Zaka 17 - Mtendere wamumtima ndi chidaliro

Mawu oyambira mwachangu: Ndatumiza izi ndendende nditafika masiku a 90 ndikulemba za 9 miyezi yapitayo, koma ndimaganiza kuti ndilembanso chifukwa anthu ambiri adalumikizana kuyambira nthawi imeneyo ndipo zonse zomwe ndidalemba zikhala zoona. Chifukwa chake ingokumbukirani kuti izi zinalembedwera kuchokera kwa ine pomwe ndangomaliza masiku a 90 a nofap.

• Za ine / Nkhani yanga

Ndine 18m ndikukhala ku US yemwe ndimafuna kusiya kuyambiranso zigawo zachipembedzo (eya, ndine Mkhristu). Ndimakhoza bwino kwambiri kusukulu ndipo ndimakhoza bwino kwambiri. Sindinayambe ndamwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo kapena kumwa mowa ndipo sindine munthu woti ndingatengere zochita za anzanga. Ngakhale sindine gay, sindinayambe ndakhala pachibwenzi ndi mtsikana. Ndingakonde kuyang'ana maphunziro anga ndikupeza chibwenzi nditakhala ndi nthawi yambiri yopuma komanso / kapena ntchito. Sindinabwere ku nofap kufunafuna "mphamvu zamphamvu" kapena zina mwa izo.

• Ulendo Wanga

Poyamba ndinayesa nthawi ina pafupi ndi pakati pa kugwa mu 2013. Ndakhala pafupifupi masabata awiri ndikulephera ndipo nthawi yomweyo ndinasiya. Ndinkayang'anitsitsa subreddit iyi nthawi zonse m'masabata awiriwa ndipo sindinathe kudziwa chifukwa chake ndimalephera. Mosakayikira ndinanena kuti sindinayeserenso kapena kuganizira za nofap kwa miyezi iwiri yotsatira. Pakati pa Disembala ndimapeza tchuthi changa chozizira kusukulu monga ndimachitira chaka chilichonse, ndipo monga mungaganizire. Ndidakula kwambiri. Ndikutanthauza, ndi chiyani chinanso chomwe ndimayenera kuchita panthawi yopumula sabata iwiri? Komabe, Khrisimasi idadutsa ndipo sukulu idayambiranso. Monga mwachizolowezi, sukulu imayamba kuvuta nthawi yopuma yozizira ndipo ndinali wotanganidwa koyambirira kwa Januware wa 2. Sipanatenge masabata awiri ndisanaphunzire pomwe ndidazindikira kuti sindinapite milungu iwiri yathunthu. (Kumbukirani kuti, panthawiyi, sindinachite nawo nofap kwa miyezi 2 ndipo ndinalibe cholinga chobwerera). Pozindikira kuti sindinathe milungu iwiri ndisanayese. Ndinasokonezeka kwambiri. M'mbuyomu, pomwe ndimayesetsa molimbika, sindinathe kufikira masabata a 2 osachita chilichonse choti ndingathe kuwongolera. Ndipamene ndidakhala ndi epiphany yanga:

• BOREDOM NDI NTHAWI YAulere NDI AMBUYE

(Ndilowa kwambiri mu CHIFUKWA chake awa akupha pambuyo pake)

Nditazindikira kuti ndatha milungu iwiri ndisanamalize, ndinaganiza kuti ndikhozanso kupanga chisankho changa cha zaka zatsopano kuti ndisapezeke mu 2 (sindinayambepo kuyambira kumapeto kwa Disembala, 2014) kotero ndidabwereranso pa subreddit iyi kukhazikitsa kauntala yanga. Ngakhale sichinakhale chinthu chophweka kwambiri chomwe ndidachitapo, kuchipangitsa kukhala tsiku la 2013 chakhala chosavuta ndikachiyerekeza ndi kuyesa kwanga koyamba kwa sabata kwa 90 kumapeto kwa kugwa kwa chaka chatha.

• Chifukwa chomwe ndimakhulupirira kuti zidakhala zosavuta

(Ndinafupikitsa gawoli kuti ndikhale pansi pa malire a chikhalidwe cha 10,000)

Kwenikweni, ndinakhala wotanganidwa komanso wosangalatsa. Ndikuganiza kuti chinali chifukwa chokhala otanganidwa,.

• Momwe mungayandikirire nofap <- CHIGAWO CHOFUNIKA KWAMBIRI !!!

