Malipoti a 70 & 90-day: ulendo wodabwitsa

Ndapeza chidziwitso cha "Rebooting" ku YBOP mwa kusaka kosasintha tsiku lina ndipo zasintha moyo wanga m'njira zomwe sindimaganiza kuti zingatheke. Ndidayang'ana mndandanda wa ma vids ndikufotokozera zamaubongo ku YBOP ndipo apa ndiye pomwe padasinthira ndipo zidandipatsa zida zomvetsetsa kuti zithandizire kuthana ndi vuto losokoneza bongo.

Lero, ndili ndi masiku 70 opanda P / M / O ndipo ndakwaniritsa izi ndikuchepetsanso Fap - muyeso wowopsa koma ndikuwona kuti zonse zikukhudzana ndikukhazikitsanso njira za Dopamine zomwe YBOP imathandizira kufotokoza.

Ndinkakonda kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula m'njira zomwe zimawononga nthawi yayitali ndikuwononga moyo wanga wambiri. Osangowonera vids kapena zithunzi komanso ma hardcore camming, macheza pa malo ochezera komanso kutumiza zithunzi zanga zolimba. Kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kunayamba ndili ndi zaka khumi ndi ziwiri ndipo ndakhala ndimakhala ndi moyo wachikulire, ngakhale ndili pachibwenzi. Ndinkachita manyazi ndi nthawi yomwe ndinali nditazolowera koma sindimva chisoni ndi izi kuyambira pomwe ndidasintha. Palibe amene ali ndi mlandu padziko lapansi pazithunzi zapaintaneti kapena kutsatsira vid, aliyense ndi nyama basi, zomwe timachita ndikudzigulitsa tokha. Koma apa pali mwayi tsopano woti mudzakhale ndikuwathandiza.

Ndinafunitsitsa kusintha koma ndinazindikira kuti ndikufunika thandizo lina, makamaka masabata angapo oyamba. Ndikupangira kukhala ndi bwenzi kapena mtundu winawake popeza zimathandizadi kukhala ndi khutu mukamakumana ndi zokayikira komanso zokhumudwitsa. Koma tsamba lofanana ndi ili (lanu lolembanso) lingakhale labwino kupeza chithandiziro ndipo ndikuwona izi zikugwira ntchito pano, ndiye kuti ndingaugwiritse ntchito ngati lipezeka.

Chifukwa cha YBOP mndandanda wa zovuta zowonjezera ndinaphunzira kuti ndizo momwe ubongo wathu ulili wophika zomwe zingatipangitse ife kugonana / kugonana. (Inu mukutanthauza kuti sindine wotsalira kwathunthu?) Kumvetsetsa kwatsopano kumeneku kunachotsa lingaliro la kunyamula manyazi kapena kudandaula kuti mwakhala mukugwedezeka nthawi zonse (kwa zaka). Podziwa kuti kuchuluka kwa khalidweli p / m / o kumabwera ku ubongo wa ubongo ndiye chifukwa chofunikira kwambiri chomwe chinandithandiza kuganiza za kuthetsa chizolowezi choledzera kamodzi.

Ndinawerenganso za anthu ena omwe akusintha kwambiri. Izi zidathandizanso kuti ndidziwe kuti ndizovuta.

Tsopano, pakatha masiku 70…

Ndimakhala wodekha mtima womwe umalowe m'malo nkhawa zanga zam'mbuyomu. Zamanyazi ndi kusowa chiyembekezo nazo zapita ndikadzatuluka mumtambo. Ndidadzuka ndikuzindikira gawo langa lolakwika kuwona anthu ngati zinthu zogonana zokhazokha pa intaneti, komanso kusamutsira malingaliro omwewo oyipa kwa anthu m'moyo weniweni. Ndidazindikiranso momwe ndimadziwonera ndekha, monga mtundu wina wamasewera otchedwa kugonana, omwe amatanthauziridwa ndi gawo langa logonana ndi zina zonse zabwino za umunthu wanga wotayika ndi chilakolako changa chogonana.

