Chifukwa chake ndikutumiza nkhani yanga chifukwa chakuchita bwino (kochepa) patsamba langa lina lotchedwa chifukwa chiyani. Sindingafotokozere mwatsatanetsatane ngati komwe ndimachokera pazomwe ndidachita dzulo, koma zokwanira kukugwirizanitsani ndipo nditha kukuwonetsani komwe ndachokera
Chifukwa chake ndili ndi zaka 20 tsopano, ndidayamba kukula mu ... junior high? Zolaula zambiri ndipo zimakhalapo mpaka pano. Nditayamba izi, ndimayaka tsiku lililonse, ndilephera kusukulu, sindinayankhulane ndi mtsikana moyenera kwakanthawi ndipo ndinalibe ntchito. Ndikukumbukira kuti ndidakhala Chaka Chatsopano ndikuwonera Netflix pabedi la mnzanga. Osati chithunzi chokongola.
Komabe, monga anthu ambiri pa reddit ndidapunthwa pa izi. Ndinawona yourbrainonporn ndipo zambiri zimakhudzanso nane. Dopamine chinthu chonsecho ndikungowerenga zolemba zina zomwe zimati moyo umakhala bwinoko, ndine wotsimikiza kwambiri etc.
Mzere wanga woyamba unali… pafupifupi masiku 90, ndinanena tanthauzo lake nthawi yomweyo nditadandaula. Ndiye anali masiku 90, ndinamva bwino ndikumwalira ndinayamba kuwerenga zolaula ndikufufuza zolakwika ndi voila. Bwezeretsani. Mzerewu wakhala pafupifupi chaka chimodzi (chomwe chinali cholinga choyambirira ndisanatumize koma ndinaganiza chifukwa chiyani).
Chaka chatha ndasiya kusuta (ndimagwiritsa ntchito zolaula kuti zindithandizire) ichi chinali chinthu chabwino kwambiri kwa ine. Kukhala wopanda mankhwala osokoneza bongo komanso kupeza moyo wanga pamodzi. Ndayambiranso kugwira ntchito, kuwerenga, ndili ndi ntchito yolipira bwino ndipo ndizosavuta kukhala wosangalala. Ndasiya kuonera TV ndipo aka ndi koyamba kanthawi kuti ndikhale pa reddit / facebook. Simuyenera kuchita kuchita bwino poyamba koma tengani nthawi imodzi. Yambani ndi izi. Pezani chogwirira chake. Yambirani ntchito ina kapena siyani kuchita china chake chomwe chikukuwonongerani nthawi yanu.
Ndimadzimva wosiyana ndi anzanga chifukwa ndikudziwa kuti ndine wosiyana. Sindimayang'ana zolaula, sindimatha, sindimatha (zovuta) ndipo ndikudziwa amatero. Ndidangobwera kuchokera ku kuzizira nawo ndipo mwanjira ina nkhaniyo idabwera, onse adaseka ndikulankhula koma sindimamva bwino. Mnzanga wina ali ndi nkhawa yayikulu, amasuta fodya tsiku lililonse ndipo amalephera pafupipafupi. Zidzakuvutani kucheza ndi anthu ena chifukwa samamvetsetsa. Chifukwa chiyani mungachite izi? Dopamine. Ubongo. Oo… zedi.
Chifukwa chokha chomwe muyenera kuchitira izi ndi chanu. Kapenanso kwa mtsikana, zilibwino koma onetsetsani kuti ndichinthu chomwe mungakhulupirire ndikudzipereka. Chifukwa changa chinali kudalira. Ndili ndi pang'ono pang'ono (ndimatha kuzilamulira), ndinganenenso kuti mphamvu zanga zakwera, ndikulondola ndikuganiza bwino ndipo ndine wokondwa. Nofap ndi gawo losintha moyo wanu wonse. Pindulani chinthu chimodzi ndipo mudzamva bwino, chidziwitseni china ndipo mukumva bwino pakapita nthawi mukuchita zomwe muyenera kukhala mukuchita ndipo posachedwa mudzakhala munthu yemwe mukufuna kukhala.