Pompopompo apa, ndiyenera kunena izi; ngati mukufuna kuchita bwino ndi nofap komanso ngati mukufuna kupeza zabwino zenizeni muyenera kukumbukira kuti:

• NOFAP SIYO YOPHUNZITSIRA ZA KUKHALA KUKHALA KUKHALA, NDI ZA KUSINTHA KWA MINDSET

(komwe KOYENDA kukulepheretsa kusefera, OSATI njira ina kuzungulira)

Kungolephera kubzala popanda kusintha malingaliro anu sikungokhala kovuta kokha, koma sikungathandize kwenikweni phindu la nofap monga "mphamvu zazikulu" zomwe anthu ena amati amalandira. Kodi ndikunena za kusintha kwa moyo wanga? Mwachidule:

• TIKUFUNA KUTI TILIMBIKITSE AMAI (kapena amuna)

Izi SIZOYENERA kumatanthauza kuti tileke kukula, izi zikutanthauza kuti MUSAMAYang'anenso P PONSE, izi zikutanthauza kuti mukamayendayenda,

• Simungayang'ane Mtsikana (kapena mnyamata) NDIPO YAMBIRANI KUSANGALATSA.

Muyenera kuchita zonse zomwe mungathe kupewa ZONSE malingaliro azakugonana tsiku lanu lonse (kungosiyana ndi kwanu). Mukapewa malingaliro azakugonana, simungathe kuwona P kapena malire konse. Ndiroleni ndibwereze izi:

• Simumayang'ana P kapena m'mphepete konse (ngakhale mukuganiza kuti mutha kudziletsa, NGAKHALE MUTHA, simumayang'ana P kapena m'mphepete)

Kumbukirani, sindikunena zakubwereranso pano. Mukayambiranso, ndizosiyana kwambiri. Ndikulankhula za anthu omwe ali ndi malingaliro akuti apita kukawonera P kapena m'mphepete kuti akwaniritse zokhumba zawo popanda M ndi / kapena O. Ngati awa ndi malingaliro anu, mukuphonya mfundo. Cholakwika chodziwika bwino ndi akatswiri ena, makamaka atsopano, ndikuti mutha kuthana ndi vuto la nofap mukadali kuyang'ana P ndi / kapena kukonza ndikukhala opambana mukamapeza zabwino za nofap. Ngakhale ndizotheka kupewa kukula pamene mukuyang'ana P kapena kusintha, MUKUSOWA MFUNDO YA NOFAP ndipo mutero OSATI kukolola mphotho ya nofap. Ndiloleni ndiyike motere: ngati ndinu chidakwa, simupita kukagula zakumwa kukagula botolo kenako nkumadzipusitsa kuti mungoyang'ana. Izi sizikupanga tanthauzo lililonse!

• Phindu / mphotho za nofap zimachokera pakuchepetsa kulimbana kwanu ndi zilako lako zakugonana, OSATI kungopewa M kapena O.

• Malangizo ndi zidule (Zomwe zidandithandizira):

Choyamba: khalani otanganidwa komanso / kapena kusangalatsidwa kuyambira mutadzuka mpaka mukugona. Izi ndizofunikira kwambiri chifukwa zimapangitsa zovuta za nofap SIGNIFICANTLY kukhala zosavuta. Ndingafikire kunena kuti ngati mutachita izi, zovuta zanu zimakhala za 5x zosavuta kuposa kale. Izi ndizofunikira makamaka kwa masabata angapo oyamba, popeza ndizovuta kwambiri.

• KHALANI BUSY NDIPO / KAPENA KUKHALA

Ndingakulimbikitseni kuti mupeze zosangalatsa (mwina ngakhale chizolowezi chachiwiri) ngati mulibe kale. Konzani kucheza ndi anzanu kuti muzidya nthawi yanu yonse yopuma. Konzekerani kuyeretsa nyumba yanu / nyumba yanu kuti zinthu zichitike. Chilichonse chomwe mungachite kuti mukhale otanganidwa ndichabwino, pali zosankha zambiri apa. Kukhala osangalala kumathandizanso, ngakhale osangokhala otanganidwa (koma mutha kuzichita nthawi imodzi kuti mulimbikitsidwe). Pazifukwa zomveka, pewani zochitika zomwe zingakukhudzeni ndi zakugonana. Gawo ili lonse ndi lotseguka kutanthauzira koma ndilofunikira kwambiri. Ingokhalani anzeru za izi.

• PANGANI NDI Dongosolo LOPANDA KUTI MUTHENGA ULEMERERO

Mosakayikira, ngakhale mutakhala otanganidwa bwanji, mupezabe zolimbikitsidwa. Njira yothandiza kwambiri yomwe ndapeza kuti yandigwirira ntchito ndikupeza nyimbo / kanema yolimbikitsa ndikuiyimba nthawi iliyonse mukakhala ndi chidwi. Zachidziwikire siyiyenera kukhala kanema / nyimbo yolimbikitsa, koma ndi zomwe zidandigwirira ntchito. Makamaka, pafupi ndi gawo loyamba lavuto langa (kuyambira ~ 2 milungu mpaka ~ 1.5 miyezi) ndimagwiritsa ntchito nyimbo iyi:

Mbendera Yoyera (yochitidwa mwachikondi)

Mutha kuyesa kumvera nyimboyi, kapena mutha kupeza china chake chomwe chingakulimbikitseni. Onetsetsani kuti muli ndi china chomwe chingakuthandizeni kuthana ndi zokopa mukazipeza ndikukumbukira KUZIGWIRITSA NTCHITO IZI mukakhala ndi chilakolako. Sizigwira ntchito ngati simugwiritsa ntchito.