Izi zasintha tsopano. Ndakhala ndikuloleza dziko lanyama, lotengeka ndi anthu kuti lisinthe kukhala dziko lauzimu komanso losamalira. Sindikumva kuti ndiyenera kukhala wochita masewera olimbitsa thupi, ndikungofunika kukhala munthu wabwino kuposa onse. Chifukwa ndimadzimva ndekha kuti ndasintha izi, sindimamva kuti ndili wopanda kanthu. Ndikukhulupirira kuti zinthu zabwino zichitika munthawi yabwino kuti ndizitha kupumula pang'ono ndikungoyesetsa kukhala munthu wabwino, wopatsa, wodalirika tsiku lililonse.

Zinthu zomwe ndidaziwona nditangoyambiranso - palibe pulogalamu ya fap:

1. Patatha pafupifupi milungu itatu kapena inayi, ndinazindikira kuti ndimadzuka m'mawa momwe zimamvekera ngati thupi langa lonse limakhala ndi hardon. Mtengo wam'mawa watsiku ndi tsiku uli ngati moni wabwino m'mawa. Popita nthawi, ma hardon awonjezeka kwambiri! Zimakhalitsanso! Sindinayesedwe kuti ndizidzikhudza koma ndinadabwa ndi zomwe chilengedwe chandipatsa (kapena mwanjira ina, tsopano chabwerera kwa ine). Ndinayamba kuzindikira kuti thupi langa ndi mphatso yoti igawidwe ndi chisangalalo chotere. Izi zisanachitike anali "nthawi yopanda pake" ndipo palibe chomwe chidawoneka chikuchitika nthawi imeneyo.

2. Chiwalo changa chinayamba kuwoneka bwino patatha pafupifupi masabata a 4 mpaka 5. Mwa ichi ndikutanthauza kuti mawonekedwe sanaliwoneka opepuka koma owoneka bwino komanso owoneka ngati opepuka. Popanda mawonekedwe, khungu limakhala ndi mwayi wofewetsa ndikuwonjezanso. Zinali zoonekeratu.

3. Liwu langa lakula pang'ono pokambirana (osati kumvekera koma kokwanira, ndikukhazikika) ndipo ambiri ndakhala olimba mtima pakati pa ena, amuna ndi akazi. Anthu amawoneka kuti amalankhula mosavuta ndi ine. Chosiyanacho ndichonso, ndimakhala womasuka kutenga mwayi poyambitsa zokambirana. Usiku wina azimayi awiri abwino adabwera ndikukhudza ndevu / chiputu changa ndipo zidakhala zosangalatsa kukhala ndi kulumikizana kotere komanso kuti aliyense akhale womasuka. Ndimakhala womasuka ndikapempha mtsikana wansangala kuti amupatse khofi chifukwa ndimangofuna kuti ndimudziwe bwino ndikumva kuti ndili ndi zochepera pano kotero kufunsa kumamveka kosangalatsa komanso kwadzidzidzi… izi ndizovuta kufotokoza koma zimagwira ntchito ndikumwetulira kubwereranso mosavuta. Ndikuwonanso kuti ndili ndi manyazi ochepera momwe ndimaganizira, sindibisala, sindingafotokoze ndipo zikutanthauza kuti ndili ndi zambiri zoti ndipatse m'malo mwake!

4. Nthawi zina ndimawona zithunzi zolaula mwamwayi ndikasaka china chake pa intaneti. Ndikudziwa kuti akhoza kukhala okopa, koma m'malo mongokhala, ndimangodula kaye ndikupitabe.

5. Phindu losayembekezereka koma lothandiza popita ku No Fap - Palibe P / M / O ndikuti ndaphunziranso kuthana ndi mayanjano oyipa m'moyo wanga. Awa akhoza kukhala "osasamala" kukumana nawo komweko omwe anali ndi nambala yanga ndipo inenso ndinali nawo. Ndinazindikira kuti zachiwerewere "Palibe zingwe zolumikizidwa" zogonana zinali zofanana ndi zolaula, mwina zoyipa kwambiri. Zili ngati kuona munthu winayo ngati chinthu chogonana ndipo akugwiritsanso ntchito chimodzimodzi, monga anthu awiri akuwonana ngati zongopeka, monga zolaula. Izi zimayenera kuthera inenso. Zinali zovuta kuti ndikwaniritse popeza ndili ndi mbiri yakalekale yosagwirizana ndi amuna kapena akazi anzanga, nthawi zonse ndimafufuza mitundu "yosapezeka". Izi zatha tsopano. Sindikufunikira kuti ndifotokozere wina aliyense wa iwo tsopano, ndikungofunika kukhala ndi chikhulupiriro kuti ubale wabwino utha kutenga malo m'malo mwa omalizirawa.