Ndigawana nanu zambiri ndisanamalize. Ngwazi yanga ndi ine mzaka 10. Sali wina lero chifukwa amene akudziwa mtundu wanji wamanyazi womwe ungachitike ndipo si ine pakadali pano. Ndi tsogolo langa chifukwa izi zimandipangitsa kufuna kudzipindulitsa. Zimandipangitsa kudzikakamiza kuti ndichite zomwe sindifuna kuti pamapeto pake ndizichita zomwe ndikufuna kuchita.
Ndikufuna kuti muchite bwino. Pambana ndikuchita bwino kwambiri kuposa ine. Kusakula sikukupatsani nthawi yochulukirapo kuti mudzipezere ndalama kwa ena komanso mtsogolo. Dziwani kuti ndinu oyenera kukondedwa ndikukwaniritsa zolinga zanu. Ndikudziwa kuti ndizovuta pakadali pano koma pitirizani kutsatira milungu ingapo yoyambirira zimakhala zosavuta ndiyeno nthawi ina mumavala baji ndi ulemu. Si nambala chabe koma mwala wa mile. Ndapita masiku 251 opanda PMO ndipo ndili bwino.
Ndikhulupirira kuti ndathandizira ndikuyankha mafunso angapo omwe mungakhale nawo.
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KULUMIKIZANA - Nkhani Yanga
by jspliff1
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cheke. Nthawi zina izi zimafunikira kwambiri. Ngati mukukumana ndi mavuto popanda fap dziyang'anireni nokha. Kapena imani pafupi ndi galasi nthawi ina mukadzakweza. Dziyang'anireni nthawi yonseyi. Kapena kuyang'anitsitsa stapler. Kapena mphaka. Kapena choko. Kwenikweni zonsezi ndizofanana. Simukupusitsa aliyense kupatula nokha.
Mkazi amene mumamuyang'ana uja? Zachidziwikire, amalandira ndalama zake koma mwawonadi ndalama zanu? Mkazi yemweyo yemwe ndi mwana wamkazi wa wina, ndiye mkazi wa wina, ndiye mayi wa wina. Bwanji mukadawadziwa. Bwanji ngati uyo akanakhala mwana wanu wamkazi, mayi, mkazi, mungamve bwanji.
Takhazikika m'zinthu zathu zokhazokha momwe timakhala ndi azimayi ambiri pomwe tili ndikungodina batani. Kodi ndi zenizeni? Zachidziwikire, monga ine ndi ine koma mukugonana? Ayi. Kugonetsa dzanja lanu, mowongoka, momveka bwino komanso kosavuta. Ndikupepesa ngati kamvekedwe kanga kali kakang'ono koma kwenikweni izi ndi zomwe ndikufunika kumva.
Facebook, reddit, intaneti yonse ya nkhaniyi ndi kuwononga nthawi. Zojambula za mphaka, zolaula, zidebe za ayezi, chinachitika ndi chiani ndi kugwiritsa ntchito kompyuta pa chinthu chomwe chimafunikira? Ntchito, maphunziro, china. China chake chomwe chimawerengera nthawi yomwe adagwiritsa ntchito intaneti. China chake chomwe mungachotsere ku maola omwe mumagwiritsa ntchito m'malo mwa minofu yogwiritsidwa ntchito.
Zolaula zimasokoneza malingaliro. Ikuwonjezeranso dopamine yanu (gwero: yourbrainonporn.com) motero mumakhalabe okhazikika. Mukufuna kukonza. Masekondi ochepa chabe a 'chisangalalo' omwe mumalakalaka ndipo ndani angakudzudzuleni? Ndani angapite nanu… inu?