Pomaliza:

• Pezani bwenzi loyankha mlandu (mwakufuna kwanu)

Ndisananene china chilichonse za izi, ndikufuna kuti ndiyambe ndi kunena kuti izi zitha kukhala ndi zotsatirapo zosiyanasiyana. Zitha kuthandizira kwambiri kapena pang'ono kapena ayi. Chinsinsi choti mugwire ntchitoyi ndikupeza mnzanu yemwe mungamayanjane naye komanso kumuyandikira. Momwemo, kupeza bwenzi lapamtima loti mukhale mnzanu wodalirika ndizodabwitsa chifukwa azikusangalatsani, ndipo moona mtima, zomwe akunena zidzakukhudzani kwambiri kuposa munthu wina aliyense pa intaneti. Ndizoti, kugwiritsa ntchito mabwalo a nofap.org kuti mupeze mnzanu woyankha sizoyipa mwanjira iliyonse. Ingokumbukirani kuti popanda kulumikizana komanso kuyandikira mnzanu yemwe mukuwayankha mlandu, mwina simukukhala ndi zotsatira zabwino kuchokera kwa uyu (Komabe sizimapweteka kuyesa)

Ndi malingaliro awa onse, kuphatikiza kukhala wopambana ndi nofap yama sabata a ~ 2-3, ulendowu umakhala wosavuta, mpaka pomwe mudzayiwala za kujambulidwa kwathunthu kwa masiku ambiri nthawi.

• Malingaliro anga pa nofap yonse:

Choyamba, ndikufuna kulankhula za "mphamvu zazikulu" zomwe ena amati amalandira kuchokera ku nofap. Ndakhulupirira kuti mphamvu zazikuluzikuluzi zimachokera pakulimbikitsa kudzidalira komwe mumapeza chifukwa chotenga nawo mbali ndikuchita bwino pa nofap. Ine sindikuganiza kuti chidaliro ichi kapena "mphamvu zazikulu" zopezedwa kuchokera ku nofap zimachokera pakusiya PMO. Zimachokera kukulimbikitsana chifukwa chakwaniritsa china chake. Ndizoti, ngati ndinu munthu wodzidalira komanso wosadzidalira, sindingayembekezere kukhala wolimbikitsidwa kwambiri ndi nofap. (Dziwani kuti sindikunena kuti sizingachitike, koma kwakukulu, kudzidalira kumeneku kudzakhala kocheperako kwa munthu amene amadzidalira kwambiri.)

Ine ndekha, sindikumva ngati ndapeza "mphamvu zazikulu" kuchokera ku nofap, koma ndili bwino nazo. Sindinabwere ku nofap ndi chifukwa chomwe ndinkafunira kupeza mphamvu zamphamvu konse. Ngati mungabwere ku nofap ndi chifukwa chokha chofuna kupezera "mphamvu zazikulu", mwina mutha kupita ndi malingaliro olakwika (kumbukirani kuti ndanena KUTI. Kwa anthu ena, izi zili bwino, koma, ine ndinganene kuti ichi sichingakhale chifukwa chokha choyambira nofap.Sindinena kuti musayese nofap ngati ichi ndi chifukwa chanu chokha mwina, mwina ndizovuta kwa inu kuposa ena, zomwe sizoyipa .)

Zomwe ndapeza ndi:

1. Mtendere wa Maganizo
2. Order
3. Chisangalalo (mwina chifukwa chamtendere wamalingaliro)
4. Time
5. Energy
6. tulo
7. Chidaliro (inde, NDAKHALA ndi chidaliro, sindikuganiza kuti ndingachifanizire ndi mphamvu yayikulu ngakhale, chinali chilimbikitso chochepa kwa ine)

Ndipo izi ndi zinthu zokha zomwe ndidaziwona ngati kulumikizana kwachindunji ndi ine kuyambira nofap; Ndikutsimikiza alipo ambiri.

• Malingaliro Omaliza ndi TL; Gawo la DR

• Ngati panali chinthu chimodzi chokha chomwe ndimatha kuuza aliyense za nofap, ndikuti inde, nofap imagwira ntchito, koma imagwira ntchito ndi ZINASINTHA MU MINDSET, OSATSITSITSA CHEMA CHA PMO. Ndikulangiza aliyense kuti ayesere, ngati kwa milungu ingapo. Mphamvu zowonjezera zokha zinali zokwanira kuti ndiziyenda ndi nofap. Pomaliza, musataye mtima, aliyense ali ndi zotumphukira zapamwamba komanso zochepa ndipo mukakhala ndi milungu ingapo m'manja mwanu, ndizosavuta khalani nazo!