6. Mabwenzi anga nthawi zonse azikhala olimba komanso osangalatsa. Ndili ndi mwayi wocheza nawo komanso kuchita zinthu zomwe ndikadakhala ndidapitilira kale. Ndili ndi nthawi yambiri yochitira zinthu zosangalatsa komanso kupita panja.

7. Mmawa umodzi womwe ndidapeza nditha kusangalala ndikungogona (osakhudza) kotero ndidatha kuyandikira kukhala ndi katswiri chifukwa chodziwa thupi langa lotembenuka. Pakumalizira pake, ndidadziletsa kuti ndisadzionetsedwe ndipo ndidadabwitsidwa ndi kudziletsa kwamtunduwu. Izi zachitika kangapo m'mawa patatha pafupifupi milungu ingapo ya 5 kulowa pulogalamuyi. Ndinkamva bwino kukhala wopanda zolaula ndipo ndikudziwa kuti thupi langa limatha kugwira bwino ntchito popanda kukondoweza.

8. Moyo wanga wauzimu ukupitilizabe kulimba. Ndimagwiritsa ntchito kupemphera komanso kusinkhasinkha tsopano kuposa kale kuti ndikhale wodekha komanso wokhalitsa. Manyazi amawoneka kuti amadzidyetsa okha mukamadzipatula pazitseko zomwe zimatsekedwa nthawi zina, kotero zikuwoneka kuti mukufunikiradi kuyang'ana kunja kuti muthandizire kulipira izi. Kulumikizana ndi masamba monga Redit, YBOP ndi iyi ndakhala yothandiza kwambiri kudzoza ndikumaliza mapangidwe. Ndimamva kuwerengeredwa komanso kukhala wofunika tsopano, ndipo, chifukwa chake, izi zimandithandiza kukhalabe ndi chidwi komanso kukhalabe pamzere

9. Tsopano ndakhala WOPEREKA KWAMBIRI nthawi yanga yopumira! Kwa kanthawi ngakhale kuti poyamba ndimatopa, ngati kuti palibe chomwe chikuyenda bwino, koma pamapeto pake ndidawona kuti ndachita ntchito zambiri ndipo moyo wanga umakhala wosavuta kuyenda.

10. Ndazindikira kuti mukangoganiza kuchita pulogalamu iyi, imakhala yosavuta pakapita nthawi.

[tsiku 70 lipitilira] Yankho langa labwino ndikakhala kukufunsani ngati mukukhutira ndi mtundu wamasiku omwe zolaula ndi mafayilo zimakupatsani. Ndikuganiza kuti tsopano mukupita zolaula (palibe P / M / O) zomwe ndikudziwa kuti palibe POPEZA nthawi zina kuti muchotse mulingo wapamwamba womwe mumakumana nawo tsiku ndi tsiku (makamaka m'mawa womwe ndidapeza).

Monga ndidanenera, masabata angapo oyambilira anali mayeso enieni a izi pofika tsiku la 20 ndikutha kuwona chifukwa chake wina angamve kuti akufuna kulowa. Ino ndi nthawi yeniyeni yomwe timazindikira zomwe tikufunikira. Kodi zili zokhuza kusangalatsidwa ndi zofuna zathu zokha? Kapena kodi ino ndi nthawi yoti tibwerere m'mbuyo ndikuganiza mosamala za omwe tili monga amuna komanso zomwe timayimira? Nthawi zina ngakhale popanda mayankho apafupi zimangofunika kwambiri kuyang'ana zochita zathu. Khalani ndi mafinya kumbuyo m'malo momangokhala ngati rat ya labu nthawi zonse ndikudina mbewa.

Mukufunsadi funso lakuya loti mutonthozedwe ndikukhala ndi banja limodzi tsiku lina. Nditha kuwoloka mlathowo mukafika pamenepo, simudziwa komwe muli ndi izi mpaka mutapeza ubale wabwino, ndiye kuti mwina mungadabwe kuti bwanji mudakayikiranso izi.

