwa kuti maanja ena amagwiritsa ntchito ngati zonunkhira zomwe sizimasangalatsa.
Koma tiyeni tipeze njira zina. Tiyeni tipeze luso. Zolaula ndizosavuta; Ndi chipatso chotsika. Pansi pa luso lathu. Ndipo sizongotipweteka; zikuvutitsa azimayi.
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