Konzani. Osadziimba mlandu. Mudasankha kukhala pano. Mudasankha makanema amenewo. Mudasankha kutaya sabata lanu. Sikunali ngozi. Dzanja lanu silimangodumpha ndikudina ndikulemba ndikudina kenako ndikudzikhudza, ndizomwe mudali. Yambani kukhala nazo. Sinthani moyo wanu. Chitani kena kalikonse, chilichonse chingosiya kuononga nthawi! Lekani kuwononga moyo wanu kuseri kwa kompyuta kuwononga moyo wanu pachinthu chomwe sichingakukondeninso.
Mutha kupeza imodzi. Mutha kugonana. Mutha kuchita chilichonse ngati mungadzuke ndi kuchita. Pangani sitepe yoyamba. Ndi nkhondo ya tsiku ndi tsiku, osati kupambana kwakanthawi. Izi sizimachitika konse. Aliyense amene wafika kulikonse amayenera kukafika kumeneko. Iwo samangokhala zamatsenga teleport ndi poof! Iwo anali m'nyumba yawo yamaloto ndi mkazi wawo wamaloto ndi galimoto yamaloto. Kusiyanitsa pakati pa kufuna ndi kukhumba ndi ntchito.
Kodi mugwira ntchito? Kodi muyamba? Kodi musintha? Maloto amenewo mudakhala nawo kuyambira muli mwana ... Chidachitika ndi chiyani? Chifukwa chiyani mudasiya? Mulibe nthawi? Chabwino ndikudabwa kuti nthawi imeneyo yakhala ikupita kuti. Phunzirani kasamalidwe ka nthawi, konzani tsiku lanu bwino, osadziperekanso.
Si munthu weniweni. Zili ngati kumenyetsa chidole. Simukudzitama ndi m'mene mudawonera zolaula za 10 usiku watha ndikugwiritsa ntchito mafuta ndi zotupa zanu zonse. Chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa ndizomvetsa chisoni. Mukundiuza kuti makolo anu amathera mzere wobadwira kuti akupangireni ndipo mwaganiza zongowachita pansi?
Ndikufuna kukuthandizani, koma muyenera kudzithandiza nokha poyamba. Ndiwe yekhayo amene angasinthe moyo wako. Anthu ena atha kukuthandizani panjira koma chachikulu ndichakuti. Kaya musankha kusintha kapena kukulirakulira zili kwa inu. Wodalira izi.
Chizolowezi ichi cha "kupeza kanema wangwiro" kapena china chake chongofufuza facebook popanda chifukwa. Ndi chifukwa chakuti mumachita chidwi. Mukufuna kudziwa zatsopano, ngati pali zatsopano. Simungathe kukhala opanda ntchito mungatero. Simungathe kusamba. Mumamufuna. Amakupangitsani kumaliza.
Sizowona. Tengani izi m'mutu mwanu. Ndi pixels. Chinthu chenicheni chimamverera bwino kwambiri kenako mumayamba kukumbatirana pambuyo pake! Munthu weniweni wamoyo, sangakhale wabwino kuposa pamenepo. Chabwino, ngati izi sizinagwire ntchito sindikusamala. Khalani momwe muliri. Tsimikizirani iwo onse bwino. Kuti iwe sungathe kuchita izo, kuti ndiwe wopanda pake.
Zonse zili ndi inu. Chisankho ndi chanu. Yankho ndi tsopano, osati mawa kapena sabata yamawa kapena nthawi ina. Pangani chisankho kuti mupeze zolaula. Kusintha zizolowezi zanu. Kuchita china osati kungowononga moyo wanu wonse. Kodi mukufuna kuyang'ana kumbuyo kumapeto kwa moyo wanu ndipo zonse zomwe mukuwona mukukula? Kapena mukufuna kukwaniritsa china chake, kukhala padziko lapansi ndikukhala winawake, kukondana, kuzindikira maloto anu?
Ndimakukhulupirirani, musandikhumudwitse. Tikuwonani zenizeni.
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