Ndikuganiza kuti mukadutsa chizolowezi cha fap mutha kupeza kuti mutha kukhala ndi zovuta zina nthawi zina. Kukhala chizolowezi cha zochitika zogonana mwachisawawa (maubale osachita, fb's ndi zina) ndichinthu china choti muchokenso nthawi ina ngati mungazindikire kuti ndi njira yomwe sikukuthandizani kulikonse.

Zomwe zidandipangitsa kuti ndikhale mgulu la anthu omwe adafa kale zidali kupanda ulemu kwa ine chifukwa anzanga "wamba" nawonso samandilemekeza ndipo amangofuna zogonana. (Kapena mwina amafuna zambiri ndipo sindinathe kupereka izi zomwe zili zoyipa ngati mukukakamiza anthu kuti azigonana). Sindikufuna kupweteketsa aliyense wonga ameneyo kapena kudzipweteka ndekha ndikukana kuthekera kwakuti chibwenzi chitha kukulirakulira.

Ndikuwona chibwenzi tsopano ngati mwayi watsopano woti pomaliza pake mukhale odziyankhira. Sindingakhale pachibwenzi ndi munthu tsopano kuti ndisangane naye. Ndidzapeza nthawi kuti ndimudziwe komanso ngati sizingatheke kukhala ndi bwenzi lapamtima kuchokera pamtundu wotere. Ndife ochulukirapo kuposa zigawo zomwe zimamangidwa pansi pa malamba athu.

M'malo mochita chibwenzi mosalekeza, adzakhala munthu m'modzi yekha panthawi yomwe ndikhale cholinga changa tsopano. Ngati mukudziwa kuti simukusangalala ndi atsikana wamba koma mukufuna winawake wanzeru kapena wopambana kwambiri kapena wokhutira ndi moyo wauzimu (kapena zinthu zilizonse zabwino zomwe mumayang'ana mwa munthu), ganizirani za tsiku lina zomwe zidzakhale nazo mtundu wa mtsikana m'moyo wanu. Ganizirani zabwino zomwe mukufuna kupatsanso munthuyo. Simudzawapeza ngati muli pachibwenzi ndi munthu amene mukungogonana naye, sichoncho?

Ndikunena kuti gwiritsitsani ntchito ndikuphunzira za kukhala oleza mtima. Intaneti yasokoneza kotero ambiri a ife kuganiza kuti kusangalala kwakanthawi yomweyo kuyenera kupezeka TSOPANO lomwe siliri dziko lenileni. Tiyenera kuthana ndi malingaliro olakwika amenewa ndikupanga zisankho zabwino. Kufunsa izi ndi chiyambi chabwino kwambiri chifukwa chake ndikukuyamikirani.

Pezani: Ndili pafupi milungu iwiri kuti ndikwaniritse masiku a 90. Pakhala masiku abwino koma osati abwino, koma ambiri nditha kuwona kupita patsogolo komwe ndidachokera. Ndikukonzekera kukhalabe ndikuganiza zolaula mpaka pano.

Lero likulemba tsiku la 90th la No Fap / No P / M / O Reboot. Nditha kutsimikizira kuti zosintha (zomwe zalongosoledwa kumayambiriro kwa ulusiwu) zikupitilizabe kuzindikirika ndipo sindikhala wokonda zolaula.

Kusiya PMO masiku 90 apitawo kunandiwululira kuti ndinali ndi mavuto ena (monga omwe ndimagonana nawo) omwe samandithandiza kukwaniritsa cholinga changa chopeza ndikukwaniritsa ubale wapamtima ndi munthu m'modzi wapadera. Sindinayambe kusintha zizoloŵezi (zosayanjana nawo) ndikuziyambiranso koma izi zinadzakhala gawo lofunika kwambiri lazidziwitso zatsopano ndikukhala opanda zolaula. Ndikupitilizabe kusiya kusiya zizolowezi zanga zomwe ndimakonda komanso zomwe ndimawona kuti sizabwino m'mbuyomu. Ndikukonzekera kupitiriza kukhala wodzipereka pantchitoyi ndipo, nthawi yomweyo, ndikusangalala ndikumva bwino ndikwaniritsa izi.

Ndine wokondwa kunena kuti ndapanga masiku onse a 90 ndi chochitika chimodzi chokha cha P / M / O. Zinali m'maganizo mwanga kuchita izi kuyambira pachiyambi. Sindinadziwe kuti nditha kukhala 100% opanda pake koma ndachitanso masiku onse a 90 osadzipukusa kwa O. Ndikuvomereza kuti panali nthawi zina "osamala" panjira pang'ono (makamaka ndinali wodabwitsidwa komanso wofunitsitsa kudziwa momwe ndimakhalira wolimba patatha milungu ingapo yoyambiranso) koma ndidapeza kuti izi zinali zokhumudwitsa ndipo ndidachita zomwe ndingapewe. Ndinadzigwira nthawi zingapo ndikumayang'ana zolaula m'masaka ochepa omwe sanapezepo osamvetseka koma zidatha mwachangu. Mwa kudula fap ubongo wanga posachedwa "udakhazikika" OSATI kuyanjanitsa zithunzizo ndi fap, ndipo zidakhala zosavuta panthawiyi kutembenuka. Tsopano ndazindikira kuti kukhala wopanda ufulu inali njira yoyenera kuphwanya dongosolo la dopamine monga kupita patsogolo ndi YBOP. Ndinakumbukira dokotala wina anandiuza kuti ubongo umakakamira motsatira momwe mankhwala amubongo amapangira "ngalande" zamanjenje zomwe zimakhala zovuta kuzilemba. Koma ndi kutsimikiza kwenikweni Zitha kuchitika. Uwu wakhala ulendo wodabwitsa komanso chovuta kwenikweni. Nthawi zingapo zinali zovuta kuthupi komanso m'maganizo (makamaka m'masiku 40 kapena 50 oyamba, makamaka m'masabata oyamba). Koma kenako mtambo unkawoneka kuti ukukwera! Zinthu zinayamba kukhazikika. Masiku ambiri ndimadabwa momwe ndimakhalira ovuta nthawi iliyonse ndikadzuka ndimtengo wabwino wammawa. Zakhala zikuchitika pafupipafupi tsopano ndipo nthawi zina kuuma kwakhala KWAMBIRI! lol ndinazitenga ngati chizindikiro chachikulu thupi langa likuchira ndikukhala womvera kwambiri. Monga ndanenera pamwambapa, izi zimangokhala ngati mphatso ikupatsidwa kwa ine (kapena kubwerera kwa ine). Ndizachilengedwe kwathunthu ndipo mwamtheradi POPANDA magetsi, kiyibodi, mbewa, kapena mawonekedwe a LCD amafunikira izi. 

Chinthu chimodzi chimene ndiyenera kutchula ndikuti zikuwoneka kuti pali chinthu chotchedwa "Chaser Effect." Onetsetsani… anyamata amafotokoza apa komanso ku Redit kuti ngati abwereranso ndi MO kapena PM pakayambiranso nthawi zambiri amafuna kuchita PMO kapena MO posachedwa. Ndikukhulupirira momwemonso momwe kuzungulira kwa dopamine kumagwirira ntchito kotero kuti kumatha kukhala kovuta kwambiri kusiya izi. Mukungoyenera KUDZIWA KWAMBIRI za "zotsatirazi" kuti muthe kuthana ndi izi ngati mukuyesera mozama kuti pulogalamu yoyambiranso ikhale yogwira mtima. Kwa ine, ndinali ndi masiku angapo panthawi ina ndipo pamapeto pake ndimakhala pachibwenzi chosangalatsa kwambiri. Ndipo zinali ngati tsiku lotsatira kuti ndinali ndi chidwi chachikulu kwa MO (ndinali nditaimbidwa mlandu kwambiri zikuwoneka kuchokera kuzomwe ndimakumana nazo). Koma ndimadziwa za "chaser effect" ndipo ndidakwanitsa kuthana ndi zolakalaka.

Zikomo: Gingushkhan, BAMBAM, Daniel, Stopper ndi The Underdog pazomwe mwandithandizira pano. Kudziwa anyamata ena akugwira ntchito kuti athetse mavuto omwewa. Khalani odikira komanso odzipereka, maubwino awa ndi mtendere wamalingaliro ndizoyenera.

Sindikudziwa kuti ndimaliza bwanji panthawi ino nditamaliza cholinga cha masiku a 90 ndikulandila malingaliro a izi kuchokera kwa ena omwe akusintha zomwezi. Zikomo.

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